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After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 10 June 2008: Yeah bet youre relieved!!!!... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex and I'm scared
Q. Last night, for the first time, i had unprotected sex with a bloke i dont know. im scared i may have a std or that im pregnant. i already hve a 3 month old daughter and i dont bellieve in abortions- im really scared to go to a gum clinic in case ...
A. 7 June 2008: Right first of all get yourself along to the clinic. They will not judge you or think you are a sleaze they are paid to help you not treat you badly.
Secondly see your doctor, you can take the morning after pill 5 days after unprotected sex to redu... (read in full...)
Her BF doesn't make her happy but she says he doesn't deserve her leaving... and said goodbye to me!
Q. Ok so me and my friend have gotten really close. So close that we're expressing our feelings for each other even though she has a bf. I always thought they had a perfect relationship but turns out they didn't she recently started telling me all his ...
A. 7 June 2008: She's just being polite, she doesnt want you she is happy with her boyfriend and has no intention of leaving him for you. No one has a perfect relationship you know, they may think they have during the 'honeymoon' period but there are flaws in ... (read in full...)
He has completely shut himself away and I don't understand. Should I leave him alone?
Q. I posted a question on the 26th of may. "He is even more distant than before, is it over?" Well... It is now and i cant get any answers out of my ex, as to why. He has just shut himself off from me. i ring he wont answer. text he dont answer...
A. 7 June 2008: I think you need to move on, its unlikely he will come back if he has dumped you in this way. Trust me you are better off without him if he cant even be honest with you and talk to you rather than just shutting himself away like this.
You will look... (read in full...)
Men, what would you do if your partner came home with a sex toy?
Q. So I want to take a poll even if I only get a few answers its ok. The question. The senario. Just home from the local porn store. Just bought a new toy. One that is pleasurable for both individuals. This question is basically for men. Women you c...
A. 7 June 2008: Maybe if you had kept it as a surprise until you actually got into the bedroom he would have been more receptive. Sometimes people dont like sex on demand.
Was he watching the football at the time!!! Try again in a day or two x... (read in full...)
How do I know if this is really a break or a break up?
Q. Hi, Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and he is everything ive wanted in a guy. Just recently he has asked to have a break as he has got so many issues in his life. Is this really a break or a break up. I still love him so much and he h...
A. 7 June 2008: Sometimes when there is a lot going on we need to be alone to put everything into perspective and decide where we are going.
I had a friend who's bloke decided he wanted a break after a pretty traumatic time in his life but he did come back to her ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy choose to wear a condom even when we are using the pill?
Q. im not complaining about the fact my bf wants to wear a condom. we started with them then after 8 months we just used the pill now 6 months later he wants to use them again which i dont mind but why would a guy want to start using them again? he ...
A. 7 June 2008: It could be as smiles says maybe he is worrying more about pregnancy for some reason, or maybe he's been a naughty boy and doesnt want you to catch anything, or maybe something has come to light like an ex contacting him regarding a sexually ... (read in full...)
I cant cope anymore with my husbands long absences throughout our marriage
Q. What do you think,? I dont have friends as such, as my partner gave me that a girl could ever need and in return all his needs were met too, both real happy,for a good eight years great feeling. Until children and where we lived and what we earned ...
A. 7 June 2008: Your age says 13-15 but that must be an error!!
I have a friend in your situation but originally she moved all over the world with his jobs and lived in many beautiful countries however by the time they had 5 kids together she decided to settle in t... (read in full...)
I fancy a close friend - should I tell her?
Q. I get on really well with a friend from work, she is beautiful, intelligent and very funny, I can talk to her about things that I wouldn't talk to most people about but I don't know if I should tell her how much I like her and risk ruining our ...
A. 7 June 2008: If she is truly unhappy with her boyfriend they might not last anyway. Dont start an 'affair' as this is not the answer to a lasting relationship but if you really dont want to lose her tell her how you feel and ask her if she would consider dating ... (read in full...)
My best friend said I've betrayed her?
Q. My best friend can’t take the truth and now is blaming me. She’s saying I’ve betrayed her by saying that I never told her the truth but when I did, she couldn’t handle it and got angry with me and then said I betrayed her. The truth is, my other ...
A. 7 June 2008: I can understand why she felt hurt and left out by not being invited but as you say that was not your fault and you were stuck in the middle of all this.
It sounds to me like she is one of lifes takers and has nothing to give and as you say she drai... (read in full...)
Why is it that guys I met never ever wanted to wear condoms?
Q. Why is it that guys never ever want to use condoms? I mean when you first meet someone, everyone goes on about how you should have safe sex, but when it comes down to it guys do not want to wear them? Don't guys who get them stop unwanted pregnan...
A. 7 June 2008: Yes but if a guy gets you pregnant he can walk away but you cant. Women are just as responsible as men so you need to say no rain coat then you dont come in mate x x ... (read in full...)
They make fun of me because I don't share their vice... is this not childish?
Q. everyone makes fun of me because i dont smoke weed,do you think thats childish?...
A. 6 June 2008: They need to grow up. When they are paranoid and their brian function is vastly reduced in years to come, its your turn to laugh at them x... (read in full...)
Is there any treatment for a person who is gay?
Q. hi is there any treatment for a person who is gay??????...
A. 6 June 2008: No and it doesnt require treatment.
Years and years ago they tried electric shock therapy whilst showing pictures of male organs etc to retrain gay people to become hetrosexual but of course it didnt work, why would it, its not a disease of the b... (read in full...)
I'm 7 stone but I want to lose more weight. how do I?
Q. Hi guys - I just really needed advice about how I've been trying to deal with my weight for like a year now. I'm 17 and I weigh 7 stone, i fit into size 6 and 8 but sometimes wear 10's and 12's because i like baggy clothes. I know it may seem I...
A. 6 June 2008: No there is no healthy way to lose weight when you already weigh as little as you do. Its not weight loss you need help with its your self esteem and confidence issues and I think the only way to do this is to talk to someone. The good thing here ... (read in full...)
Is 5 years a big age gap?
Q. i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 25 years of age..so do u think 5 years of age gap between us makes a difference..do u think he is too old for me????...
A. 6 June 2008: Age is just a number and if you are happy it doesnt matter. Its only when its very young teens with much much older partners that I personally think is not right. In some cases if the female was 25 and the male 19 it could cause problems, I have a ... (read in full...)
Do people who cheat change?
Q. hi, my question is basically this, do people ever change ? for example if they have cheated on you, what is the likelyhood of them doing it again ? and are they really genuine when they cry and cry, and tell you how sorry they are ? thanks :)...
A. 6 June 2008: I think everyone is different and you have to be able to forgive them to make the relationship work if they have cheated - its not easy and you will never forget, but only you can decide whether or not to forgive.
Will they cheat again?? They may ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she left everything... I need your help.
Q. this weekend my girlfriend and i broke up out of the blue. we have known each other for a while but have only been together for a couple of months. i met her at work and a few months later we started being intimate with each other. you see she ha...
A. 6 June 2008: Yes I think she did love you but maybe she has never got over the love she had with her daughters father, maybe she is thinking her daughter is better off having her father in her life than another man which is sadly not always true.
I know it hurt... (read in full...)
Why do girls always say I only want sex?
Q. I've been reading a lot of books about relationship, confidence, how to think positive etc... Those books changed my life. I've became more social, self-confident and more of a people person. I seem to be getting the wrong idea out though. I in...
A. 6 June 2008: Play hard to get and dont make the first move. I dated a guy who I suspected was a bit of a player yet he was such a gentleman and never tried it on once, just a kiss at the end of the night, this really surprised me and in the end around 3 months ... (read in full...)
Bi-BF! What do you think I should do?
Q. ok so... i meet this amazing guy and hes relly nice and everything, but then he tells hes bisexual and that he wants to have a three some- whilst hes been 'done' by another guy and hes 'doing' me!! i no it sounds strange but the thought turns me ...
A. 6 June 2008: Theres nothing wrong with experimenting but I dont think hes looking for a serious relationship here, not if he is already asking for this at this stage. So just be prepared for it to based purely on fulfilling his sexual fantasies x... (read in full...)
My ex may have cancer; I want to be supportive, but not in the way she wants - what can I do for her?
Q. I just broke up with my girlfriend about a week ago. Just a few days later she went to see a doctor in regards to a lump inside her vaginal area. After doing so, they are doing extra tests because they are worried that there is cervical cancer. ...
A. 6 June 2008: No you are absolutely doing the right thing. She is just taking her pain out on you, as she hurts from the break up and hurts from thinking she may have cancer.
If she truly has cancer then I suspect she will contact you to let you know as you are ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he sees me a friend or girlfriend...
Q. i fancy a guy in the same year as me, hes really nice and we are good friends we are both the same age (18) but im not sure if he sees me a friend or girlfriend.... whenever i put myself down he always says something nice, like ill say im ugly and...
A. 6 June 2008: He probably is as confused as you. Ask him to go for a coffee or something and see if he wants to take it further, i.e. go on a proper date.
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It's his ex. And it's his ex. And it's his ex again. I don't know what to do.
Q. Argh, I am so confused and there probably is not answer, but maybe someone can share something? I began dating my boyfriend casually, we live in separate cities and so communicated alot through email and sending things in the mail and stuff. He wa...
A. 6 June 2008: He wasnt prepared to give her up before so I doubt he can do it now. He is having his cake and eating it, he has you to pick up the pieces when things are going bad with her.
He has lied to you, omitted things about her and what they did toge... (read in full...)
FWB, but now I'm falling for him!
Q. Hey Um I have a question about emotions and sex etc. I have been friends with a guy for about a year, we started sleeping together a few months ago and both agreed there were no emotions involved and it was JUST sex. I have been happy with tha...
A. 6 June 2008: Having sex releases chemicals that lead us too fall in love, thats why you get that heady rush in a new relationship when youre at it like rabbits!!
So its always going to be hard to detach your emotions in this way when youre constantly slee... (read in full...)
I need to be with him as he is always in my mind but he is not single...
Q. There is a guy that i am totally in love with, first thing i thik about in the morning, last thing at night and all throughout the day. I know what i feel is real and it is not going to go away. He has a girlfriend but i think he likes me... What d...
A. 5 June 2008: Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if some girl had the hots for your fella and persued him?? You would be furious I should think.
Its hard when you are infatuated to let it go but you really do need to, if he knocks you back you will... (read in full...)
I am so confused. He thinks we should take it slower. What's going on?
Q. I have meet a very geniune guy,we have been communicating via the internet, sms and phone calls, we got on very well, as we live far apart,5 months later we arranged to meet, the entire weekend was like fire works, two days later, he travelled all ...
A. 5 June 2008: I would think part of you thinks he thought it wasnt that brilliant and he has made a mistake. It could be the case or it could be he had such an overwhelming rush of emotion for you it has scared him. Give him the time he needs and agree to slow ... (read in full...)
Once we were inseparable, how did it turn out to be this bad in the end?
Q. Oke.. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago.. We have decided to stay friends.. but he just isn't being a good friend.. Whenever he calls me.. He normally talks about sex.. and sometimes even wants me to "talk dirty" with him, ...
A. 5 June 2008: Its hard to let go but you have to so that you can move on. Its nice if you can stay friends but if one of you still has feelings it rarely works as you will just feel frustrated all the time and want more and more contact and what will happen if ... (read in full...)
I get horny during my period. My boyfriend won't...
Q. hi everyone quick question when im on my period i get super horny and i want sex but my bf wont have sex with me bc im bleeding how can i convince him 2 have sex with me? plz can anyone tell me what 2 do he wont go into the shower with me when i ...
A. 5 June 2008: Some men just dont like bodiy functions and sex mixed together and you have to respect that, its messy and sticky and not everyone enjoys it. My hubbie is happy to do it, (he used to be a butcher so isnt afraid of blood!) but I prefer not to.
H... (read in full...)
Sexual position and pains.
Q. HI..When my boyfriend and I have sex in most positions its great..however when he enters me from behind i always get a really sharp pain and have to switch positions..any ideas as to why this happens? Thanks! ...
A. 5 June 2008: You and me both!! Its easier for him to get deeper and as the others have said it hits the cervix and if he's well endowed its extra ouch!!
Take it slow and ask him to be really gentle. As an alternative lie him down and go on top but facing away... (read in full...)
After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 5 June 2008: Losing your virginity itself wouldnt make you late, sometimes having sex around your period can actually make your period come a bit earlier. How long have you been having periods?? My daughter started at 10 and even now at 16 she is not regular ... (read in full...)
Whilst I have been able to ignore the problem and hope it goes away or changesi now realized it cannot go away now. Does anyone understand this problem and have any advice?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years (no children) and have not had sex for 7 years. Before that the sex was unemotional. When we first got married it was ok for a couple of years but then became difficult - although I would say there ...
A. 4 June 2008: He has basically destroyed any love you have for him and I dont think you can gain this back with a man who has hit or abused you even once. Even if there is a long gap between incidents it doesnt mean it wont happen again. I suffered mental and ... (read in full...)
How do I get enough money for the wedding?
Q. hi,i have a girl that i have propose to.and we love each other very much.but my challeges are getting money to conclude our wedding plans.though a graduate but still looking for a job.want you to advice me on how to go about it....
A. 4 June 2008: There are many ways you can cut costs, hire suits, share church flowers with another person getting married, ask family and friends to help with the cost of the buffet or make it for you as a wedding present etc. I didnt want to spend thousands on ... (read in full...)
How long would it take for pregnancy symptoms to occur?
Q. I just wanted to know... if a girl was pregnant, when do the symptoms occur from the time she's had intercourse? ...
A. 4 June 2008: Im with annalisa I feel pretty quesy, tingling boobs and metallic taste in my mouth within a week, with child two I swear I knew the next day. However we get tingly boobs etc when due on and when youre trying for a baby or think you may be pregnant ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about why I'm not getting pregnant!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and I know I am completely in love with him!! The thing is I kept getting little scares where I thought I was pregnant and then it turned out my period was just late, this happened for a couple of ...
A. 3 June 2008: It is heartbreaking when you cant fall but as doctors in the uk will only look at you after at least a year of trying then I really dont think you should worry just yet. (its 6 months if youre over 35)
All women are different and some fall easi... (read in full...)
I happened to see my son masturbating and don't quite know what to do about it!
Q. I am a mother of 2 kids, 11 year old boy and 8 year old girl. My husband is on a business tour and will be back only after two months. Couple of days back I happened to see my son doing masterbation in his bedroom. He does not know that I have seen ...
A. 3 June 2008: It does seem a bit young but it is perfectly normal, he is not likely to be ejaculating yet as that part is linked to puberty. Little girls also have a bit of twiddle too. its not something you even need to discuss with him yet, he is just doing ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a MFM threesome, but I do not want to...
Q. my wife of 10 months wants to have mfm threesome but i dont think i want to. what should i do?...
A. 3 June 2008: Tell her. Fantasies are one thing but the reality is often disappointing and can make you feel pretty bad aferwards or could leave to her wanting more and more, or could lead to an affair with the other men etc etc etc.
Try finding out what her ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with a suicidal girl?
Q. How do i break up with a girl i've been dating for 10 months when she has a past history of being suicidal and says she couldn't live without me. also she lost her virginity to me to make things that much harder. no matter what i want to stay ...
A. 3 June 2008: I think the others have given some great advice here about how to actually leave her.
I just want to add, and this may sound harsh to others, you cannot stay in a relationship that is not working just because she has threatened suicide. You cann... (read in full...)
Going by the expiry date, when might this condom have been bought?
Q. Im in a relationship of 3 years, and i found a condom wrapper in the room and im trying to figure out when it might have been bought. The exp. Date on it is october of 2009. It was by some of my boyfriends thing from when he was married. But i cant ...
A. 3 June 2008: It might be he just hasnt cleaned up!! It could have been under the bed or in his sock drawer and got disturbed recently. It doesnt necessarily mean he is cheating on you, I would personally think if he was he would make damn sure any evidence was ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I want to argue with him!
Q. I'm in a great relationship, my partner couldn't be better for me, he treats me great he's not over protective...I could go on forever about how fabulous he is. Now a little back ground, my last relationship was very abusive mentally, physical...
A. 3 June 2008: Good luck with the counselling x... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling insecure that some girls may want him!
Q. I'm feeling insecure. My boyfriend told me that a lot of people tellhim he's good looking mostly female friends or classmates. I know it's silly and that I should be proud to be with him - indeed, I'm porud - however, I can't stop feeling a bit in...
A. 3 June 2008: I think a lot of women feel this way and are worried that their bloke will meet someone else. Yes he could easily meet someone prettier more suited etc etc but it doesnt mean he will see them that way, if he is with you then you then as far as he ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the way my girlfriend's vagina looks may have something to do with her past!
Q. I have a rather strange question to ask here... I am curious about vagina... I have been with a variety of different women (sexually), and up until recently I have always encountered generally the same type(ish) vagina... Usually tighter, snug, not ...
A. 3 June 2008: Yes I know its a legitimate questin its just gets my goat every time we see it on here so you are not the only one who feels this way!! No I dont think too much sex especially given her age would cause this. The outside bit is just cosmetic but the ... (read in full...)
Can anybody PLEASE tell me what is wrong with my PRIVATES?
Q. There's something wrong with my vagina. The lips are swollon and tender and my discharge is extremly think and pasty and there's unnatural ammounts of it. It's also white.. Not the slightest bit transparent. There is no smell. It's been like thi...
A. 2 June 2008: BV usually has a very distinct fishy smell and a greenish discharge and is usually an imbalance caused by being too clean, thrush is described as having a cottage cheese appearance. Another one I can never spell is trichomoniosis which is caused by ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the way my girlfriend's vagina looks may have something to do with her past!
Q. I have a rather strange question to ask here... I am curious about vagina... I have been with a variety of different women (sexually), and up until recently I have always encountered generally the same type(ish) vagina... Usually tighter, snug, not ...
A. 2 June 2008: I get really annoyed by this questions, all women look different and having saggy lips does not mean she has slept around!!!!!! Ive seen plenty of porn stars on film who look tight but have probably slept with hundreds of men. Just like mens ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I want to argue with him!
Q. I'm in a great relationship, my partner couldn't be better for me, he treats me great he's not over protective...I could go on forever about how fabulous he is. Now a little back ground, my last relationship was very abusive mentally, physical...
A. 2 June 2008: Being scared your partner will die is a normal part of really loving someone and it just means you are afraid to lose them, its like youve finally found the love of your life and are frightened it wont last forever.
As for wanting to scream a... (read in full...)
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