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writes:i'm feeling really angry with my so called 'friends'. ive been betrayed and burned by so many friends and i feel it almost pointless to even try and make any more new friendships. one has gone out with my longtime ex and i had only found out when i had stumbled across a random sms on her phone, the others weren't there when i needed them, some abandoned me for 'cooler' friends. and a while ago when i had enjoyed to drink and go out and party all of them turned me away saying i was some sort of loose party girl with no morals and who made bad decisions. and now all of a sudden they chose to do that and fail to invite me and enjoy talking about it and telling me all about their escapades. im so tired of all this high school bull. someone please tell me it gets better and that real friends actually exist. Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (9 May 2009):
 I know the feeling.....
As much as you may feel like no one understands how you feel, I can say with confidence that most of us have been in your shoes at one time.
so let me ask you this?
Do your friends dictate how you spend each and every day?
Do you feel socially paralyzed because of what is going on?
If you answered Yes to either question, its time to explore new people and new things.
You are quite young, but you have your whole life ahead of you. Chances are that these so called "friends" will not be around in a years' time. That is how fluid a friends situation is these days.
Look to yourself. In this world, the only person you can totally trust at any given moment is YOURSELF!
Don't look to others, because we have expectations of how things are supposed to be. Rarely they turn out as we hope, because we have (even as adults) unrealistic expectations of our friends.
I am not saying that you do, but I can count on one hand the number of people I could call a "true" friend.
Actually on one finger...closed...because in this world there are no "true" friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Well they haven't exsisted for me yet, but i'm hoping that when i get into my 20s and begin my career, i will meet some mature adults who know how to be friends.
Don't feel as if you can't talk to anyone though because being lonely is tough. They may not last forever the rest of the friends you make in high school and college will help you through this early part of your life. You could be out having fun so just enjoy the moment and don't make expectations for the future.
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