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I need a way to look older. It's ridiculous everyone who sees me thinks I'm between 12 and 14
Q. So in the past year or so i have been constintaly mistaken as a being between the ages of 12 and 14. I am now 18 and about to start college. I find this so frustrating because i am convinced that this is keeping guys from talking to me. I sometimes ...
A. 2 August 2008: I have to say having really long hair will make you appear younger but dont go from really really long to a bob. you will hate it. Have it cut to about just around where your bra is first. See how you like that and then go gradually shorter, ... (read in full...)
In reality, if my boyfriend is depressed, it doesn't really affect me. Why?
Q. How do you care about someone? My current boyfriend, along with all my other boyfriends in the past, have at one point or another complained that I do not care about them enough. I always thought that I did not care about my ex-boyfriends because I ...
A. 2 August 2008: Some people just dont suffer fools gladly. if we say oh you poor thing then they play up to it and appear more depressed. All you are trying to do is move on from the stage he is at and not give in to him x... (read in full...)
I'm 13. My mum says I can only go as far as holding hands - what do you think?
Q. So here it is. I'm thirteen. I have a boyfriend. My mom doesn't exactly approve. She's fine with me dating but she only wants me holding hands. For my age, what is acceptable in a relationship? ...
A. 2 August 2008: A bit of hand holding, giggling and a little kiss is more than enough at your age. She is just trying to protect you x ... (read in full...)
Super sensitive clitoris after orgasm - is this normal?
Q. Hello all! I'm not sure if this really is a problem, but all i'm trying to understand is: does a girl's clitoris remain too sensitive after an orgasm??? I've realised that every time after an orgasm when my bf rubs my clit again i feel a little pain ...
A. 2 August 2008: Totally normal, in fact my whole body is super sensitive straight afterwards x... (read in full...)
What can I get my friend for her bridal shower?
Q. My friend is getting married and she's having a bridal shower next week. I don't know what to get her. She's staying at her fiance's parents basement until their new house get buildt (6 months later). I don't want to get her any furniture/applicance ...
A. 2 August 2008: What about gift vouchers for a store where she can get practical things for when she gets married. Maybe ask around to see if other people will get from the same store?
Failing that get her something personal that will mean something about yo... (read in full...)
My wife is having an affair! She wants to work things out but stay friends with him?
Q. My wife of 12 years has recently started having an affair with a freind of hers who is 10 years her Jr. He met her while she was working she runs Karaoke. at first she denied anything was going on but after ac couple of weeks she admitted it. She ...
A. 2 August 2008: You are right in wanting her to end it. She will not be able to remain friends she WILL probably sleep with him again. Tell her to make her mind up x ... (read in full...)
Which method is best for removing hair on my upper lip?
Q. Hey, Im a girl and I have hair that grows above my top lip and its horrible. (I don't like referring to it as a "tash" because that just makes it sound worse, lol). I hate it so so much. It makes me feel ugly and manly. Im afraid to look at any l...
A. 2 August 2008: Do not wax it whatever you do. I think you could try bleaching it x... (read in full...)
The mother of his children is causing endless problems. What can I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He has four children, three live out of state and the last lives in a city 20 minutes from ours. The child that lives close to us is the youngest. I feel my boyfriend talks to his ...
A. 2 August 2008: Why shouldnt he make things easy for her, she is the mother of his son but he is the father why shouldnt he share the bloody responsibility???? You took on a man with children so you need to learn to share him with those kids, he should not and you ... (read in full...)
He keeps hinting he want's 3somes. How do I get him to shut up about it?
Q. Why does my bofriend keep bring up this topic? Early in our relationship, he asked me if I would ever do a threesome with another girl. I told him "no way! i'm not sharing you!" about a month later, he asked if i would ever consider having sex with ...
A. 2 August 2008: I am sorry but he does not see your relationship as serious if he has a list of girls ready to do the threesomes with you in his phone. Move on x ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive, but his cum doesn't stay in there! I also just had a odd discharge.
Q. ok this is very personal question so please dont make fun or say mean things. My boyfriend and i are trying to concive and i always get so wet and i try to lay there like how they say to help the sperm swim up.anyways his cum seem to like slip out ...
A. 2 August 2008: I have tested positive all three times before my period was even due. You need to get an early test kit though x... (read in full...)
I need a way to look older. It's ridiculous everyone who sees me thinks I'm between 12 and 14
Q. So in the past year or so i have been constintaly mistaken as a being between the ages of 12 and 14. I am now 18 and about to start college. I find this so frustrating because i am convinced that this is keeping guys from talking to me. I sometimes ...
A. 2 August 2008: Take advantage of it and eat for half price. Seriously you may complain now but wait until you are older and everyone is shocked when you reveal your true age!!
I turned 40 last week and in the local pub my hubbie went for a wee and a young lad ... (read in full...)
Has anyone actually had any proven success in gaining weight?
Q. Not a relationship question sorry, but a health one. I am 21 and am very skinny....however I eat like a horse yet still don't seem to put on any weight! I have zero definition on my arms and legs and it looks horrible. I am going the doctor anywa...
A. 2 August 2008: Yes I stopped smoking and went from a tiny 7 stone to 10 stone!!!!
My hubbie was a skinny teenager but now he is very muscly 37 year old so bide your time and wait or do what he did, lots of exercise to build muscle and lots of bike riding. Real... (read in full...)
My best friend told me I was obsessed with my brother dying, now he hasn't got the guts to apologise! Why?
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had cancer. I even missed a week of school because of it. When I told my best guy friend (also my brother's friend) he said I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slap...
A. 2 August 2008: Unless he has been through something like this he has no idea what you are going through and is probably a bit embarrassed. I am sorry you have had to go through this at such a young age.
A lot of people dont know how to cope with people who lose... (read in full...)
Does anyone have a good story or had any luck with 'Online Dating Agencies?
Q. So I finally broke down and decided to test out the online dating scene, and to say the least, I'm not impressed. I wasted an hour or so of my time filling out the eharmony survey... just for them to tell me I'm not an acceptable match. Great. Now ...
A. 2 August 2008: Ok maybe you are on the wrong sites. I dont know about USA but in UK there are some great sites. My sister met her hubbie to be on fish.comdating,match.com is also a good one. Try another site and dont give up x ... (read in full...)
How does chlamydia happen in a monogamous relationship?
Q. Hello, I have a very weird question. I have been with my man for a few years, in what I thought was a monogamous relationship. I got a checkup a while back, and they said I had chlamydia. They also said that chlamydia can only be spread through ...
A. 1 August 2008: Before you jump to conclusion ask your doctor. It sounds to me as though you havent been checked since you were with him, he could easiy have had it without knowing and is probably embarrassed. He needs to be treated too otherwise you will just be ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive, but his cum doesn't stay in there! I also just had a odd discharge.
Q. ok this is very personal question so please dont make fun or say mean things. My boyfriend and i are trying to concive and i always get so wet and i try to lay there like how they say to help the sperm swim up.anyways his cum seem to like slip out ...
A. 1 August 2008: Lie on your back with a pillow under your bum for at least half an hour. The bit that dribbles out is a mixture of yours and his fluids but it doesnt mean you cant get pregnant, its normal for it to come out as long as some has got past your cervix ... (read in full...)
How can I improce my dress sense so women will take notice?
Q. Hi, A few people have commented on my (currently) bland and scruffy dress sense (and it is!) so I need a clothing makeover. I know it will be different for all women, but what clothes and dress sense do women find "casually smart" on a man,...
A. 1 August 2008: I like casual looking clothes for men try this link for ideas http://www.next.co.uk/shopping/men/casual/34/
Go for casual jeans, cargo trousers and t shirts, a few shirts for night times or dates, casual trainer type shoes in different colo... (read in full...)
He won't get tested with me! Is he hiding something?
Q. Hi. We've been together with my boyfriend for a year now. Problem is, i've asked him to get tested with me but he says that he's not yet ready!!! Could'nt believe it either... Actually it shocked me. My mom knows that i wanted to go and test with ...
A. 1 August 2008: I assume you mean HIV testing? Maybe he is just scared and would rather not know, it doesnt mean he has something to hide x... (read in full...)
I'm 35 wks pregnant and I feel my husband has abandoned me and our unborn son!
Q. I am not allowed around my husbands daughter. My husband and I have been together for 3 years and we have been married for 2 months. The problem is that his ex GF will not allow me to be around there daughter. She says its because of some things ...
A. 1 August 2008: Your husband is stuck in the middle a bit here. He cant be expected to drop his daughter because there is a new child on the way but I also understand how you are feeling given the problems you have had in the past.
I too suggest he takes lega... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my partner's daughter?
Q. I find it difficult to get on with my partner's daughter - her mom died when she was little and although she's twenty and quite manilupative, she has him wrapped around her little finger. She is at college but refuses to work to help support ...
A. 30 July 2008: As mums we do tend to raise our daughters to be very independent. This girl has been raised by her dad and it does seem to be true 'Daddy's girl/Mummy's boy' and she has never had the balance of both parents. He has probably indulged her due to the ... (read in full...)
Irregular period question...
Q. Is it normal for there to not really be any pattern to the times when u get your period? Because I really can't find anything that's close to a pattern and I don't want anything to be wrong with me. I've never done ANYTHING that would cause my ...
A. 30 July 2008: My daughter started at 10 and at 16 is still irregular so its nothing to worry about x ... (read in full...)
Do men find strectch marks a turn off in women?
Q. Hi, This is one for the guys: Do you find stretch marks a turn off on a woman?...
A. 30 July 2008: I kmow im not a guy but I too have worried about this. When I left my first hubbie he told me no man would want me with stretch marks, he was completely wrong. No bloke I was with was ever turned off by them. My new hubbie went through a phase of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't live with me even though we've been together for ages!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and in a few months we are both moving to the same city for work (we lived in the same city for 3 years, pretty much next door to one another then have been long distance this last year). Our relat...
A. 30 July 2008: You have to decide how long you are prepared to wait for him to be ready. I dont think he will change in the near future. If you can live like this and he is worth it then accept it for now but have the discussion again in 6 months time and if its ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with knowing I can't see my mother till Christmas (my parents are divorced)?
Q. I'm 13 going to be 14 soon, but when I was 3 my parents got a divorce, and now my mom lives 6 hrs away and I only see during holidays and this summer I stayed with her for 3 weeks and i returned a few days ago. but as soon as I said good bye I just ...
A. 30 July 2008: Can you email her or talk to her online with a webcam?? Its hard when you miss your mum so do things that will mean something to her when you see her. Write a letter every week to her, start a scrapbook with photos and snippets from your life and ... (read in full...)
My newly religious exhusband told our daughters that I and my new boyfriend are going to hell! How do I unring this bell?
Q. I was married to a man for about 6 years and we have two daughters together (one 8, one 6). We got divorced a couple of years ago (we weren't getting along, and the divorce was pretty messy). Now, I take care of the kids most of the time, but he has ...
A. 30 July 2008: Maybe explain to the kids that religion is all about beliefs and their daddy has his and you have yours. Just because he believes in something doesnt mean it is true. You should maybe ask him to stop filling their head with such nonsense too as it ... (read in full...)
We are both young, but we want to get married, please give us your opinion on our situation?
Q. i'm 21 years old and my fiance is 20 although alot of ppl think we are still to yong to get married we've thought about it and talked about it and have come to the conclution that we just can live without eachother and we want to get married. we ...
A. 30 July 2008: I was married at 22 so to me you are not too young. My marriage didnt last but who's to say yours wont, I certainly didnt think it would end in divorce when we did marry or else I wouldnt have done it. My mum was 19 when she married my did and they ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue, my boyfriend needs to think!
Q. I'm in a new relationship (2 months) with a guy and like a fool, I fell in love with him. The funny thing is that my boyfriend fell just as quick. We were happy and enjoyed each others company. We're still getting to know each other and spend 1-2 ...
A. 30 July 2008: Maybe the intensity of his feelings has frightened him a bit. Just give him space to work out what he wants, there is nothing else you can do really. If you push him you could push him further away.
My sister met a bloke and had the same thing, they... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for giving him an ultimatum to not be in his child's life?
Q. Am I wrong for asking him to not be in the child's life cause honestly I dont think I can handle it if he is, because that means he will have to be in this OW's life as well for the child's sake. He has no business with them. I dont think I'm wrong ...
A. 30 July 2008: The child has done nothing wrong so why should he/she suffer and not have a daddy just because your husband couldnt control his urges.
Yes you have been hurt and you need to work on that with your husband but to ask him to deny his child is so wron... (read in full...)
I can't break it off with this MM myself should I call his wife instead to break the tie?
Q. I have been seeing a married coworker since March of 2008. We've been together just about every day since. He is so unhappy at home but he won't leave his wife. He is 52 and I'm 26. I'm considering calling his wife so that all ties will be broken ...
A. 30 July 2008: Dont call his wife, why make her suffer too. Just stop seeing him, tell him it has to end and be strong about it x... (read in full...)
Knowing she has had one night stands makes me wonder if the rumours about her cheating on me are true...
Q. i have been going out with my g/f for 7 months now. I love her to bits and am thinking of proposing to her. We communicate really well and one day she told me how many one night stands shes had and how many partners she's had. I even know some of ...
A. 29 July 2008: I had one sexual partner before my first hubbie, we were then together 17 years and I cheated on him when I couldnt take the physical abuse anymore.
I then had my first one night stand after leaving hubbie at the age of 32 and went on to have sev... (read in full...)
We are more like friends than a couple now. Is it time to move on?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and in the past 6 months our sex life has gone completly, even kisses and cuddles have gone. I have tried more or less everything. We are more like friends now as we have nothing in common like we use ...
A. 29 July 2008: Try to get back what you had first. Talk to him and see how he feels about your relationship. Dont give up so easily it takes a lot of hardwork and committment to make any relationship work x... (read in full...)
My vibrator is making me feel uncomfortable when I get close to orgasm.
Q. I have not been masturbating for very long. (about two weeks and it is with a rabbit style vibrator) I come very close but I find the vibrating is too intense so I have to stop! I have not had an orgasm before. I would like to but when I get very ...
A. 29 July 2008: Turn the rabbit round and put the tickly ears facing your bottom not your clitoris you should still get an orgasm as if one vibrator can get the g spot its the rabbit!!
I cannot stand direct clitoral stimulation as i am sooooo sensitive down ther... (read in full...)
21 and still a virgin. What can I expect for my first time?
Q. Hello, I'm a 21 year old female. I have recently gotten together with my first boyfriend, who is 23. We spent the night together last saturday but decided to stop and not to have sex just yet. I am a virgin, he is not. But i haven't told hi...
A. 29 July 2008: Well it will probably feel a bit strange a little bit uncomfortable and you may even think 'Is that it, whats all the fuss about!'
Or it may be absolutely wonderful especially as he is a little more experienced and not a young 16 year old who will... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my wonderful fiance, but I don't want this amazing, loving affair to end.
Q. In Love with two people! I'm 35. Fiancé 32, Lover 21! I can't believe I have let myself get into this situation, I have a really nice Fiancé, 2 kids aged 2 and 5 we don’t argue, we still have Sex a few times a week. My problem is this a year a...
A. 29 July 2008: Why did you feel it was acceptable to exchange phone numbers with this girl in the first place????!!!!
And as for having one child each, dont be silly you cant split them up for goodness sake.
You have made your bed and must lie in it. You HAVE... (read in full...)
The word 'cousin' is keeping him apart from me, I've never felt love like this before!
Q. I have fallen totally in love with my 1st cousin and he feels the same but he feels he cant move forward with me because of the word cousin,we have always had a special bond between us and have only just recently meet up at a relatives funeral after ...
A. 29 July 2008: It can be frowned upon by society but happens more often than we know about. Just dont tell people you are cousins to avoid the reaction you will probably get.
There is a higher risk of having children with birth defects but I get the impr... (read in full...)
I have brown discharge before my period. Is this normal?
Q. is brown discharge normal? i seem to get this usaully before my period is it normal??...
A. 29 July 2008: I get it before and after x... (read in full...)
Should I hold back, and only say "I love you" as much as he does?
Q. Been with my boyfriend 3 months and he recently told me he loves me which was amazing as I felt the same way so I told him back! Now since then he doesn't say it very often, and I've found myself telling him that I love him more than he has told...
A. 29 July 2008: Ask him outright!! Tell him you want to say it all the time but not sure if it makes him uncomfortable as you have noticed he doesnt say it that much. If was telling you every day and then stopped suddenly then maybe something has changed either ... (read in full...)
I get a lot of sleep, but I'm always tired, how do I get my mom to take me to the doctor?
Q. this isn't about love or sex or any relationships.. But I still need some help.. I sleep A LOT and I'm not sure whats wrong with me, my mom wont let me go to the doctor or anything to get checked because she just thinks it's the way I sleep...
A. 29 July 2008: Ten hours sleep is not a lot really. A lot of younger children need around 12 hours a night (but rarely get it!!)as we get older we need less but for a teenager 10 seems about average to me. However if you feel unwell tell your mum you would like to ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are ready for sex?
Q. how do you know if your ready for sex???...
A. 29 July 2008: When you turn 18 in USA or 16 in UK then start asking that question x... (read in full...)
I feel like my life is going nowhere.
Q. im 25 years old and i feel like my life is going nowhere. Ever since I was 18 I have been trying to become a model and have been turned down every time. Unfortunately I am very short and this is my downfall. I am also a singer and have taken part in ...
A. 29 July 2008: Ok so if your short you are probably not going to be a catwalk model but there are lots of other modelling opportunities out there. Contact some different agencies that specialise in other areas. As for singing, if you are that good set up a band or ... (read in full...)
My sister ruins everything for me!
Q. my sister really winds me up, she ruins everything for me and when i say everything i mean EVERYTHING shes such a tart! shes 13, yes only 13! and shes going out with a 17 year old who shes been with for 3 months and is already having sex with him, ...
A. 29 July 2008: God arent sisters annoying!!
First of all do you feel better for getting it off your chest?
I was the baby sister and my older sister HATED me so much, I could do nothing wrong and she was always in trouble. Mums expect more from their older ki... (read in full...)
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