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Beard or Sheared?
Q. I am trying to get close to girl at the moment and am hoping to make a move over the few times we go out but i am wondering if i should shave. I have about 10 days worth of growth and like to keep it that way because i think i look far too young ...
A. 4 September 2008: My husband no longer shaves but keeps a bit of stubble that he trims regularly. I find it very sexy but all girls are different. If this is how she is used to you looking leave it for now x... (read in full...)
How can I avoid them without being offensive?
Q. Hi, My friend has 2 annoying children and a partner who is always out what he can get (freeloader). They always insist on meeting up or coming over to my house which i dread as the children always have tantrums and misbehave. Even when i go over t...
A. 4 September 2008: Why not arrange to have lunch once or twice a month with just your friend either on a weekday when the kids are at school, in your lunch break if you can, or on a saturday. She might appreciate the break from the children. As a compromise you ... (read in full...)
Dating both of us in parallel? Why would someone do somthing like this?
Q. I have been seeing someone for about 4 months and recently found out that he has been double dating - seeing me part of the week and the other lady the other part. He has shared the same restaurants, jokes, smooth talking lines and everything. He ...
A. 4 September 2008: Because he can. He got away with it for awhile and will probably do this again and again. Let her have him you are well rid x ... (read in full...)
Do you think my friend and I should confront him about him going red etc.?
Q. I'm 14 and i really like this guy who is 15 and is in the year above at school. I've known him since we were in primary school. I've liked him for a few years now and i think i love him. ( Do not say that because im 14 i can't be in love) Last S...
A. 4 September 2008: Dont embarrass the poor guy! Try talking to him and letting him know you are interested too. Smile sweetly at him and be nice, if he thinks you are out to humiliate him he will run a mile x... (read in full...)
How can I show him I want to move up into our relationship without freaking him out?
Q. I have a good male friend - I would say our relationship is somewhere between friends and lovers. We only see each other occasionally, although I see him as part of my work at least once a week. Last year he needed me more because he was coming out ...
A. 4 September 2008: I dont mean thats all we did by the way, it wasnt lunch one day and sex the next, it took months, honest!... (read in full...)
How can I show him I want to move up into our relationship without freaking him out?
Q. I have a good male friend - I would say our relationship is somewhere between friends and lovers. We only see each other occasionally, although I see him as part of my work at least once a week. Last year he needed me more because he was coming out ...
A. 4 September 2008: Just take it slowly. Once you have had dinner, suggest your next meeting, let it build up into a relationship. Thats what normally happens when you are older. Its only the teenagers that say 'Will you go out with me'!!! My husband and I never ... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: Most guys wouldnt tell a cosmetically enhanced one from a normal one. They dont peer at it with a microscope and are more interested in getting inside it than looking at it!! Ok im gonna share here and Im sober!!! I have one 'lip' much larger than ... (read in full...)
He has been so distant after I told him I loved him!
Q. I met a guy online. We started as good friends. Then progressed to more than that. He's a very dedicated father so time was an issue but I was ok with that. We texted and talked online alot. In the past 5 months the relationship has gotten m...
A. 4 September 2008: Have you actually met or has it just been an online relationship?? x... (read in full...)
Desperate for parenting advice when should one mom tell the other mom her dauighter is sleeping around
Q. my daughters best friend is 15 and she recently lost her virginity. after missing her period, my daughter asked me to buy a pregnacie test so I did. Well thank god she wasnt pregnant!! I did not tell her mom I gave her the mom lecture about what I ...
A. 4 September 2008: The best solution here is maybe to try and get the girl to confide in her mum herself. She needs to inform her mum she is sleeping with boys and needs to get on the pill and get in a ready supply of condoms to prevent std's. Its no good expecting ... (read in full...)
Please help me choose my wedding dress!
Q. I've posted problems here before and tonight I'm going to keep it lighthearted and happy! I'm having a real hard time picking out a wedding dress. Me and my fiance havent set a date yet but me being typical female means i'm already looking ...
A. 4 September 2008: I like the idea of the first corset in red and black with the last skirt, the petticoat but I also think the purple outfit is stunning and very sexy. Also the last one that superrrshawna suggested is a good mix of what you want and a more ... (read in full...)
We are a happy couple but his adult daughter are trying to break us apart!
Q. Help! My bf and I are both divorced with grown children and I have one (14) at home. He lives in another town and we have made our 3 hour distance relationship work fine for 9 months. The trouble is that his adult daughters are jealous of me and are ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well you could cut and run and decide that the daughters are not worth all this hassle, but then they have won.
I have had the opposite side of this where my ex husband has chosen his girlfriend over his own children. She has manipulated him and ... (read in full...)
After his brother died, his parents have been extra protective of him and it's affecting our relationship!
Q. Hi everyone I have a gorgeous boyfriend of 7 months. We are both 19 and for the past 6 months i have been spending most nights living with him and his parents. We came to realise we both needed some nights apart to catch up with friends, do our ...
A. 4 September 2008: You are not being unreasonable but you can probably understand what his parents are going through. They are now scared to lose their only remaining son and want to keep him with them and safe at all times. However they do need to realise that they ... (read in full...)
What is the age when guys start making sperm?
Q. at what age does the sperm generally come out ...
A. 4 September 2008: When you hit puberty. This usually starts just before 12, and takes 3 or 4 years to complete x... (read in full...)
I feel that if he gets a new phone he's going to hide things from me!
Q. For some reason I have some weird insecurities. Me and my boyfriend have lived together for the past 8 months and I love it we do almost everything together - because we enjoy all the same things and we have alot of fun doing all those things. ...
A. 4 September 2008: So you are never ever ever apart from each other?? What about work or college or uni??? x... (read in full...)
I feel that if he gets a new phone he's going to hide things from me!
Q. For some reason I have some weird insecurities. Me and my boyfriend have lived together for the past 8 months and I love it we do almost everything together - because we enjoy all the same things and we have alot of fun doing all those things. ...
A. 3 September 2008: Its ok sharing a phone but not very practical when you cant be together 24/7!! Of course he needs his own phone. Apart from needing to be in contact with work or family and friends there may be times when he wants it to ring you and if your ... (read in full...)
Should I buy some flowers or something for when I meet up with her?
Q. Hello, Following on from the question about the piece of music I wrote for the girl I'm meeting Freshers' week and have flirted a bit with (should have mentioned it was an instrumental). We actually have agreed to meet before then. Next week someti...
A. 3 September 2008: Looks and weight arent everything and this girl already likes your personality so wont automatically judge you by looks as she feels that connection to start with. The music is enough for now, forget the flowers. Be a gentleman and above all avoid ... (read in full...)
When a guy's dad says, "has gone soft on her," what does that mean and why would he say that?
Q. hmmm ok when someone says like for example a lads dad says "hes gone soft on her" to his son or something what does it actually mean and what would make him say this? just curious...
A. 3 September 2008: It usually means he likes the girl x... (read in full...)
I want to be able to feel that passion again since my miscarriage. It seems like I'm the one who's making all the first moves.
Q. I am a happily married women who went through a miscarriage a few months ago. My body has taken a while to get back on track but I'm finally there. Ever since the miscarriage my husband has been worried about causing 'problems' for me if we have...
A. 3 September 2008: Firstly Im sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Your husband's feeling could still be to do with this, he probably has trapped feelings that have not been dealt with properly. I think sometimes people dont realise that the man has lost a baby too ... (read in full...)
When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?
Q. Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...
A. 3 September 2008: First kiss 14, first 'steady boyfriend' nearly 15 - lasted 6 months I think. Then I met my first husband at nearly 16 years old and that lasted 17 years.
Dont worry, dont rush it, it will happen!! xx... (read in full...)
I met a man my age at the restaurant, we then talked by phone every night for almost a week, is it possible to feel something so special so soon? What do you recommend?
Q. I recently went to restaurant for breakfast, and I met a man my age. He came to sit by me, and we talked about our jobs. He gave me his phone number,and paid for my breakfast which I did not know he did. I called him back that evening to thank ...
A. 3 September 2008: I met my husband one night and he took my phone number. He called me the next day to take me for lunch and i just KNEW something special was happening. He worked away at that time and I went on holiday so it was a few weeks before we met again and ... (read in full...)
How could she be so careless with birth control?
Q. Hi, im 25 and my girlfirend 23. i am a college student with one more year to go. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. I took her virginity and we never use condoms. at first we used pull-out method, but after a few pregnancy scares, ...
A. 3 September 2008: Its normal to forget i used to do it all the time. Use a condom as well so theres no chance of pregnancy x... (read in full...)
Why did he last so long during sex?
Q. my friend have a guy friend that have sexual inner course with for a long time (8 hours) and she is tired of him but scare to let him no. She don't no what to do. She think that he have a problem about how long he last. she ask him is he taking any ...
A. 3 September 2008: Some guys enjoy going for this long, they dont realise that for most women its sore, painful and actually quite boring!!! I was with a guy who practised tantric sex where he could stop himself from coming. Yeah it was great to start with and I had ... (read in full...)
Can your vagina be depressed?
Q. help! can your vagina bee depressed? im disabled and have been on anti-depressants for 7 years as a pain killer and to help with the situation of becoming disabled, i came off of my anti -depressants 8 months ago and ever since sex has been painful ...
A. 3 September 2008: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=386
sorry this one is better!... (read in full...)
Can your vagina be depressed?
Q. help! can your vagina bee depressed? im disabled and have been on anti-depressants for 7 years as a pain killer and to help with the situation of becoming disabled, i came off of my anti -depressants 8 months ago and ever since sex has been painful ...
A. 3 September 2008: http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx97.htm
Try this link above for vaginismus x... (read in full...)
How can I get my 20 month old son to nap during the day?
Q. Hello i wonder if anyne can give me some advice. Our son is 20 months old and up until about a week ago he had a nap from 11:00 in the morning until 12:00, was then up for the rest of the day until 6:30 when he would go to bed and wakes up at about ...
A. 3 September 2008: He's just outgrown it and no longer needs his afternoon nap. I found that if I took my son out in the morning to an activity he would sleep on the way home and I could lift him out and lay him on the sofa for a while and get some jobs done. After ... (read in full...)
Why do relationships rarely stem from casual sex? How do I stop this behavior?
Q. So I am having trouble with refraining myself from engaging in casual sex. I always feel very crappy the next day and tell myself that it is mentally unhealthy. I want to stop but it is easier said than done. For some reason when considering it I ...
A. 3 September 2008: The type of men you are meeting are most likely out looking for casual sex, why would they want a relationship when they can get sex with lots of different girls? They are not looking for love just a quick fix. You on the other hand are probably ... (read in full...)
Am I depressed or do I just need to raise my self esteem?
Q. So I am willing to admit that I have low self-esteem and am very self-conscious. At times I can be depressed because of this but I don't feel it is that serious that I would need to seek medical help. I grew up watching my mother take 10-12 pills ...
A. 3 September 2008: If you drink to make yourself feel better you will only feel worse, alcohol is a depressant. People wont like you more because you are drunk quite the opposite. As for casual sex, how do you feel the next day? Used?? Dirty? Even more depressed? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend believes marriages aren't happy. How do I change her opinion?
Q. I'm currently with a woman who is in love with me, or so I believe, and yet is afraid to have children or get married. We've only been seeing eachother for 5 months, so I'm hoping she'll change in a year or so...depending on how things go. If ...
A. 2 September 2008: Spontaniety!! Surprise her, do romantic things often enough that she adores you for it but not every day.
As for the marriage thing, did her parents have an unhappy marriage or divorce when she was young. Are her memories of childhood clouded ... (read in full...)
I'm incredibly afraid of my abusive husband...
Q. I have a problem i'm 22 years old and have been married for over 2 year. I have recently become awary of my husband abusive nature. We fight alot and i dont know what to do i have told my family and they are trying to help but it seem to be getting ...
A. 2 September 2008: The alchoholism is probably the main problem here and many alcholics blame those nearest to them for what is happening and may use them as an excuse to drink even more.
Firstly try talking to him when he is sober, will he admit he has a prob... (read in full...)
How do I stop being horny all the time?
Q. Ive been single for about 5 months, which has ment no sex, the problem is im horny all the time, its driving me crazy and its all im thinking about How do i stop thinking about it? and how do i stop being horny 24/7? Should i just go and have a on...
A. 2 September 2008: One night stands tend to be crap and unsatisfying so you are back to square one the next day. If you feel horny masterbate, by a rampant rabbit!!!!
If you are not happy being single try new things and new places to meet someone x... (read in full...)
Could I be suffering from depression after my break up?
Q. Hi I'm after an answer to my problem. I split up with my ex after being treated very badly (he finished it). That was now nearly a year ago yet I feel like crying quite a lot when I think of him.Could I be depressed? I wanted to be friends but he ...
A. 2 September 2008: You dont need him back you need to move on. If he had wanted to come back he would have by now. Yes it sounds to me as though you are not in a truly happy place right now. you have options. You can shake yourself and say right today is the day I ... (read in full...)
Married man 'says' he wants to be with me....
Q. I'm going to start from the beginning...so bare with me please! I met this guy and we started talking. He was in town for business...and lives a couple hours away from me. We just talked, nothing sexual happened. We talked all night long, and it ...
A. 2 September 2008: Oh and scuse my spelling!!!!... (read in full...)
Married man 'says' he wants to be with me....
Q. I'm going to start from the beginning...so bare with me please! I met this guy and we started talking. He was in town for business...and lives a couple hours away from me. We just talked, nothing sexual happened. We talked all night long, and it ...
A. 2 September 2008: Ok he sounds like he is sorting out his life first. He has met you, has feelings for you and realised that he doesnt want to be with his wife anymore. He could have had sex and walked away and just used his marriage as an excuse, but he didnt. ... (read in full...)
What happens if you just don't pay rent for a month?
Q. I need to get some answers regarding rent payment in an apartment. My 2 roomates and I live in an apartment in orange county, ca. We are moving out on september 26th because we bought a home. yay!!! The thing is, our leasing office is horrible. They ...
A. 2 September 2008: Yes it could have implications on your score and its not worth the hassle. Ive been brought up to be honest so my answer is pay the rent whether or not they have been horrible to you as what goes around comes around and you dont want this to ever ... (read in full...)
Am I putting on too much pregnancy weight?
Q. hey there, Well i'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby(A boy!!). Before getting pregnant i was slightly underweight...About 100 lbs..(i'm 5'4)...i'm naturaly slim so this was a normal weight for me. in the early stages of pregnancy i didn...
A. 2 September 2008: Congratulations!!!!
I assume you are going for regular check ups and if the weight gain was excessive believe me the midwives would have told you by now!!! Sounds pretty ok to me but Im not an expert just a mum of three. I gained a lot with my firs... (read in full...)
Did I get my period sooner because of the coil?
Q. I went to have the coil fitted yesterday because I unluckily can't take the combined pill (I get migraines) and for some reason I react badly to the mini pill (I got terrible acne, lost my sex drive, got mood swings and headaches) However, because ...
A. 2 September 2008: I have the coil three times and bled each time afterwards, i also got a sort of jelly like discharge. Which type do you have?? The one with hormones can actually stop your periods after a while which can be a bonus but the ones without sometimes ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I had to compete with the computer for her attantion...
Q. why does my fiance always go online and ignore me and then get upset with me when i say something to her about being online all the time ??? We both had yearbook and tagged and myspace accounts and always argued over them so i erased all mine but ...
A. 2 September 2008: Tricky one but she maybe talking to people she doesnt want you to know about. My ex was insanely jealous of me talking to anyone but turned out he had 4 affairs, maybe its a case of I dont trust you because I know what Im up to x... (read in full...)
We've been trying to conceive with no results. Is there something wrong with us?
Q. I Recently got married and me and my Husband have been trying to concive for the past 3 months and we've had no luck. Im a little worried that maybe theres something wrong with me or him, I was checked out not to long ago and told everything was ...
A. 2 September 2008: Three months is nothing to worry about and at your age a doctor will tell you to come back when nothing has happened for at least a year in the uk.
Stop worrying so much and let nature take its course. If you dont want to pay out for ovulation kits... (read in full...)
Will she come back or is this her way to make me feel better?
Q. I have been with my wife for 17 years. We're compatible in lots of ways but sexually. The time we've been together I have found sex elsewhere. ( a man has needs) My lastest affair she has found about and is now leaving and has since bought a ...
A. 2 September 2008: Before I judge and tell you off for saying a man has needs I will say that there may be more to this than your post implies. When you say you are sexually incompatible for example it could mean you want it every day and she wants it 3 times a week ... (read in full...)
My husband is ready to leave but I don't know how to handle this!
Q. I need help! I have a husband who is ready to leave because he is just not happy! He can't tell you why but will tell you that it's our relationship! His moods change with me and everyone else including his children! I believe he is depress and ...
A. 2 September 2008: Even though you dont agree with it you have to let him do this. You simply tell the children that although both of you love them very very much, mum and dad need a bit of time away from each other. Dont make any false promises and if they ask you ... (read in full...)
I want to start having sex with him, but I'm afraid of the idea because I'm a virgin and he's not!
Q. Guys, I need your help! I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, I'm a virgin, he isn't. He is absolutely perfect and wonderful, a really nice person, caring and lovely and all of that, and before he asked me out we were pretty much best ...
A. 2 September 2008: It will probably be better for you with someone who knows what they are doing. if neither of you have a clue it can feel quite clumsy and awkward whereas your boyfiend will know more about how to please you and will guide you and help you in ... (read in full...)
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