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I'm not very fond of my aunt and I don't know if it's wrong to feel this way!
Q. Have any of you ever felt like so far away from a family member,like emotionally? Well,a couple of days ago,my grandma told my mom that her aunt(my great aunt),had asked about her. My mom's not exactly fond of her. My mom told me in the car yest...
A. 8 July 2008: Glad we could help. Since replying I have found out the sister in law with the baby is expecting again!! PLEASE let me have a niece this time and I promise to love her!! x... (read in full...)
I'm not very fond of my aunt and I don't know if it's wrong to feel this way!
Q. Have any of you ever felt like so far away from a family member,like emotionally? Well,a couple of days ago,my grandma told my mom that her aunt(my great aunt),had asked about her. My mom's not exactly fond of her. My mom told me in the car yest...
A. 7 July 2008: I have 11 nephews and I can honestly say I dont love all of them. I dont even see 5 of them from my ex husbands side only very occasionally and I dont feel 'love' for them.
I have affection for 3 of the others and one is tiny so everyone loves a ba... (read in full...)
My ex got married, it isn't working out, I still care, what do I do now?
Q. Hi, I'm a male, 40, and was engaged to an amazing girl 5 years ago. I messed up, and she called the engagement off, and despite my efforts, wouldn't get back with me, and she has since met someone and gotten married. I know this question seems l...
A. 7 July 2008: I agree cool it, offer friendship not love at this stage and allow her to work out alone what she must do. Do not offer her an escape route as she may only be taking it to escape him. If she leaves him then see where she wants to go from there, you ... (read in full...)
Having sex, or being in a relationship, is there a difference?
Q. what is the difference between having a relationship and just having sex...
A. 7 July 2008: A relationship is about so much more than sex. It involves being together, going out, shared interests, respect and love for each other.
If you only see someone to have sex and dont see them again til they or you want sex again, its not a rela... (read in full...)
After a nightmare I wet the bed with my boyfriend in it!
Q. OK, this is pretty embarassing. In bed with the boyfriend last night, fast asleep. I have a weird dream that involves me taking a pregnancy test. Next thing I know, I wake up, and it's all wet... Yeah, turned out that dream was a little more real...
A. 7 July 2008: My mum wet the bed til she was 19 and had many accidents when she first married my dad iner 20's, he was great about it.
I wet until I was 12 and had one or two accidents when I was first married to my first hubbie.
My son was 11 when he stopped ... (read in full...)
Embarassed about gingery brown pubic hair...
Q. I have gingery brown pubic hair although my natural hair colour is dark brown...I've always been really embarassed about this because when I was at school, kids would always make fun of 'ginger pubes'. Now I'm 25, and no man has ever seen me in ...
A. 7 July 2008: Honestly my daughter has never ever been teased about her hair, I think traditionally it tends to be the boys at her school who get a bit of teasing for really ginger hair. I wouldnt describe her as ginger but a redhead, its a beautiful colour and ... (read in full...)
How do I trim "doen there"?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if anyone could give me tips on how to give a good trim 'down there'? like how short, what equipment, etc.; i'm too afraid to shave please!...
A. 6 July 2008: You can use creams but like ive said before dont get too near your 'lips' cos it flippin well stings!! Waxing is good but quite painful. I always shave my 'undercarriage' and bikini line in the shower and trim the rest with scissors. If I do it ... (read in full...)
My ex had a drug habit which he is overcoming...Can we have an adult, fulfilling relationship?
Q. I was dating a guy for 5 months. I'm 25, and can honestly say I truly felt I was in love with him. We were from totally different backgrounds and he is totally the opposite of the usual type of guy I go for, but we worked so well together. He ...
A. 6 July 2008: Give him one more chance. He has to want to change you cant make him but allow him to try, one more time.
My dad was alcohol dependant for a very long time and my memories of early childhood are mostly memories of this. When my sister got preg... (read in full...)
Embarassed about gingery brown pubic hair...
Q. I have gingery brown pubic hair although my natural hair colour is dark brown...I've always been really embarassed about this because when I was at school, kids would always make fun of 'ginger pubes'. Now I'm 25, and no man has ever seen me in ...
A. 6 July 2008: Lots of men adore red heads and expect ginger pubes! My ex had dark hair and gingery pubes and although we splt up it was to do with his fists not his colouring.
My daughter is a beautiful redhead and when she was 8 we decided to get a cat. She ... (read in full...)
I feel like the world is in color and I am in black and white
Q. I feel like the world is in color and I am in black and white. I have a great job, my child attends a great school, I have a beautiful house, no real money issues, and yet I want to sub my husband for someone, anyone, else. I am pretty, smart, and ...
A. 6 July 2008: Yes fairytales are in movies. Even what appears to be a fantastic marriage has its problems. BUT you should expect more than you are getting. It takes two to make it work so tell him how you feel. Of course there is such a thing as true love but it ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity but don't know where...
Q. I have found someone that i really like and want to lose my virginity to, but i dont where i should lose my virginty. I love the idea of doing it in a bed and then falling asleep and waking up together but im only 13 and live my parents and 2 ...
A. 6 July 2008: I lost mine when I was 15 as the guy basically made it clear if I didnt have sex he wouldnt be my boyfriend anymore, he wsa 18. I really regetted it ever since as he turned out to be an arsehole! So wait awhile, please! x... (read in full...)
I don't want to masturbate but I ejaculate when I'm asleep, why?
Q. i dont feel like masturbating, but i come while sleeping, is it normal?...
A. 6 July 2008: Perfectly normal. I love having sex in my dreams it feels sooo good when you wake up!!... (read in full...)
I'm a guy, Why can't I feel anything during sex?
Q. I"m a guy who is 20 years old and been having sex with my gf for about a few months. The only problem is I can never really feel anything during sex, which bums her out because I don't really moan or squirm as she says. She does love sex and does...
A. 6 July 2008: The reason I ask is that I know a guy who doesnt orgasm as he has no nerve endings in his penis, dont know the ins and outs of it but basically he gets no pleasure, even when masturbating though so it doesnt sound like thats the problem here.
M... (read in full...)
He took my virginity for granted after sex, how do I get over the loveless experience?
Q. I met a guy in November and we dated for about a month. He broke up with me and we didn’t talk for a while, but later on we started talking again. We went on several more dates, and I decided that I wanted to have sex with him, so I waited a month...
A. 6 July 2008: You trusted this guy and gave him the ultimate gift. But dont blame yourself you were not to know, it does sound like you rushed into a little bit as you didnt really know him too well after only a few dates.
Its done now so put it down to expe... (read in full...)
We pet heavily, but he stops, before going all the way, why, we are both 18?
Q. Me and my bf are both 18 and we were fooling around on his bed the other night and he took off my bra and started fingering me. So i reached into his boxers and felt that he was hard. I tried to give him a hand job but before i could, he took my ...
A. 6 July 2008: Maybe he just wants to wait a while. Dont knock it! Just wait and see what happens next time he may not be ready yet or thinks youre not. He could be virgin and a bit shy and unsure about it all. Give him time x... (read in full...)
Hi, big problem maybe! Could I be possibly be pregnant, please help?
Q. Hello ppl well i need help i need to kno if i am really pregnant well i had my period 2 weeks ago during the third night of my period i had sex ok everything was fine up to about 2 days ago i had been havin slight cramps at nite wen i was goin 2 ...
A. 6 July 2008: Its not impossible to get pregnant on your period but its more likely to happen a week or so after your period when you release a new egg. I have had three babies and have never experienced cramping when I fell with any of them.
You could have got ... (read in full...)
My husband belittles me and puts me down, I liove him, but want him to change his attitude and actions, any suggestions?
Q. My husband and I have been married for about 6 years. There is no more romance he barely spends anytime Quality time with our kids, he treats me like total crap always belittling me and putting me down. Mean while I support him and all that he does. ...
A. 6 July 2008: Emilyanswers could be right. Sometimes we push those closest to us away when we are stressed or have things going on in our lives.
Not quite the same thing as deployment but my hubbie used to work away and when he first came home we were all over... (read in full...)
Is this married man being flirtacious with me?
Q. Is there a way a married guy can send signals to a single girl in which he may be interested in something shady without telling it directly? If that is so, what kind of signs are there? I ask this cuz I met a guy a year ago, and being keeping ...
A. 6 July 2008: If his wife is not aware of the relationship then it is shady anyway. I would go mad if I found out my husband was emailing another woman. Fair enough if they were friends before but to make a new lady friend and be in contact with her without my ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend feels I make him violent. I'm fiery, but I want to know where this relationship is going.
Q. Hi I have known my boyfriend nearly 3 years now and most of the time its ok but every now and then we have terrible rows and I sometimes see his face changes and his body language as if he is pretty tempted to hit me. He has shoved me and once ...
A. 6 July 2008: If you two have a volatile relationship it will most likely escalate until he hits you properly. My ex was the same, controlling and a bit of a push and a bruised shoulder or arm here and there. It then progressed to a slapped face and got worse ... (read in full...)
I feel drained all the time, but my mum won't take me to the doctor
Q. could there be a reason why im totally drained out? im only 16, all my friends are out partying and with friends, yeh i do go out but i just cant be arsed, up until like the middle of may i was really energetic. played rugby, swimming, badminton, ...
A. 6 July 2008: Go the docs yourself if you can, your old enough to go by yourself. Ring up and make an appointment. Or could you ask a relative to take you? It could be glandular fever, my lad has the same symptoms as you and is being tested for glandular fever, ... (read in full...)
The woman I'm seeing wants me to tell my partner about our relationship.
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have small children. I met someone else 8 months ago and have been seeing them. I told my partner I had feelings for the other person but she does not know how much. The other woman has asked for me ...
A. 6 July 2008: Tell her she knew you were attached when she met you, you are splitting up from your partner and destroying the family unit, yet she is still not satisfied. I think you are making the wrong decision. She will control you forever by the sound of it, ... (read in full...)
I have a banana shaped penis!
Q. banana shaped penis hi im 19, when i get an erection my penis curves to the left, and points upwards(its paralell with my body, when its supposed to be at 90 degrees to it, in a perfect world). im worried i'll need an operation. any ideas? is it ok...
A. 6 July 2008: This question comes up a lot. All men are different and penises come in many shapes and sizes. Just like womens breasts, there is no perfect shape and you get what you are given.
My hubbies looks just like a banana too and curves to the left, I thin... (read in full...)
Can you stay friends with someone you were in a relationship with?
Q. Can I still be a friend? Hello everyone. I have asked this before, but the question remains. I was in a very long relationship with this woman. We still talk/see each other on occasion. I guess what I am asking is: If you say yes-How did you do i...
A. 6 July 2008: I dated a work colleague for about 6 months, nothing heavy, he was great fun to be round but had serious sexual hang ups.
Because we had to work together we ended it amicably. We were never in love but had a lot of mutual respect and affection for ... (read in full...)
Why don't I ever have an orgasm?
Q. Everytime i have sex i dont ever experice an orgasm, at least i dont think i do. Dont get me wrong i love having sex and it feels soooooo good. People say that all of you muscles tense up and everyhthing but i never felt that. After we have sex, my ...
A. 5 July 2008: All the women on my mothers side orgasm easily (never asked my husbands side!) So I always assumed everybody did it. It was in my late 20's after talking to girl friends, work colleagues etc etc that I began to realise I was one of the lucky ones. A ... (read in full...)
Spit or swallow? Where should I spit?
Q. If I want to give my boyfriend head what do I do with the sperm? People say spit or swallow but I don't want to swallow so where do I spit it?...
A. 5 July 2008: Wait until you are old enough to work it out for yourself x... (read in full...)
I'm in lust with my Aunt!
Q. i have lust for my aunt! (my moternal uncle's wife) I want to have sex with her she is 45. She's a Leo. I think she is also interested in me because whenever I talk to her she always looks into my eyes throughout. Please help!...
A. 5 July 2008: I always look people in the eyes when I talk to them, its the way I have been brought up, and Im a Leo too maybe its part of our personality to be direct. It shows I am interested in the person and what they have to say, even if Im really not.
I... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my soon-to-be step-brother!
Q. My Mom will be getting married to this guy in March of 09. I really like my "soon to be step brother". I think I might be in love with him. I am 13 and my step brother is 14. I REALLY REALLY like him, A LOT. I don't know what to do. I know there's ...
A. 5 July 2008: Its not illegal but given the fact that you are both so young then you may need to decide to wait until your are both older before you officially date. The main reason for this is that relationships at such a young age rarely last and if you two ... (read in full...)
I just had a baby and now my partner seems unimportant!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts! Please help me as you've always guided me so well in the past.. I am 23 and my boyfriend of 2 years and I have just had a beautiful baby boy whom I absolutely adore.. The only thing is that now he is 4 months old, he seems to...
A. 5 July 2008: It is normal for lots of women to feel like this, all that build up and then suddenly a feeling of flatness and restlestness. There IS more to life and you will rediscover the other sides of yourself, you are not just mum and wife. Dont feel guilty ... (read in full...)
I feel invisible as a sexual being...can our marriage survive??
Q. Thanks for listening. This is really an awful question...But I have been struggling a long time with this and can't really ask friends or family. I am married to a lovely man for a few years now. And we have a child. We are both in our late thirtie...
A. 5 July 2008: Not often I get tears in my eyes reading these posts but I have right now. I wish I too could hug you and wave a magic wand for you.
Think about how your husband is feeling about this, I think it is affecting him deeply and the only way he can cope... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to calm down morning sickness??
Q. I'm almost 18 and i'm 11 weeks pregnant. I'm getting really bad morning sickness all day and i can't eat anything ive tried all the methods they say in the books to help it but it dosnt work has any one got any advice how to help calm it down....
A. 5 July 2008: These are probably in your book but here are my tips
Eat small meals often
Dont allow youself to get hungry as it makes it worse
Dont get out of bed until you have eaten, get someone to bring you some toast and fresh juice or keep ginger bisc... (read in full...)
I'm going to be married and miss having a crush on a guy!
Q. I'm sorry this is so long.. but I wanted to get in as much details as possible and PLEASE read it I really want some input. Okay I'm feeling so confused and worried. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, and best friends with him...
A. 5 July 2008: Its natural to compare your boyfriend with other men. All my friends think my husband is absolutely wonderful and make comments like, why cant my husband be like that, or treat me like that etc etc. Single friends always tell me how luck I am and ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish or should I go out and have some fun?
Q. im 18 yr old n been seeing a 29 year old for ova a year. ive miscarried a baby by him n i love him with all my heart. the nly problem is i dont feel good enuff in bed for him, since we moved in together he seems really lazy not even cookin for ...
A. 5 July 2008: Not selfish you have just realised you want more out of life. Sorry to hear about the miscarriage, maybe it has made you re-evaluate your life and priorities. Go do the things you need to do, you only get one youth and you will regret it and resent ... (read in full...)
The only way I'll be with her is if she's willing to have a healthy relationship but she won't leave me alone!
Q. i've been seeing a girl on and off for about 3 years. first it was in a casual format. i first wanted her to be with me but she couldn't decide to let go of her other ongoing relationships she'd had stringing on. there was about 3 mont...
A. 5 July 2008: She is playing you and you need to break the pattern. I dont honestly think she will ever commit to you or any guy at the moment, if you were 'the one' she would not be treating you like this. Ask her to stop texting, dont reply or tell her to sort ... (read in full...)
I'm a guy, Why can't I feel anything during sex?
Q. I"m a guy who is 20 years old and been having sex with my gf for about a few months. The only problem is I can never really feel anything during sex, which bums her out because I don't really moan or squirm as she says. She does love sex and does...
A. 5 July 2008: Can you feel anything when you masturbate or is it just when you have penetrative sex?... (read in full...)
Married young and we don't enjoy sex!
Q. My question is simply what would you do in my situation and my situation is this.... I am 19 years old about to be 20, last October I married my high school sweetheart of 3 years. We had a long distance relationship for the majority of its ...
A. 5 July 2008: It takes two to make a marriage work so the first thing you have to do is ask how he is feeling about this marriage.
Tell him you think its time you talked. He will probably know whats its about. Dont do it as your about to leave for work, plan it a... (read in full...)
How should I handle his staring to other women? I don't want to be a nuisance!
Q. HI ive been dating a 26 yr old man for 2 months, Hes a sweetheart, however ive caught him twice staring at 2 women when we are out dining. It bother's me because my ex had a bad habit of this, i was with him for 14 years. How should i handle this? ...
A. 4 July 2008: My husband does this and it drives me up the wall!!!! I have explained to him that as a woman I KNOW that the woman or even women he is looking at will be greatly flattered and think ha ha your blokes looking at me (thats what goes through my head ... (read in full...)
Help! Do I study hard or quit, I am torn, what would you do?
Q. I’m doing triple science award for GCSE and I’ve been doing this for about 5 months. I'm not an academic kid to be honest (i have dyslexia, dyscalculia and a form of short term memory loss) and I’m in a class full of brain boxes at a very ...
A. 3 July 2008: Whilst you need your gcse's to get into a good 6th form or college you should still have plenty of subjects to fall back on if you drop from the triple to the double award.
My daughter has just done her triple and is forcast for very good resu... (read in full...)
Pregnant and seeing somebody new - but my parents think he only wants sex. I'm saddened by this comment.
Q. Hey guys..this problem is kinda conplex...but i really could do with some help... Basicly i'm 5 months pregnant with a perfect little boy who i already love to bits. The babys dad doesnt wanna know basicly...i've seen him twice since we found ou...
A. 3 July 2008: Lots of guys take on pregnant women, it happens all the time. Tell your parents that you may have a chance at happiness and if it goes wrong then at least you had a chance. Its no different for some as taking on already born children and men do that ... (read in full...)
Are there signs, that would tell you, that a man is gay?
Q. how can i find out if my husband is gay, he refuse to have sex,he has never being the type that likes sex all the time, but he gets mad everytime i ask him what is the problem and get violance when i bring the subject and he doesnt have any male...
A. 3 July 2008: Some people dont like sex or have been brought up to believe it is wrong or dirty.
I had a friend who tried everything, laying on the bed in stockings and suspenders, greeting him naked at the door etc etc , you name she probably tried it. He wasn... (read in full...)
Is a curved penis a problem, or am I over reacting?
Q. my penis curves slightly to the left (about 9 inches if that means anything) is this normal?...
A. 3 July 2008: My hubbies curves to the left, reminds me of a banana and trust me we have absolutely no problems in the bedroom department!! A girl will be so busy looking at the length she wont care if its curved or zig zagged!... (read in full...)
I try to help my family with the babies but I feel I'm being pushed out and feel depressed about it.
Q. I'm 17 and my sister had a baby at 17, shes now 19 and my other sister is 23, they are both currently pregnant, and although i dont want a baby watching my mum and them both going on about babies and looking at tiny clothes it makes me feel sad. I ...
A. 3 July 2008: You get depressed as you dont feel part of this 'club'. This is normal to feel this way, it is an exciting time for a mum when a daugher is pregnant and she has two at once.
I was treated like royalty all three times and that was my favourite part... (read in full...)
We still enjoy each other's company after 4 years but I am very bored, how can I save my relationship from routine??
Q. how do u get the spark back in ur relationship? i realise that you cant constantly feel those butterflies, but its been almost 4 years now and i feel very bored with my relationship. i love my bf very much and i know he feels the same. the only ...
A. 3 July 2008: It takes two to make a conversation so maybe he is feeling the same way. Me and my husband still talk non stop after five years but we always make quality time to be alone together at least once a week. Not easy with a 3 year old and two teenagers ... (read in full...)
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