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I want to start having sex with him, but I'm afraid of the idea because I'm a virgin and he's not!
Q. Guys, I need your help! I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, I'm a virgin, he isn't. He is absolutely perfect and wonderful, a really nice person, caring and lovely and all of that, and before he asked me out we were pretty much best ...
A. 2 September 2008: It will probably be better for you with someone who knows what they are doing. if neither of you have a clue it can feel quite clumsy and awkward whereas your boyfiend will know more about how to please you and will guide you and help you in ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I feel he is smothering me?
Q. Hi everyone, So been with this guy nearly 4 months now. We get on most of the time apart from when we argue and that is quite a lot. He is going on saying Im the one and wants to move in together, get married and have kids yet when we kiss I d...
A. 2 September 2008: I think you should take a break from this relationship and find out what you want. Maybe counselling will help you to come to terms with what happened in your past as this may be preventing you from really letting yourself go with this guy. On the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my husband to fall in love with me again?
Q. We've been married for 4 years. He has left because he says I have changed. He has moved into our other house. He says I am not the same fun, confident woman I was when we got married. I don't know what happened. I hadn't seen it until now. I can't ...
A. 2 September 2008: I think this can be looked at two ways. Either you have let him consume your life and have stopped wanting to do anything alone so therefore appear needy to him as you are suffocating him and not allowing him space or something is going on in his ... (read in full...)
Unhappily married - do I leave my wife and son to try and be happy?
Q. I have been married for six years and have a son with my wife but I am unhappy. i have recently met a young women and I have got feelings for her that I have never felt before. I dont know what to do. do I leave my wife and son and be happy or do I ...
A. 2 September 2008: Everyone is entitled to happiness but you dont say why you are unhappy. Have you tried to resolve the issues and make your marriage work so that you can stay with your wife and son? I personally would suggest you try it alone if you cannot save ... (read in full...)
I have a stalker and I need some advice on how to avoid him!
Q. I have a stalker. I am not making this up. For about six months now I have noticed him. I work in the building where he lives, and I never noticed him at first, until he almost knocked me down. Then after that I kept on seeing him. He doesn’t ...
A. 28 August 2008: Try not to acknolwedge him, just ignore him but if this persists tell management. If they do have a word and it gets worse then you contact the police. Its all very well being told he is doing no harm but I have been there and mine got worse and ... (read in full...)
What is the right way to do the Kegel exercises?
Q. I've heard about Kegel and i think i'm not doing it right. I've been seting down and holding my muscle i pee with for 5 seconds. Is that the right way to do it or is it that the muscle you hold your pee is the only thing that matters, you can be in ...
A. 25 August 2008: You can do it any time anywhere in any position, not just when weeing. If you want to do it when not weeing imagine your muscles are an elevator, squeeze them up through as many floors as you can, i.e. squeeze and hold, squeeze and hold a bit ... (read in full...)
Starting a new relationship - How slow can it go?
Q. I have always believed that if a romantic relationship is to be formed between two people, it must happen quickly. If things go slowly and drag out, then usually someone ends up "friend-zoned". With this in mind, is it reasonable to expect...
A. 25 August 2008: If a woman REALLY likes a guy she will often take it slow. Why?? Because she knows he may be the one and doesnt want to appear to easy. So if she is taking it slow she either really really likes you or she's not sure. Allow her this time to get to ... (read in full...)
I don't have any other symptoms other than being EXTREMELY emotional. Could I be pregnant?
Q. I take birth control, and when I went to refill my Rx, there was a problem with it so i picked it up a few days late. I took two the first day I got it, two the next day. Then I realized I had taken one too many so I didnt take one for a day. Now Im ...
A. 25 August 2008: Who knows, when we think we are pregnant the symptoms are strong but they are very similar to the symptoms we get when we are due on. There is only one way to know, do a test. x I wish you luck... (read in full...)
What should I do?! I want to know if he loves me!
Q. im prego and im 15 years old... me and my baby's father planned this baby. he broke up with me shortly after we found out that im prego. im in love with him and i know u may say im to young but i know how i feel and it wont change. he is acting ...
A. 25 August 2008: You are both children yourselves and to plan a baby at such a young age was just a novelty for him. YOU are the one left with the consequences, not him. He has suddenly thought OH SHIT, and I cant blame him. You probably cant get him to change ... (read in full...)
Does getting a brazilian wax hurt as much as it looks and does it last longer than shaving?
Q. Hi - I usually shave all my pubic hair off but it's got to the point that after I've shaved it off, it starts to grow back within a couple of days. I was thinking of maybe getting a brazilian next time and was wanting some information. Do they ...
A. 25 August 2008: We alll have different pain thresholds. I use to wax myself, not fun but not overly painful BUT I occasionally reacted badly and came out in red lumps. I find the best thing for me is depilitory (scuse my spelling) creams as they remove what I ... (read in full...)
He has told me he would come to me if I was interested and I am but my conscience says no because he's married. Any views?
Q. I am very recently divorced. I was devastated by this , my husband left me and the children for another woman. For 25 years and long before I was married I knew this other man. I always liked him but sadly chose my ex husband over him and he then ...
A. 24 August 2008: If he wants to be with you does this mean that his marriage is over anyway? If so then get him to end it first before you go any further. If he is not willing to leave her then maybe he never will. As you say you know how much it hurt you and how ... (read in full...)
Why are people so stressed and miserable?
Q. Why is everybody I see always so stressed and miserable? You only get one life,and its way too short to be anything but happy.why dont people realize this?...
A. 23 August 2008: Its human nature to want more and be miserable with what we have. I always remind myself that no matter what life throws at me and how low I feel there is usually a solution and always someone coping with more problems than me. My friends have ... (read in full...)
I think I want to leave my wife!
Q. I have been married for the past 14 years. We were both 19, pregnant, and pressured into this marriage. Not an excuse, just a back story. Now I am having several thoughts of leaving my wife. I have had a couple of little flings in the past three ...
A. 23 August 2008: You did what was expected of you and married your pregnant girlfriend and have lasted 14 years. You deserve some happiness too and if you are having flings and not feeling guilty then it is time to get out as you obviously dont love her enough not ... (read in full...)
Are there possibilities of pregnancy with the withdrawal method?
Q. If you have unprotected sex can you get pregnant if the guy stops before he comes. I did and we were disturbed so stopped before he did but i have skipped a period. Is it my imagination or is it possible...
A. 23 August 2008: My daughter is a result of the withdrawal method, as we were married it wasnt a problem but I now realise how lucky we were all those years before we married as I was chancing fate every time. Do a test if you are concerned x... (read in full...)
I have an incontinence problem when I laugh too hard. Any suggestions?
Q. erm hi there. okay this is guna sound random. but like i dont know if its a problem or whatever but... everytime i laugh (Propa giggly laugh) or something happens thats sooo funny i basically wee myself. i cant stop it but its like every time! and ...
A. 22 August 2008: At such a young age I would go to the doctors and report this problem as it can often get worse with age and having children etc x... (read in full...)
16, male, and not gifted in the hair department! Is it OK?
Q. Hi, well im 16 and a male...i need a little help, well ya see, im 16 and i have a good size and all, but not that much in the hair department...like i dont really have all that much leg,armpit, or even pubic hair for that matter. is this normal? are ...
A. 22 August 2008: Its fine, everyone is different. Are you blonde/fair by any chance. Blonder men tend to be less hairy then dark haired so its normal. Not all women like hairy men. Im not very hairy, Im a natural blonde and got teased at school in the changing ... (read in full...)
Have I gone through puberty yet? I think I'm too small.
Q. Im 11 and im not sure if i should hav gone through puberty yet cuz i dont think i hav yet. My penis is only 3 1/2' hard and 2 1/2' floppy. Is that normal?...
A. 22 August 2008: Unlikely that you have gone through it yet. Dont worry about your penis size yet it still has a lot of growing to do x... (read in full...)
Have I miscarried?
Q. Hi Im 6 weeks pregant. That is confurmed And last night i had a little blood show, bright pink colour My man look it up on the net and it is comon for pregant women to bleed a bit I asking now cause it now the next night it 4;30am right now and i ...
A. 22 August 2008: Yes get checked out just to be sure, just try not to worry x... (read in full...)
How can one virgin really turn another virgin on?
Q. Hey guys. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and we plan to have sex soon. We both really want to but I'm sensing he is a bit more nervous than I am (because he says he wants it to be really amazing). Do you have any advice about how I can ...
A. 22 August 2008: My advice is not to worry too much about the first time. If its not brilliant it will get better with time. I think if you try too hard it will just be awkward and clumsy. Just be yourself, be cute and feminine, explore each other bodies gently ... (read in full...)
I have a problem with my lips turning white, when I kiss my girlfriend, could wearing chapstick have anything to do with it, any way to prevent this?
Q. hi, Random question here, Every time I kiss my girlfriend my lips end up turning white in areas. I've figured it's only either dead skin or bacteria being killed(similar as to what happens when drinking vodka and the tongue turns white). ...
A. 21 August 2008: As chapstick is vaseline based it could be saliva reacting with the active ingredients which i think is petroleum jelly so that could explain the whiteness. try a non petroleum based cream like nivea and see if that makes a difference x... (read in full...)
Is there an age where women enjoy the best sex, also when do men and women lose their desire for sex?
Q. At what age do women have the best sex? At what age do men and women stop wanting to have sex?...
A. 21 August 2008: I personally think we go through phases throughout our lives and all are different. In my late teens and early 20's sex was good to ok and I enjoyed it, in my late 20's I hated it and didnt care if I never had it again. In my early 30's I couldnt ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with the divorce and the fact that I've had no closure...
Q. i am very recently divorced. I was married for 16 years and didn't want the divorce. My husband met another woman and let me cite his unreasonable behaviour as I contested the divorce and was advised in the end to stop fighting it. He basically got ...
A. 21 August 2008: It may be that you did nothing wrong which is why he cant talk to you. He made a mistake by getting involved with someone else and fell in love with her, he is the one to blame and cant talk to you as he feels so guilty. It will hurt for a long ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to get into the music industry just to help people? Will I be able to do so?
Q. I love to sing. I love to make music, compose songs and create lyrics. I'm talented in it. But most of all, what I really want to do, is to help people. I've been through a lot, maybe not enough, but I still am able to empathise with people. I'm not ...
A. 21 August 2008: How about music therapy which means you can still do music but you use it to help people?
http://www.bsmt.org/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Music_therapy
http://www.musictherapy.org/
Dont know where you are based so the top site is bri... (read in full...)
How do I confront my ex who is stealing money from me?
Q. After I broke up with my ex, I discovered on my bank statement that he used my ATM card to withdrawal cash without my permission (he knew my pin cause I lost my ID and would send him to get beer/cigarettes sometimes). There are about 3 occasions ...
A. 21 August 2008: You can ask him but whats the point? He is only going to lie. I know of a case here in uk where a woman's son stole money from her account, the police traced it back to him after £2000 went missing in a week from one account and £3000 from her visa ... (read in full...)
After the break up I met someone else, now both men are interested in me and I don't know who to choose...
Q. I am separated with 2 small children and just started dating a man for the last 5 months. We had very romantic dates and passionate sex every Sat. night...until he announced that he wanted to have dinner with an ex-girlfriend who just came back ...
A. 20 August 2008: Which one makes your tummy do somersaults when they ring, text or turn up to see you. Which one can you imagine spending the rest of your life with??
If its both then stop seeing them for a while and see which one you truly miss the most x... (read in full...)
He WANTS me to initialise sex and I have a hard time doing so due to my experience of having been rejected in the past...
Q. I was married to a man that I loved very much, but when it came to sex, he would always reject me if I initiated sexual moves towards him. I am now engaged to a wonderful guy, but when it comes to sex, he WANTS me to initialize sex and I have a hard...
A. 20 August 2008: If I want sex I just cuddle up to my husband and start stroking him intimately. Sometimes he may have joked dont even think about it Im too tired but I can always change his mind!! I often tease him by saying, ooh whats that, when his body ... (read in full...)
Is anyone else just as afraid to be alone?
Q. Here I am again - I thought I was making progress and I know that the boyfriend is NO GOOD for me and I deserve better so why do I still want to get attention from him? He makes me sick! Like last night he said he would call back and he didnt the...
A. 20 August 2008: Being alone is hard but you wont have the constant hassle and worry you have now waiting for this man to contact you. He probably wont change and you will put up with this for years wasting you life away with a man who doesnt derserve you.
W... (read in full...)
Does your boyfriend watch endless hours of tv?
Q. Does your boyfriend watch endless hours of tv? I am so sick of it! It is on from the minute he gets home, until he finally falls asleep! We used to have fun together, but now I stay in the living room, on my computer and he stays in the bedroom ...
A. 20 August 2008: We hardly watch tv. We're both musical so he might play the piano whilst Im on the computer or the other way round. Sometimes we just sit and chat or do something with the teenagers. Other times I'll play piano while he strums guitar. At least ... (read in full...)
I have lost my husband's trust, how can I 'learn my lesson' so he stays happy?
Q. ok, so I have contentiously messed up in my marriage and my husband no longer trust me! Its not an affair but he seems to think it is pretty close. I basically took on the responsibility of a kid after I told him I did not want kids right now, and ...
A. 20 August 2008: Why should you be punished you are not a child. Learn your lesson by listening to him but if you truly want to help this girl why does he have a problem with it? I think there is more to this so it is very difficult to comment but your husband ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable by wanting to leave my house to my children rather than my husband?
Q. Hi. I have been with my husband for two years. He moved into the house that I own from proceeds of a settlement from a previous relationship that produced children.. he came with basically nothing just a good wage. Since we were married my ...
A. 20 August 2008: Would you want to see your husband out on the streets if something happened to you?? If not then you make a will that divides the proceeds. By all means leave the majority to your children but could you leave him enough to put a deposit on a decent ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend politley asked me to give him a 'tit w**k'. I would love to, but don't know how!
Q. hummm... i dont know how to put this in a... ummm good way i guess, like i dont know the technical word for it, but i have 34dd breats, and my b/f politley asked me to give him a 'tit wank'. I would love to give him one, i just dont know how to do ...
A. 20 August 2008: I'm a 34E and my hubbie loves a tit wank. Get him to lie back half sitting on the bed and just position yourself over him so that his penis is in the middle of your boobs. I actually start a bit lower so that my boobs brush around his balls first ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to judge me, if I tell him the truth. I love him so much.
Q. Dear Cupid I was date-raped three years ago. All I remember about the incident is him saying he's clean and I should not worry about diseases, but I should get the morning after pill. Anyway, I fell pregnant, but aborted and went for every test ...
A. 20 August 2008: I was raped at college and I never told my boyfriend who I later married, mostly because I was stupid to get myself in that position,in fact I told nobody. A so called friend got this guy to get me really drunk at the pub (spiked my drinks) as she ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever found love outside their relationship and dumped their current ball-and-chain for the better woman?
Q. Hello everyone, I'll do my best to make this short: Basically, guy of my dreams walks into my life three weeks ago. He's 29, lives in NYC but is freelancing in Boston for a few months. I am 22 and living/working full time in Boston. Unfortunately, ...
A. 20 August 2008: Yes I met someone whilst dating someone else. I am now married to him. However I was never 'in' love with the other guy, nor him me, I only dated him for 7 months and I knew we had no future. The guy I met was single and didnt pressure me into ... (read in full...)
Why does my 7yr old step daughter masturbate?
Q. I have a step daughter who is now 7 years old. The problem is that she has been grinding her legs togather since about 9 months old. She has been to a doc that said it is a form of masterbation. We have taken her to counsuling they say if is a way ...
A. 20 August 2008: You have to talk to her. Dont tell her off for this behaviour just explain that it is perfectly normal to masterbate but it is not acceptable in public and is in fact something she should do in the privacy of her bedroom. She doesnt need any ... (read in full...)
Should I insist that my girlfriend tells me about her fling?
Q. Last november me n my gf went out for a night out n she got drunk n then started talkin bout past bf's. And then she started saying something about this fling she had with a guy( she had already told me about this n knew it bothered me). Anyway I st...
A. 18 August 2008: Maybe its something she doesnt want you to know about, maybe you know this person, or its someone she really shouldnt have been with as they might be married etc. Let it lie as it could make things worse.
I have something in my past that my husb... (read in full...)
Is it really always so wrong to fall in love with someone who is in a relationship?
Q. I'm in love with a married man and he's in love with me. I told him to stay with his wife as she is devastated and wants him to stay and make things work - they have young children. Is it really always so wrong to fall in love with someone who...
A. 18 August 2008: The problem is someone always get hurt in these situations. He was married so you should have stayed away from him. Of course you have both fallen in love, this usually happens and is caused by chemicals released when you make love. This often ... (read in full...)
My mum is forcing me to work in her local pub when I'm 15!
Q. Well heres a bit about myself, im 15 and live with my mum, dad and sister in a wealthy part of wales. My life has never really been bad, i havent experienced no deaths etc, but the year 2008 is the year that ive really found myself.. i got a ...
A. 18 August 2008: First of all why does your mum want you to work there? Is it because she wants you to give her some lodge money, thinks its time you had a job or just wants you where she can see you, i.e. if she's in the pub and you are there too you cant be up to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for interfering with my bothers treatment of his son (my nephew)?
Q. I have a question relating to family matters. I always get such good advise from everyone here so I trust that I will be led in the right direction on this question. My brother. He is 2 years younger than I. He has 4 kids. 3 girls and one bo...
A. 18 August 2008: Yes you are right to step in, the boy has already suffered and your brother is taking out whatever frustrations he has on the poor child. He needs help to see what he is doing. Could you get other family members involved to try and make your ... (read in full...)
My new guy babysits his ex's cat! Are they too close or what?
Q. I have started dating this guy and its been going great. He seems very interested in me, but the problem is he is still very close with his ex. He has told me its totally over but she is his first love. He is always on her facebook, shes on the top ...
A. 17 August 2008: Ok I will say it. WHY does a cat need a babysitter?
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What is this noise during sex and how to prevent it?
Q. ahh how embarressing, but i need advice. everytime me and my partner have sex, i keep 'fanny farting' as people call it, and it's so embarressing!! does anyone know how to help prevent it? or tighten up down there? without doing sugery or p...
A. 16 August 2008: I only get this doggy style and its actually very uncomfortable as basically air is being pushed into you. The only way we can resolve it is to make sure he doesnt do shallow fast strokes but to do deep longer ones, not a problem as he well ... (read in full...)
My GF hits me constantly, she told me I'm the only one that makes her mad and her ex's were better!...
Q. Ok.. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 months,i love her to death she knows it,BUT She thinks all i want is sex and she tells all her friends... she always hits me approximately she has hit me 7-9 times in the face (closed fist) a...
A. 16 August 2008: Get rid of her. This is not a NORMAL relationship. Men dont hit girls and girls dont hit men. Find a girl who really loves you and wouldnt dream of hurting you x ... (read in full...)
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