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writes:I'm calling out for help here. I am a 17 yr old girl. I live with my dad, my mom died a couple of years ago. My dad drinks alot and sometimes he hits me, I cant talk to him about anything, but I need to approach him about something that happened to me a few days ago. We had a party for my bday and my dads friends were all at our place. My pop bailed and went somewhere and his one friend cornered me in the bathroom. I screamed but no one could hear me over the music. He kept touching me and kissing me and I couldnt stop him. He did things to me. I was a virgin. I am so scared, what do i do?
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (15 June 2009):
 Sweetie, so sorry you are having to go through this all alone. Agony Aunt Wintry has given you the same advice I would have given you. Contact Childline urgently I think they have a toll-free number, also you must report this to the police. This man must not be allowed to get away with his actions. You also need to be tested for STD and HIV and pregnancy.I really feel for you, and remember what has happened is NOT YOUR FAULT! Do you not have an aunt or close family friend [female] that you can go and live with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): I'm very sorry this has happened to you it's not your fault and you don't deserve it.
Maybe you should try telling your Dad if you can trust he won't take it out on you or go and get personal revenge on the.
Definately go to the police. Stop this man from hurting you or anyone else, and get justice.They should help you and support you through a hard time like this.
Good Luck, and sorry you went through this :(
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reader, Wintry +, writes (13 June 2009):
 Hi sweetie, I am sorry that you had to go through this ordeal. I suggest you phone Childline and report both the perpetrator and your father to them. It might take some courage to call them, but they are there to help. Also, go to your nearest police station, as phoning the police here in safrica gets you nowhere. Ask to talk to a female police officer, specifically one who deals with cases similar to yours. The police will hook you up with a lady officer immediately if you say the words sexual offense. Also, talk to a teacher you can trust, preferably a female. The case will go to court, and he will be found guilty. You will be required to talk to numerous counsellors and legal advisors, but you will be provided with one when you call Childline. I also suggest finding a friend to stay with, asap. You do not deserve this burden, and you definitely do not deserve to be hurt by your father. With love and hugs your friend, wintry xxx everything will work out if you follow allthe advise you have received.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): I cant talk to him, he would blame it om me. Do you guys know how this is handled in s.a? i have no relatives in s.a and frankly i dont have friends, becoz of my dad...
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 You should tell your father, but he may not be as supportive as you would hope given that he is an abuser himself. What you have suffered is a sexual assault/ rape and this needs to be reported to the police. This is not only for yourself, but if that man is touching you then other girls and women are at risk. It also sends a clear message to him, as a perpetrator, that his behaviour is unacceptable and he maybe offered treatment as a sexual offender to prevent further assaults. As for your father hitting you, this is also a matter of domestic violence/ child abuse. I suggest that you try to obtain some counselling for the difficult family situation that you are in, and try to make arrangements to leave the family home as soon as you are able to do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): I'm afraid that you will just have to face your dad and tell him somehow. Hopefullly in a room where there arne't many objects that he can throw if he gets worked up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): hey, first of all you need to report it to the police, and if your father is as bad as it sounds, whatever you do, dont tell him, tell the police and have them talk to him, and if i were you, i would carry a blade around where ever you go. whether it be a pocket knife or even broken glass, or pepper spray or a tazor. i was molested by my brothers gf at that time, her x-bf. it was very scary, but i was not raped, and it sounds like you are saying that b4 this incident u were a virgin and now you are not. that wud mean its rape, not molestation, but u need to tell the cops, if u need help to go and tell them, tell a trusted female adult, teacher friends mom, councler, or anyother female who u trust. if i were u i wud tell some one asap, the longer u wait the weaker the case will be, take the fucking case to court, and make sure the bastered pays for what he did to u. also, dont go anywhere alone, if i were u hon, i wud call up 911 right now and report it, u can remain anomous, but it is better to tell them then go down an speak to them. what he did to u is unacceptable, an u shud have NEVER been put in that situation. if u need anymore help u can email me on here or on my yahoo: [email address blocked], i am free day or night, please tell someone, and dont wait anylonger, u deserve to show the fucker that he messed with the wrong chick, and that he is gunna be bubba's bitch in jail and he will know what u have to live with, but hon, please tell the police, i beg u to. it doesnt help at all to keep it a secret, it will eat u alive!
~Soda
p.s. i am here for u, anytime, i am here, an u r not alone!
with love and hugs, and a shoulder to cry on, ~soda
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): In the U.S. what happened to you constitutes several major felony crimes. In the U.S. you would immediately tell your dad and the police. If dad is not sympathetic, and I cannot imagine a context where he would not be, you call the police.The only reason not to tell your dad is if you think he might harm the perpetrator as most dads would want to do thus getting himself in trouble as well. You had no choice but to go through this with this perp but if you do the right thing now no other girls will have to endure this.
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