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My curvy Goddess is trying to slim down! How can I tell her I like her the way she is?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for about 6 months and she is the largest girl that i have ever dated (shes about 5feet 6 inches and about 180 pounds. before her i only liked women with slim bodies but found myself so attracted to her curvy ...
A. 1 July 2008: Tell her exactly what you told us apart from the fact that she is the biggest woman you've ever been with! Tell her not to loose to many curves as you love her the way she is.
I was curvy but slim when I met my hubbie and went up two dress si... (read in full...)
My penis "grows" 23 hours a day! Is this normal?
Q. iam 16 year old boy.when i remove my pant my penis grows automatically,because of this i cannot wear only towel when iam going to bathroom.does this happens to all kids? when i was bathing with my brother i removed my clothes and only underwea...
A. 1 July 2008: Hey my husband is 37 and often has this problem, luckily only when Im around, he seems to be in a permanent state of semi hardness, bless him. So it is normal but you do learn to control it, he has in public. Just think of something that is a real ... (read in full...)
Second cousin has a crush on me. Could it be a problem?
Q. yeah i have a 2nd cousin thats had a crush on me since we were little. i never really thought much about it but now im starting to get a crush on her... the problem is i dont know if she still likes me or how our friends and family would take it......
A. 1 July 2008: Youre right it is a crush and you dont have to act on it. There are lots of other girls out there who will be equally attractive to you. Safe yourself the heartache and put her out of your mind and think of her as a relative x ... (read in full...)
I have confidence issues and don't know what to do. I'm also reluctant to change.
Q. I have serious confidence issues, and today I went to my first day of a new school. Unfortunatley I have been at the same school previously my whole life. Yeah I have mates outside of school and that, but that one day has just altered everythi...
A. 1 July 2008: Can you talk to a family member or a school counsellor for advice? Sometime when we share problems they dont seem so huge.
Confidence comes from within but you can fake it too. This often leads to you becoming more confident naturally.
Make ... (read in full...)
I really want to sort my paranoia out and give him a holiday to remember.
Q. Ok, I'm not sure how to put this. Im 18 and have a really stable relationship. I love my man to peices and would do anything for him. We always have a laugh and a joke when we are together. I have been with him for 2 years, but was unable to 'dis...
A. 1 July 2008: Just relax and be yourself. If you are uptight and worrying about your performance in the bedroom then you will appear stressed and uptight. Take on board the fact he says it is great, he probably means it.
If you relax and enjoy the holiday it will... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my step sister? Our parents found out and they want to break either their relationship or ours.
Q. My dad is about to get married and she has a daughter and we really like each other and have been keeping a secret relationship for 2 months. they just found out and they want either their relationship to end or ours. Either way i wont be living in ...
A. 30 June 2008: Its not wrong and it sounds as though you havent really grown up together either.
Cool it for now as you would never forgive yourself if you spoilt your dads chance at happiness. Let them have their wedding and try and wait until the dust has sett... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend's dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own?
Q. How do I get my boyfriends dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own? I've been going out with my boyfrind for 18 months, and moved in with him and his dad 7 months ago. My boyfriend and his dad have...
A. 30 June 2008: So he has been living with his dad for 9 years so they can afford to live. Why should he suddenly throw his dad out or abandon him?? What will happen to him, will he be able to afford a decent place on his own? Think about this.
Yes its hard and ... (read in full...)
Could sharp pains in my head be linked to masturbation?
Q. Hi, i am a 15yr old male incase the above says otherwise. I masturbate frequently but recently have had a problem. I occasionaly get sharp pains in my head for a short while (for about 15-30mins). Also, I don't know if this is relevant but I think I ...
A. 30 June 2008: If you are more prone to headaches then think about it, when you masturbate you probably concentrate very hard and screw your eyes shut tight, unless of course you are looking at pictures!! I somtimes go a bit dizzy when I have had to really work at ... (read in full...)
He wants a threesome, I said no. Have you tried this and how did it work out?
Q. The guy I am seeing has asked me to do a threesome with me. I am not into it and have said no. I mean I know it is suppose to be every guys fantasy, but, I just wondered how many other girls have been asked to do them by guys they are seeing? ...
A. 30 June 2008: I personally find them overrated.
I have also found from experience its not something that you do in a loving commited relationship. Could you bear to see someone you love shagging another woman. I couldnt, so how can a man who says he loves you ... (read in full...)
I become petrified at the thought of experimenting more, sexually wise.
Q. Okay so I have kissed three guys. The first was just a kiss at the end of a date but the last two guys I made out with. I am scared though becasue I don't know how to do anything else. Is something wrong with me because I am scared to get ...
A. 30 June 2008: Its nice to hear you are a bit afraid of things like blow jobs and undressing in front of guys etc. I find this trend of lots and lots of oral sex before real sex very distrubing. Yes Im nearly 40 but am not a prude and have had a varied and ... (read in full...)
How can I catch them if that's the case? I suspect they're cheating.
Q. we have known each other for 7 years now. I cheated on all my girlfriends with her and allowed her to ruin the relationships. Never made it official with her. I finally have in 2 months ago... About a few weeks ago we've grown distant. We meet up no ...
A. 30 June 2008: Now shes got you shes no longer interested, she has been playing you as much as you have her. Maybe she is seeing your brother who knows?
Forget about them and try and find a nice girl that you can love exclusively, stop cheating or you will neve... (read in full...)
Do men these days really want LOVE or do they just want pure SEX?
Q. I am a woman in her fifties. Do men really want LOVE these days or just pure sex. It seems to be love has flown out of the window. Obviously sex is part of any relationship but it seems the men of today ONLY want sex. Is this true? it would be ...
A. 30 June 2008: I used to think that when I was single for a while between husbands! I used to only meet guys who wanted sex or if they wanted more i didnt want it with them.
When I met my second husband and he made it clear from day one he wanted a real rela... (read in full...)
What's the best contraceptive?
Q. i need help. i'm getting married next month and i want to find the best way to avoid getting pregnant. i heard that the pills sometimes has some side effects is it true? what r they? thanks....
A. 30 June 2008: I think its down to the individual and you need to see a nurse or doctor or family planning clinic if you have one.
From personal experience, the pill made me gain weight and made me very nasty, but that was 20 years ago so there are probably... (read in full...)
I want to know how I should handle myself on the first few dates? I don't want to appear clingy or desperate!
Q. im in a new relationship after breaking up with my fiancee of a year and a half and i cant remember how i should act for the first few dates like how much is too much or too little texting and how much is too much or too little seeing each other. as ...
A. 30 June 2008: Wait for him to contact you, guys dont seem to like clingy girls and if you come on too keen they sometimes run a mile. Keep him guessing and if he is interested he will contact you!!... (read in full...)
Have I started my periods or just broken my hymen??
Q. hi! i am very worried! about a week a go my boyfriend fingered me! everything was ok ... then i started bleeding 4 a short while then it stopped.i have not started my periods yet but now there is this short discharge(marroon colour...
A. 30 June 2008: Sounds more like periods to me but it is possible you wont have another one for a while. My daughter started at 10 and is still very very irregular sometimes gaps of 3-6 months, she is 16 now.
Hymen bleeding is usually very minimal.
x... (read in full...)
What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?
Q. me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...
A. 30 June 2008: Respect your parents of course. Why should they allow you to sleep in the same room as him, you are not married, your are under age and still live in their house. You need to respect their rules.
I was 22 when I married my first husband and yes its ... (read in full...)
Could sharp pains in my head be linked to masturbation?
Q. Hi, i am a 15yr old male incase the above says otherwise. I masturbate frequently but recently have had a problem. I occasionaly get sharp pains in my head for a short while (for about 15-30mins). Also, I don't know if this is relevant but I think I ...
A. 30 June 2008: ok you need to work out if you only get the pains when you masturbate or at any other time.
If you just get them at all times you must see your doctor, its always best to get it checked. Even if you only get them when you masturbate you should stil... (read in full...)
What are the chances I'm pregnant??
Q. i started my period on june 7 finished on june 11, has sex (unprotected,and he came in me) on june 13 and 18. i should have ovulated somewhere around june 21. we also had sex on june 28 and he came in me then as well. my boobs are a little sor...
A. 30 June 2008: Most women ovulate around day 14, counted from the first day of your last period. So they reckon you should have sex anywhere from day 11 onwards. But all women are different of course and some ovulate ealier or later.
Yes you could be preg... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't work and is immature, the new guy is a drug dealer. Who do I choose?
Q. ok i got a problem...ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and i love him to death, but he dont work he is kinda immatuire and we fight about stupid things...well i met this other guy he is so sweet to me he is all i think about he does everything ...
A. 30 June 2008: Do you really need to ask. Of course you cant take a drug dealer home to mum and dad, of course he's sweet, until he gets you hooked on whatever he is selling.
Dump the dealer and stop being so silly, tell the immature guy to get a job, if he does... (read in full...)
My brother and his girlfriend had a baby. I want one so much...
Q. ok my brother and his girl just had a baby and i love her dearly and i want one but you see im only 13 and they live far away so i dont get to see her that much and i really want one what should i do ...
A. 30 June 2008: Its normal to feel like this at your age, your hormones are going crazy right now as you are hitting puberty and all you see is this cute little 'doll' that your brother and his girlfriend have and I can understand what you are going though.
T... (read in full...)
My brother and his girlfriend had a baby. I want one so much...
Q. ok my brother and his girl just had a baby and i love her dearly and i want one but you see im only 13 and they live far away so i dont get to see her that much and i really want one what should i do ...
A. 30 June 2008: Its normal to feel like this at your age, your hormones are going crazy right now as you are hitting puberty and all you see is this cute little 'doll' that your brother and his girlfriend have and I can understand what you are going though.
T... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he show that he cares??
Q. Im 15, He's 16. We like each other, but were not going out just yet. We are on the verge of going out though. Im totally unexperienced, and he is experienced, he has had sex more than once, and i haven't gone out with a guy, i haven't even kis...
A. 29 June 2008: Hes 16 years old and is still a child himself. It would be asking a lot to expect him to be caring at his age, some boys would be but a lot probably still put themselves first. Remember that boys mature emotionally later than girls.
Having said that... (read in full...)
How can I tell her about the armpit hair without hurting her feelings?
Q. I've noticed my girlfriend has started growing armpit hair. I find it a real turn off and she never used to have it.How can i tell her to get rid of it without hurting her feelings?...
A. 29 June 2008: She could be one of these women who has decided not to shave under there anymore. Men dont and a lot of women think why should we do it if they dont.
My mum has stopped shaving there and is 63. When I come round and she's gardening in a little stra... (read in full...)
My 8 month old son will not eat lumpy food!!
Q. I have an 8 month old son who has decided to not eat his solids and I can not get him to eat lumpy food it has to be pureed otherwise he just gags on it and then throws up. It's really getting me down now cos im worried he wont ever eat lumpy food ...
A. 29 June 2008: My middle son wouldnt eat lumpy food for ages and at 14 STILL wont eat lumpy yoghurts or mince beef!
Rarely children have a problem but mostly a lot of kids go through this and they all eat lumps at different times.
First of all stop worrying... (read in full...)
What would happen if the police caught a 30 year old kissing a 15 year old???
Q. what would happen if the police caught a 30year old kissing a 15year old?? ...
A. 29 June 2008: Whilst there may not be a law against I think they would take it very seriously as Diovan says they make think he has been grooming you. This could lead to him being investigated, his computer checked for kiddie porn and him being watched. Both of ... (read in full...)
What could this blood mean when I go to the bathroom?
Q. ah, so i was going to the bathroom and when i whiped there was blood on the toilet paper. i kept whiping and there was more blood. it wasn't even like red, it was more orangish. what could this be? i just finished my period yesterday so it can't be ...
A. 29 June 2008: Its perfectly normal to have different colours at the beginning and end of your period. I always get a little bit of light coloured stuff one day and then 2 days later my period comes. Same at the end of the period, I think its all finished but ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my girlfriend to shave her pubic area?
Q. Hi there, as i've become more sexually active with my partner, i've wanted to try more and more different things with her. However, she is very hairy 'down south' and I really can't think of anyway I could ask her politely, to shave her pubic ...
A. 29 June 2008: Whatever you do do not mention it to her friends, she will be absolutely mortified and may never forgive you!!!
And dont do what a friend of mine did when he met a woman who didnt shave ANYTHING. He was so turned off by her armpits, bush and hair... (read in full...)
Getting married in a month, but I don't love my fiance! I know we'll be divorced in a couple of years....
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for almost 11 years, engaged for a year and a half, and are getting married in a month. I don't think I have ever really loved her. Its hard to summarize our history, there's a lot and not much of it is pretty....
A. 29 June 2008: How sad that you told yourself realtionships were about boredom, nagging and humiliation.
Do not marry this woman, relationships are wonderful, life changing, fun, challenging and exhilerating. Sod the expense, cancel the wedding as you are so wron... (read in full...)
My husband has severe anger and control issues, will this ever change?
Q. Help, my husband of only 1 1/2 years is very controlling, he does not let me have any friends and has even made me give up my best friend. He swears at me and calls me names on a daily basis and even insults my kids. I don't want to be without him ...
A. 29 June 2008: It will only get worse. He is enjoying this power and the more he gets the more he will want. The physical side to his abuse will get more frequent and possibly more violent with time. Get out now before he really hurts you or your children. You do ... (read in full...)
I have to keep backing of because she suspects us! How should I handle this?
Q. Hi, after 27yrs i have full circled and meet up with my First love, who i fell inlove with when i was 14yrs old and he 17yrs old, We will call him J. i was married for 13yrs to another man had 3 children that were not his but he brought them up. ...
A. 29 June 2008: It angers me when women use their children as weapons and this women is behaving very badly. I appreciate she has been hurt when he left her for you but why make the children suffer.
It doesnt matter now under what circumstances you two got toge... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling inferior to his ex? Am I too sensitive?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. In the beginning, he said he was friends with his ex-girlfriend. They were together for six years. I started dating him knowing this and being okay with it. I'm friends with one of my exes too. ...
A. 29 June 2008: He obviously still feels responsible for this girl in some way. As you say they were togther 6 years but I dont feel she should expect to still be such a major part in his life, thats not healthy.
If you dont want to give ultimatums then you do have... (read in full...)
Group sex may be fun, but at the same time, I feel it's cheating.
Q. my boyfriend and i have a great sex life (when we find time lol) well we are planning a camping trip with another couple (who are married) for next weekend. my boyfriend mentioned to me that they may ask us to join them for group sex, because they...
A. 27 June 2008: Its personal choice. My husband and I would not have group sex (and yes we have discussed it) as we both agreed we could not bear to see the other one having sex with someone else, I love him too much to want to share him.
I think there are also... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a father, I need your guidance.
Q. Need advice, I recieved an email from a girl I slept with about 6 weeks ago, saying she is now pregant, wants to keep the baby and wants nothing from me and is willing to cut off all commuication. I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a fa...
A. 27 June 2008: Ok you say you are not ready to be a father, but the fact is this child is on the way now and you will be one in some way or other whether you like it or not. I am not being nasty just trying to be realistic.
If she has emailed you to let you know... (read in full...)
My pregnant fiance says she doesn't know if she loves me anymore! How can I sort this out without pushing us further apart???
Q. my girlfriend is hving my baby, she is 12wks along. We had numerous conversations about starting a family, getting married etc before we got pregnant. We went and looked at rings, tux's etc. We do not live together. Since becoming pregnant she has ...
A. 27 June 2008: It could be she is scared and is pushing you away, hormones are very powerful things and more so when pregnant. Or as she says she may have just realised she is not in love with you. I think only time will tell.
In the meantime just make it abso... (read in full...)
Help! I might want to break up and still love him!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We have lived together (rented) for two years and have two cats together. We have the same friends and our families love us. I have been feeling uncertain about us for about 5 months and now it's get...
A. 27 June 2008: If you are not in love with him then you need to let him know as it is not fair to him. You are obviously unhappy and if you feel that you cant get this relationship back on track then you will have to call it a day. Look into the terms of your ... (read in full...)
My free-loading bf left me and our daughter! Should I ask for money?
Q. I have a relationship problem that I would like advice with. My boyfriend and the father of my child has left me. We had a disagreement about money. The way things are is that I pay all the bills, rent, food, childcare costs (we both work), heating, ...
A. 27 June 2008: I think you are better off without him, I cant believe he wont work for less than £10 an hour, most people cant be that selective. He knows that when he is out of work you will support him so there is absolutely no incentive to find work.
If you ... (read in full...)
How can I leave this man?
Q. Im pregnant,and the father asked me to have an abortion. I considered this, but unable to go through with it. I have told him that I have chosen to follow throught with the pregnancy. He has stated that he would stay by me. But when I bring up the ...
A. 27 June 2008: There are two things that could happen here.
He may get worse and resent the baby when it comes along and you will have a miserable life until one of you decides to do something about it.
Or he could fall head over heels in love with the baby onc... (read in full...)
I feel I am probably losing her - what can I do?
Q. Hi, I met my girlfriend in high school. We went to college in the same city. After college I bought an apartment and we moved together. We have been together for 10 years. I am her only serious boyfriend. We are the best friend of each other an...
A. 27 June 2008: She is putting all the blame on you and you are taking it as you feel it must be your fault that she cheated. It takes two to make it work and if she was that unhappy she could have spoken out about it rather than sleep with someone else, we all get ... (read in full...)
Her 7 year old daughter asks for money from me! Is this normal?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles! i have known my friend for almost 8 years now and am godmother to her eldest daughter who is 7.Her daughter is very spoilt.My friend is quite soft with her -she tells her off but its not convincing. My godaughter when thr...
A. 27 June 2008: She's just used to getting her own way and obviously associates vistors with presents or money. My grandparents used to live away and by the time I was 6 or 7 the first thing I did when they visited was run to the boot of their car to see what ... (read in full...)
Marriage laws between countries?
Q. My friend has been separated for eight years. Her husband left for France. My friend says her husband married a french woman. (They are separated not divorced.) Can some one who is still married in his own country, marry another one in a differen...
A. 27 June 2008: It doesnt matter where he was married the first time it is legally binding and what he has done is illegal. She cannot marry either unless she gets divorced soon. As he effectively abandoned her 8 years ago she may be able to get a very quick ... (read in full...)
Diminishing relationship..How can I spruce it up? Help!
Q. How can I spice up my relationship? Ive been with this guy for just over a year now but he seems to have lost interest. Its like hes too tired and pre-occupied to show me any attention. Im only young, in my early 20's...and feel i deserve to be ...
A. 27 June 2008: Dont give up so easily. The honeymoon period doesnt last forever and the secret to a long and happy relationship is accepting that there will always be lows and highs and its how you deal with them that counts.
Find out why he is so distant, is some... (read in full...)
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