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What's wrong with me? I want to argue with him!
Q. I'm in a great relationship, my partner couldn't be better for me, he treats me great he's not over protective...I could go on forever about how fabulous he is. Now a little back ground, my last relationship was very abusive mentally, physical...
A. 3 June 2008: Good luck with the counselling x... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the way my girlfriend's vagina looks may have something to do with her past!
Q. I have a rather strange question to ask here... I am curious about vagina... I have been with a variety of different women (sexually), and up until recently I have always encountered generally the same type(ish) vagina... Usually tighter, snug, not ...
A. 3 June 2008: Yes I know its a legitimate questin its just gets my goat every time we see it on here so you are not the only one who feels this way!! No I dont think too much sex especially given her age would cause this. The outside bit is just cosmetic but the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the way my girlfriend's vagina looks may have something to do with her past!
Q. I have a rather strange question to ask here... I am curious about vagina... I have been with a variety of different women (sexually), and up until recently I have always encountered generally the same type(ish) vagina... Usually tighter, snug, not ...
A. 2 June 2008: I get really annoyed by this questions, all women look different and having saggy lips does not mean she has slept around!!!!!! Ive seen plenty of porn stars on film who look tight but have probably slept with hundreds of men. Just like mens ... (read in full...)
Joint family vacation turns into disaster! We have a total of 11 children between us, and I'd still like to work it out, but my pride is stopping me!
Q. I am confused and don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I met a man three months ago whom I thought was my soulmate. Everything went so fast and we were in love after just a few weeks. We spent hours on the phone together and the more I learned ...
A. 2 June 2008: You have both been on your own with children and you will naturally have your own way of dealing with things that dont always make sense to the other.
It must be very very hard for both of you to suddenly accept a large ready made family into you... (read in full...)
Snooped again, and found flirty messages yet again! Is he cheating?
Q. Several months ago I snooped in my boyfriend's cellphone and found text messages to some girl about wanting to kiss her as well as flirty responses from her. I confronted him and he said it was a joke and got mad at me for snooping. Just recently ...
A. 2 June 2008: Whether he is cheating physically or just emotionally he should not be talking to any other female in this way, it is totally unacceptable if you are in a relationship together.
I say confront him and maybe its time you considered if this guy is r... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I want to argue with him!
Q. I'm in a great relationship, my partner couldn't be better for me, he treats me great he's not over protective...I could go on forever about how fabulous he is. Now a little back ground, my last relationship was very abusive mentally, physical...
A. 2 June 2008: Being scared your partner will die is a normal part of really loving someone and it just means you are afraid to lose them, its like youve finally found the love of your life and are frightened it wont last forever.
As for wanting to scream a... (read in full...)
She manipulated and backstabbed me!!
Q. My ex best friend is about to have a baby. I'm also going to have one. Our friendship came to a drastic conclusion after several fights. But I still have these ridiculous dreams where she makes me feel guilty. I know I did some things to upset her, ...
A. 1 June 2008: Yes it would. you dont need her in your life so concentrate on your own life and your baby or you will soon be back to how it used to be, she wont change x... (read in full...)
I kissed a collegue, but he has a gf. will he leave her for me?
Q. im in a bit of a mess and would love some advice, i went to a work party on friday night and a guy i work with who ive always liked but had a feeling he didnt like me (name calling teasing ect) went aswell we started flirting with each other and i...
A. 1 June 2008: Ok he says he doesnt love her then he needs to finish with her first and then you can maybe pick up from there. However if he was prepared to just jump in to bed immediately with you without any soul searching then would you ever be able to really ... (read in full...)
I think my BF is gay!
Q. Help! I've been dating a guy for a year now, and the entire time, our sex life has been awful. He rarely touches me, doesn't initiate sex but once in a great while, and after multiple, repeated attempts to spice things up, it has fizzled. I have ...
A. 1 June 2008: He is certainly confused and I would maybe suggest he has counselling alone first to try and find out what is going on his head. It does sound as though he just doesnt know what he is but as you say wants the family unit he has got with you so wont ... (read in full...)
I'm 20, she's 15. Can we date?
Q. Hi I've been hanging out with a girl I met online and we both like each other lots. We both like each other lots and hae said its likely that we may end up dating in the future. The one that worries/bothers me is the age difference and law...
A. 1 June 2008: No one else has said it but Im sorry I have to ask why you would want to date such a young girl. Can you not find someone nearer your own age!! Ok if you absolutely want this girl and no other then I think you should wait a year until she is 16 ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can say or should I just walk away?
Q. Is there anything I can say or should I just walk away? For a year and a half now I have been with a guy who keeps pushing me away. At first, we wouls see eachother for a few months and then he would push away because he was afraid of getting close ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think its time you moved on. If he wont accept your son now he never will and it will cause resentment in the future between you. This is probably not what you want to hear but if he has messed you about this much already then he is not about to ... (read in full...)
Should I try and steal this girl from her long distance boyfriend?
Q. I am studying abroad right now and realized I like a girl here. The thing is this girl has a boyfriend. She has been dating him for about 7 months or so, but he moved to another part of the country about 4 months ago. She talks to him a lot, and I ...
A. 1 June 2008: Just let her see the real you. Spend time with her and be there for her and who knows she may grow to really like you. Dont try and deliberatley break her up from the other guy but you may find her relationship with him wanes a bit when she is away ... (read in full...)
Two Ridiculous Boys
Q. My problem requires some backstory, so here we go: About a year ago, I told a boy (let's call him Aaron), that I liked him and asked him what he thought about it. Aaron said he was sorry, that he didn't like me in that way and that he had a lo...
A. 1 June 2008: If Travis is in love with you and you dont feel the same just keep politely but firmly letting him know as he will only get hurt in the long run. Dont meet up with him on a one to and one and get his hopes up but keep a distance if you can.
The o... (read in full...)
I'm so love sick over my girl - what do I do?
Q. Ok where to begin i really need advise ive talked to my freinds and ive also talked to family and they all have told me the same thing. I been going out with a girl for almost 2 years now she means the world to me and i can honestly say that i love ...
A. 1 June 2008: You have to decide if she is worth it, she may continue this pattern for a while and it will only hurt you more as time goes on.
Sit her down and ask her calmly why she feels the need to scream and shout at you. Maybe she is just not happy and ... (read in full...)
Help my ex has a naked photo of me!
Q. So my ex has a nude photo of me, well he works with me and my current boyfriend. I found out today that he has shown this picture to quite a few people I work with. My boyfriend hasn't found out about it yet, but I want to be the one to tell him. ...
A. 1 June 2008: He is doing it to hurt you and its working. You could tell your boyfriend what is going on but I fear your ex is just looking for trouble with this, telling your bf could cause problems but him finding out from someone else could too so the first ... (read in full...)
He's still married and I'm having his baby! Help!
Q. I have something of a complicated situation on my hands. The man I am with is still trying to get the money together for his divorce. The woman knows about me, and although she did not officially want the divorce, she is willing to sign the papers ...
A. 1 June 2008: You really dont need all this stress and part of me usually says the truth is best but if it will cause you more stress then I am tempted to say wait until after the divorce to tell her if it will complicate things. It could make her change her ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman!!
Q. hello! my husband of 23 yrs left me for another woman, the day he left was mothers day and he was really out of control, so i went the next day and filed a restraining order on him, in return he went behind me and filed one on me, the day he brought ...
A. 1 June 2008: There is nothing you can really do here to get him back and I dont think you should if he has been abusive. He is feeling very guilty which is why he is shunning you and all your friends. He has made his choice and whether or not its mid life ... (read in full...)
My relationship is not the way I wanted it!
Q. I am devastated. My relationship is not turning the way I wanted and it is about to end. I am just really depressed and crying all the time. I can't do anything, I just stay in bed the whole day thinking, don't even go outside. I know I have to ...
A. 1 June 2008: Its a horrible feeling and you dont think you will ever feel normal again, but you will but it will take time. You say that the relationship is not turning out the way you want, what about what he wants. Without knowing the full story its hard to ... (read in full...)
Could this be the cause of his discomfort?
Q. My boyfriend says that sex can hurt his member. He is well endowed while I am rather petite. Could this be the cause of his discomfort?...
A. 1 June 2008: My hubbie tall and well endowed and Im only 5ft 3 and a bit but we dont have problems so I doubt its soley to do with this. It could be that you are not lubricated enough and it causes chaffing but you would probably notice that too, it could be a ... (read in full...)
Confused about money morals....
Q. Hello I dont know how to tell you my problem but here it comes, my new boyfriend of 6 weeks earns £30,000 more than me a year, as i earn alot less than him i cant afford to have beauty treatments or have my hair done when it needs to be done, my b...
A. 31 May 2008: Just explain that whilst its lovely of him to offer this is way out of your price range and you can neither justify this type of expense nor repay it back comfortably. Do you actually need a makeover anyway, if he is with you he surely accepts you ... (read in full...)
I want to try cunnilingus one day but I feel it's disgusting... how to get over this feeling? How to start?...
Q. i want to try cunilingus one day because the i hear it's satisfying to ladies. but i feel it's disgusting. can anyone tell me how it feels like in your mouth and how it smells? i have this feeling there's a bad oduor in there. how do i start?...
A. 31 May 2008: I think all women taste/smell different. Depends on personal hygiene and what products they use. Also if they have had sex recently that will alter the taste/smell. If you are really against it though dont try it until you are ready. When you are ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I could be pregnant without having full intercourse?
Q. Hello. I am worried, and I know it is probably for no reason. I have never had sex. I am on the pill because I get really bad menstrual pains, but a few weeks ago I missed it for a week, and I have never been very good at taking it on time, because ...
A. 31 May 2008: I would be lying if I said full intercourse is the only way to get pregant but you need to take the test first, its probably unlikely but without knowing the full details of your fooling around its hard to comment really. Put your mind at rest ... (read in full...)
Do these symptoms suggest that I'm pregnant?
Q. I'm in a pickle. Please help. I slept with a guy about 5 weeks ago with protection. My period last week was a few days late but very painful. I can't be too sure as to why it was late, but I believe this to be down to stress of my exams. I...
A. 31 May 2008: You are probably worrying as you say you regret it all now and the mind does play tricks on us. BUT I will say if you are in any doubt or worried or you body is not doing what it normally does then see your doctor again. If you have to do a ... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 31 May 2008: No there is no medicine for love!!!! She has let him down politely and really means Im not interested so take it slow and as I said before show her the real you and give it at least a week or more before you even think about asking her out now!! ... (read in full...)
How do you get over an ex?
Q. I was with my ex for over 2 years and fell deeply in love with him it was fantastic! I lost my virginity to him and doted on him. We split up last september due to their being an age difference and i was really depressed for 4 months. In April I met ...
A. 31 May 2008: Maybe the new bloke is not the one who can mend your heart but maybe you havent given him a chance yet. Its hard to heal and you feel as though you will never get over the pain you feel right now. But you will. There is no magic cure and no set ... (read in full...)
If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies as early as 2 months, will it only get worse?
Q. If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies, as early within the first 2 months, does that mean it will only get worst??? is it best to end the relationship now before it gets to bad? ...
A. 31 May 2008: Yes sweetheart move on, it will only get much worse x... (read in full...)
Why has he become so distant?
Q. My husband and Ive been fighting for some time. I think he cares more for his job than for me, he's assertive and attentitive more to his job. Like, he's emotionally disattached himself from me. Our fighting has really calmed down in which th...
A. 31 May 2008: Yes he may have cheated but I dont think you should naturally assume that. He may have a lot of stress at work, he may be worried financially and cant discuss it with you. He may be going through a time that means he is unsure about his direction ... (read in full...)
He doesn't make any sounds when we make love...
Q. i have a boyfriend.we have been together for a year and ahalf. When we make love he doesnt make any sound he so quiet that i wouldnt know if he is enjoying himself. Well i asked him why he's quiet? He told he he doesnt know and he said i also dont ...
A. 31 May 2008: The first time me and hubbie had sex my nephew was babysitting my two young kids and slept over and told his mum the next day he heard his auntie having sex!! My own son is now 14 and has requested earplugs. Sometimes Im noisy and sometimes hubbie ... (read in full...)
How do you lose resentment and stop being angry with someone?
Q. How do you stop feeling angry towards someone? I lent my ex some money when we were together, before anyone says how stupid, it was suppose to be for 2 weeks until some money came through, i believed him when he said it was definitely on its way,...
A. 31 May 2008: Learn from this and dont make the same mistake again. Enforce the order and do everything you can to get your money back, its a lot of money. Dont stay friends he will only let you down again and find a bloke who can stand on his own two feet. ... (read in full...)
Is this rape or sexual assault?
Q. i have a problem with my boyfriend - he wants sex and every time he tries to put his penis inside of me it really hurts. Last time we tried to do this he would not stop trying and I ended up crying - he then became violent and covered my mouth up ...
A. 31 May 2008: No is no and if he is like this now god know where it will lead. Get away now and keep away from him he is unlikely to change. you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you and you are too young to be treated like this, in fact any age is ... (read in full...)
Any advice on dealing with my unreliable mother?
Q. I hope you guys can help me out with this. My mother is really upsetting me! Not only is she one of those nagging mums, who get on your nerves and interfere with EVERYTHING you do! But it seems as though she doesn't care about me anymore. ...
A. 31 May 2008: Maybe she just took you because you nagged her to. Ive been a teenager (a pretty bad one too) and now I am a mum to two teens and a 3 year old. They constantly nag and demand and ask for things I cant alway afford. Sometimes daughter wants to go ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Tell her about my true age?
Q. i met my girlfriend when i was 13 she was 18,i told her i was 16,im now 23 and she's 28 what should i do/how should i tell her? (p.s we never had sex before i turned 18) i would also like to know if iwas ilegal for me to like make out with her a h...
A. 30 May 2008: If she ever found out by herself it would be a lot worse than if you came clean. She may take it badly and have trust issues for a while, she may think there are other things you have lied about, but if you truly love each other you should be able ... (read in full...)
Should I send him a "congratulations on your divorce" card to his parents to let him know that he has no power and control to stop the divorce, and to let him know that I am no longer his stupid little wife?
Q. my ex was a horrible nasty piece of work and loves to control and is a power freak but since december (just gone) i have stood up to him and given him abit of his own medicine!! see how he likes to be abused although i only gave him about 1% of the ...
A. 30 May 2008: No dont send it dont stoop to his petty level. You have already shown him the power you have by starting divorce procedings. Dont let him rule your life any longer and move on and move upwards, you are so much better than him. Good luck x... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 30 May 2008: If you have more in common work on that. He might be a pretty boy but at the end of the day most of us girls want more than that. He sounds very shallow and she will maybe see right through him pretty damn quickly. Be yourself and dont let him ... (read in full...)
It is getting harder and harder for me to watch this "love rectangle" go on...
Q. As my friend Ashley said this instead of a love triangle this is a love rectangle: Kate is my best and roommate. On her boyfriend of five years, Tim's 21st birthday another one of our friends, Dave, told her that he was falling in love with her...
A. 30 May 2008: Sounds to me that she is subconsciously jealous. She doesnt want him but likes the fact that he is in love with her and you are taking this away from her. So by sending him mixed messages she is confusing him and stopping him moving on fully to ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting him completely after he cheated. I know he's been in contact with her because I snooped! What should I do?
Q. ive been with my b/f for bout 7 years. he cheated on me 3 years ago, i found out we broke up and got back together. ive been trying so hard to trust him again but just cant do it completely. i check his emails and he doesnt know this, i feel bad but ...
A. 30 May 2008: I would confront him with the evidence and ask why he has any contact with her at all. If you believe his answer all well and good you can move on. But if he is lying about having her number you may not get a straight answer and you will always be ... (read in full...)
Knowing about her past makes me feel inadequate, but I love her! So why do I feel like running away?
Q. My problems kinda about jealousy... So i'm really, really close with this girl. we're not ''official'' but only because I wanna give it time, we do everything a normal young teen couple would do. My problem is with her past...It isn't that sl...
A. 30 May 2008: Just be yourself, it doesnt matter what she has done before, she has chosen you now. She will not expect you to be just like her exes and you shouldnt do anything you are uncomfortable with. We all get jealous of our lovers pasts its a normal part ... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: I remember asking my female cousin how many blokes she had been with - she was around 19 and I was 30 at the time.
She replied do you want me to include blow jobs??
I was astounded as when I was her age I had been with two blokes and only gave the... (read in full...)
My husband insists that we have a MFM! Is he gay!?
Q. Why does my husband want to have threesomes with his long time male buddy and me? When he first tried to get me to do this by playing stip video games, I was very upset and went to my bedroom alone in tears. He continued to try to get this ...
A. 30 May 2008: Maybe he is just curious, have you asked him if he wants to join in with the male or just both do you as it were!! Two of my exes pestered and pestered for 3somes with me and another female and I always took the view that if you really loved me you ... (read in full...)
My BF accepted his brother into our lives, knowing he was a nuisance! Can I even trust my BF now, let alone MARRY HIM?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He is Iranian, Last year his brother came to England. He stayed with us for about a year - my boyfriend had told me his brother was very good. I discovered this was a lie. He takes heroin and has ...
A. 30 May 2008: I agree you have to decide what you expect from this relationship. Some cultures are very different and some put family ahead of wives etc so if you are not happy now you have some serious soul searchig to do. If there is any doubt you should wait ... (read in full...)
How do we move to the next level? Need your help!
Q. hi guys! i really like this guy and he likes me too we have fun together but i wish we could move to the next level,like a relationship,buti dont know what to do to get him to ask me. so i need your help....
A. 30 May 2008: You need to find out if he wants a relationship and there is nothing to stop you asking him! However if you sound it out first you could stop yourself getting hurt. Some people just want fun and it might be that he is happy with things the way ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my penis... have I damaged it?
Q. I have this serious problem.The left side of the head of my penis has a bit of foreskin attached.After 3 years of vigorous jacking off it's taken it's toll.I now have this bruise like mark down the length of my penis where the skin is being ...
A. 30 May 2008: You need to talk to your doctor for the answers to these questions, if they are operating they can tell you whats going on. ALl blokes jack off so seems a little extreme that you need surgery!! My hubbies has a lilt to the left and it works just ... (read in full...)
She was drawn to me because of my guitar playing. Should I send her song lyrics, nothing too sappy, just light and funny! I don't want to push her away!
Q. Hi, I was dating this girl for a couple months, doing the long distance thing while she was at college. When she came home from school she said she didn't think we should see eachother because she didn't want to get attached. I txted her a litt...
A. 30 May 2008: I dont think it will hurt to send them but maybe she just isnt on the same page as you at the moment and is either NOT interested or as she states just doesnt want a relationship at the moment. This is the time for her to have fun and enjoy life. ... (read in full...)
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