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Diminishing relationship..How can I spruce it up? Help!
Q. How can I spice up my relationship? Ive been with this guy for just over a year now but he seems to have lost interest. Its like hes too tired and pre-occupied to show me any attention. Im only young, in my early 20's...and feel i deserve to be ...
A. 27 June 2008: Dont give up so easily. The honeymoon period doesnt last forever and the secret to a long and happy relationship is accepting that there will always be lows and highs and its how you deal with them that counts.
Find out why he is so distant, is some... (read in full...)
Think I made a mistake getting married? Good advice needed please..
Q. hi everyone, I am worry about my marriage. We got on great prior to marriage, when my husband propose to me i was in shock to be honest as i did not expect this, I had my doubts prior to marriage but put it down to nerves. I had strong fe...
A. 27 June 2008: You seem to want different things so you either do your own thing and try and make a long distance marriage work if you cant agree where to live or you cut your losses and admit its over.
I cant see a long distance marriage working if you alre... (read in full...)
I made a joke and he has taken it seriously. Help!
Q. last night i was chatting with my boyfriend on msn and while we were talking about sex I was kidding when I said to him that I just act like I'm pleased after sex with him and I do it just not to make him feel bad. Surely I was just kiding and it ...
A. 27 June 2008: Have you not heard of the saying, 'Many a true word spoken in jest' ?
Usually when we make a joke there is often some truth behind it and Im sure now he doesnt know what to believe.
Only he can decide to forgive you so you have a lot of grovelli... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 27 June 2008: It could be that she feels as she is older then she is in charge of the situation almost as though she were your mum or older sister therefore she must be right. However its not always age related some people just cant admit to being wrong and have ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and need to know..where can me and my bf have sex??? And are we too young to have sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months.I'm 13 and he's almost 16. I think were ready to have sex...we've hooked up before but Ive always stopped him. Whoever awnsers this question could you please tell me *where we could have sex...
A. 26 June 2008: You are too young for sex yet. Wait a while longer, there is no rush. and you have your whole life ahead of you so dont spoil it by getting pregnant or an std at this stage of your life. If he loves you he will respect that x... (read in full...)
She has not been interested in sex since our child was born four years ago!
Q. I'm a 26 yr old male and i have been with my fiance for 7yrs and she as 26 as well we have one child together and he was born in 04 and I have done everything and tried everything but she is not interested in having sex with me,she hasnt really ...
A. 25 June 2008: Do you only ever show her affection when you want sex, does she feel that every time you touch her it means I want you later? Its normal to lose your sex drive after a child regardless of age but you have to work at it together to get it back. You ... (read in full...)
How should I handle this without scaring him away?
Q. I have been taking penicilin and it has effected my contraceptive pill, i wasn't told that this would be the case by the doctor i saw. Ive now had to take the emergancy contraceptive pill and have told my boyfriend. He was really understanding when ...
A. 25 June 2008: He is obviously scared right now, and I bet you are too. Tell him you need him to get through this so that whatever happens you can get deal with this together. Dont get cross just tell him you understand exactly how he is feeling but unfortunately ... (read in full...)
Are there any steps I can take to prevent me ending up with no life other than him?
Q. There has been a similar question on here today but my situation has some suitble differences. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years, through that period I had had strong friends, but through changing jobs, leaving school/ uni. I have generall...
A. 25 June 2008: It sounds like you are already trying and as others have suggested you dont have to say no to going out just because you dont drink. Some of my funnest friends are teetotal.
When you move in together suggest having people over to dinner or goin... (read in full...)
After we had sex he said he'd call... it's been three days and I am going coo coo!!
Q. There has always been a chemisty between me and one of my best friends roommates. We ended up making out drunk at a party a couple months ago. We saw each other through our mutual friend we flirt, but nothing ever happened. Recently we ended up ...
A. 25 June 2008: You will only know if you talk to him so either contact him and see if he wants to go out on a date or hang around where you know he will be to talk to him.
If he just wants to take you home again when youre both a bit drunk then ask yourself if y... (read in full...)
I just don't know what my heart wants! And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. argh help! i dont know what i'm doing! i broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago after a 2 year long relationship, the breakup wasn't brilliantly handled on my part in the sense that i'd never broken up with someone before and I broke up with ...
A. 25 June 2008: You have to decide if this relationship is going anywhere.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her?
Do you see yourself getting married, having a family and growing old with this girl?
Do you love her so much it hurts?
Do you want t... (read in full...)
She's starting to act interested and almost jealous now, after rejecting me! What to do?
Q. I've liked this girl for a LONG time and pursued and let her know many times, only to be rejected.. we are still friends but now.. when eventually I've just given up and started getting on with someone else really well she is starting to act ...
A. 25 June 2008: She has told you she was not interested but obviously enjoyed the attention you gave her. I would think she is now jealous as you are giving that attention to another. I personally think if you dump the other girl and go for it with her she will ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any tips on how to lessen the nerves for when we meet cause I think its gonna happen quite soon!
Q. hey, im jordan female and im 16 i met this guy called liam around three years ago on the internet, ive never met him in person although ive seen him twice, we have talked for around thre years and over the past sort of year we have both started to ...
A. 25 June 2008: You already know what he looks like etc so at least there wont be any disappointments or surprises. Pick somewhere to meet you are comfortable and familiar with if you can so you are more relaxed.
Most of all just be yourself and enjoy meeting him ... (read in full...)
My wife keeps asking me to leave and then to comeback... I don't know what else to do!?
Q. Hi there Help needed!!!....3 weeks ago me and my wife split up which was very hard to get my head around...we have been married for nearly 5 years and have 2 beautiful girls. Our realtionship has never been brilliant due to my wife's paranonia and ...
A. 25 June 2008: If she has no interest in the children and keeps pushing you away then she desperately needs more help to treat the depression as whatever she is taking isnt helping. I would suggest counselling and just be there to offer whatever support you can.
T... (read in full...)
How can I let my boyfriend know, again, I am still uncomfortable with his mouth odour without hurting his feelings?
Q. Ok.. so my boyfriend has this problem that his mouth has a bad odor sometimes. We have talked about it and he start doing some things to improve it (mouth wash and so on) and then he stops or it doesn't work too good (the effect lasts about 20 ...
A. 25 June 2008: He needs to get it checked out. It could just be odour from his stomach caused by bad diet or it could be to do with his teeth and oral hygiene. My ex hubbie's mouth smelt like a drain as his teeth were rotting and he wouldnt go to the dentist, I'd ... (read in full...)
What do I do? I'm a newly wed (4 months) and I'm not getting sex!
Q. hi im unsure what to do im newly married 4 months ago we had been together 3 half years we have a 3yrold little boy together when we got together we had an amazing sex life but for the last 18 months or so my partner has just lost interest in sex i ...
A. 24 June 2008: This is gonna be a long one so bear with me.
First of all I get the impression that the sex had dwindled before you married but that she promised you it would get better and she would have more sex if you got married?! She either lied or at least... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex if you are taking anti-biotics?
Q. Hey guys! I never asked my doctor the last time i went.. I just wana know if is it safe to have sex if you are taking anti-biotics? Won't it affect your partner's health or your's in any way? Your reply will be very much appreciated....
A. 24 June 2008: No it wont harm either of you but as smiles says some antibiotics speed up how fast the pill is absorbed and can make it less effective.
Drinking on antibiotics also makes the antibiotics themselves less effective too x... (read in full...)
What are my chances of having a 2nd set of twins with a different dad?
Q. Hey,any advice,comments or research greatly appreciated... Ok, I am nearly 30 years old and have had identical twin boys for my Ex who's dad is a non Identical twin, My fathers 1st cousin's are identical twins and I know theres twins far...
A. 24 June 2008: The normal answer to this is that as you either release two eggs or one egg splits into two then it is down to the female. Your age also plays a factor if you have a baby later in life, it increases the chances. (I seem to think I was told 35 was a ... (read in full...)
What can I do? ! really hate my body!
Q. Hi i'm sure you get this all of the time but i'm going to ask my question anyway. i really hate my body. i have small breasts (about a b-cup) they used to be bigger (a c cup) and then they shrunk (i lost 30 pounds because i was overweight). they are...
A. 24 June 2008: First of all your boobs will change many times over your life and they may get bigger all on their own. Mine did.
I considered implants in my late 20's but now I would like a reduction please as they have grown all by themselves to a 34E.
Many ... (read in full...)
How can I make my brother's wife have sex with me?
Q. How I can make my brother's wife to have sex with me?...
A. 24 June 2008: You cant and you shouldnt want to either. Get a girlfriend of your own and forget about your sister in law, she is out of bounds x... (read in full...)
I would like to win his heart but I'm scared that I've lost him forever!
Q. Several years ago I studied abroad in mexico and I became best friends with a young man at my school. He's very special to me, and I think I love him and I always harbored hopes of being together. I'm in the USA now but plan on eventually ...
A. 24 June 2008: You have pinned all your hopes on this guy and have probably put him on a pedestal a bit as being this super fantastic person that nobody could ever replace.
Sadly if he doesnt love you and only sees you as a friend then you are not going to get ... (read in full...)
How long after graduation should I wait to date my teacher?
Q. so i just graduated from high school, and turned 18. my 26 yr old ex teacher and i def have a thing for each other...its way obvious, and he's lead singer in a band and asked me to go to one of his concerts on my birthday (which i did) and i told ...
A. 24 June 2008: I would have thought once you graduate then its ok but I agree you should wait a few months so people wont assume something happened before, which could get him into trouble even if its not true. But I dont know the legalities.
He should know what... (read in full...)
I'm worried my first time will hurt!?
Q. Im thinking of having sex with my boyfriend , but im worried about the pain. I have a horse and therefore i ride alot , ive rode all my life and im also very sporty ive been told that by doing sports that that can make it less painfull ? so do you ...
A. 24 June 2008: Most people feel it will hurt if you have an intact hymen which is a thin covering of tissue that actually covers the opening of your vagina, it's not positioned right inside as most people think. Chances are if you horseride or have used tampons ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's 25, does he love me?
Q. I am 14 yrs old and have crush on a boy who is 25-26 yrs old. I don't know if he is having a girlriend or not, but he talks with me very nicely as if he also loves me. What to do???...
A. 24 June 2008: He is way too old for you and just because he is being nice does not mean he loves you. He may just be a nice person. Or not. Who knows?
But you shouldnt even contemplate starting up a relationship with him, I doubt he will be interested anyway as t... (read in full...)
I believe he wouldn't lie to me even if the truth hurt- am I being a fool?
Q. hi I met this guy at work a few month after breaking up with the father of my child. We were really good friends and we just clicked. He also has a child and a wife but they have been seperated for 2 and a half years. He is so kind to me and I kn...
A. 24 June 2008: I think you both have a lot to think about here. He is being pressured by his ex wife and his family to go back to her. He has not yet divorced her, this could be down to religious or cultural reasons which is why the family is putting pressure on ... (read in full...)
What are the kind of things I should and shouldn't do when I take her out?
Q. Ok I'm feeling a bit nervous now, I asked a girl I know out to have lunch, and maybe walk around downtown afterwards. I want things to go well so I'm asking all of you this, what are some of the things I should and shouldn't do when I take her out?...
A. 24 June 2008: Dont talk about yourself incessantly. Make sure she has chance to talk too and ask about her life, seem interested in her responses.
Avoid religion, sex and politics as your topics for the first date!!
Hold doors open for her, be courteous and beha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is begging me to have sex with him, What should I do?
Q. I am 13 years old, my boyfriend and I have known each other since we were 4 but we only started dating last year. My b/f and i are really close, but he keeps begging me to have sex with him. I trust him alot, but i'm not sure what to do. Please h...
A. 24 June 2008: I dont think you are ready yet as if you were you would have done it. If it feels like you are being pressured then just explain to him you want to but are not quite ready and he should respect that. Your not saying never, just not yet.
I do pers... (read in full...)
How do I change some issues I have with this guy?
Q. I think i'm falling for this guy i've hung out with, but there's a few problems i need to sort out with him, but not sure how. 1) He changes how he acts all the time - one min he all compliments, next he's pushing me into walls then he's accusing...
A. 24 June 2008: Sounds just like my first husband - we met when I was 15 ad he was 17 and his mother always used to say dump him he treats you like crap. The relatinship ended after 17 years (10 of marriage)and he never really improved, in fact he got a lot ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and I don't feel guilty. Do I have no morals or is it a reflection of my crumbling relationship?
Q. Why don't I feel guilty for cheating? I've been with my bf for a year and things have been really bad between us for a while now, we can't seem to fix it but he won't let me break up with him. Last night I ended up giving a blow job to a guy from...
A. 24 June 2008: You probably arent really in love with him if you dont feel guilty so move on so that you can both be happy elsewhere x... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity before going to Uni?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and will be going to university in September. I'm still a virgin, although nearly lost my virginity with a boyfriend last year. He was also a virgin and was too nervous, so it was impossible. I'm really worried about the rumours about ...
A. 24 June 2008: No dont get it out of the way, wait for the right guy to come along and then you will have nice memories of your first time, not just some guy you cant really remember and who's name you'll probably forget.
Im sure Freshers week wont be that bad ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to stop taking birth control pills for just a month.!?
Q. Hello.! I was wondering if it's practical to stop taking birth pills for just a month seeing as my boyfriend is going on vacation that long (this Thursday 26th he's leaving) and I don't see my need to take it because, I obviously won't have sex. ...
A. 24 June 2008: I would just keep taking them as you say its only a month so why bother not taking them for a month either. Its not worth the risk if you dont want to get caught out. I always thought you shouldnt have sex the first month so wont there be a risk ... (read in full...)
Why is he trying to hide the fact that he is with a new girl even though he knows I know!?
Q. Hello everyone! I have an ex-boyfriend that is really confusing me. We broke up about 2 years ago because he didn't want to do a long distance relationship. He recently moved back but he brought a girlfriend! About a month before he moved back he ...
A. 24 June 2008: We werent trying to be hostile, as you say its always difficult because we dont know the full story. I think you should maybe ask him outright what is going on here not just because you could end up getting hurt if you think its leading somewhere ... (read in full...)
I am a 14 y/o dating a 27 y/o and my friends say it is wrong... should I leave him or just ignore what they are saying?
Q. I am 14 years old and i am dating a 27 year old,who was my brothers friend and he watched me grow up.My friends think hes a paedophile and hate him but i do like him and they know im interested in older guys.Also my friends sister has been threating ...
A. 24 June 2008: If a 27 year old has seen you grow up and is dating you at only 14 then alarm bells will be ringing for most people. If you have sex then he could be put on the sex offenders register.
I think you should ask yourself what a 27 year old man coul... (read in full...)
Does anyone know why I get this "vinegar" smell after sex?
Q. hi im jade, ive got kind of a weird question tohave and its rather embarrasing but i really want to know why i smell when ive had sex. is this a weird thing? its a distinctive smell and even though i wash aterwards and have a bath etc i can still ...
A. 24 June 2008: Ummmm no - havent heard of a vinegary smell. Its not uncommon for women to smell slightly the next morning after sex, thats the smell of the semen and your juices mingling and it is a smell that most people recognise! But if its a really weird or ... (read in full...)
Four weeks pregnant and nauseated. What can I do to alleviate it?
Q. im 4 weeks prego. and im feeling very nauseated but not vomiting is there anything i can do to help take the horible feeling away?...
A. 23 June 2008: You poor thing I suffered terribly with my daughter, my first pregnancy. Ginger is good as it helps with nausea so try ginger biscuits. Dont wait too long in between meals as hunger can make you feel sick too.
Keep biscuits by the bed or ask for ... (read in full...)
Why do nice guys finish last?
Q. I would say I fall into the 'nice guy' catagory and yet everytime I ask a girl out (and I've done this many times) they say no and end up with some jerk who just wants to use them. I don't even think there is anyone even remotley interested in me. H...
A. 23 June 2008: How do you define yourself as nice?
My husband is a 'nice' guy, he is decent kind caring considerate generous and very loving. He is also extremely masculine, sexy, hairy, big, strong and good looking.
I dont think I have ever turned anyone d... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, we already have 4 kids and I can't handle any more! She won't agree to abortion, any advice?
Q. My girlfriends pregnant again... We already have 4 kids, she popped the first sprog out when she was 15, had to stay with her ever since, i dont wanna leave her but i cant handle any more kids! Its doin my nut in! She wont get rid of it either., ...
A. 23 June 2008: Then its time to get 'sorted' out, either you or your girlfriend can be sterilised. You are just as responsible for this as she is, if you really didnt want any more you should have sat down and discussed permanent contraception with each other.
B... (read in full...)
I love her but she's annoying....any ideas on how to get her to stop being so persistent?
Q. Hi I've been with my Girlfriend for 4 years. She has started to really grind on me. *She rings me 5 times a day to talk rubbish (e.g a person in the supermarket just annoyed her).If she rings and i dont answer she'll ring back straight away a...
A. 23 June 2008: Give her an ultimatum. She either stops pestering you to find out where you are all day long or she wont ever know because you will be gone. You cannot let her control you like this it isnt fair and will destroy you eventually as a couple. Trust me ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend I caught her daughter having sex while I was walking the dog?
Q. Ok bit of a strange question for you. Well recently I was walking my dog when I came upon my best friends daughter and her boyfriend (well I presume) having sex. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt like an open field, in all fairness it seemed quite a ...
A. 23 June 2008: What an awkward situation.
There are so many implications here.
If you dont tell and the girl tells her mum that you saw them then you could lose your friend.
If she isnt using proper precautions as she hasnt told her mum then she could end up... (read in full...)
Is female squirting abnormal? Is there anything I can do to lessen the amount of liquid?
Q. Is a lot of "come" unusual. I met my boyfriend almost two years ago. He was my first sexual partner and before I met him I could not orgasm. It took 6 months before I could finally climax. Since then my sex life has been quite good. But I have...
A. 22 June 2008: My friend had the same thing, her bloke thought she had wet herself the first time as she seemed to squirt it out too and there was a lot of it. He thought it was brilliant.
So it's not abnormal at all, all women are different, sometimes I have load... (read in full...)
I've just started having 'night terrors' again, how do I stop these horrible dreams?
Q. Hey. I don't really know how to say this, so I'll just come out with it. When I was a little girl, I had terrible dreams, of extreme pain and bad things happening, and would wake up with scratches and cuts all over my body. Sometimes I'd even...
A. 22 June 2008: I had night terrors as a small child and if there is no underlying cause then it is often linked to a vivid imagination. Mine eased into my teens but returned throughout my life if I ever stayed somewhere other than my own bed. As I got older it got ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? Or am I one of those people who can't?
Q. I am fifteen years old, and my ex boyfriend and I we're dating for around seven months. October 12 07 - May 9th 08. We had alot of unprotected sex, and it started in febuary and ended early June. I never have got pregnant but I've had alot of ...
A. 22 June 2008: No you've just been incredibly lucky. Get some condoms or other form of birth control you really dont want a baby at 15 x... (read in full...)
Why is he trying to hide the fact that he is with a new girl even though he knows I know!?
Q. Hello everyone! I have an ex-boyfriend that is really confusing me. We broke up about 2 years ago because he didn't want to do a long distance relationship. He recently moved back but he brought a girlfriend! About a month before he moved back he ...
A. 19 June 2008: Maybe he feels it is not right to discuss her with you and is actually showing her loyalty here. If thats the case then he truly loves her. I assume she is ok with him taking you out now and again? I wouldnt stop my husband meeting up with an old ... (read in full...)
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