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Should the child always come first before a relationship?
Q. Should the child always come first before a relationship? I am dating a widowed guy with a kid who prefers to give up sex with me if his daughter (seven) wants to sleep in bed with us that night. He doesn't ask me if I mind first. Every major li...
A. 19 June 2008: I cant believe this is still going on! We obviously havent given you the answer you wanted to hear and maybe we are never going to, thats the beauty of this site a lot of people give honest answers based on experience or opinion, you dont have to ... (read in full...)
Is he a player or is he just not the guy for me?
Q. hey, well i met this guy a while ago and we've just started going out,he's 18 and im 13 and we live quite far apart from each other,he treats me really well and everything, but sometimes he tells me that girls at his college come on to him sit on h...
A. 19 June 2008: He's bascially trying to get YOU to sit on his lap and kiss him and maybe wants to go a bit further and thinks by making you jealous he can pressure you into something you are not ready for. If he ever says if you loved me you would..... run a ... (read in full...)
Blonde, skinny, and beautiful--so why can't I find a great guy?
Q. im young, blonde, skinny, and beautiful.(i'm not trying to be conceited) but i cant seem to find good a guy...im not sure if this is my fault or i just have bad luck?...
A. 19 June 2008: We rarely find love when we look and also guys are sometimes intimidated by young attractive girls. When I left my first hubbie everyone said I wouldnt be on the shelf long, i wasnt that young (32) but looked around 25 mostly cos I was so skinny, ... (read in full...)
Younger man vs. older man, what shall I do?
Q. I have been dating a man 10 years younger than me. Now a man that is 40, 5 years older than me wants to date me. He is a very reputable and kind person but cannot offer me much, as he is getting out of a divorce now and is very hurt by it. Th...
A. 19 June 2008: I dont think you can judge just by age. I dated older guys all my life, anything from 4 to 10 years older but rarely guys my own age and certainly never younger as I felt they were immature and couldnt really give me what I wanted. My hubbie is 3 ... (read in full...)
I'm Heartbroken..I'm not pregnant and I want that baby!
Q. Hi, first of all, I realize that what I am saying will not be taken so well by a lot of people. What I'm saying is just my honest emotions, so I can't really control how I feel, instead of writing me hate mail, please just help, I really need it. ...
A. 19 June 2008: First of all I'm not going to write you hate mail. Wanting a baby at whatever age is a real, painful, mixed emotion.
Yes you are a little young, in my eyes. I had my first two in my early twenties and it was hard work but then so is my 3rd who is 3... (read in full...)
Should I go against myself and be a FWB, and enjoy myself with him and be heartbroken if he finds true love elsewhere, or do I cut my losses and run?
Q. I'm 32 and recently began chatting online to a really great 37 year guy. We got on really well, and after about a month, we met up. And got on really really well. I stayed at his and we had a great weekend together. (yes we slept togethe...
A. 17 June 2008: I would be inclined to say cut your losses as it sounds as though is will lead to heartbreak. Your intuition may be telling you he could be the one but if he is not in the same place emotionally as you then it wont matter what you feel.
Dont cont... (read in full...)
Any tips for giving a handjob?
Q. ive been totally in love with my best friend for like 2 years and a couple weeks ago he told me he felt the same way so we started going out. so we've been fooling around and he can turn me on without any effort and even make me sqeal without ...
A. 16 June 2008: Right if he practically worships you like youre out of his league, that may be why he isnt getting erect. He IS nervous as you are this amazing person to him. The best thing to do is not worry about technique but actually take this a bit slower. ... (read in full...)
Could this be love?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my bf for about two months. The feelings I feel for him are amazing, yet scary because its too soon. I've been in a lot of dating/relationships in the past with men and I think I am mature enough to tell the ...
A. 16 June 2008: Yes sounds like love!! Dont worry if it feels too soon. Just take things slow, he may be falling for you just as quickly you know!
Enjoy what you have together and dont worry about it, he may be the one telling you soon that he loves you x ... (read in full...)
I want to be loved. I need somebody.
Q. i'm still young so i can't say that i know what's love like. but, there's this guy who i like very much since 1st grade and we were together some time ago and he dumped me. we even had sex, and he told me that he loves me, but now, i'm not so sure. ...
A. 16 June 2008: You are still going through the pain of losing this guy, it does take time and you will find someone else even if at the moment you feel really alone. Do you have any close girlfriends you can share this with as it often helps to talk about these ... (read in full...)
Do opposites attract?
Q. I've recently come out of a long term relationship and almost straight away started dating someone new. Its all happened quite fast and we are pretty 'infatuated' with each other, i.e sex is amazing and we really enjoy being together... and tell ...
A. 16 June 2008: Being the same doesnt always work, if you are both extrovert, loud etc it can lead to competition. So by being opposites you can often complement each other. I can be quite shy until I get to know people, I avoid crowds and busy places. My husband ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bf about my drunken flirting?
Q. Recently when out and quite drunk I got talking to this guy who was really dead on. He knew I had a boyfriend and he had a girlfriend. I was chatting to him for ages about both our partners and lots of other things. But as the alcohol started ...
A. 16 June 2008: No dont tell him, it was harmless flirting and even in your drunken state you realised you had to move away, that is also why you voiced it aloud, simply because you were drunk. It doesnt mean anything so let it lie x... (read in full...)
I want to do more sexy things for my boyfriend...
Q. Me and my bf have been together for almost two years now and we've has sex plenty of times but it seems that I'm always the one enjoying it better. Don't get me wrong he gets off and says he is when I ask him but he always does all the work. I'm not ...
A. 16 June 2008: Shave his balls first, or let him do it if he's scared! But dont tell him why (or maybe they are already shaved)
Then using your tongue, hands and mouth, lick, suck and caress his balls and downwards slightly with only the barest of 'acc... (read in full...)
My love for my wife has faded! And my size seems to be a problem for both women in my life!
Q. I am married and I love another woman but I can't make a decision as to what to do. I love my wife but I'm not in love with my wife but i love our life, family and most of all my son. I am going crazy as to what to do. I can't imagine breaking this ...
A. 16 June 2008: You cant have your cake and eat it, you have to decide. if you are not in love with your wife then try and get the sparkle back, its your responsibility as much as hers. As another auntie has said, love changes, when youre in it for the long haul ... (read in full...)
Addicted to going through his stuff - he's going to leave me - help!
Q. So, I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We dated 7 years ago for a few short months and broke up because he was cheating on me. He called me three years ago and we have been together since. For about the last year we have been fighting ...
A. 16 June 2008: Stop yourself from doing this. Its just like anything that requires will power, stopping smoking, dieting etc, you have to really want to stop and try and break the cycle. The only other answer if you really cant is to try counselling as you have ... (read in full...)
My pubic hair keeps growing back! And I don't like waxing! Any ideas?
Q. What shall i do with my pubic hair. i have shaved it but it keeps growing back. And i don't like the stuble. Waxing isn't an option what shall i do? ...
A. 16 June 2008: You can use creams if its just your bikini line or a bit of shaping but dont use it all over as if it gets on your 'lips' or inside by accident it bloody well stings!!... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my stepbrother! What should I do?
Q. I am in love with my step brother. We've been seeing each other in secret for the past year. We know it's wrong, but he's the only one who gets me. My sister caught us together and won't even look at me, and she has threatened to tell my mum. But i ...
A. 16 June 2008: Ok if you dont share a parent at all i.e. have completely different fathers and mothers then it is NOT wrong. You are not blood related in this case and this happens an awful lot. Yes you're famiy may be disappointed but that doesnt mean what you ... (read in full...)
Could someone please clear up the 'Hymen Situation'?
Q. I am really confused about the 'hymen' situation, i have been horse-riding all my life - so has my hymen broke!? or will you just never know.... is sex easier when your hymen is broke?? :S...
A. 16 June 2008: Most young girls hymen is broken long before they have sex as they ride horses use tampons etc etc so its nothing to worry about. As for sex it wont make a lot of difference its only a very thin piece of tissue on the outside of your vagina its not ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my gf about our sex life, without hurting her, or us ending up arguing?!?
Q. Hey cyber world, I'm 24 years old and I have been with my current girlfriend for the past four years. When it comes to our sex life, well I can explain it pretty simply, boring. I almost feel as if it is a chore for her to have sex with me unles...
A. 16 June 2008: Well as you've already said she wont try new things and just seems to lay there thinking of england (an old english expression!) then there is only one answer. You have to talk to her whether it causes a problem or not, you just have to convince her ... (read in full...)
How do men or women prefer to see the pubic area on their partners??
Q. How do men or women prefer to see the pubic area on their partners: shaved, trimed or with some sort of design?...
A. 16 June 2008: Everyone's different. I like men to shave their balls and if its really wild trim the rest too x... (read in full...)
Why still no commitment from him after 6 years?
Q. hello I am in need of some help please. I have been in volved with a man for 6 yrs. We met and clicked very well! He is 43 and I am 33. He has NEVER been married nor has children. He has only lived with one woman for 2 yrs. He owns his own house and ...
A. 16 June 2008: If he has come to you and said that he does want it to work and he puts everything into it then yes it could, its not like you have pushed him into a corner to try and change him which would result him being unhappy and eventually running away from ... (read in full...)
I think my teacher likes me
Q. ok, i know how it sounds, but im in love with my teacher. it is not a crush, and people piss me off when they think they know better how im feeling then i do, just beacuse im 6 short months away from legaly being an adult. My friends see how he is ...
A. 16 June 2008: Love is a very strange and difficult and magical feeling and when people tell you its just a crush I can see why you get annoyed, youre right they cant tell you how you feel. But they are mostly talking from experience. Many of us have thought we ... (read in full...)
What else can I do to get over my ex?
Q. My online ex dumped me a few months back and we have being comunicating now and again. We exchange e-mails on a daily basis. A few days ago, we talked, like properly and it felt like we were "us" again. Thing is I know he's over me and I know tha...
A. 15 June 2008: It takes time to get over these things and sometimes there is not really a lot you can do as the feelings just come out of the blue and make you feel bad all over again.
The best thing to do is to distract yourself, keep busy, find something new ... (read in full...)
Should I go further? I don't want to be a teenage dad!
Q. My girlfriend have been together have been together for nearly six months now and are very happy.We have got as far as me with my top off and her with her bra undone but still have her top on. I want to go a bit further and suggest oral but...
A. 15 June 2008: Heavy petting is enough for now and to me oral sex is still sex and wouldnt want my kids taking that step at such a young age.
Its ok saying you wouldnt want to go beyond oral but in the heat of the moment it is all to easy to get carried away and ... (read in full...)
I want to tease my boyfriend down the phone. Any ideas?
Q. I want to really tease my boyfriend down the phone. I know it sounds silly but has anyone got ideas?? ...
A. 15 June 2008: Oh absolutely do the second suggestion by DiovanLestat, that way he is the one that gets all messed up and sweaty not you!!!!
Have fun x... (read in full...)
Do the signs show that he's more than a really nice friend?
Q. Hi everyone....I wanted to find out are these signs of a guy really liking me or if he's just being a really nice friend. Well we've been friends for 14 years and we've both recently broke up with our ex's due to them cheating. We've aint talked for ...
A. 15 June 2008: Its hard to tell really. He does seem to bending over backwards to please you. I also get the impression you want him to be interested in more than friendship!
Just take it slowly,one step at a time and see where it leads. You dont want to set your... (read in full...)
I'm hurt, heartbroken and confused. I don't want the kids to feel it's all my fault.
Q. hi to everyone, im a 43 yr old woman that has been married to a 45 yr old man for 25 yrs, we have three kids together, two of them are rasied and out on there own, the third is here with me, anyway, about a month and half ago, my husband and i had a ...
A. 15 June 2008: First of all Im sorry you are having to go through this and that you are not getting any support.
You have to explain to your older sons that you need to be allowed to deal with this your way. They have left home and can just get on with their own ... (read in full...)
I want to take our relationship to the next level, but I don't want to ruin it by being too intimate too soon
Q. I've recently started dating a new guy that I'm really into. We've only known eachother about 2 weeks, but I haven't been this excited about a guy since my first crush. I can tell that we're both very attracted to each other (physically, ...
A. 15 June 2008: There is no set time but the build up is great and the anticipation really does make it all the more special when you do it.
Its great that you are thinking about this, from my own experience I think you feel that this guy could really be some... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain this dream?
Q. Right well i had this dream about this boy i like it went like me and him were going out togther and i was famous and i was walking and i saw he had sighed somthing saying i was fake then i was in the toliet then i came out and he was holding a cake ...
A. 15 June 2008: It doesnt really mean anything, youre dreaming about him because you like him but the bit about him saying you are fake could be because you are worried he doesnt like you back. Dreams are just our thoughts and innermost feelings but they come out ... (read in full...)
Am I the selfish one?
Q. Hi I need help, about three years ago I left my husband of 10years to move in with my present partner who left his partner of 23 years, I have four children from a previous marriage and he had two children with his partner, my husband and I had not ...
A. 15 June 2008: No you are not asking too much you are just with the wrong guy. It sounds like you jumped straight into this relationship and whilst he may have been a family friend you really didnt know him very well.
When you first got together it seemed wond... (read in full...)
Should I try to get close to her by donating to her sister's charity?
Q. Ok, so I really like this girl: younger, still in college (I'm 23, one year out of school). We dated long distance for a couple months before she broke it off before coming home for the summer. I was affected by this more than I thought I would ...
A. 15 June 2008: If you want to donate to the charity then do it anyway. Then just let Ann know you've donated and how great it is that her sister is doing this. This will get the lines of communication open again and you can ask her for a date.
I just worry that... (read in full...)
Is my penis a normal length?
Q. I am a 15 year old male and my penis is 2 inches when i'm not "excited" and 3 inches when i am "excited". Is this normal?...
A. 15 June 2008: You wont stop growing for some years yet and as I have posted to other young men of your age my nephew was so worried about his penis his mum took him to docs who assured him it was normal and he hadnt done growing yet x (and yes it did get a lot ... (read in full...)
How can I get the help I need without anybody finding out?
Q. I've tried to battle through symptoms I see as "depression" for years now, but I never seem to actually get anywhere. I'm not the typical type of depressed teen you see, as I always try to keep a brave face and a low profle just so nobody actually ...
A. 15 June 2008: Ok the first thing you do is talk to someone. I can tell how unhappy you are and you are right you do need help and you've taken the biggest step of all by realising this.
Given your age and the fact you are in uk I would suggest you talk to someo... (read in full...)
Not sure I want children, will I regret this?
Q. Evening everyone. I come from a large Italian family and Im due to marry my fiance who is also Italian in October. My problem is that im not sure I want children. I have discussed this with my fiance and he is convinced that in a few years I will...
A. 14 June 2008: Who knows what the future will bring. I still think you should marry him as long as he knows how you feel at the moment. It may come to a point where one of you wants different things but that can happen in any marriage.
I didnt have a particul... (read in full...)
Why has my husband got a secret lock code on his phone?
Q. Can anyone tell me what could be the reason for my husband having a secret lock code in his cell. He cheated on me once and could this be he cheating me still? Do any of your husbands or you yourself do as such? When he was cheating on me the same...
A. 14 June 2008: My husband has never had a lock on his phone and I wouldnt expect him to, why would he need to?? Maybe some married couples do this but I would be naturally suspicious if my hubbie did this and would want to know why x... (read in full...)
I've missed coursework deadlines and now I'm worried my overall grade may suffer. How can I calm myself down??
Q. Hello all. This may not be a relationship question, but I could really use your advice. All of my college assignments must be handed in by Monday afternoon. I have been a good student. I've put a lot of effort into my work over the past 2 years...
A. 14 June 2008: Pop to the herbal shop and ask for something like 'calms' or 'bach' remedy, they may make you feel better even if it is only psychologically. Next plan what you have to do and tackle one assignment at a time and do your best. If worse comes to the ... (read in full...)
Gaining weight on my face and arms. Could I see a difference in just one day?
Q. Recently i've noticed that i gain some weight on my body.i notice the weight gain more on my face, and arms.Is it possible for me to drop 5 pounds in one day? I plan to excercise for almost the whole entire day tommorow before father's day on ...
A. 14 June 2008: You may lose water through sweat but you will probably not see a difference in your appearance especially in specific areas as you are unlikely to burn fat that quickly. If you are unhappy with your weight you need to tackle your diet first and also ... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexual relationship with my (step) brother! Is it love?
Q. Hi. This is really awkward, but I don't have anyone else to ask. I am 16. My step-brother is 17. We have always been close, and have been raised as brothers since we were small. We started fooling around sexually about two years ago. At first, ...
A. 14 June 2008: If you have different mothers and fathers then there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Some people may frown on it as you have been raised as 'brothers' but with no blood ties this happens a lot more then you think it does, you are not the ... (read in full...)
Should the child always come first before a relationship?
Q. Should the child always come first before a relationship? I am dating a widowed guy with a kid who prefers to give up sex with me if his daughter (seven) wants to sleep in bed with us that night. He doesn't ask me if I mind first. Every major li...
A. 14 June 2008: This girl has lost her mother and I am afraid she will always come first as he doesnt want her to ever feel pain like that again. yes he has probably over indulged her but what a lot she must have been through. If you cant strike a happy balance, ... (read in full...)
I have Asperger's Syndrome and find it difficult to spot flirting signts... any tips?
Q. I'd like some help with a little problem I have, since I have a form of Autism (Asperger's Syndrome) I have a little difficulty understanding body language. My question is this, how can I tell if a girl finds me attractive or if they are flirting? ...
A. 11 June 2008: Most men have difficulty spotting the signs, some girls are naturally flirty but dont mean anything by it and others are very shy and hide their feelings.
If you are interested then you can always ask for a date if you think she is showing ... (read in full...)
Can he really change after sleeping with an escort in our marital home?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 15 years, my husband never showered me with the love and affection I craved for. We have 3 beautiful children. I went away with the children and found out that he had an Escort in our house two days in a row. When I ...
A. 11 June 2008: If you do decide to stay it will not be easy especially as it happened in the marital home as it will really mess with your mind knowing he has had sex there with someone else. I dont think you can go forward or even try to forgive until you ask ... (read in full...)
Is he my boyfriend yet?
Q. I have been casually dating this guy since December, seeing him when both of our sched.s allowed, but we were never exclusive. We talked briefly about having a relationship in February and decided to keep progressing as we were by taking things...
A. 11 June 2008: You have to establish where you stand with him and I honestly think the only way to do this is to ask him outright. Good luck x... (read in full...)
My husband told me he wants my breast to be bigger!!
Q. My husband once said to me he loves my breasts to be a little bigger. I want bigger breasts too coz when my period is over I have much smaller breasts. *tears* Any help?...
A. 11 June 2008: I think its great if you both want you to have bigger boobs but its just as bad for him to say it as it would be to say I wish you had a smaller bum!! Bless him maybe he just didnt think and probably didnt mean to hurt you, some men can be a little ... (read in full...)
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