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We still enjoy each other's company after 4 years but I am very bored, how can I save my relationship from routine??
Q. how do u get the spark back in ur relationship? i realise that you cant constantly feel those butterflies, but its been almost 4 years now and i feel very bored with my relationship. i love my bf very much and i know he feels the same. the only ...
A. 3 July 2008: It takes two to make a conversation so maybe he is feeling the same way. Me and my husband still talk non stop after five years but we always make quality time to be alone together at least once a week. Not easy with a 3 year old and two teenagers ... (read in full...)
I'm really confused, could I be pregnant?
Q. I'm not sure if i'm worrying about nothing,i'm just confused. I was on the contraceptive pill and missed a pill so i took one and took another but it was over 24 hours.i then had sex 2days later on may 4th without a condom. I stopped taking the pill...
A. 3 July 2008: I started to type with lots of scenarios but then changed my mind and deleted them all. I think the best answer is buy a pregnancy test to make sure, but it could just be the lack of pill suddenly making you irregular. Good luck x... (read in full...)
How long is this empty feeling inside me going to last, after breaking up with by bf??
Q. Me and my bf broke up a month ago, and I am so heart broken. We were on and off for 3 years (today would have been our 3 yrs anniversary) and this is the second time we've broken up for real. We broke up last year too for 8 months and then got back ...
A. 3 July 2008: im sorry your feeling so sad right now. Its a horrible feeling losing the one you love.
I wish I could tell you that in 3 months, 5 days, 6 hours, 20 minutes and 5 seconds the pain will just stop, but I cant. There is no answer to this. I coul... (read in full...)
I want to go back on the pill, but I'm not sure how to go about it.
Q. december last year i decided to go on the pill for a holiday as a celebration after finishing year 12. I went on it without my mum knowing but i had a bad experience with it. I had breakthrough bleeding which was very unpleasant, and even tho i was ...
A. 3 July 2008: Can you not just go back to the same clinic? If not are you old enough to arrange your own doctor at 18 in Uk you would be but I dont know about where you are.
Asking your mum is hard I remember sitting up late one night watching a film with her ... (read in full...)
Anyone know the percentage of women who masturbate in India??
Q. precentage of women masturbation in india?...
A. 3 July 2008: Ummmmm............. why??!!... (read in full...)
My periods are irregular, is this normal?
Q. Im 13 as of June 10 and i've had my period since i was nine. it was never really normal, and i've went to doctors and stuff.They put me on the pill but that made me sick so they put me on the patch and it still didn't help me. The doctors say my ...
A. 3 July 2008: My daughter was 10 bless her when she started and has never been regular. She is now 16. She can go up to 6 months but more often its around 6 or 7 weeks and then its really heavy. She is going on the pill to regulate them and make them ligther but ... (read in full...)
Did I break my hymen?
Q. I just tried sticking a dildo in my vagina and it hurt so I left it in there for like 20 seconds because I wanted to see if I could break my hymen, but then it kept hurting so I stopped. I started bleeding afterwards (obviously), so does that mean I ...
A. 3 July 2008: It is possible it was broken before. Do you use tampons for example.
Your hymen isnt inside you, its a thin piece of tissue (skin) that is on the outer part of your vagina so if the dildo went in its definately broken now! x... (read in full...)
I'm 13, and have 7 inch penis...is this normal?
Q. im 13 and i have a 7 inch penis is that normal...
A. 3 July 2008: Absolutely seeing as the average is less than that and you have a lot more growing to do so it will likely be much bigger by the time youre 18 x... (read in full...)
Should I try and get along with my sister-in-law?
Q. Hi, I need some help dealing with my husband's family. They are being insensitive about our separation and it is hurting me. My husband told me a few months ago that he isn't "in-love" with me anymore. We were living at his Mom's with our kids. His ...
A. 3 July 2008: She thinks she is protecting her brother and maybe she is hurting too at the split. Maybe she is worried her brother wont be able to see the kids etc. Assure her that you are trying to make this split amicable and that if you need help you will ask ... (read in full...)
What size and shape of girl do men prefer?
Q. I'm really curious. Do guys Prefer Skinny, slim, curvy or overweight girls? If you had to pick a clothing size for a girl what would it be?...
A. 3 July 2008: All men are different. Some like thin, some like average and some like bigger girls. We had a guy on here yesterday asking how to stop his very very curvy girl from going all slim on him as he loved her just the way she was.
Stop worrying and be y... (read in full...)
Anyone have any idea how we can arrange an underage marriage?
Q. Ok so I am under 18 and I have this boyfriend who is 38. He and I want to get married but I know my parents won't allow it. No body even knows about him. So my question is, what can I do to be with him? Legally I mean. We have been ...
A. 3 July 2008: Oh sweetie why do you want to be with him. Dont rush into this it is not normal for a guy his age to be involved with someone so young. IF he is worth waiting for he will wait for you to be old enough. There is something soooooo wrong with this. ... (read in full...)
His fantasy is to have a threesome. So should I tell him my fantasy of having sex with his brother?
Q. My husband has shared his fantasies with me. He'd love to see me with another woman (I'm straight), he'd love us to be in a threesome with another woman, and a couple of other things. He wants to know my fantasies, but I just can't bring myself to ...
A. 3 July 2008: Same answer as last time you posted... (read in full...)
Any advice about polycystic ovarian syndrome?
Q. i have been trying for a baby for over 4 years i have polycystic ovarian syndrome, my husband and are really wanting a family, can anyone help?...
A. 3 July 2008: My friends daughter has pcos and I havent met her too often as she lives away. My memories of her (sorry if I offend anyone) where of an overweight, hairy, spotty girl. About a year ago I saw my friend with a slim, clear skinned, beautiful girl and ... (read in full...)
Is it Ok to sleep with someone you met on holiday?
Q. Whilst I realise several of us may have done this would you all be honest especially men who might reply and say the truth - if someone has just met someone else on holiday during a two week break - is it wise to sleep with them or would they ...
A. 2 July 2008: It depends if you want a lasting relationship or a quickie!!! As I was with my first hubbie from 15 to 32 I was quite old when I had my first one night stand. Nothing to write home about I can tell you but it wasnt my last. I wasnt ready for a real ... (read in full...)
If you get fired from work, what do you put on your CV?
Q. Just a quick question.A colleague was recently sacked/fired at my workplace for a silly mistake(she was having an affair with a married colleague).She,myself and another girl all started at the same time (we have been there for 2 years now) and we ...
A. 2 July 2008: Just do as Finn McCool says. I have never been fired but have walked out of two jobs after telling the bosses where to stick it (not proud and much mature now) and also been signed off one with stress.
The first one I put I left because it was my f... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my husband's younger brother and had sex with him. Why is this so wrong?
Q. I'm a married woman in my 20s, I really love my husband. He's in his 20s also. We have a great sex life. Even so, I've been attracted to his younger brother (also in his 20s) since before we got married. Recently, his brother and I got a little ...
A. 2 July 2008: We are not here to answer in a way you want to hear. You asked our opinion, you got it... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend's attitute towards my past?
Q. when i was very young(a child)i was sexually molested and as a result in adulthood, i went looking for love in all the wrong places. i had sex with men even when i didn't want to, just because i wanted to be loved (not too many, below 10.) sex never ...
A. 2 July 2008: You have to give him the space he needs. In your heart you feel that if he truly loved you then he would accept your past but the reality is often different and very difficult. Be there for him and do what you can to show you are not that person ... (read in full...)
How do I build up to asking her out?
Q. at the moment i really like this girl and like we've met up a few times with our mates and stuff but how do i know if she likes me in a relansionship kinda way?? and also what are the next steps and what should i do in the build up to me possibly ...
A. 2 July 2008: Ask for her msn addy if you both have computers or her mobile number. That way you can get to know each other better by chatting and finding out a lot more about each other. After a while you will know by her responses and how often she contacts ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex. What should I do?
Q. HELP!! I'm still in love with my ex who I was with for 2 years. Currently have a GF who been with for few months now and I do like her. What should I do! My ex also told me she loves me stil and she got a partner too... ...
A. 2 July 2008: Sometimes we want what we cant have and you could find that once you dump your girlfriend the ex wont be interested any more or she may genuinely want you back.
Decide if the current girl is worth hanging on to, if you really like her and want to m... (read in full...)
He gave me this look that stopped my heart. Now how can I get him back?
Q. hello, i want to tell you all my story. i was with this guy for a while and we got pretty serious, we got as far as fingering. and he gave me this look that stopped my heart. i fell in love with him. he said he loved me. life was perfect. but then ...
A. 2 July 2008: You cant force people to love you back or want to make a relationship work. You need to give him some space and let him see what he wants. The more you try the more you will push him away. Just wait awhile and if nothing happens then accept it is ... (read in full...)
Tonsilitis? How can I reduce the swelling? Help!!!!!!!
Q. it's 5:00am in the morning. I know a little late for somebody to be up now isn't it? Well it's cause about an hour ago, I decided I was going to go to bed, but before I decided to go to bed, I decided to look inside my mouth, cause it had been ...
A. 2 July 2008: Try ice cream or some kind of throat lozenge. There is not a lot else you can do until you know what the problem is. Painkillers might help or an anti inflammatory x... (read in full...)
A whirlwind romance and six years marriage, and I'm now regretting it. Any advice?
Q. I have been married for nearly 6 years, a whirlwind romance which I am now regretting. I am a Foster Mother who stays at home as that is what is requested by the agengy I work for. My husband hurls abuse that I am a lazy cow, even though I do all ...
A. 2 July 2008: Get advice from a solicitor, you usually get the first half an hour free so can outline the problem and work out if you have grounds for divorce or need to separate first. He will advise you of your rights and what you can expect financially from ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my husband's younger brother and had sex with him. Why is this so wrong?
Q. I'm a married woman in my 20s, I really love my husband. He's in his 20s also. We have a great sex life. Even so, I've been attracted to his younger brother (also in his 20s) since before we got married. Recently, his brother and I got a little ...
A. 2 July 2008: Fantasy should remain fantasy. If you thinks its ok to have a bit on the side then you shouldnt have got married. Yes his brother is attractive but you made a vow. This will come out eventually and how do you think it will make your husband feel, ... (read in full...)
I called off the wedding because he cheated, but I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
Q. I am a 35 years old female who has just called off my wedding because my fiance cheated me. I confided into a friend who is married for 12 years and with a 12 years old kid and ended up having an affair with him. He claims that he loves me but he ...
A. 2 July 2008: I am not going to give the answer you want to hear but I am going to be honest with you and give my true opinion.
You have to decide why you started this affair. You were obviously very low and he, whether deliberately or not took advantag... (read in full...)
Is he just after a UK passport?
Q. i went to turkey a few weeks ago with my family. my sister who is 14 gave her msn addy to a bar man. when we got back he asked to marry her in a few years time. when she tries to explain she doesnt want to (by saying your too old for me, we hardly ...
A. 2 July 2008: He probably has hundreds of girls msn details and is begging them all to marry him.
Block him and tell her to wait to meet a nice young man who doesnt see her as a meal ticket, she's only 14 for goodness sake and Im sure she doesnt want to marr... (read in full...)
How much should I spend on my girlfriend's birthday present?
Q. Hi, I need advice about how much money I should be spending on my girlfriend's birthday present considering we've only been going out a few months. For her birthday she suggested that I could take her on a weekend break to Center Parcs, a...
A. 2 July 2008: No dont take her to centre parcs, especially as she went there with her ex.
Just buy her a nice pressie, I personally think around £20-£50 at this stage in your relationship is more than enough. Maybe a pressie and a meal out which may cost slig... (read in full...)
I nearly lost my dad last week! Can anyone help me sort through all this?
Q. i dont know how to explain all this without it getting confusing, but ill try my best. when i was growing up, my mum and my half sister/dads daughter never really got on , and anytime there was an argument, my dad would cut me out and ignore m...
A. 2 July 2008: What a sad situation to be in. Keep visiting him, try and go when she is not around. Dont get into a fight with her, walk away, he is your dad too and its the arguing that seems to be the main problem here. Dont allow yourself to get drawn in and ... (read in full...)
Am I a slut like everyone says or is this just a phase?
Q. During the outcome of this year, my life has brought me many different things, new experiences and alot of surprises. Alot of people are labeling me as a "slut", I am wondering, do you think the same? or is something else in my life effectin...
A. 2 July 2008: You are a very confused young lady who seems to mistake sex for love. If you sleep with lots of guys, kiss as soon as you meet someone, cheat on your boyfriends and move on to the next guy as soon as you have dumped the other one then yes you will ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to notice if you've had sex? Do you walk differently?
Q. my boyfriend and I are starting to have sex. last time, we were having sex and when i took his thing out of mine their was white stuff all over, an I think it might be his cum, but I cum alot and it might be mine, but he said it was not him because ...
A. 2 July 2008: No you wont walk differently no one can notice.
I agree you dont sound emotionally mature enough to be having sex as you neither of you fulll understand what is gowing on and this will lead to std's or unwanted pregnancy.
The white stuff could ha... (read in full...)
How do I get over an "emotional abuser"?
Q. How do I get over an emotional abuser? I love him deeply, but he always found flaws in me... He was very loving and respectful most of the time. But when he''d get mad and make me cry, he'd get even angrier. It's true I made mistakes, but st...
A. 2 July 2008: It doesnt matter if you lied he has no right to control you in this way. If he has been this controlling already then often with time the power struggle gets worse and could lead to physical abuse.
You do not need this man in your life. Cry, scre... (read in full...)
Can you help me with a solution to this letter my wife wrote?
Q. After 20 years of marriage , she has decided I'm not her ideal husband . She wants a me to not be like me or I need to change to be different . She is a generous , helpful and will do anything to help others . These are things that I am not , ...
A. 2 July 2008: Sometimes it is easier to get our point across in a letter, if we talk face to face the other person may interrupt and we lose the flow or emotion may take over and you never fully make the person understand what is in your heart.
So take this lett... (read in full...)
Can my mom have him arrested for statutory rape?
Q. Okay I seriously need to know the answer to this question. Im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 and we've been dating for about 3 months. My mom is accusing us of having sex and is threatening to get him for statutory rape. He told me that she it's ...
A. 2 July 2008: I dont know the ins and outs of law but if you are under age and he is over the age limit then I would say yes, regardless of whether he is 19 or 29, it is still sex between an adult and a minor x ... (read in full...)
My husband won't french kiss me, why?
Q. My husband will not french kiss me at all. He did when we were dating we have been married 5 years I can count on one hand the times he has kiss me. It is usually just a peck on the lips or cheek. Even during sex he doesnt kiss me at all. He has ...
A. 2 July 2008: He seems to have a very low sex drive and not all guys like all the sexy stuff and foreplay, everyone is different and if he is uncomfortable about it and you nag at him it will only make matters worse. Maybe he has been brought up believing sex is ... (read in full...)
I have no idea what I'm feeling so I really need help!
Q. Alrighty, I'd rather give help then ask for it. I'm usually not very open. But at htis point i don't have a clue what to do or what I'm feeling.I've known this guy literally from kindergarden. We went to the same school for about 4 years. Then i ...
A. 2 July 2008: Well besides the fact that youre hormones are raging at your age, you have known this guy forever and are pleased to have him back in your life. You think about him all the time and dont know what you feel, you see similarities between you and think ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 2 July 2008: Thats a lot of visitors!
Not surprising, its a great site where you can be honest and open and people dont just say what they thnk people want to hear.
Keep it up!!
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I'm confused! My husband needed a "break" and now we are having the best sex ever!
Q. Two months ago my husband told me that he wanted a "break" , no rules, we are seperated anything goes!! He moved out. Now we are getting along with each other way better and we are having the best sex ever but he leaves right after we are done. I ...
A. 2 July 2008: When you say anything goes does that mean you are both allowed to sleep with other people?
Aside from that you will be getting along better and the sex great because he has no real committment to you, you are not living together, he has sex and ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me in an email- should I send him a letter to express how I feel?
Q. My partner broke up with me by email on Monday. I had no idea it was coming and I'm still in shock - heartbroken. Although only 5 months - this is 5 months out of my life which I value. His email told me that some relationships last and some do...
A. 2 July 2008: Yes absolutely. Tell him exactly how you feel, make it clear you dont want a reply but dont let him get away without feeling too much guilt as he didnt do it in person. He has taken the cowards way out and is doing the its not you its me thing. You ... (read in full...)
I am in a situation where I'm married but can't picture spending the rest of my life with him. How do I get out?
Q. i am in a situation where i married a guy but we have not had the ceremony yet. we got married so he could apply for housing (he is in active army) so i could go live with him overseas after our ceremony.. we are supposed to have the wedding in ...
A. 2 July 2008: Well half of nothing is nothing and here in the uk even if one of you had a lot more than the other you would not be entitled to any assets the other person held before they met you until you have been married for a certain amount of time. My ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of a sunburn really quickly?
Q. Sorry, this isn't a relationship question BUT basically I got really sun burn at Glastonbury Festival and its SO SORE and RED and painful!!! im slapping on the after sun like there's no tomorrow but the problem is im supposed to be getting a t...
A. 1 July 2008: Cancel the tattoo a week or two wont matter and if you peel as a result of the sunburn it may mess your tat up. Plus the tattoo will hurt a hell of a lot more as well, my back one hurt more then my other one, especially on the boney areas.
Try hone... (read in full...)
What do I give a guy as a first year anniversary present?
Q. What do you give a guy as a year aniversary present? We are both in our mid 20. He loves his cars (but likes to buy everything himself). He wanted to do a Tandem jump .. so I was thinking of giving him money in the envelope for that as a present ...
A. 1 July 2008: Something small. If you go too mad he may not have got you something and will feel silly and how do you top it each year anyway!!
Something silly that is private between you, my husband bought me a cuddly chicken one year, it meant something to us h... (read in full...)
My curvy Goddess is trying to slim down! How can I tell her I like her the way she is?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for about 6 months and she is the largest girl that i have ever dated (shes about 5feet 6 inches and about 180 pounds. before her i only liked women with slim bodies but found myself so attracted to her curvy ...
A. 1 July 2008: Tell her exactly what you told us apart from the fact that she is the biggest woman you've ever been with! Tell her not to loose to many curves as you love her the way she is.
I was curvy but slim when I met my hubbie and went up two dress si... (read in full...)
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