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My sister ruins everything for me!
Q. my sister really winds me up, she ruins everything for me and when i say everything i mean EVERYTHING shes such a tart! shes 13, yes only 13! and shes going out with a 17 year old who shes been with for 3 months and is already having sex with him, ...
A. 29 July 2008: God arent sisters annoying!!
First of all do you feel better for getting it off your chest?
I was the baby sister and my older sister HATED me so much, I could do nothing wrong and she was always in trouble. Mums expect more from their older ki... (read in full...)
I don't feel any desire for my husband, it's like he's a family member!
Q. My husband has been working abroad for more than a year. We never had a sex life that you can call "great" to begin with. We love each other and are attracted to one another, but not in the knee-weakening, eyes meeting across the room and ...
A. 29 July 2008: Have you thought about trying sexual counselling. It sounds like you have never bothered to make the most of sex together and get little enjoyment from it with your husband. The best way to get that knee-weakening attraction is to have more sex ... (read in full...)
He always has to take over at some point during manual or oral stimulation and finish off the job himself - is this normal?
Q. Is it normal that I can't make my boyfriend cum by hand or oral? I can get him really really aroused but he always ends up finshing off himself by hand or by sex. I am pretty sure I'm doing it right, going fast etc, but I go for so long I just get ...
A. 29 July 2008: It could be you or him or a bit of both. Everyone is different. The bloke I saw before I met my hubbie I could make cum in 5-10 mins max by just sucking the tip of his penis. I was with my ex hubbie 17 years and never once managed it. I cant make ... (read in full...)
Can one ignore her first and only sexual experience, an unpleasant one, and consider herself a virgin?
Q. if losing your virginity is a state of mind is it acceptable for a girl to want to ignor her first intercourse (being unpleasent one) and concider her self still a vigin untill willingly giving her self, (it only being her second time?) [Added from...
A. 29 July 2008: This girl was date raped and its an unpleasant experience that she just wanted to forget. She wanted her first time to be with you and to be special. Dont give her a hard time about this instead support her and help her by being there for her x... (read in full...)
After a long term relationship, what's an acceptable "moving on" time period?
Q. Just wondering what people's idea's are on an acceptable 'moving on' time period after a long term relationship ends. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years 6 weeks ago as I fell out of love with him and now I'm in another relationship already ...
A. 29 July 2008: If he feels like the one then dont make excuses, you werent looking for love and thats when it often strikes. However there is the danger that you are one of these people who doesnt like to be alone and have met him on the rebound. Only time will ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in saying I can't return to Canada with my wife when my kids are here?
Q. I'm currently married to a Canadian woman who has a 14 year old son from a previous relationship who lives with his father in Canada. I have 3 children from a previous marriage who are 16, 15 and 12 who live with my ex wife. We have been married for ...
A. 29 July 2008: As a mum I couldnt leave my kids behind but I will try to answer objectively so dont take offense!!
She was prepared to move for you and gave it a good long go so I can understand why she now expects you to do the same for her. I dont think you shou... (read in full...)
I broke up with him but it hurts so much. Will I ever get over him?
Q. m really not sure bout what m doing..i broke up with my guy but it hurts so much..m makin a mess..not able to study or work r do anything..m so lost..wonder y things got so bad between us..not able to sleep..please help me get over him..loved him so ...
A. 28 July 2008: I wish there was a magic cure but there isnt. You have to go through the grieving process and it hurts like hell. There will come a time when you realise that it doesnt hurt as much and one day you will wake up and not remember he has hurt you for ... (read in full...)
He comes every time, and I don't think he understands that I never actually do.
Q. Hi Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for a while now, its great everytime but theres one problem:( he comes everytime, and i dont. i told him its harder for me, and he explains to me everytime that guys come quiker or alot ealier than girl...
A. 28 July 2008: You are both very young so sex is often unexciting at this age as you are probably a little tense and shy and dont really know your own bodies let alone each others. It takes time and patience and practice to get it right. Show him what you like, ... (read in full...)
Should I forget about him?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused. Theres this guy who i have been getting to know the last few weeks. At first we got a long so well, ended up talking on the phone every night for 3-4 hours. He then asked me out but i felt i didnt no him enough at that t...
A. 28 July 2008: Forget about him. There isnt even an age gap here really, men arent as mature as girls at this age so your about on an even keel. I think he's just changed his mind about you and isnt man enough to be honest x... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to him groping me while I slept?
Q. I've been in a relationship for a year and a half now and about a week ago my boyfriend and I were on holiday together; we'd gone away with my family. We shared a room but not a bed; we're both virgins and I want to wait until I turn 18 before I ...
A. 28 July 2008: It depends what his intention were. My hubbie often wakes me up by having a grope but its intended to turn me on and we have sex, he also loves to be woken this way. Maybe he hoped you would wake up and encourage him so you could have sex. I think ... (read in full...)
Are girls turned off if guys have hairy asses?
Q. I've been complemented on having a nice and big ass, but the thing girls don't realize that i have a hairy ass. So here's my question, is it a turn-off, or do girls mind if guys have hairy asses??...
A. 28 July 2008: My ex husband was non hairy and I always used to say uugghhh if I saw a hairy man. However the men I dated after I left him seemed to be hairy, maybe because my ex was fair and all the new blokes were dark haired.
My 2nd husband is VERY hairy on t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gave me an unusual excuse to justify his delay...
Q. have you ever heard the excuse"i stopped to help a disoriontated blind man that was walking out into the street, and gave him a ride. when you ask your supposed exclusive boyfriend what took him so long? and he was only driving 1mile up the street ...
A. 28 July 2008: Well an hour wouldnt give him much time unless he was seeing someone who lived right next door to where he was going. SOunds to me like he probably went for a pint somewhere!!!!... (read in full...)
Is there any given time that a girl is obsessed with sex?
Q. Hi readers? Just want to hear different answers for the viewers. 1) is it true that a girl whose in vinicity of her period is obsessed in sex? 2) if not, when usually is a girl obsessed with sex? is there any given time? thanks...
A. 28 July 2008: Im ususally horny during and just after my period but cant stand to be even touched a few days before. Everyone is different though x... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to have pictures of of celebrity on his cell phone?
Q. my boyfriend has pictures of Vida Guerra in his cell phone, it bothers me, but should i worry.....
A. 27 July 2008: My husband is in love with Sandra Bullock, what can I do!!! Yes its normal x... (read in full...)
What are the signs your partner is cheating on you?
Q. How could you recognise whether your lover is cheating you?What are the signs that men shows when they love some one just for fun or for passing time?...
A. 27 July 2008: There are two seperate questions here.
If he is cheating then he will be secretive, receive texts and phone calls and not tell you who they are from. Guard his phone with his life and probably have a password on it to prevent you looking at it. ... (read in full...)
I am confused and hurt by his cruel actions regarding me and my son!
Q. hi everyone, im a 36 yr old woman whose been dating a 57 yr old man for 2 yrs, and even though things havent been that good over the last few months as they were in the beginning i never dreamed he would treat me and my son the way he has over the ...
A. 27 July 2008: Its always hard when two families are involved and each will protect their own and believe there own. I dated an older guy with SIX kids. Wow what an eye opener that was. His kids couldnt do a thing wrong and my son got blamed for everything when ... (read in full...)
Is this a transition or am I falling out of love?
Q. I don't really know if I love my bf anymore. We've been together for a year and a bit and I know I want to be with him but it just doesn't feel like it used to. I don't look at him adoringly and think 'God you're beautiful I'm so lucky to be with ...
A. 27 July 2008: Of course the love fades a bit but it is up to you both to bring the spark back and put some excitment into your lives. Decide if you want to make this work and inject some fun back into it x ... (read in full...)
My husband has lost all interest in me sexually since I had a baby
Q. Hi I have had a baby and my husband has lost all interest in me sexually. I did not gain any weight. But do now have a C-section scar. Baby now 6 months and we have not had sex. I have tried to seduce him, much to my embarrasement, he said h...
A. 27 July 2008: This is normal. Some men find it a bit overwhelming when their partners bodies change, also watching you give birth may have been traumatic for him, did he actually watch? To him at the moment your body has another use and he doesnt feel he can be ... (read in full...)
Leaving his girlfriend for me turned out to be more painful than he thought! What should I do now?
Q. I have been in love with my best mate for 6 months an we have frantically flirted all that time and hung out together. He has a girlfriend he sees a couple of times a week, I have a boyfriend who works abroad i hardly ever see him. 2 days ago he t...
A. 27 July 2008: He just wanted to get you into bed and thought that by telling you he was leaving his girlfriend it would make it easier. It did. Now he has had what he wanted he doesnt need to say he will leave her anymore. Keep clear of him he is a player and a ... (read in full...)
He says I forced him to cheat because I'm so negative! Is that true?
Q. Little confused, I've been with my boyfriend for about 3yrs we we're livin together but I got my own place because of personal reasons..I don't trust him, cheated 2x with the same girl, we got to an argument and he blurted out that he met a girl ...
A. 27 July 2008: Yes maybe you do push him away but if he really cared about you he would be helping you not using you as an excuse to cheat.
If he has anger issues get out of it now as he probably wont change and you and your boys are worth so much more than this... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll ever change his mind about not wanting to marry me?
Q. I have been with my bf for 1 yr, 8 months now. I know its probably still soon, but I do love him. The thing is.. I think we want 2 seperate kind of lives. He dated an older woman [whom already had kids by someone else] before me [his onl...
A. 27 July 2008: It could be the rejection but I still think you want different things and should maybe think about ending this relationship instead of waiting and hoping he will change his mind.
Do get help about the termination as you need to go through the grie... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of him sleeping with someone else if I end it! I'm also pregnant and he's in the army.
Q. I'm in desperate need of help, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years. We had a few one night stands with other people while we broke up. He is in the army so he is away alot, he went away for 5 months and i found out i was pregnant ...
A. 27 July 2008: He does seem to be messing you about a bit but it could be because you are freaking him out with all these texts. Learn to relax a bit more especially in your condition. You dont need to bombard him with texts declaring your undying love all the ... (read in full...)
What's he playing at? Anyone know?
Q. Split from him in jan. I ended it. He's not for me. Kids all got on well, his and mine. Jack the lad 3 yrs younger than me. Owes me a couple of grand. Trying to keep it civil as he's paying it back slowly! Says he's a man of his word and all that! ...
A. 27 July 2008: Playing, thats the operative word here.
He is a player and you are so much better off without him. I kmow its hard for the kids but I dont think this guy is going to change and turning his phone off just means he didnt want you texting whilst he w... (read in full...)
How would you handle your boyfriend up and leaving for a vacation without telling you?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been "sort of" living together (he still has his own place) for almost 3 years now and 2 days ago he just up and left to CA without telling me. I know where he is through friends of his. I also know that he is meeting old ...
A. 27 July 2008: He has absolutely no respect for you. My hubbie wouldnt even go to the corner shop without telling me he was leaving the house!
I wouldnt even contact him but pack his stuff up and leave it outside for him x... (read in full...)
I don't want to marry my long distance boyfriend and get a divorce down the line....how do I go about this decision?
Q. hi all, i have been in a long distance relationship for the last 4yrs. it was gr8 at first but then we had some issues and broke up for about 3-4mths. now everything is back to normal (break up was not becoz of cheating or sth like that.some other ...
A. 27 July 2008: You need to live together first before you take the step of marriage. If you are not spending time together then how can you possibly truly know each other. Living together is a real eye opener and you will know whether or not he is truly the one! x... (read in full...)
Do I tell him I love him even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. i love this guy and he awsome. we txt everyday since the first time we met. my friend asked if he would ever go out wit me and he said mayb but he has a girlfriend. i talk 2 him soo much though. he sent a pic of him 2 me at random. then sometimes ...
A. 27 July 2008: You tell him to contact you when and if he becomes single but that it is wrong to be texting you like this when he is still seeing another girl x... (read in full...)
What makes a parent love one child more than another?
Q. can anybody tell me what makes a parent love their child less than their other children and blatantly show it....
A. 27 July 2008: I have three children and the older two will both tell you I love the other one more then them and that I love the little one more than either of them!
Of course I show more love to the little one as he is only three and very loving and cuddly. The ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my girlfriend not being ready to have sex? I'm tired of waiting.
Q. Okay - So, I've been dating a girl that studies with me (collage) for about 10+ months already, and we haven't had sex yet. We are both virgins - believe it or not! I really like her and I know she really likes me, but I don't know why she doesn...
A. 27 July 2008: I think she is scared to have sex and is using any excuse she can to avoid it.
You have to decide if this girl is worth waiting for as she has set a pattern here that is going to be very hard to break.
I dont think you are selfish, having sex is t... (read in full...)
Why is breaking up so hard even when you know it wasn't working out?
Q. My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I just broke up. I've known for awhile that it wasn't working and we wouldn't be compatible long term. Even though I know this it is extremely painful? I don't understand why it shoudl be this painful knowing we ...
A. 27 July 2008: Whether it was right or not you loved this guy and spent a lot of time with him. You have to grieve for the relationship and allow yourself to miss him, you know you are doing the right thing long term and will look back in time and realise how ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is telling me my vagina is too wide, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend told me that i have a wide vagina and theres no feeling for him when we have sex. what could be the problem?, and what can i do to fix it?...
A. 27 July 2008: Tell him to get a penis enlargement and see how he feels x... (read in full...)
My friend has been withdrawing from me...how hsould I handle this?
Q. First, let me start by saying I'm not a teenager, instead a woman in her 30's. I have fallen head over heals with a friend of mine, but have NO CLUE what he is thinking!!! We have known each other for almost 10 years. We were more 'friends of a fr...
A. 27 July 2008: He either realises you have feelings for him and doesnt want a relationship with you so is distancing himself OR he has developed feelings for you and doesnt think you reciprocate so is distancing himself from you!! Confusing as it is you need to ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend was forced to suck someone off before and since then she is not into for me how can I get her to do it?
Q. my girl was forced to do it once a few years ago but now when i ask or go down on her i get nothing back and its really frustrating i mean i wont break up with her because of it its just sometimes i wish she would just do it is there anything i can ...
A. 27 July 2008: The more you ask her the more she will refuse. There will be a lot of hurt associated with this and she may feel panicky or even physically sick. She may need counselling to talk about this problem with someone and help her move forward, not ... (read in full...)
Should I have my facial birthmark removed or could I learn to live with it?
Q. i have a problem with my self image i have a birthmark on my face and it does get me down sometimes when people will stare. i have the choice to get it removed by laser which i would want to do but at the same time i dont want to turn my back on ...
A. 26 July 2008: You could try counselling to come to terms with it BUT if it is controlling your life then I think you could at least look into the laser surgery.
My daughter was born with one eye closed due to the muscles in one eyelid being too long. She had ... (read in full...)
How do I have sex in the missionary position without hurting her?
Q. Hey, I've worrying a little about having sex for the first time. Well, a while back, I was kissing my girlfrind (at the time) in the missionary position (me on top) but my arms were aching a lot from holding myself up and prevent myself from laying ...
A. 26 July 2008: Try taking some of the weight on your knees too and allow a little of your weight on her body. I actually LIKE some weight on me rather then him holding his body away with his arms locked as it feels so much more intimate. Alternative with both so ... (read in full...)
Why does he masturbate, when I am available at any moment?
Q. My boyfriend always masturbates and lies about it (because he knows it upsets me that he does it in the first place, but my question is.. why does he masturbate in the first place!? especially since i am ready and willing at any moment!! is it ...
A. 26 July 2008: Its normal to masterbate but by telling him you have issues about it is making him lie and be secretive. Accept that it is normal. If he stops having sex and only masterbates then worry but its normal to do both. Dont you masterbate!!??
i've been... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my girlfriend will be scared off by my parents! they yell all the time.
Q. Sorry, this is gonna be long but I need your help. Please. I’m 15. great parents but they don’t get along. Constant yelling and verbal abuse. Mom yells 24/7. dad has made me grow up too fast and routinely gives me 30-60+ min speeches on how ...
A. 26 July 2008: I would call a family meeting and tell them that things have to change as it is not just affecting them but you and I would think your siblings too. It isnt your job to fix the marriage but you can still give them an insight into what they are doing ... (read in full...)
I cannot sleep. The doctors can't decide the reason. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. I can not sleep, and I mean this is not a new thing, it has been this way my entire life. Some of the doctors say it is because I have RLS, others think it is an aniexty, or depression, others think it is because I am anemic, because I have ADHD, ...
A. 26 July 2008: Talk to your doctor again and explain about the lack of sleep. Are you on any medication that could interfere with you sleep pattern?
Smoking, caffeine etc (including coca cola) can all stop you sleeping. There are herbal remedies you can try from... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm, is there something wrong with me?
Q. I cant have an orgasm!!! is somthing wrong with me? OR is the sex not good or what!!?! im 20 and have a 1 yea r old child, and my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years, and i have YET to have one.. is there something wrong?...
A. 26 July 2008: Its more common for women not to orgasm so nothing is wrong.
You have to know your own body intimately if you have any hope of expecting your boyfriend to know which buttons to press. You need lots of foreplay etc before to make sure you are read... (read in full...)
Is there a differance between cumming and orgasm?
Q. Ok this may be a stupid question...but I just want to know is there a difference between cumin and havin and actual orgasm? If anyone can answer..thanx...
A. 25 July 2008: Its the same thing xxxx... (read in full...)
Men's favourite things (non-sexual) that a girl could do for him?
Q. What are a man's favorite things for a girl to do for him (non-sexual). Things that really make you smile, laugh or get the warm feeling in your stomach. [Added from the same user] Guys if a girl sent you a text, or an e-mail. What would be a good q...
A. 25 July 2008: Every guy is different!!!!
My hubbie likes:- (non sexual)
my smile
me getting ready for a night out
Me getting chatted up in the pub by the regulars (all over 50!!!!)
Me being a good mum
The fact that i cook 6 out of 7 days a low fat meal from... (read in full...)
Poll question for women: do you like oral and would you like your partner more for it?
Q. Do girls like when a guy goes down on them? And would you like your boyfriend more if he did that?...
A. 25 July 2008: Due to a nasty experience when I was younger I dont really like it. Unless hubbie gets me a bit tipsy first so i can relax. I'd rather give x... (read in full...)
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