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My husband told me he wants my breast to be bigger!!
Q. My husband once said to me he loves my breasts to be a little bigger. I want bigger breasts too coz when my period is over I have much smaller breasts. *tears* Any help?...
A. 11 June 2008: I think its great if you both want you to have bigger boobs but its just as bad for him to say it as it would be to say I wish you had a smaller bum!! Bless him maybe he just didnt think and probably didnt mean to hurt you, some men can be a little ... (read in full...)
Why do women give a man a second look when they find out the man is involved in a relationship?
Q. I recently found out the man I have been seeing for the past 4 years has been talking to a married woman with 2 children the entire time. He met her right after we met. I talked to her and she said she would ask questions about me but he would ...
A. 11 June 2008: Because some people either dont give a damn if the other person is in a relationship or just want what they cant have. The best way to attract a women is to already have one!!! But as smiles says, it takes two and he didnt have to act on it did ... (read in full...)
I need some amazing sex tips.
Q. Ok this is probably going to attract a lot of answers but I just wanted to throw this question out there and get some info. Guys and girls, what are your best sex tips for a wwoman who wants to give her boyfriend an amazing birthday night in?...
A. 11 June 2008: Soft lighting, music, romantic meal but not heavy food, something light and a decadant dessert. Bottle chilling by the bed, ice cubes ( a must!!), massage oils.
Tie him up if he likes it, blindfold him and play with him for ages and ages with ice ... (read in full...)
Am I coming on too strong if I write a letter?
Q. This will sound like such a silly question..but I'd appreciate some advice incase I'm doing something stupid. I've known a guy for ages as a friend, he has always liked me but I have been in a relationship. I broke up with my boyfriend a few mont...
A. 11 June 2008: It could be because you havent contacted him he thinks youre not interested. Yes send a short note/postcard with a dinner invite and explain about losing his number, tell him you had a lovely time and are looking forward to seeing him again x... (read in full...)
Do men in generally like women tiny skinny, or somewhere in between?
Q. I was wondering, guys help me out and women too. What type of body to men like in women? Are there any men out there that are actually chub chasers and they like there women big? Or do men in generally like women tiny skinny, or somewhere in ...
A. 11 June 2008: Ok Ive been extremely tiny, a UK 6 and also larger at a UK 16 (I think that equates to US 2 and US12) At these weights I often felt over looked but when Ive been in between I did attract men, mostly when I was UK10-12 (US6-8?) I have met men when I ... (read in full...)
A question about trust in a relationship....
Q. Hi my question is about trust.If you get cheated on, is that it, has your trust gone forever. Are all future relationships reduced to phone and email checking. What of the cheater do they retain their ability to trust? ...
A. 11 June 2008: Do you mean will you ever trust that person again or trust a new partner?
I think a part of you may always have a slight distrust but it may not surface until you have cause if its a new partner and if enough time lapses without any problems... (read in full...)
How do we 'play' a guy who's a real player??!?
Q. Okayy. Me and my friend have a problem; this guy keeps trying to get in every girls pants he approaches, tries to kiss EVERYONE, and he is just being a plain player. We need revenge. How do we play the player? Loveee, Project Hairspray [PS....
A. 11 June 2008: Why bother, he isnt worth it and if you end up sleeping with him and try to hurt him in some way you'll still just be a notch on his bedpost and he probably wont even get hurt,, he's probably too heartless. The best revenge is to not let him ... (read in full...)
Is there anybody out there who feels as though being a wife and motherhood has enriched their lives rather than detracted from it?
Q. i am 23 years old. i live with flatmates, the same age as me, i have for 2 years. i have a university degree, a challenging, satisfying and well paying job. the majority of my friends are single, love to party and are out socializing at every opp...
A. 11 June 2008: Everyone is different and we all want different things but it does seem nowadays that the norm for some is to establish a career first and then settle down and have kids in their 30's.
I first married in my early 20's and had two children by the t... (read in full...)
After 8 years he still hasn't proposed. What do I do?
Q. help. ive been dating my man for 8yrs.1n currently26 and he loves me. i know that. problem is he is taking too long to propose marriage. all my friends are married with kids and i started dating this guy way before they met their husbands. my ...
A. 11 June 2008: Ask him to marry you or at least ask if he has any intention of getting married to you.
If he refuses you have to decide whther you are happy with this arrangement or if the ultimate commitment of marriage is too important for you to continue with... (read in full...)
I was unfaithful - should I tell?
Q. been dating my boyfriend for a long while now. i love him very much and a loves me too.a believe hes been faithful these past years and he means the world to me. problem is i havent been so faithful. he thinks im a saint but ive had a few flings and ...
A. 11 June 2008: The truth has tendency to come out just when you thought it was safely forgotten about. You have to weigh up the pros and cons of this
If you dont tell him and he finds out will he forgive you, he will not only have the betrayal to deal with but ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing?
Q. ok heres the story.had a guy i was dating,only to find out he is married 6 months later.stuck around for another two years,thought it might change and plus by the time i had found out i was already in love with the guy.which im aware was very wrong ...
A. 11 June 2008: Ask yourself truthfully why you did it?? Was it because you were jealous and didnt want her to have him or because you really didnt want her to get hurt?
If its the first reason then I dont think you could say it was right or wrong but unde... (read in full...)
His father won't let him use the phone to talk to me. What can I do?
Q. Me and my bf have been in a long distance relationship for about a year.Just recently his father decided he doesn't like me and punished my boyfriend off the phone with ME for 2 YEARS. This made me so mad. My boyfriend still sneaks and calls only ...
A. 11 June 2008: As a parent I think of the practical things, is it possible that he is running up huge phone bills and this is why his father is acting this way. My son did this and it cost us three times as much in one month then we normally pay as he was calling ... (read in full...)
How I found my true love
Q. This is the story of how i met the love of my life February 3rd my boyfriend soon to be husband the next year left the province to look for work to support us after a month we were ready for me to follow him out to where he was residing Ma...
A. 11 June 2008: Thats a lovely story, even though im an intelligent women I still believe in destiny and all that stuff and me and hubby have found out since we met that we nearly crossed paths so many times before, even applying at the same place for jobs etc so ... (read in full...)
I used to be madly in love with him but now I realise we have differences and find that sometimes what he does annoys me and frustrates me, why?
Q. ok ive been thinking about this for ages and i have on days and off days..about equal amount of time each. ive been with my b4 for just under 2 years and i do love him soo much. But sometimes i feel that we dont completely suit each other, like...
A. 11 June 2008: This is so normal and some people reach it sooner than others some are lucky and it either comes later or is not too bad.
Think about your family, do they do things that drive you nuts, I know mine do, but I cant suddenly stop having my mum as my m... (read in full...)
After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 10 June 2008: Yeah bet youre relieved!!!!... (read in full...)
Do people lie about hooking up with people to make their partners think more highly of them?
Q. do people lie about hooking up with people to make their partner think more highly of them?...
A. 10 June 2008: All the time!!!!! My friend has told her boyfriend she has slept with less then 10 and I know for a fact she cannot count them using her toes and fingers, she is 21, and that doesnt include guys she gave blow jobs to. Why?? Cos he has only had 3 ... (read in full...)
Should I believe what she tells me?
Q. this is for girls,my girlfriend said she wanted a break from me in january cuz she was feeling down with being stuck in the house with no job or money and confused in her head and needed some space,she didnt say it was over and i asked her if it was ...
A. 10 June 2008: No-one but your girlfriend knows what is going on in her head and its hard when they wont let you in and keep you hanging on.
Give her the space she needs, it is not necessarily over but if you dont truly give her enough space you could push her ... (read in full...)
My marriage has gone stale. Is there anything I can do?
Q. I am married but have been emailing a girl for quite some time. She is a stripper and probably only wants money but I enjoy the fantasy even though I know the age difference is probably 18 years with me being 54. It is torture when she won't se...
A. 9 June 2008: I dont think persuing anything with the stripper will make you feel any better, you will still feel this hole in your life.
I think there comes a time in life in some marriges/relationship where you either settle for companionship or move on. If ... (read in full...)
Is his behaviour inappropriate - or even illegal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a daughter. My boyfriend is really comfortable with his body. He walks around naked in front of anyone in his family. His little brother is 11 years old and he has a little cousin who has just turned 7. He thinks because ...
A. 9 June 2008: This is down to personal opinion and also maybe upbringing, morals etc etc
I walk around naked all the time (Im dressed now honest) and my hubbie took a while to get used to it but now accepts me for who I am. My children are 3, 14 and 16. Its ... (read in full...)
I constantly feel he doesn't like having sex and I feel rejected.
Q. Hi I am 28yrs old and I have been going out with a 32 yr old man for about a year now. The problem is I constantly get the feeling he doesn't like having sex. when the relationship first began I felt a problem. where we were seeing ea...
A. 9 June 2008: Not everyone has a high sex drive and this could be the case here or it could be as you say things from his past that are causing problems.
I dated a work colleague and although he was fit, good looking, well endowed, took me out on romantic date... (read in full...)
All my mates have done things with boys but I'm really scared to do things
Q. Hello well im a girl at the age of 15 and all my mates have done things with boys but im really scared to do things what could i do about it?? i wouldnt mind doing things with boys but not sex at the age please help me write back please x ...
A. 9 June 2008: Well first or all not all the girls who say they have done things are telling the truth!! Some lie to fit in with the crowd.
Please dont feel you have to compete as you dont. if you are scared then you are simply not ready yet. Never be pres... (read in full...)
Where can I communicate with lonely females without paying a fee or getting hooked up with the spam message?
Q. Does anyone know where you can communicate with lonely females without paying a fee or getting hooked up with the spam mess? I like to email back and forth about whatever, maybe adult content sometimes maybe other stuff. thanks...
A. 9 June 2008: I cant speak from experience of internet sites apart from ivillage but not sure if you'd be allowed to talk about adult content on there, but they have several forums so may be something on there. The only other places I can think of are facebook ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Leave him in the dust, or keep trying? Can anyone point me in the right direction?
Q. I just recently started spending more and more time with a certain somebody. He a guy, and I am a girl (duh). He is a few years older than me and has an adorable son. The thing is, I'm not sure if either of us cares enough about the other to build a ...
A. 9 June 2008: You obviously have doubts and are not quite sure what to do. If you are happy to keep things as they are then there is not harm as long as you both know where you stand. He seems happy with the arrangement too apart from maybe trying to change ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I am hurting her during our love making, am I too big for her?
Q. i made love to my girlfriend a few days ago and I made her bleed a little inside. she says it's because i'm well endowed and it went right up her. I'm now worried that when we do it again that i might hurt her again. she's very experienced but it ...
A. 9 June 2008: You are above average but I have a well endowed partner in both lenght and girth and Im only little and yes sometimes in some postions it bloody well hurts. He has never made me bleed though. Was she near her period??
If not I would just ask her ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boobs to grow?? and when do boobs stop growing??
Q. I'm 16, tall, got curves! But little boobs, I have to wear these breat enhancers, which you insert into your bra. They give me great results but I want to feel natural! All my family have fairly large breasts (apart from the men obviously lol) And I ...
A. 9 June 2008: I dont think you can make them bigger but at 16 you are not done growing yet. My daughter has tiny boobs and has just turned 16 however they have increased in size in the last 3 months or so, but I think they are in proportion to her body and she ... (read in full...)
I still miss him, want to speak to him and get some answers and explanations! I feel such a fool but cannot let go!
Q. I dated a guy for 10months, we split up 4 months ago and i know i need to move on but need advice how to do this. I still think about him daily and sometimes still get that sickly pining feeling and all i want to do is contact him. It was a real ...
A. 9 June 2008: You know in your heart you have made the right decision but that doesnt stop you hurting. You feel used, betrayed, a bit of fool for trusting this man and allowing him into your life only to be let down. You also need closure but I dont think you ... (read in full...)
Is he only with me because I'm curvey? I'm insecure about his porn watching, should I give him a chance?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over three years and throughout the relationship I've made it clear that I'm a bit insecure about my body and that if I found out he'd been looking at other women it would crush my confidence. I rece...
A. 9 June 2008: In his eyes it isnt cheating and I dont personally think of it that way. HOWEVER I too get insecure when my husband looks at porn, which has not been very often. He has learned that if he wants to look we do it together.
Talk to him Im sure that... (read in full...)
Does anyone here have any experience dating law enforcement officers?
Q. Does anyone here have any experience dating law enforcement officers? I have met and become attracted to one, but my female friends tell me to stay away. They say all cops are "problem dates" no matter how wonderful as individuals. They say it's ...
A. 9 June 2008: I you are impressed by his job then you may have a similar mindset to him anyway. You have to give the relationship a chance and if it doesnt work then its no different in my opinion if he's a cop, a roadsweeper or whatever, it will either work or ... (read in full...)
How do I get back at him for using me?
Q. ok so there is this guy who i lost my virginity to. im 18 and hes 23 and it turns out that he only used me for sex. now i really want to end it completely with him. i know this sounds bad but i want to hurt him just as bad as he hurt me. so how ...
A. 9 June 2008: He is the loser here as he has the lost the chance of a decent relationship with you. Just finish it and move on there will be plenty of other guys who will appreciate you and love you the way you wanted him to.
Revenge will not make you feel any ... (read in full...)
How can I get my family to speak to me?
Q. I feel like some of my family members don't like to speak to me, and don't like me very much. I guess when I was younger I wasn't as nice to them. Now I changed, and i'm much nicer now. However, when I try to speak with them now, they don't feel ...
A. 9 June 2008: It will take time for them to realise you have really changed. Just continue to be nice and polite and in time they will stop waiting for you to mess up and accept you for the person you are now x... (read in full...)
When do you know it's really over and it's time to move on?
Q. I know this is a really general question but I don't feel I can get all the detail of my troubled marriage down in this post. It is long and complicated and I am almost tired of thinking it all through. My question is "When do you know its really ...
A. 8 June 2008: I was married the first time for ten years, 6 of them unhappily. I spent 4 years wanting to leave. What made me finally leave??? Two things
I told him if he ever raised a hand to me again I would go, it took him 2 years but just before he did it s... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex or stay with new boyfriend?
Q. ive been suffering with this mix emotion,where should i stay with my ex bf for almost 2 yrs that he can gve me all he hve but the mean problem he dont trust me,we kept on arguing with my past..he never stop unless im goin to tell the truth.which im ...
A. 7 June 2008: Things arent going to change with your ex so i would forget about him. If you truly love your new bloke then stay but if you have doubts then move on. You dont have to have one or the other you can become single again and wait for someone else to ... (read in full...)
Have been manifesting glandular fever in the past weeks, could sex determine a relapse or affect my partner?
Q. Hi i have had glandular fever for the last 3 weeks. I got it off my boyfriend as even though he doesnt have symptoms he tested positive for it. Just wondering if we were to start having sex again would i have a relapse or would he start getting ...
A. 7 June 2008: You cant catch it through sex, but as its also know as the kissing disease then you can get it through kissing or being in very close proximity to a person. So if you want sex use a position where your mouths are nowhere near each other!!!!... (read in full...)
Would this be considered dating?
Q. I've been talking to my friend almost everyday or at least every other day for an hour or three. We been to vegas and hawaii together alone. We both recently brokened up with our ex's. We have not yet talked about hooking up or telling eachother ...
A. 7 June 2008: I think you have to ask her, she may just see you as a friend but may secretly want more. Ask her directly, are we friends or do you see this relationship going in a different direction. Good luck x... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we're teens?
Q. There's this really cute girl at my violin class (I'm home schooled so i don't see many girls) and I'm 12 and she is 10. My friend Jason who is 30 (met online) says since she is still basically a child I should wait a few years. Do you think i ...
A. 7 June 2008: My son bless his cotton socks has had 'girlfriends' since he was 5, he is very cute and very blonde and a lovely lad. At your age having a girlfriend means different things then when you are older i.e. you wont be going out on dates to pubs and ... (read in full...)
Is this just an instance of people viewing love and relationships in a different way?
Q. I was dating a guy for only a month, but I'm confused as to how it ended. Like I said, we weren't even officially boyfriend/girlfriend, but we saw each other a couple times a week and it was always great whenever we were together. Basically, me ...
A. 7 June 2008: I think a month is probably a bit too soon for some people to know but others feel if there isnt that instant feeling that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone then it will never happen.
Just move on as at least you have not been... (read in full...)
Confused by my BF's sister's behavior -- help!
Q. hi.. firstly i am sorry if this query gets long.. me n my bf are in love for 3 n half yrs..we both share a very wonderful bond..he loves his family a lot and is very close to his younger sister..shares everything wit her n does everything to make ...
A. 7 June 2008: She has had her brother all to herself for all these years and is jealous that he loves you now. Just ignore her when she is like this, just be yourself and be extra polite to her no matter what you get back from her. She will grow up one day, ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can get him to know I'm interested in him?
Q. hey, well theres this lad in my year at school and i really like him like have a massive crush on him. he's the same age as me, 16. He's in my music class i also see him around and about at lunch breaks, we talk sometimes mainly in music, but i wa...
A. 7 June 2008: You cant make anyone like you, you can just be yourelf and show him the real you and let him know you are interested, that way if he is interested back he can act on it x... (read in full...)
What is an orgasm? What does it feel like?
Q. What is an orgasm? What does it feel like. Do you moan during sex as my bf keeps on asking me if it hurts when i moan or do you only moan when you have an orgasm?...
A. 7 June 2008: Basically an orgasm is your vaginal muscles contracting which sends waves of pleasure through your vagina. Very nice and believe me you will now if you have one.
Your boyfriend is asking if he hurt you when you moan as he is obviously a little inex... (read in full...)
He's a workaholic. Should I let him go?
Q. dear guru at first i really liked this guy im dating but because of his workaholic habits and the fact that he has no romantic bone in his body im kinda turned off i like him but i feel he is not the one for me should i go with my gut feeling ...
A. 7 June 2008: Follow your gut, if he doesnt feel like the one then he isnt and never will be x... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex and I'm scared
Q. Last night, for the first time, i had unprotected sex with a bloke i dont know. im scared i may have a std or that im pregnant. i already hve a 3 month old daughter and i dont bellieve in abortions- im really scared to go to a gum clinic in case ...
A. 7 June 2008: Right first of all get yourself along to the clinic. They will not judge you or think you are a sleaze they are paid to help you not treat you badly.
Secondly see your doctor, you can take the morning after pill 5 days after unprotected sex to redu... (read in full...)
After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 5 June 2008: Losing your virginity itself wouldnt make you late, sometimes having sex around your period can actually make your period come a bit earlier. How long have you been having periods?? My daughter started at 10 and even now at 16 she is not regular ... (read in full...)
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