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Thinking of giving him sexy pictures of myself to be remembered during the short while he is away, how to have them done professionally?
Q. Hi My BF is going abroad for about two weeks, and I want to give him something so he can remember me ... I was thinking about some "sexy" pictures for each day ... but dont know where to go to have them done (want to have it professionaly done,so ...
A. 20 May 2008: What about just one nice pic of your face and a letter for him to read or a sexy snap on your mobile and a text twice a week. You wont like my answer but I personally think you might freak him out if you cant let him go away for two weeks without ... (read in full...)
I had sex a couple of days ago and I'm still bleeding, why??
Q. i'm 15 years old and i just had sex a couple days ago. i'm still bleeding from this. i can't figure out if it is because he scratched me or if it i "you know what"!! please help me!!...
A. 19 May 2008: Any disruption can sometimes lead to spotting especially if you are near your period, if I have sex near mine I spot and end up having my period early. If it is your first time it is normal to spot a little (i think i actually bled quite a lot ... (read in full...)
In it for the kids, how do I choose a life of my choice instead of a life for others??
Q. THIS IS WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE... QUOTES I FOUND ON LINE.. HOW DO I CHOICE A LIFE OF MY CHOICE INSTEAD OF A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN? I can choose to stay married until the pain of staying married becomes greater than the pain of...
A. 19 May 2008: It takes a lot of courage to leave an unhappy marriage and what finally made me do it after 10 years of marriage (6 of them unhappily)was the phrase 'You are responsible for your own happiness' by this I mean you cannot expect other people to make ... (read in full...)
I'm having fantasy of a threesome. Am I normal?
Q. Ok I'm bi I don't tell many people this because I'm afraid of what they will say but thats not the point of this message. Today in 5th period I had both people I like together in one class . Boy and a girl. I don't why but I started having thi...
A. 19 May 2008: You've hit the nail on the head. Your hormones are raging away in your body and sexual urges/fantasies are a perfectly normal and healthy part of this. Hey Im nearly 40 and I still have fantasies about men and women, but thats our secret!! ... (read in full...)
I sweat really bad, anyone knows how to stop it???
Q. this may seem a little funny but its a porblem that i dont konw how to solve. i sweat really bad. i use deoderant all the time and if its too hot ill look at my armpits and there will be massive sweat patches. even in school, i know that i ...
A. 19 May 2008: Pop and see your doctor and discuss it with them as they may be able to treat it with tablets. Could you possibly take a spare shirt to school with you to change if necessary at least you wont feel as bad during the second part of the day. I ... (read in full...)
If you haven't had sex for several years, will it hurt over again like the first time?
Q. Hello,i am a 30 year old woman and i have a question and hopefully u can answer it for me I havent had sex in about 3 years i would like to know if it would hurt all over again ...
A. 19 May 2008: Just make sure you are relaxed and well warmed up!! It can be scary when you have a gap but it all comes back to you and you forget you even had a break in your sex life x Good luck... (read in full...)
The girl I've fallen for has lots of male friends.
Q. This girl who ive been seeing who ive really fallen for likes to have lots of close male friends. Why does this make me so uncomfortable? Is there anything i can do to make it better?...
A. 19 May 2008: It seems to be the way of the world today and I love the fact my 16 year old daughter and 14 year old boy have lots of opposite sex friends that they hang out with. They all get on so well and there is none of the teasing I had as a teenager if you ... (read in full...)
My wife since 4 years told me she is not happy with this anymore, what can I do to win her love and heart again?
Q. I am a young man married to a pretty lady who is my life and my one and only queen. She is more romantic than i am. For some time now we have been having a lot of problems in our relationship and i want to make her happy for the rest of our lives to...
A. 19 May 2008: I agree you may need to look at your overall relationship and find out what she is unhappy about. A romantic gesture would be a nice distraction but may not make the problem go away. The most romantic thing you can do for her is to tell her that ... (read in full...)
Gag reflex. How can I stop it?
Q. Hey. My boyfriend and I have a really healthy and liberal sex life where we try lots of different things. He really loves it when I go down on him and deep throat him, I enjoy it too but after 4 or 5 thrusts my gag reflex kicks in and I have to ...
A. 19 May 2008: Not to my knowledge but others may say differently. Im nearly 40 and still gag, Ive even been known to throw up (not on him though!!). What I have to do is alternate deep with shallow and stop the deep action the second I feel the gag reflex ... (read in full...)
What is spooning??
Q. What is spooning, and why do people seem to make such a big deal out of it?...
A. 19 May 2008: I love spooning. Just think of two spoons nestled in a drawer, its not usually referred to as a sexual position but you could do it that way. Me and hubbie spoon every night and used to sleep that way all night long when we first met. 5 years on I ... (read in full...)
I don't feel my sex life is as good as others, my orgasms don't seem as good as other girls'
Q. I have felt unhappy about my sex life for a long time. I was in a long term relationship from 16-21, sexually active from the beginning but never actually experienced an orgasm or sexual pleasure until I was 20, with my boyfriend. Neither of us w...
A. 18 May 2008: All your ex boyfriends must have dated the same girl or maybe they're making it up. A lot women find their clitoris too sensitive to want anyone near it for a while. However there are different types of orgasm. If I have a vaginal orgasm through ... (read in full...)
Lost my virginity, freaking out a bit!
Q. Help! i lost my virginity to a guy i had been going out with for a month. a week after we had an arguement because he never bothered using any protection and ending up splitting up. last week i saw him, and ending up kissing him and te...
A. 18 May 2008: If you really want to give it a go then tell him has to have respect for you and that includes using protection. It is your responsibility too and shouldnt have let him the first time without a condom. Most young lads and some grown men too I ... (read in full...)
I've lied to everyone. What do I do?
Q. I am dating a boy and none of my friends know. One of my friends think I am dating him so, she told everyone at lunch. I told everyone she was lying. I lied to so many people. What do I do?...
A. 18 May 2008: Apologise to everyone for the lying but explain that you didnt want your love life discussed in this way and wanted to keep this relationship private for now. You lied because you were backed into a corner and didnt know how to handle it. Put it ... (read in full...)
I've been told the guy I'm seeing is a playa. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. hey everyone! I'm a 17 year old girl from the UK. Lately I've been hanging out at a friend's flat most nights as there is always good company, and I've developed a crush on a guy I met quite recently who is often there. About a week ago we kissed ...
A. 18 May 2008: Sometimes friends are wrong or have ulterior motives, maybe he's knocked her back or she just doesnt like him. Its hard to know the truth and if you already have trust issues you could end up hurt. But if you really like him just take it one day at ... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregnant, even though he was only in there 30 seconds?
Q. last weekend my boyfriend put his penis in me and then i got off him (as i was on top) as soon as he got in maybe 30 seconds after. could i be pregnant?...
A. 18 May 2008: You are very young to be having sex but I wont lecture you as you need advice about what has already happened. Hopefully you will be lucky and not be pregnant but you really shouldnt take risks like this. I know its easy to carried away in the heat ... (read in full...)
The man I met online made me feel like a princess. Now he wants to take things a bit slower. Should I be worried?
Q. I was married for 16 years to a man who in general treated me well but ultimately chose to cheat on me throughout the marriage. We are divorced now. I went on a dating site and met a man who was very intersted in me. Everything happened very fast ...
A. 18 May 2008: Its hard to read men (or women) when they want to suddenly slow it down and its natural for you to feel as though he is regretting it. It could just be that he is overwhelmed with the feelings that he has for you so quickly and wants to avoid ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to kiss me any more. Have I done something?
Q. Hey yeh i have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months now and yes hes yonger then me im in year 9 and hes in year 7 and lately hes been sad/depressed so i asked him whats wrong he said he doesnt want to kiss me at school no more...
A. 18 May 2008: Its always hard to have a relationship at school and he is still quite immature in these matters due to his age so will probably be feeling a bit shy about kissing in public. My lad is year 9 and constanltly asks girls out they mostly say yes (he's ... (read in full...)
We've been together for more than 10 years but I'm determined not to forgive his infidelity, what do you think?
Q. I found out my husband had an affair a year and a half ago. The only reason it's over now is because the other woman ended it. The whole thing lasted about a month. He was angry that she hurt him, not sure if he tried to win her back or anyt...
A. 18 May 2008: Only you can make this decision and if you cannot forgive him then there is probably no future for you. BUT stop and ask yourself a few questions first.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
If yes could you forgive him in time? (y... (read in full...)
Do most teenage girls shave the bikini line? I get bumps and irritation.
Q. do most teenage girls shave or wax down there? i try to shave around my bikini line but get red bumps and intense irritation. what do i do?...
A. 18 May 2008: Waxing brings me out in lumps and blisters, and it hurts!! Creams are sometimes a bit smelly but they do work just fine on your bikini line, just dont get any on your 'lips' by accident cos it burns burns burns!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
My husband left and wants a divorce. Now he won't even talk to me
Q. My husband of 15 years walked out at Xmas leaving me and the children. He had been having an affair but said it had nothing to do with her he just didn't want to be with me anymore. I was very hurt and angry. He still pays all the bills and the ...
A. 18 May 2008: If one person in a marriage wont communicate then there is not a lot you can do Im afraid. You need to accept that he probably wont be coming back even if that hurts you but its vital for you to be able to move on. This wont happen overnight of ... (read in full...)
Is the way my ex is acting mean he might still have fellings for me?
Q. Am really confused with the way my ex is acting,i still have feelings for him and have always got the feeling he feels the same way, even more so recently. Could do with some advice-please please help! We split up about year and half ago and hav...
A. 18 May 2008: You have to meet up with him and ask him want he wants. Yes it is possible he wants you back but you wont know until you ask. x... (read in full...)
My mum paid for his flight to join us in Spain but I think he is backing out now!
Q. heres an update on my problem this guy iv known for two years, latly we have got really close, but then he told me he liked someone else, yet he's only know her for a week and thinks there going to become a couple! when were were close (abo...
A. 18 May 2008: If the ticket is non refundable then it doesnt really make a difference if he comes or not if your mum was going to pay. Or do you mean he was going to pay her back???? It doesnt sound to me like he should be allowed to come with you anyway but I ... (read in full...)
I love my baby's father, but he has destroyed me emotionally, tell me what you think?
Q. I am 22 year old, who had or have a relationship with a 42 year old man, and a 5 months baby boy. Since we started he has been lying and cheating on me, but i always forgive him, i feel that i can't take anymore, i am so depressed i feel i should ...
A. 18 May 2008: There is nothing you can do to help him be a better man. He will not change unless he wants to change and I dont think he does. He can come round to see you whenever he likes for sex so is just using you I think. He has no respect for you and ... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to admit my sexuality
Q. Hi cupid,i think im gay but im too scared to admit it to anyone. I go on gay chat but i woulnd't ever tell anyone? I'm only 14 and like girls and boys but boys more what should I do? Also I had sex with a boy!And now afraid he might tell someo...
A. 18 May 2008: 14 is very young to be having sex whatever your sexuality so just be careful as its not only illegal but also there is a risk of diseases. Aside from that though you may actually find your close family have already guessed but if not its hard to ... (read in full...)
Good memories of one night stands?
Q. There are topics on regretting, or feeling hurt after a one night stand. This topic is about the opposite. They say having a one night stand changes you, or it stays with you. So does it stay with you in a good way? I was wondering if any of ...
A. 18 May 2008: As i was with my first hubbie from 15 to 32 I missed out on all that in my teens. However newly divorced and single I had my first one night stand at 33 and it was AWFUL!! I felt used and ashamed and didnt even really fancy the guy that much. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a vibrator at 16?
Q. I'm sixteen and I'm a virgin. I plan to stay a virgin for a long time. I'm writing this because I have simple question to ask. My mother doesn't want me to talk to boys and I've told her that I wouldn't Now the dating/sex age for my family is ...
A. 17 May 2008: Its fine and masturbation is healthy in my opinion. By knowing your own body your more likely to enjoy sex when you get round to it as you know which buttons to press. Get the idea out of your head that you will have sex as it runs in your family ... (read in full...)
We have dated on and off over two years, help me - I am scared of him
Q. Every time I go round to my Boyfriends he always tries to have sex with me - we broke up because he found someone else but we are now back together again and the first time we met he demanded sex again. I also think hes cheating on me as he has a ...
A. 17 May 2008: Walk away and find a nice decent boy who will treat you with respect. As long as you take this crap he will keep dishing it out to you and will never change. x... (read in full...)
An advice please onow to cope from people who had casual encounters they later regretted?
Q. OK I feel as though I need to explain myself or apologise before I even start as I dont want people to misjudge me. My bf and I are both models and even though our world is full of superficial people, I pride the fact that neither of us are like ...
A. 17 May 2008: Im not going to preach - its your sex life and if bf is happy for you to have a gf as well thats your business and not the question you are asking about. Its a shame you allowed yourself to pressured into this but you did and you cant turn the ... (read in full...)
How can I help my 11 yr old get over not having her friend in her life anymore?
Q. I'm feeling so guilty today. Last night my ex and i had a row and he grabbed me and lifted me off the ground. In front of my 13 yr old son. We have NEVER been physical before with each other. I lost my rag and keep swinging for him, and eventually ...
A. 17 May 2008: Is there no way you can arrange for them to meet up still? As hard as it might be for you both it could work if you dont actually spend a lot of time together but just drtop the girls off at each others houses or take it in turns to have a day out ... (read in full...)
He's leaving for a year! Should I just end it now so as not to prolong the pain?
Q. dear cupid, i have been in a long term relationship since i was 19 years old.i had jus finished school and he was finishing up a course at college and we met working in a summer job.i then started an intensive college degree which i am finishin...
A. 17 May 2008: It could be that he is so confident of your relationship he believes it will stand this test. Dont end it just because he is leaving, you may find when he returns he has a clearer path mapped out in his head and he will grow as a person. He is ... (read in full...)
People don't find me sexy any more but I'm still same person
Q. i m a very good looking female.once there was a time guyz used to think i am very sexy.my voice, my dressing sense n the way i used to carry myself all depicted a lot of sexappeal.the only thing is that i m very chidish too.but now for last some ...
A. 17 May 2008: When we are younger we can get away with being girly and acting sweet and innocent and it can be appealing to guys. However as we age the men we fancy and who fancy us age too and are looking for someone a little bit more mature and sure of ... (read in full...)
I want to look sexy and appealing for the opposite sex, any ideas?
Q. how can i make myself look so sexy and appiling to the oppsite sex? im a girl that just wants a boyfriend but i have no idea whatsoever as to make me look appealing, can anyone on this website help me?...
A. 17 May 2008: Be yourself dont try and dress too young. Wear clothes that make you feel sexy but demure, less is more! Its also about personality and having confidence in yourself. Treat yourself to a new hairdo and a facial if that makes you feel better. Dont ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past bothers me!
Q. I have a problem with my GF's past! I am 24 years old and have slept with about 10 people, she is 20 and has slept with 12 people before me! Should this be bothering me so much, is that alot? She told me that everyone she has slept with wasnt...
A. 17 May 2008: It doesnt matter what she has done in her past. We all have one at some point and you cant change it or undo it. All that matters is your relationship and what you do together, its natural to be jealous of someones past but 12 is just a number and ... (read in full...)
My husband was texting another woman!
Q. My husband and I have been having some relationship issues for the last six months and at one point it got so bad that we were contemplating seperating. Just two weeks ago I found a text on his phone saying Hi Sexy Lady however he had this phone ...
A. 17 May 2008: It will flatter his ego to have this woman texting him etc. Lets hope you caught him before it went too far. Hiding it under a mans name is proof he has been at least emotionally betraying you. I think you need to decide what you want to happen ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know a good conversation starter?
Q. ok theres this guy who i see once a week at work im really into i think hes noticed me in that way but im not sure dose anyone know a good conversation starter that isnt rude or to nosey but lets him know i like him lol feel fee to help me out i ...
A. 17 May 2008: Could you ask him somthing work related or ask his advice?? If not ask him about a film youve seen recently, if he repsonds well and talks about films then suggest going to a movie together. Youu could even ask him if he has plans for the weekend ... (read in full...)
He said he likes me, and I like him, what should I do?
Q. i meet this guy he said he like me i have feelings for him what should i do...
A. 17 May 2008: Ask him out!! If he says no then dont worry about it life is for living and if you dont try you will never know. Good luck... (read in full...)
My parents are strict and over protective, how can I see my boyfriend more often?
Q. Hey everyone im 15, i am dating this boy and he is a year younger than me(14) and well he wants to see me atleast 2 or 3 times a week because he lives like 15 mins away by car but the thing is my parents are very over protected and they don't le...
A. 17 May 2008: Dont lie as it will make them more over protective as you will have compleely lost their respect and trust. Would they allow him to come to your house once or twice a week and you to go to his. Get your parents to meet his or phone them this might ... (read in full...)
I am still talking and sexually involved with my ex boyfriend
Q. Ok so this is my delima I am an single 20 yr old and I am still talking and sexually involved with my ex boyfriend does that make me a whore if im only sexually involved with him. I mean the head he gives is bomb and asks nothing in return. Ladies ...
A. 17 May 2008: If you are happy with the arrangement then thats fine but can you keep your emotions out of it?? If one of you gets involved with someone else will it hurt the other one when this stops? No your not a whore - we all have needs, but just dont get ... (read in full...)
My ex says he has feelings for me but does not want a relationship?
Q. My ex says he has feelings for me but does not want a relationship at the moment...he gets jelous if i even talk to one of his friends. we had sex one time,and afterwards hes been cold and distant when we hang out,and we havent even made out or a...
A. 17 May 2008: Move on he is just playing with your emotions and its not fair to leave you in limbo like this. YOu can try and ask him once more for another shot but it is has to be a full relationship not just his terms. Good luck x... (read in full...)
She says there's no chance of her turning back but always gives me a glimpse of hope?
Q. ok so now that we have been separated for 3-4 weeks we are talking more now i try not to call her when we do talk she is in a happy mood laughes jokes around and we often talk about sex. we have had amazing sex the last 2 weeks total of 4 times ...
A. 17 May 2008: I agree it seems as though she's doesnt want all of you but doesnt quite want to let you go yet.Or maybe she's just playing hard to get. Put your cards on the table and tell her your are not interested in being a friend with benefits but thats its ... (read in full...)
7 months after the break-up I still want him back!
Q. I was in a 5 month relationship last year which was going really well. We talked loads about our future together. My boyfriend looked at possible building sites to build a house for us in the future! But then he changed jobs and went back to ...
A. 17 May 2008: As hard as it is give him this space to finish his degree and then contact him again afterwards to tell him how you feel. It does take a long time to get over someone and often it doesnt happen until you start dating again. Find some new interests ... (read in full...)
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