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My boyfriend masturbates while I am asleep! What can we do?
Q. Just found out my bf masturbates daily when I'm asleep, but he always says he's not horny when I ask for sex. When I talked to him about it he just said he can't help it, he gets horny at about 2 or 3 in the morning and doesn't want to wake me (I ...
A. 11 May 2008: It is normal to masturbate frequently - both men and women but usually its in addition to your sex life. It could be that because he is satisfying himself without you he just doesnt feel the need to make love with you too as he is already satisfied ... (read in full...)
I want to love him and lose my virginity to him. How do I know if it's right?
Q. i think im falling in love but im not sure if he's in love with me but i wanna trust him but im not sure and im not sure if i should loose my virginity tom him ...
A. 11 May 2008: I agree with phiatiger you will know when you are ready, sometimes this even involves nearly going through with it but changing your mind before you do it means youre not quite ready. Wait awhile youre still only young and have lots of years of sex ... (read in full...)
She says she really likes me, but she loves that guy and says she can't get over him.
Q. Basically I've been having this on and off relationship with someone for 8 months now. The problem is she was/is in a long distance relationship with someone from another country that she only sees once a year. He was her first b/f, practica...
A. 11 May 2008: She seems to be using you as an emotional crutch and you maybe need to walk away from this one. There is someone out there who will love you more than this girl does at present. If you really cant bear to be without her sit her down and talk about ... (read in full...)
I wish we could come away respecting each other at least.
Q. Well you could say I'm old enough to know better, but even though I'm way past adolescence I still want to know what he must think of me now. I live in a foreign country and sometimes give English lessons. Someone put me in contact with a diplomat ...
A. 11 May 2008: I think its great that he didnt go all the way and cheat despite this deep attraction. If he couldnt stand you and was disgusted would he still be having english lessons with you?? He is in the position to be able to choose and could simply say he ... (read in full...)
How can I make money to help out my mum and dad?
Q. The price for gas is going up, Food prices are going up, basically everything costs more! So, my mom and dad are getting low on money. But i'm a responsible and GROWING 13 year old [ha] and i'm tired of asking my mom and dad. Plus, summer is comi...
A. 11 May 2008: In the uk 13 year olds can deliver papers but I dont know about usa is that possible for you?? Offer to wash neighbours cars or mow the lawn or do dog walking, babysitting or go to the store for a stressed mum in your street. Sell some of your old ... (read in full...)
How do I get better at small talk with strangers?
Q. As much as I try, when I meet new people have trouble making small talk. Part of it also relates to my confidence (nearly non-existent). What are some good topics that don't make me look overly friendly? And how do I generally improve my confiden...
A. 11 May 2008: Try making small talk at the till when you go shopping and build up your confidence slowly. As boring as it sounds talk about the weather or a recent news story. If they dont respond always dont take it personally as not everyone wants to chat to ... (read in full...)
My new downstairs neighbour is storing her urine in the house for her compost bin, and it's making me sick!!
Q. Please help. My new downstairs neighbour is storing her urine in the house for her compost bin. Smells so bad. I am so worried. I live in a council house, converted into up and down flats. New neighbour moves in, bad smell. I have lived here for ...
A. 11 May 2008: You need to contact the council, whether she has depression or not you cannot live like this and something needs to be done about it. Just keep bugging them until they do something about it. Good luck x... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a fetish for black haired girls!
Q. Hi this is going to seem like an odd problem, but its been bothering me awhile. I've always known that my boyfriend of 3 years has had a fetish for black haired women. It's not a problem, until i begin to think about it, or find something, then it ...
A. 11 May 2008: My husband's ideal women is - dark skinned, red haired with an irish accent. Ok sounds silly but he likes dark skinned women, he loves red hair and loves women with irish accents. He has been out with many women from each of the catagories he ... (read in full...)
What does love mean to you?
Q. This has more than likely been asked many times before but I don't feel like going through thousands of questions. Anyway I wanted to know what each of you thought love means to you....
A. 11 May 2008: Love is exciting, scary, giddy, sometimes painful and all consuming and you know when youre in love because you truly feel it in your heart - to me it feels like my heart will burst when I look at someone I love deeply. Its being there for someone ... (read in full...)
What's a corsage, where would I get one, and how much?
Q. People suggested for prom a corsage. What is it? How much? Where from in uk?...
A. 11 May 2008: It's just a small amount of flowers - often 2 or 3 - tied together with ribbon etc that the lady fastens onto her dress and usually bought buy her date. Can also be in the form of a wristband of hairband and most florists will be able to do them - ... (read in full...)
He says since all he could offer me was grief he could only really offer me nothing-what does he mean?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for twelve years and he ended a year ago. He was adament that we remain friends and I guess I went along with it as I thought something was better than nothing. We have not had a physical relationship in that time. He sent me ...
A. 5 May 2008: It is his way of ending it without deliberately hurting you - in his eyes. Cut your losses and accept it is truly over and move on from this you are now free to find someone who will truly love you x... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'll ever get over her and will I love someone else as much ?
Q. Ok, when I met this girl she had just broken up with her long term boyfriend but I was't aware of this, we then went on to have the most amazing 3 months together, then she began going back and forth breaking up with me to be with the ex and then ...
A. 5 May 2008: You may feel like you will never feel the same love again but chances are you will better it. On the other hand if you feel she is the ONE and she is offering more you may have to try it out and see if it will work. She is obviously not happy but ... (read in full...)
What is the strangest place to have sex?
Q. Sorry for all the questions on here but I enjoy hearing everyone's comments on things, it makes you look at everything so much differently. The world is so diverse it is amazing. But as for my question. Where is the wierdest place any of you...
A. 5 May 2008: Kinky!!!! Let me think.............. on the bonnet (hood)of the car in the rain in the middle of a field, on the kitchen table in the middle of the day with trains running past the house every 20 mins (we broke the table eventually), on the bedroom ... (read in full...)
Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place despite the mutual attraction?
Q. I've made a decision to NOT get involved with a man who I am attracted to at work, and he's attracted to me as well. Do you believe that it is possible for us to continue to work at the same place and just remain co-workers? Do you think these ...
A. 5 May 2008: Just because you have feelings you do not have to act on them. If you are both single then I dont see a problem - sure it may not work out but life is for living - unless there are strict rule about this sort of thing at your work. If one of you ... (read in full...)
Do you think he wants a relationship with me or not?
Q. I've been in a relationship with this man for 10 months. We have similar marital histories so there was a lot of understanding between us. He has never said he loved me though I believe he has strong feelings for me. He would mention our old age. we ...
A. 5 May 2008: I agree the ball is in his court in a way but I can undertand why you are a bit reluctant to let him move in with you. He is probably feeling a little bit rejected because he wanted to move in with you and you were not sure - but I think you felt a ... (read in full...)
I'm married but find myself attracted to a female boss, is she straight or not? What do I do?
Q. I am a married woman of 4 years and I have a major problem at work, The head of my department at work is a very attractive 31 year old woman and I can't get her out of my head. I pecked her on the cheek as a thank you for helping me and she was ...
A. 5 May 2008: It is a crush just like you might get on a bloke. Leave it that - you would be so embarassed if this blew up in your face so se it for what it is. And yes it is perfectly normal to get a crush on a woman!!! x... (read in full...)
Am I the only one that has breasts like this? It makes me insecure!
Q. I have a question. I am insecure about my breasts. I have large breasts which men love, but the colored part around my nipple seems realy big to me compared to other breasts i've seen. Does it matter. Do men prefer one or the other? Am I the only ...
A. 5 May 2008: Ok I will be honest with you. My dark bits or aerola or whatever they are called are ENORMOUS!!!!! My mothers and my daughters (16) are tiny and I always thought I was abnormal. Now Im nearly 40 I have seen enough women's breasts to realise that ... (read in full...)
What are the signs your husband is cheating with a coworker?
Q. what signs should I be looking for, I think that my husband is cheating on me with his co-worker while being away on business. I have no solid evidence but something in my stomach says it. how do i go about knowing if i am right or wrong?...
A. 5 May 2008: Women do seem to have these intuitions and the bit about her not having a room seems a bit far fetched. Give him chance to explain and dont stew on this while he is away - easier said than done i know. Confront him with your fears but you have to ... (read in full...)
How will I know if I am ready for sex?
Q. how will i know if im ready for sex? me and my bf have been together for just over 8 months and we havnt had sex and i am still a virgin. i often think about having sex with him but sometimes i get scared becus im a virgin and hes not and whether it ...
A. 5 May 2008: If he is willing to wait then let him wait as long as it takes. You will know when the time is right as you wont stop at the heavy petting/kissing stage but will take it further. You seem to have your head screwed on right so just keep on doing ... (read in full...)
All guys adore me and find me the hottest, but would not approach me...are they totally crazy?!
Q. Well i am 19 years old and i am studying in this highly prestigious university in the United Kingdom. I am the most popular girl in class and my classmates think that i am a stuck up, attitude carrying show off. All this is said behind my back. ...
A. 3 May 2008: You need a reality check. ... (read in full...)
I love my children, but should I divorce?
Q. My wife of 14 years asked for a divorce. She is still in love with her first love. We have 2 children ages 10 and 13. After a year and long fights she wants me back and says she made a mistake and still loves me. This has happened twice before ...
A. 3 May 2008: Dont stay for the children's sake. You have to be happy too. You have one speical 13 year old there - listen to her and your heart x... (read in full...)
I don't feel like a woman because I have a small chest!
Q. I am 28 years old and am 4'10" and weigh about 95 lbs and my chest is rather small....is that a big deal for men? My husband says he doesn't care and that I'm perfect, but is he telling the truth? He's always told me that he is a "butt" man and I ...
A. 2 May 2008: You need to learn to accept what you have got if you dont want them enlarged. Your husband chose you and married you with little boobs so he obviously loves them too. Not all men like them big. A lot of women with big ones want smaller ones and ... (read in full...)
Will he expect me to sleep with him? We've been sex texting and I sent him a raunchy picture of myself...
Q. I have been sex texting (quite explicit) a guy and sent him a raunchy picture of myself. He is taking me out for dinner next week. Do you think he will be expecting me to sleep with him as I've sent him these raunchy messages? I have already been ...
A. 2 May 2008: Possibly but it doesnt mean you have to. He may be a gentleman about it and be fine if your not ready yet, its easier to be raunchier texting than face to face in a new relationship and he will probably understand that too x... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted to older men? Is it because of the lack of a father figure?
Q. Does anyone have any thought as to why I'm always attracted to older men? My sister had suggested it was because of the lack of a father figure in my life, and my therapist seconded that. What do you think? Is that accurate, or could it be something ...
A. 2 May 2008: It could be your attracted to them as you feel they can offer stability and security that you missed out on in your childhood. I have always liked older men and found guys my own age immature and annoying yet my father was and is very much in my ... (read in full...)
We need to either sort it out and stay together or split, but what is he thinking?
Q. hi i feel a bit weird doing this- have never done anything like this on line b4... i would like some independant advice as obviously friends/ family have their own agendas. sorry this is abit long; i have been with my partner for nearly 4 years. w...
A. 2 May 2008: Its normal to suddenly take stock of your life and not like what you see. If he is your age group then it is very young to be settled down for both of you with 4 children and maybe he's a little bit scared of the responsibility he has for 5 other ... (read in full...)
How can one use somebody for sex and NOT feel guilty??
Q. How do guys (or girls) who use someone for sex, sleep at night? I mean honestly I just dont understand how they can use someone for sex and not feel guilty at all. What makes them think its OK to use someone like that? What goes on in there mind? ...
A. 2 May 2008: Some people can quite easily jump into bed with anyone and others need a relationship and a bit of loving to give themselves in that way. At the end of the day if a man is up for it he wont get anywhere without the womens agreement and some men ... (read in full...)
I am driving myself insane wondering if am I a fool to think he will not repeat his past as soon as we get into problems?!?
Q. Really need some unbiased advice. Sorry this is long, feel you need enough information as possible. I can't stop worrying about whether or not my partner will cheat on me eventually. I am finding it so hard to trust him, but I can't break up w...
A. 2 May 2008: Its hard when youre on the verge of splitting up and meet someone new - even if your unhapppy in the relationship it causes a lot of guilt and questions of insecurity and wondering if you should give it another shot. So I can understand why your bf ... (read in full...)
Will anyone want to date this 20 year old virgin?, I'm beginning to think not
Q. I'm nearly 21 years old and I've never been in a relationship with a guy. I've never even been kissed and it's getting thoroughly embarrassing. I feel like I'm missing out on key life experiences. I know 20 is still young, but the thing is I have no ...
A. 2 May 2008: Dont worry about being a virgin no one knows by looking at you and most guys would find it quite sweet at your age. When we look for love we never seem to find it - take up a new activity and take your mind off dating for a while, love comes in the ... (read in full...)
I 19 and really, really ready to lose my "V" card but a little unsure how to make the moves!
Q. I am 19 yearl old and still a virgin,and my newest girlfriend isnt. i think that she wants to have sex with me but she knows im a virgin and its making things a little weird between us when we come close to having sex.. i dont know what i am ...
A. 2 May 2008: The act itself will come naturally - animals dont have this problem they just get on with it and your instincts will kick in. Dont worry about technique the first time that is something you work on the more experienced you get. I agree you should ... (read in full...)
He gets very secretive with his phone and his laptop, Is he cheating on me?
Q. I'm living with my boyfrend. I suspect that he's cheating on me. He turns his phone off when we're at home together, or puts it on silent. He gets very secretive with his phone and his laptop, especially when he's checking his email, facebook, etc....
A. 2 May 2008: He certainly seems to be hiding something. If mine or hubbie's phone bleeps or rings we always tell the other who it is. Or maybe he's just a very private guy. Talk to him and tell him it is confusing you and see if you can resolve this together ... (read in full...)
Does my ex secretly still has feelings for me even though she has a boyfriend?
Q. My ex girlfriend hasn't talked to me a whole lot since we broke up a few months ago, but agreed to stay friends, she found a new guy about 2 months ago and we still texted each other but very little. Starting 2 days ago she has texted me ALOT, ...
A. 2 May 2008: You need to ask her. If she is texting you this much is she missing you. I would be disappointed if my hubbie texted his ex ten times a day as I would think he was thinking more about her than me. If she just wants someone to talk to and its ... (read in full...)
How can ask out the girl who I love, but am not sure if she feels the same way?
Q. I'm 14 but i've never been with a girl before, but over the years i have liked many girls but been too afraid to ask them out. Recently however, there has been someone who i liked and i have the impression they liked me, at the time she was goin...
A. 2 May 2008: My teenagers make sure they get hold of interenet addresses for any people they like and chat away to them for hours to see if there is any interest there, a lot less embarassing than doing it at school face to face. Daughter (16) has a date this ... (read in full...)
Should you always persue a crush?
Q. I am really confused about this. I just don't know if one should always pursue a crush. I believe that since you only live once, you should most definitely go for it. The worst that can happen to you is he'll reject you. But at least then you won't ...
A. 2 May 2008: This man is out of bounds so no dont pursue this crush. It could have serious implications on his future and yours and will end up messy. Now if you fancy the pizza delivery guy thats a different matter. Life is only lived once yes but dont mess ... (read in full...)
My son was accused of attacking a family member, now my husband and I are having problems. Can you please help?
Q. A year back one of my husband's sisters-in-law saaid in front of every one that my son try to attack her. She was telling lies to proove my son wrong in front of all the family members. She is a currupt person, but still all the family members ...
A. 2 May 2008: There comes a point where you have to decide to move on and drop the issue. You will never get to the bottom of it when there is no way to 100% determine who is telling the truth. Of course different family members will side with one or the other ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel this way ,and miss and still love my ex?
Q. I had a tramatic and emotionally abusive relationship that i didnt realize until i was pregnant. A year and a half later i terminated the pregnancy mid February, and i thought from then on i also terminated him from my heart. See, i was with him ...
A. 2 May 2008: You had your dreams shattered which ended in a termination which I dont think you have come to terms with fully. If he abused you once he will never change so you have done right to move on from this man. I agree you should try counselling to ... (read in full...)
My friend is too involed with a guy who I know is no good. Help me convince her please.
Q. Stacy is my best friend. She started seeing a guy 9 months ago but i know from my personal experience that he is not a good boy. I know he will cheat on her because i know his past quite well. But even though i told her about it, she did not list...
A. 2 May 2008: You wont lose her because you will be there for her when and if its does go wrong and that is when she will need you the most. I know it's hard to see someone get hurt but she has to be allowed to make her own mistakes. Show an interest in her ... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to how she feels about me. Any ideas?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused as to where I stand with a girl I've met recently. I met her through some mutual friends, and over time we have become friends. I was immediately attracted to her, and we have always been able to talk pretty well. We are alwa...
A. 2 May 2008: Girls love having male friends and will be touchy feely with them. It may be that as she is busy she cant put anything into a relationship at the moment and doesnt need the distraction. I think you have to ask her if she sees you as friends or ... (read in full...)
Big family matters are creating problems between my husband and myself. Help me please.
Q. My husband and i have a big problem. We have a communication problem between us that's related to big family matters which cause bad fights between us. Because of this, my kids are suffering, it creates a weird atmpsphere sometimes. What shoul...
A. 2 May 2008: We used to have huge fights over money issues with my ex who expects my husband to pay for everything for my children. It got to the stage where hubbie was starting to slag ex off to my kids - not good especially as they adore hubbie and he adores ... (read in full...)
How Do I Play Hard To Get In a 6 month Relationship?
Q. Hello Friends, please advise me on what I should do. I met a man 6 months ago and we fell deeply in love. Or at least I fell very hard for him and told him this right away, thanks to my vodka tonic. What I liked about him was that he is extr...
A. 2 May 2008: Maybe he's caught on to the fact that you see him as a meal ticket. You shouldnt be expecting outings and gifts just cos he can afford to and if you only want him as he is a good catch the relationship is not going to be about love but what you can ... (read in full...)
I had oral sex with this guy I work with. I found out he has a fiance!!
Q. I have been working with this guy for a few months. When we first met we flirted quite often then it turned physical. We never slept together but had oral sex. I knew before that that he had a girlfriend. I should have never done anything with him ...
A. 2 May 2008: It doesnt matter what her title is he's still with someone else and he if he can cheat on her might cheat on you. Put it down to experience and find someone else who's single x... (read in full...)
Anal sex question...any advice?
Q. This is pretty embarassing for me, but..., I want to have anal sex with my bf but I have hemhroids--is it possible to still have a good time? I've been waiting for them to go away but they've been around on and off for about 7 mo. I know, I should c...
A. 2 May 2008: Go to the docs and get it sorted - personally I think anal sex will hurt like hell with this condition and make it worse x... (read in full...)
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