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writes:Two weeks into the relationship and i've already kissed another guy whilst drunk...I feel awful I know how bad this sounds I really do.I went over my alcohol limit and stupidly kissed some random guy...It's tearin' me up I know it's only two weeks in but this guys somethin' special and me being so stupid I have done something to jeapordise the relationship.He doesn't know yet.What do I do?x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Define relationship? Did you tell him you loved him and then kiss the other guy?
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reader, Prophet7  +, writes (18 May 2009):
We are human and we make mistakes. Do you really realize your mistake? Do you feel in your heart that you will not do it again? If you're not sure about the questions I just asked you there's a problem. It's very early in your relationship and being that you have disrepected your new relationship you may not be ready for commitment to him. Be true to yourself and to him. Think long and hard about the two questions I asked you. If you're not sure of the answers you might want to end things before a lot of time passes and someone gets hurt. It's early in the relationship and neither of you will be hurt as much. If you're going to be social when you go out and drink have some self-control. I'm not judging you but it bothers me when I hear so many stories from women who drink then cheat. Temptation is always there but you have to remember what's important and excercise restaint. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (18 May 2009):
 My first girlfriend did exactly the same thing... I remember like it was yesterday. We had fancied each other for 6 months before we got it together. 2 weeks of being together and seeing each other at every opportunity I think the guilt was tearing her apart so she told me.
I was dissappointed but she felt so bad about it I asked her if it meant anything. She said it was stupid and she doesn't know why she did it. I told her if it ever happened again it would be over. We cuddled, kissed and spent the next 6 years together (in the end we split up but for other reasons as we were so young when we got together).
You have 2 options;
1) Tell him and tell him it didn't mean anything and you know it was stupid and you love him so much (if that's the truth) and hope he doesn't finish it or;
2) Let it eat you up on the inside until it comes out or he works out is something is wrong, have an argument and he finishes it.
The longer you leave it, the harder it'll be and the more painful it'll be for the both of you. My advice is to tell him. You wouldn't feel so guilty if you didn't really care for him.
If he needs time to think give him a bit of space, text him and call him and tell him how it'll never happen again and you're so sorry and how much you love/care for him and it'll never happen again.
It's evident you are truly cut up by it which is a good thing. If I found out or worked it out a few months down the line it would destroy the trust. At least by bringing into the open you can both get over it.
Good luck.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Well don't tell him, it was a silly drunken kiss, most of us have been there at one point in our life! So just focus on this new relationship and just forget about the silly kiss, its only 2 weeks so dont worry to much, your only human! Try and limit your drink intake if you find it hard to control yourself around fit men! Good luck!
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reader, AMAL Alzaidy  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 well,i think if u really wana start up a honest relation ship then i guess u should tell him,,that u did whatever u did,,n u r regreting it n u r tellin him this cuz u wanna be loyal and honest with him and u r preety serious about the relationship thts why u told him,,n but if u still feel that he wont take it or something then i guess u shouldnt tell him,if he wont find out or something then dont tell him dear, and carry on with ur relation ship and dont do it again take it as a lesson
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Please tell him. Two weeks into a relationship is early enough that neither of you have a lot of time invested in it. BUT:
Young lady, you have demonstrated that in two weeks time you are not mature enough to handle a relationship. This one will not get off the ground unless you are HONEST with him. You also need to not use booze as an excuse. You made a conscious decision to kiss someone else.
This is not a mistake, it was a conscious decision and is dangerous behavior for a relationship. You have a chance to salvage it, if you want. But you have to be an adult and own what you did.
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reader, Pyro_Dimples +, writes (18 May 2009):
 well if it is tearing you up then just tell him.
It is early enough now that if it ends it wont be as hard.
If you wait though and something does come of the relationship and you tell him then it might just mean major heartbreak for you both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): There are 2 ways to look at it: tell him or dont.If there is a chance of him finding out later, that will be much worse than you telling him straight up, but, if you keep it from him you must live with it and never mention or have the risk of it being mentioned again.Two weeks in sounds very early for the relationship and I think you need to think about wether it is a relationship you want.Hope this helps!
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