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She was drawn to me because of my guitar playing. Should I send her song lyrics, nothing too sappy, just light and funny! I don't want to push her away!
Q. Hi, I was dating this girl for a couple months, doing the long distance thing while she was at college. When she came home from school she said she didn't think we should see eachother because she didn't want to get attached. I txted her a litt...
A. 30 May 2008: I dont think it will hurt to send them but maybe she just isnt on the same page as you at the moment and is either NOT interested or as she states just doesnt want a relationship at the moment. This is the time for her to have fun and enjoy life. ... (read in full...)
I want closure on this! He's making me out to be the bad guy to mutual friends. Help!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm hoping that someone can help me with this issue that has been hanging over me for a while. Sorry it's so longwinded but I feel I have to tell the whole story, and if someone would take the time to read the whole story and help, I ...
A. 30 May 2008: I dont think you are going to get it - he is burying his head in the sand and maybe its guilt that is driving him. Move on from him I think you have had a lucky escape, go and find someone who really appreciates you x... (read in full...)
Just wanted a third party's opinion to see if I was overreacting or not. Thanks!
Q. Ok, my boyfriend of 9 months is friends with his ex girlfriends, mostly from another state, but I'm insecure about that and he knows this. I've been trying to be more understanding, but I'm beginning to think that my jealousy isn't that strange. One ...
A. 24 May 2008: I can understand that you feel threatened by this and it must realy annoy you. It certainly sounds harmless from his point of view but she shouldnt be asking him to meet her at hotels and telling him she misses him. Maybe she is the one that is a ... (read in full...)
He's working so much and is so tired and depressed, I don't know how to help him!
Q. My husband is constantly depressed and there is nothing I can do to help him. He works 6 days a week, 12 hr days and is always tired. By the time he gets home at 8pm he just wants to have his dinner and go to sleep. We rarely even make love...maybe ...
A. 24 May 2008: If he is so unhappy then I do think he has to have a serious think about his career as life is not all about money etc and you do learn to adapt if you change income/career etc. BUT the question you asked wasnt really about that but seems to be ... (read in full...)
Is this my period?
Q. I have been having a small white dicharge for some time now, and then just recently a brown/black substance came. I think its my period but im not sure, its not runny or gooey just kind of inbetween, i havnt spoke to my mum about it, I dont really ...
A. 24 May 2008: oops missed a bit off, as for telling your mum, you could talk to her now and just ask her what you asked us. or wait another month and see if a full period develops x... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome, and now I think I might have it as well. How do I talk with him about this?
Q. My boyfriend (let's say J) has Asperger's, and recently, I've been starting to question myself, as a lot of our similarities lie within his AS traits. It's easy to talk to him about most things as he seems to be able to relate to them. For examp...
A. 24 May 2008: Aspergers and Autism (which are closely related) have a 'scale' and many people can fall onto the border line of aspergers and have aspergers 'traits' without being diagnosed and even those who are diagnosed have different degrees of the symptoms. ... (read in full...)
Is four and a half inches normal?
Q. hi im 12 and in realy concernd about my size down stairs.is 4 and a half inchs normal? please help....
A. 24 May 2008: My nephew was so worried at your age that my sis took him to docs to get him some reassurance. He is now 21 and a strapping gorgeous lad with girls chasing after him and we often laugh and joke with him about how worried he was. His answer now is ... (read in full...)
Is this my period?
Q. I have been having a small white dicharge for some time now, and then just recently a brown/black substance came. I think its my period but im not sure, its not runny or gooey just kind of inbetween, i havnt spoke to my mum about it, I dont really ...
A. 24 May 2008: Thats what I had first time and then started properly a month or so later. I still get it at the end of my period, I call it the shitty brown phase, sorry if thats graphic but if it helps you to identify what youre going through I thought I would ... (read in full...)
My parents won't let me go out. I feel like running away.
Q. I feel depressed and I believe its because my parents wont let me do anything. I now feel like running away to give myself a better future (it will be hard on my own) and to be happy again but is it worth risking being disowned by my family? and ...
A. 24 May 2008: How old are you x... (read in full...)
Can a gynacologist tell if you are a virgin?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if a GYN could guess whether or not you are a virgin by looking at your hymen ? I'm 22 and a virgin BTW....
A. 24 May 2008: My guess is an experienced gyn wouldnt care anyway as he is not there to work out whether you are 'intact' or not but doing a job that is confidential etc. He would never comment on it either way as he will be a professional. I guess you have a ... (read in full...)
How did you proposed or were proposed to?
Q. I kno there's a lot of married people on dear cupid. So I want to know how did your husband propose to u or guys did your wife ask u. Just curious...
A. 22 May 2008: Bit unromantic really, he first asked me in a night club by text when I went to the toilet!!! But as his divorce wasnt finalised (he left her before I met him) we didnt really act on it but knew we would get married eventually. When I fell pregnant ... (read in full...)
He's pretty possessive or controlling, I'm just wondering if I should worry about this?
Q. I'm almost 18 years old and my boyfriend is almost 19. My boyfriend and I started dating online about a year ago, and we finally met this month and it was great. He's an amazing person and we're very very much alike, and very very much in love. ...
A. 21 May 2008: You can live in a bubble and not talk to the opposite sex, thats unrealistic. Relationships should be based on trust, how can you trust each other if you are constantly worrying about all this stuff. What would happen if you HAD to talk to a guy ... (read in full...)
I had sex two weeks ago, and I've been experiencing pain in my lower stomach...what could it be?
Q. thank you for the answers you were a great help,now i have a small problem,i made love with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago and since then i experience pain on my lower stomach and when i urinate cupid might i be infected or what,also i noticed some ...
A. 21 May 2008: It is quite common to get an cystitis when having sex when you are younger (some women get it constantly) can be more likely if youre a bit too dry when you have sex or have really rough hard sex. Best thing to do though is to go and see your ... (read in full...)
I've been swinging for the past 2 years...should I take it further even though I'm married??
Q. hi i am nat i have been swinging for the last 2 years really in joy it looking to go a bit further in to orgys looking to have sex with 20 guys or more do u think this is a wise move as i am married??????...
A. 21 May 2008: I thought the whole point of swinging was to do it with your other half being present or involved or swapping partners etc etc and you dont do things your other half is uncomfortable with. To me an orgy with 20 guys is just that an orgy not swinging ... (read in full...)
How do I leave the past in the past?
Q. ok, i am new to this site. i am at logger heads with myself. me and my ex were together for 5 years, we met on the net, chatted a few weeks before i saw a pic and then i panicked cos he wasn't what i hoped for..by this time we were already get...
A. 21 May 2008: Sometimes we meet people at the wrong time and it doesnt work but it doesnt mean you cant have another chance. if you dont you may regret it all your life and stumble from one bad relationship to the next not really knowing what youre looking for. ... (read in full...)
Does having a child bring you closer to your partner?
Q. if you hav a child from your partner do you become closer....
A. 21 May 2008: It gives you a common bond and having a child in a loving committed relationship has many rewarding times where you will feel closer but it is also hard work, demanding on your time and can make you scream and shout at each other too and you will ... (read in full...)
He's still in love with his ex!
Q. Hi. just needing a little bit of advice. I've been getting close to this guy who is two years younger than me. We get on brilliantly and we've both told each other we like each other loads etc. we've had sex a few times. which i am fine with. ...
A. 21 May 2008: 2 months is quite soon but we often feel we are still in love with our ex's for along time especially when we didnt want to break up. This sometimes doesnt go away until we fall in love again with someone else. It might be you he falls in love ... (read in full...)
Slept with another girl but still in love with my ex. Any way I can get the ex to trust me and to love me again?
Q. I have a big problem. I broke up with my girlfriend whilst in switzerland in February this year while we were travelling together. We've been broken up for three months now, but still see eachother regularly and still love eachother... Until thi...
A. 21 May 2008: There is no way of knowing now if she really was going to say she loves you. Is she possibly only saying this when she realised you had been with someone else. Dont let her play you, you were broken up and you are only human. Give her a bit of ... (read in full...)
We've been dating three years yet his ex is still living in his house!
Q. I've been dating this man for almost 3 months now. His ex is still living in his house. He says she won't leave, she pays no rent, no bills, yet has a decent job. They have no kids together. He keeps saying she will be leaving soon, but the ...
A. 21 May 2008: This is not acceptable and you should either give him an ultimatum or run a mile Im afraid. I know two people who have been in this situation from your partners perspective.
One woman's husband had numerous affairs and told her the marriage was ... (read in full...)
Tell me everything I need to know (and already know) about married men who cheat?
Q. I'm married too...He's nearly 20 years older than me. We've been attracted to each other for months after we met professionally, but I didn't think it was anything more than flirting. I perceived him as someone who had set limits for himself and ...
A. 21 May 2008: To answer your question...
he will take what he wants from you
he will hurt you
he will lie to you
he will let you down
he probably will never leave his wife for you
he may have more than one affair at a time
he will probably be a sefish ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my first cousin; I need advice in order to forget him!
Q. hi.. i know this is so wrong.. but im attracted to my first cousin.. but it looks like he's not into me coz there are no signs.. he's very formal and strict looking.. but he's cool.. definitely confusing; I still like him though.. i cant consider my ...
A. 21 May 2008: I live in uk and there are laws about first cousins not being able to marry but I dont know what its like where you live but I guess from your post its not acceptable. So even if you fell in love it would just lead to heartbreak probably. I ... (read in full...)
It rips me apart inside that he told me one thing but does another. Now he insists that I tell him what upset me.
Q. I have been dating the most wonderful man since December. I can feel and see just how much he truly loves me. When we first started dating, he told me he had gotten rid of all his porn because he didnt want to hurt me by looking at other women. A ...
A. 21 May 2008: It is normal to look at porn but it is always difficult when one partner hates it and doesnt understand it. It can make some women feel worthless and as though they are not satisfying their partner in some way. This is not necessarily the case but ... (read in full...)
It rips me apart inside that he told me one thing but does another. Now he insists that I tell him what upset me.
Q. I have been dating the most wonderful man since December. I can feel and see just how much he truly loves me. When we first started dating, he told me he had gotten rid of all his porn because he didnt want to hurt me by looking at other women. A ...
A. 21 May 2008: It is normal to look at porn but it is always difficult when one partner hates it and doesnt understand it. It can make some women feel worthless and as though they are not satisfying their partner in some way. This is not necessarily the case but ... (read in full...)
Every time we pass a girl he has slept with he makes disturbing comments - should I take it as a sign of his own insecurities? Should I be worried?
Q. I am going to be a sophomore in college, and i am currently dating a guy who is going to be a senior. Although our relationship is pretty new, i can honestly see myself with him for a really long time, if not forever. Things are going great, but ...
A. 21 May 2008: He may be older than you and tries to make you feel immature but actually he is the immature one here. Girls tend to mature emotionally before guys and he is certainly proving that. He doesnt seem to have a lot respect for you, There is no need ... (read in full...)
I want to marry him but we don't have a plan! Should I move?
Q. I am getting married this fall but my fiancee lives in another city 5 hours away. It doesn't seem like he can find a job in the city I'm living in. I am planning to move to his city, but I don't want to stay there long term, especially if we have ...
A. 21 May 2008: It must feel like he is being really selfish right now and I understand why you are scared. You seem to be the kind of person who likes everything in order in your life and need to know exactly what will happen and when. He realises that its a big ... (read in full...)
She is amazing but her past puts me off...
Q. Im in a relationship with someone. I love her. She is amazing. She is, ultimately, what I have ever desired about in a woman. Except, I fear she is a slut... Slept with about 20 people, one a couple weeks before me... A couple months before that ...
A. 20 May 2008: If you are so unhappy move on. Shes turned out to be not the women you thought she was. Not through her own fault. Hey I can tell you I only slept with one man from 15 to 32, but 33 to 35 who the hell knows, I lost count and make of that what you ... (read in full...)
Any tips to induce childbirth so my beloved dying grandmother can see her first great grandchild? It would mean so much to me!
Q. I am pregnant with my first child. However my grandmother who is the most important person to me in my life is dying. There is nothing more in this world that I want than for my gran to see my child when it is born....but the way things are looking ...
A. 20 May 2008: Youre probably not even going to see this if your reply post is anything to go by but I can actually sympathise with you as my nan died 6 weeks before my daughter was born and my grandad died 10 weeks before my first son was born. (I only ever knew ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him before I was ready, any advice?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. It was all going great, until 4 days ago. It was the first time i'd slept at his house, but not the first time we'd slept in the same bed. We were messing around, and he asked if I wanted to do ...
A. 20 May 2008: You are not bonded to him for life you dont owe him anything, he owes you a lot more respect as he must have realised you werent ready. God if I stayed with my first I would now be married to an out of work bum, living in a one bedroomed flat, have ... (read in full...)
My son is on drugs...does love and patience really work or do I let him hit rock bottom???
Q. I am heartsick. My teen son has always been a gentle, quiet, bright yet strong and determined young man, with high marks and good goals, for his future. We had him in sports--soccer, snowboarding and golf. He always love electronics with a a ...
A. 20 May 2008: I cant advise you from experience or knowledge but I do want to say that as a mother of three my heart goes out to you. We bring them into this world and would die for them and do everything we can to make them happy but sometimes the paths they ... (read in full...)
Id like to date someone but the guys I meet only seem after one thing!
Q. hi,im 23yrs old i have been single for about four years and have been happy going out with my single mates but lately ive missed being with someone but i have found it very hard to meet genuine men the men i meet down town come up to me and talk to ...
A. 20 May 2008: If you are out on a night out with the girls then lads will try it on for a one night stand as some of them think thats what girls are for. There may be a lovely guy out one night who really wants to sweep you off your feet but how do you spot them ... (read in full...)
His high sex drive is making me feel under pressure!
Q. Hi, i'm very happy with my boyfriend but there is one thing that always causes problems between us- his sex drive is a lot higher than mine and i feel as though it is coming between us. my boyfriend of 2 years is lovely, hes thoughtful, cari...
A. 20 May 2008: My god youre dating my ex husband!!! Ok now to be serious. It is hard when its like this and the only way I could explain to him was that if he stopped pressuring me I might actually feel more like making the first move. Sometimes its nice to be ... (read in full...)
I'm panicking because I'm 3 days late!
Q. I am in an absolute panic. My period is 3 days late, I had protected sex (my partner wore a condom) but I keep going into a panic that it may have broken. I'm 21, and I have just started jogging for an hour a day (which I did not do before) could...
A. 20 May 2008: You are probably worrying more because you had sex if that makes sense. You have already stated that you are irregular and that can mean being late as well as early. Dont panic just yet. Give it at least another 7 or 8 days and if it it still ... (read in full...)
My 3 year old is masturbating, how should I to handle this? Is it normal?
Q. hi i'm a mom, i have a question if a girl 3 year old she is masturbation herself is normal? if it is what can i do for that, to me is not normal cos she just too baby please somebody help me?...
A. 20 May 2008: Yes its perfectly normal. Dont shout at her about it and draw huge attention to it. My daughter used to sit in front of our big bay window on the window seat and absentmindedly twiddle away. Try distraction to get her to stop and choose another ... (read in full...)
Husband is considering divorce because I snooped and acted paranoid about his co-worker!
Q. Few months married, and I feel that something strange is going on with my husbad. We have been fighting more frequently nowadays in our marriage. Few months ago, he msgd his female coworker nonwork related saying have a great day etc. I know that ...
A. 20 May 2008: If he had nothing to hide then in my opinion he would be laughing about this and doing his best to put your mind at ease and concentrating on your marriage together. Maybe at present nothing has happened but by insisting thats its ok to have a ... (read in full...)
The more he says NO, the more I want my HOT neighbour!
Q. Ok I have never ever done this before! I am always a good girl who hasnt slept with many people. I never sleep around and i always make sure I am proctected. I have this neighbour who i find very attractive! I life at home with my parents and i have ...
A. 20 May 2008: I think once you have him you will want him again and again and this will escalate. You are not too young in my eyes but are mature enough to want casual sex however I think this is a massive crush and its consuming you. Stop pestering the poor ... (read in full...)
Your EX stories: Did you tell your ex you have strong feelings for them yet and how did it work out?
Q. Hello agony aunts, I just wanted to know if anyone has told an ex they still have strong feelings for them and have it work out? Thank you all for your answers. :)...
A. 20 May 2008: Yes i did once. I had not long split up from a bloke who wasnt really suitable, I didnt even fancy him at first but he wheedled his way into my life til I gave in and I fell in love. 7 months later it ended and it really hurt. I went on a night ... (read in full...)
I am so annoyed at myself for letting this person who I never invited into my life invade my life so much!
Q. Ok - I like to think of myself as a pretty mature and intelligent person, I have a repetoire of good coping strategies and a reasonable understanding of human behaviour and the types of things that motivate people to behave in certain ways, and ...
A. 20 May 2008: If you allow this to consume you it could destroy your marriage as your behaviour will become more and more irrational and destructive. It is natural to want to know evry single detail about the relationship and the sex and also to want to know ... (read in full...)
How do I help my bf who is rapidly gaining weight?
Q. My wonderful boyfriend has gained a lot of weight over the course of a year or so (an extra 50 lbs). I find his family is quite worried about him and so am I. Now he gets hungry late at night but tonight he said he would resist eating a hamburg...
A. 20 May 2008: It is always difficult to approach this without hurting their feelings, put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel if he told you you were fat if you gained weight? The main problem with anything like this is that the person wont make any changes ... (read in full...)
Any tips on reaching orgams (excluding oral or manual)?
Q. okay so i am very aware that it is a lot harder for women to reach orgasim than men. now ive had a few orgasms during sex with my ex. my new bf and i have slept together twice now and its great but i just cant get to the point of orgasm. could ...
A. 20 May 2008: Its always a hard one to answer as we are all different, I cant stand my clitoris being rubbed with a finger during penetration for example and dont need this to orgasm. You could try lots and lots of foreplay that gets you almost there but stops ... (read in full...)
What do boys think of girls that get horney?
Q. do boys think it is good if girls get horney ? i am embarresed to ask that question. ...
A. 20 May 2008: In the right context guys like girls to get horny too and not feel as though they are always the one to initiate things. Some men do feel threatened and youngsters might be a bit frightened!! But on the whole women are sexy creatures with needs too ... (read in full...)
Thinking of giving him sexy pictures of myself to be remembered during the short while he is away, how to have them done professionally?
Q. Hi My BF is going abroad for about two weeks, and I want to give him something so he can remember me ... I was thinking about some "sexy" pictures for each day ... but dont know where to go to have them done (want to have it professionaly done,so ...
A. 20 May 2008: What about just one nice pic of your face and a letter for him to read or a sexy snap on your mobile and a text twice a week. You wont like my answer but I personally think you might freak him out if you cant let him go away for two weeks without ... (read in full...)
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