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25 July 2008: Sorry i dont need help just want to share!!! I have had a wonderful day!!!!...
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Poll question for women: do you like oral and would you like your partner more for it?
Q. Do girls like when a guy goes down on them? And would you like your boyfriend more if he did that?...
A. 25 July 2008: Due to a nasty experience when I was younger I dont really like it. Unless hubbie gets me a bit tipsy first so i can relax. I'd rather give x... (read in full...)
He denies having had an affair. How do I move on? I don't know if I want or need to know either...
Q. I feel strongly that my husband had an affair about 6 months ago. He denies it. How do I move on? I don't know if I want or need to know. But everytime there is a bumb in our relationship I am terrified he will do it again. Sometimes I think if I kn...
A. 25 July 2008: I strongly believe in womens intutition, mine has never let me down yet.
You either decide to leave it or pick at it like a scab. If you can forgive him without even knowing the truth then move on now and put it to the back of your mind. Do ever... (read in full...)
A love story to lighten the mood!!!
Q. Hey all! I just wanted to share my love story with you all to lighten the mood, as it's all about help on here i thought it would be nice to have a chat about something nice, but try to keep it brief lol. In Feb i made a return home to australia for ...
A. 25 July 2008: Yeah I love romance. Well done, good luck and a happy life to you both xxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I am easily aroused, is this normal?
Q. I get aroused rather quickly I dont know if this is normal or not but whenever i start to make out with a girl i start to get aroused, and even if we are cuddling up and she has her arm under my shirt rubbing my stomach i get aroused. DO g...
A. 25 July 2008: Hey my hubbie is 37 we've been together 5 years and he still gets wood when i cuddle him. Pefrectly normal!!!... (read in full...)
He's 44 and she's 19. Is he a pervert?
Q. the man i am sleeping with, wants an open relationship, i am in love with him so go along with it just to be with him. Now he tells me hes met a 19yr old girl and wants to see her again cos they have a connection - he's 44! does that make him a ...
A. 22 July 2008: Not a pervert just a player. Dont get into a relationship with a man who wants other sexual partners of any age, you are worth SO much more x... (read in full...)
Can a marriage work when two people care about one another, but don't have 'chemisty'?
Q. My husband and I had a very short "dating" experience, we went straight from meeting to moving in to marriage. We didn't take the time to get to know each other and it has been a very long, challenging road just over the past year. We both admit ...
A. 22 July 2008: I think you can make that chemistry come if you both really try and do all the loving things couples do. However I think from personal experience that if you dont already have that spark at this stage if you do manage to create it, it will fade as ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get revenge on this guy?
Q. pls someone should tell me how to suffer a guy just to get back at him. what do i do to revenge? i saw a picture of a girl i suspect him to be with and some outgoing and incoming calls from both parties. he denies it and said he just wanted to show ...
A. 22 July 2008: The best revenge is to walk away and know he has lost you. He is not worth it x... (read in full...)
I've been a faithful girlfriend for years - why am I tempted by this new guy?
Q. Im in a long term relationship and can honestly say Ive never even turned my head at another guy in the 5 years we have been together but recently a guy at work has caught my attention and Im confused. I have only known him since december but he ...
A. 22 July 2008: You say when things are tough at home, so obviously you are not happy at the moment. Maybe its the stress of being a working mum etc but I feel something is lacking in your life.
We often get 'crushes' on people we spend a lot of time with but ther... (read in full...)
I've just found out his passwords - do I sneak a peak at his emails?
Q. I'm having another moral crisis in my relationship, and dont know what to do... I've known my boyfriend for aboutfour years, we've been in a relationship for nearly two. Basically at Christmas last year I saw he had messaged one of his ex girlfrie...
A. 22 July 2008: Why is he in touch with all these women???? There is something not right here, why would he want to be in touch with them?
I think that if you look you will probably see something you dont like and it will split you up anyway. If you can handle that... (read in full...)
The thought of getting caught really turns me on!
Q. the thought of getting caught really turns me on when were having sex, i know it sounds really strange. when me and my boyfriend are having sex, i prefer to do it like, in his bedroom when his parents are in, or in his car, where its risky, i dont ...
A. 22 July 2008: Me and my ex hubbie used to do it if my parents nipped out or we knew they were due back, when we were dating, usually in places like the stairs so we could see them through the glass door if they came back! That was 25 years ago and even now theres ... (read in full...)
Do I go for love or for security?
Q. I was having a relationship with a guy for a year and i broke it off due to problems with my ex. I am now with someone new who is very fincially secure but I dont find him sexually attractive and I keep thinking about the guy who i was seeing for a ...
A. 12 July 2008: Love, love, love.
Financial security will not make you happy, if you dont find him attractive then you will resent him and regret your decision. I'd rather be in love and broke then rich and unhappy. I fancied my husband the day I met him, I stil... (read in full...)
What does a man mean when he says he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. When a man says he doesnt want a relationship what is he actually saying - as such. Does it mean he just wants a one night stand or he wants to see me along with anyone else he chooses to or what??? Or does it mean he doesnt want a sexual ...
A. 12 July 2008: In my experience it means they will come round, have a takeaway, a bottle of wine, selfish sex and then leave. Wont ring you for days, wont take you out where you will be seen as a couple, wont make any plans with you but will ring next time they ... (read in full...)
I want answers from real women about parenthood!
Q. Hey girls( andblokes without sonding too sexixt)! I'm in a dilemma at this point in my life. You see, I really think that I might want a baby. Im 26, have a great career(well okay career- I'm a family planning nurse-the irony!), loving partner, ...
A. 12 July 2008: If you have a baby now then you will still be young enough to live your life and travel when he/she goes off to uni at 18. You will have more energy when younger to cope with a baby and the sleepless nights and the temper tantrums etc etc. Your body ... (read in full...)
When is a good time to give a hand job?
Q. when is a good time to give a hand job when you two are lying down? or when your both sitting up and any tips?...
A. 12 July 2008: When you are legally old enough to have sex x... (read in full...)
How can you tell a man is no longer attracted to you?
Q. How can you tell if your man has become unattracted to you...
A. 12 July 2008: Changes in behaviour, lack of intimacy. Lack of eye contact, needing to be anywhere but where you are. Not telling you he loves you anymore. Pushing you away. Looking at you as though he finds you repulsive. Nasty comments about your appearance. I ... (read in full...)
We're ready to have sex, I'm not sure what to do, and I'm worried about my penis? help me!
Q. Ok then this is really wierd for me to be putting this here but it feels like I need answers for my question than other peoples. Ok so I am quite literary really scared of sex i've never done it before, I have a gf and i'm 18 and she's 17 and she...
A. 12 July 2008: I remember being pretty scared too so your girlfriend will feel the same way probably.
The first time will probably seem a little awkward as you dont know each others bodies. Just take your time and progress slowly from kissing to touching. Some... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very experienced, I am a virgin, I don't want to let this get in the way but I can't stop thinking about the number of times she's done it! help!
Q. Ok well unfortuantly I don't exactly have the most self-confidence and well i'm often subject to be jealous of one of my gf's ex's they did it about 35 times while they were together over about 8 months or something like that (I know unfortunately ...
A. 12 July 2008: It doesnt matter how many times she did it with him, once she had done it with him then each time would probably have been pretty much the same with the odd bad day and the odd good day!
Concentrate on the here and now, it is your first time TOGE... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me how beautiful I am to him, I think otherwise, please help me, how do I see myself in a positive way?
Q. hi evryone ok i need guys opinions and possibly girls my bf tells me i have a amazing body but i dont see it i have no hips no curves no waist no boobs its very boyish and athletic more athletic i just dont understand y he loves my body so much ...
A. 12 July 2008: There is no perfect body because all men like different things. Some like big boobs some find them repulsive.
My husband likes women with a fuller figure and doesnt mind a bit of fat, his brother likes stick thin women.
Your boyfriend is with you... (read in full...)
We did everything except have intercourse, she is married, but in a troubled relationship, if and when she is free, I want to marry her, don't know if I screwed up with her, what do I do now?
Q. i am divorced. recently had a woman visiting me who is married to someone i know. they are going thru some tough times in their marriage, she also told me that they had not slept in like 7 months. It got hot and heavy and she literally threw herself ...
A. 12 July 2008: She needs to work out her marriage issues first as she may be just using you (unintentionally) as an escape from her problems. If that is the case then you probably wont last as a couple either.
Tell her you will be there for her but dont want a re... (read in full...)
I love him, I hate him, very mixed emotions, what is going on?
Q. sometimes I feel like I love my boyfriend of 2 years but there are some other times when I cant stand him and I just want to slap him sometimes. What does this mean??????...
A. 12 July 2008: Love and hate sometimes go hand in hand. When people annoy us we often feel like this. If you only 'hate' him once in a while when he really annoys you and then five mins later you love him again, dont worry about it. If you hate him more and love ... (read in full...)
This guy wants me to send him naked pictures of me
Q. this guy wants me to send him pictures either nude or somewhat nude i dont want to be nude at all not even in bra and underwear i really like himm but i dont want to do it. what do i do?...
A. 12 July 2008: How old is this guy? If its someone a lot older then think why he wants the pictures.
If its someone your own age think how devasted you would feel if he showed them to your friends or it ends up on youtube or facebook or something?
Dont take nak... (read in full...)
We are close, he still talks to and sleeps over at his ex's, am I wrong to want him to stop, I am totally confused, should I move on?
Q. so i meet Mr x about 8 months ago in a website we have chilled and have good times we have got to know each other intimate too. but recently i have discover things about his past. he has had 3 exes which he still talks too and the last one he hasent ...
A. 12 July 2008: Tell him it hurts you and if he is not prepared to change or do anything about then it is time to move on. He may never change and could string you along like this for years which will prevent you from meeting someone else who will respect you and ... (read in full...)
Can there be love BEFORE sex?
Q. Whilst sex is an important part of life can a man fall in love with you before he has had sex or vice versa. I think ive fallen in "love" with a man but we havent had sex-is it possible I havent known him long but I do have these feelings B...
A. 11 July 2008: Its perfectly normal to fall in love first and makes the sex even better!!... (read in full...)
I don't even want to go out in public anymore thanks to this jerk at the grocery store!
Q. Today I went to the grocery store to shop for food. My mom and sister came along. While I was standing behind my mom while she was paying the cashier. There was this stranger that took a look at me and told his friend quietly that he was standing ...
A. 10 July 2008: What a nasty piece of work he must be. All it says it that he is really not a nice person. Ignore him, its not because of you, its him he just doesnt know how to act in the real world and was showing off to his mate.
I have a few acne scars on my c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be cheap, is it just my imagination, or is he really a tightwad?
Q. I have been seeing a man for about 2 months. Great Guy. I am 39 and he is 43. Good dad, hard worker. He has two children, I have 3. I am writing to ask if he is just frugal or if you think he is really cheap. Went to a concert with him. He ...
A. 10 July 2008: He may be wary of spending too much on you and mentioning money to see if you are only interested in his. Or maybe he is just short of cash and wants yours!!! Really hard to say, as its only been two months give him a chance.
Have to say thou... (read in full...)
Can I trust my long distance love?
Q. Ive posted bf and it always helps, so thank you. I dated this girl LD for 6 monoths and she broke it off bc of the distance, didnt want to move, didnt want me to move there etc she had made several promises to me that she broke. I was hurt but...
A. 9 July 2008: I think smiles has hit the nail on the head really. Find a girl who dererves you x... (read in full...)
I want a baby but his penis does not go inside my vagina, why?
Q. it has been one year of our marriage but still i m not getting pregnant.me and husband have sex twice or thrice in a week without taking any precautions. we love each other madly. we do our best to get pleasure but we dont know that why his penis ...
A. 9 July 2008: Maybe you have a problem with your vagina, you need to see a doctor to check everything is ok x... (read in full...)
My friend asked my to go on a 12 week trip. My husband can cope. Should I go? Will the kids be OK without me?
Q. Hi, i am just looking for some opinions on the following. I am married, age 30, 2 kids ages 4 and 5. My friend who has travelled alot has asked me if i would like to go on a 12 week round the world trip in march. My kids will be 5 and 6 then and ...
A. 9 July 2008: I think it has to be your decision. I personally couldnt leave my little one for that long but he is only 3 and a half. 12 weeks is a long time for young children.
You say your husband is capable of coping but how does he feel about this?
I und... (read in full...)
How Do I Relate to a Sister Who's Always Critical?
Q. I have only 1 sibling, I love her dearly. She is a couple of years older than myself. I feel that I have never been very close to her, we never talk much and if we do its never about anything important. She spends most of her time in a different ...
A. 8 July 2008: My sister and I never got on once we hit our teens. The main reasons were because there is less than 11 months between us and for years my mum forced her to take me everywhere with her. If mum made her wait until a certain age to do things, I was ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is with ex and kids - I'm feeling fed up
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, we live together and he splits custody of his kids(13 and 14) with his ex-wife. History: she left him for another(the gardner) and he wouldn't take her back when she realized her mistake. I've ...
A. 8 July 2008: Is he feeling guilty in some way for the split?? Maybe he is keeping the peace for the kids sake as she has threatened to stop contact if he doesnt toe the line.
You really need to talk to him about this and find out where he is coming from as you ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her that we both need councelling?
Q. Without going into the whole story, I'll be brief. My wife and I have been going through a lot of problems over the past few years because of some involvement I had with an ex of mine. I was completely in the wrong and I know what it did to my wife. ...
A. 8 July 2008: Think about how embarrasing it would be for her to admit in front of a complete stranger that you strayed. She is either in denial or has moved on already.
By all means take up the counselling alone to learn why you strayed and to stop it happ... (read in full...)
I'm really self conscious about my black facial hair, what can I do about it?
Q. I'm 15 and I have quite abit of facial hair, and it is pretty obvious from up close because my hair is black, I jus recently got a boyfriend and I never get close enough incase he sees it, I'm really self-conscious about this, what can i do?...
A. 8 July 2008: You can have it bleached but I would say use a professional salon rather than attemptinng it on your own.
It will probably be more noticeable to you than anyone else though as are spots etc. Dont worry too much but maybe talk to your mum, is she ... (read in full...)
Do guys like dry humping?
Q. Hi i was jst wondering-- is dry humping pleasurable for guys, b/c ive heard it can sometimes cause chafing? what are 'blue balls?'...
A. 8 July 2008: No it will only make them more frustrated!!! Blue balls just means pain in the balls when they are a lot turned on but dont get the chance to have sex. I dont know about chafing but horny, yes!!... (read in full...)
Shall I wait to have sex with her until she becomes of legal age?
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for a while now, and the only worry iv really had is about the age difference (3 years), but that turned out to be ok after me meeting her dad and her parents being ok with me. although im 16 and shes 13 (16 is the lega...
A. 8 July 2008: Yes wait. 13?????? She is a child. My daughter is still a virgin at 16 and at 13 was nowhere near ready to have sex. Her opinion not mine. You are of legal age and she isnt. You will be the one in trouble. If she is the one then wait for her to be ... (read in full...)
Open marriage plus money worries plus kids... What do I do now?
Q. I’ve been married 14 years and have a 10 year old son. We have been poly for about 9 years of that time and this has been with various people for both of us. There is one person I have been involved with for almost 7 years of that time. About two ...
A. 8 July 2008: I think its time you entered the real world!!
This is why open marriages never really work, you are free to love another and end up wanting her more than your wife.
What message are you sending your son. Do you want him to grow up poly too? Bec... (read in full...)
I would like some rational opinions on our 16yr age gap?
Q. I am a 27 year-old female. I just started dating a man who is 43. A little more background about the relationship: He has never been married, and has no children. He has a master's degree, good income, and people always think he is in his earl...
A. 8 July 2008: At your ages I dont think it really matters. Love comes when we least expect it and if he is the one then he is the one regardless of the age gap. If you were 15 I would tell you otherwise but you are almost 30 and old enough to make your own mind ... (read in full...)
Is the third time a charm or should I just let it go?
Q. I've been with this woman for approximately sixteen months and have, despite the bumps in the road,asked for her hand twice..The last being just this past holiday. We have lived together for all most ten of those months. I know that there is two ...
A. 8 July 2008: Why is she saying no?
Has she been hurt in the past?
If I know the reason for her reluctance I can advise better x... (read in full...)
Will I be doing the right thing by going all the way?
Q. O.k I've been seeing this guy for about 2/3 weeks now but we're not officially an item but I'm sure he's going to ask me once school is over. We've kissed and stuff but is it wrong I want to have sex so soon? We were really good friends before all ...
A. 8 July 2008: If you trust each other and are already friends then just wait a little bit longer. You are not only giving yourself to him you are losing your virginity and if he is the right one he will wait a few more weeks or months. Dont rush it as you will ... (read in full...)
My siblings kidnapped my mother from her house...she has serious Alzheimer's. What can I do?
Q. I am at my wit's end and crying in despair. My siblings (except perhaps one) have decided that my mother has serious dementia/Alzheimer's and they are practically causing her serious confusion by kidnapping her from her house without her permisso...
A. 8 July 2008: I really feel for you. It is one of the worst things you can face as a daughter/son and watch a loved parent go through it.
My ex father in law has turned from a handsome, powerful man into a shell of his former self and my daughter, his only gran... (read in full...)
I'm not very fond of my aunt and I don't know if it's wrong to feel this way!
Q. Have any of you ever felt like so far away from a family member,like emotionally? Well,a couple of days ago,my grandma told my mom that her aunt(my great aunt),had asked about her. My mom's not exactly fond of her. My mom told me in the car yest...
A. 8 July 2008: Glad we could help. Since replying I have found out the sister in law with the baby is expecting again!! PLEASE let me have a niece this time and I promise to love her!! x... (read in full...)
I'm not very fond of my aunt and I don't know if it's wrong to feel this way!
Q. Have any of you ever felt like so far away from a family member,like emotionally? Well,a couple of days ago,my grandma told my mom that her aunt(my great aunt),had asked about her. My mom's not exactly fond of her. My mom told me in the car yest...
A. 7 July 2008: I have 11 nephews and I can honestly say I dont love all of them. I dont even see 5 of them from my ex husbands side only very occasionally and I dont feel 'love' for them.
I have affection for 3 of the others and one is tiny so everyone loves a ba... (read in full...)
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