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writes: Hi my ex broke up with me. He had mentioned to me about being friends. At first I didn't want to , because I was so in love with me and my hurt would start all over again when ever I talked to,but not by the grace of God and advice from you all my heart is stsrting to heal.I had made up my mind to let friendship and all go , but when I didn't call him for about 7 days he called until he got me. I ended up calling him and we were talking about some things I was having problems with. He said he could help me I never asked he offered.Well, this is the problem he is always offering help and never comes through and when ever I talk to him again he never says anything about what he offered. I have tried to be a true and real friend to him, but I get so tired of him saying he is going to do things and never do and act like its nothing. I feel as though he is being disrespectful as a friend and just disreguards my feelings and I think he does this because he knew how much I loved him and I hurt him in the past.I apologized to him and I treat him as I would like to be treated. I'm fed up and tired of friendship on his terms. When we talk I feel as though he is just saying things that sound good and never put it into action. He calls any of my 3 phones when ever he wants and I answer and the only way I can get him on the phone is on his job, becaucse he won't answer the cell phone.As good as I was to him when we were together, he handles me like I'm pretty much nothing. I'm thinking about breaking all ties with him ,because he is the only one thats got a friend in this. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): I think you have answered your own question. You are not getting enough back from him. There are other people who can give you emotional support and not just say they will, so turn to other friends and cut off from him.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 "I'm fed up and tired of friendship on his terms" - Sweetie you have said exactly how you feel and considering he only has his interests at heart, cut ties with him. he is not going to change.
Time to move on Sweetie!!
Honeygirl
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 definately hun why should you bother making all this effort with him when he clearly doesn't give any of what he says back to you?
it's totally unfair on you and it's degrading you because you feel you've got a friend when really you've not got anyone there at all.
you need to cut all contact with him until he can grow up and be mature about the whole situation with you two it's not right he's dragging you down making these promises and telling you he wants to help you when he has no intention of doing it.
you really need to just leave him be see how he likes it.
Hope this helps hun x x x x.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 He is neither a boyfriend or a friend. You already know he had his day and that is now long gone. Time to leave again and this time close the door on him for good.
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