Why do women care so much about men having a job?
Q. I am 39 and have never been able to get a job, so I have never been able to find love. And am still a virgin! Why do women care sooooooo much about this job thing? Why can't I be the one who does the housework and take the kids to school ect. ...
A. 19 June 2011: having a job shows a woman that you have pride in yourself to want to work for your crust rather than have it handed to you. its what real grown up men do, since the beginning of time women have always been attracted to the hunter-gatherers, it ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in spanking your child?
Q. Do you believe in spanking your child? I've heard people say they believe in it and others believe that its wrong. Personally, i believe in it if they are out of control and have been warned repeatedly. Don't judge, it was how i was raised and my ...
A. 19 June 2011: no i don't believe in spanking a child no more than i believe in punching a rude obnoxious person badly behaved adult. and yes, i am a parent and yes i HAVE smacked my son occasionally but the times i have smacked him is when i have been too tired ... (read in full...)
Should I end the relationship based on this one factor?
Q. I am wondering if I should leave my boyfriend. We have been together for nearly four months and everything is going great, except for in the bedroom. He has barely touched me the whole time we have been together and we have only been intimate t...
A. 16 June 2011: low sex drive, lack of confidence, likes you as a person but does not fancy you, uses porn to an extent that he finds real sex less appealing or too much like hard work, his age, his health, his true sexuality, are you initiating it enough or maybe ... (read in full...)
Somebody please talk me out of cheating.
Q. Somebody please talk me out of cheating. I am married with kids ( marriage has become a little boring , rutine and very predictable), but I'm craving that excitement of the affairs. I know for sure I WILL NOT get caught ever, and I am sure I WILL N...
A. 16 June 2011: how can you be so sure you won't get caught though?? i sympathise with the boredom factor i really do, but if you can state that you !won't feel guilty! then i really think you don't deserve to married with a family, so maybe you might be better ... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when he puts a security lock on his phone?
Q. I've been with this man for 7yrs which I have experienced everything from cheating, verbally and physical abuse which he say's he has never given me a black eye but tried chokin me twice..go figure!! Which thank god the last time he put his hands on ...
A. 16 June 2011: he sounds like bad news. i am all for privacy but this guy only wants privacy coz he is up to no good. your friend probably thinks they are being kind in placating you with what they said, but you really need to start listening to your own self! - ... (read in full...)
Is it true that the one who cares the least has the most power in a relationship?
Q. they say the one that cares the least has the most power- is this true? Boy, am i in trouble. I care the most....
A. 16 June 2011: yes i believe so. in relationships there is always one that cares less than the other so they can call the shots, knowing that the other one will do whatever they can to keep the relationship going coz they care so much. but for the one who cares ... (read in full...)
First time, split condom, could I be pregnant?
Q. i'm freaking out, i had sex for the first time this weekend and the condom split. how much chance is there that i'm pregnant? i'm on the pill, he hadn't ejaulated yet, and there was no pre-cum because he had ejaculated before we had sex. do i...
A. 16 June 2011: as he had ejaculated before sex there is a chance that there was still some sperm residue in his penis. however as long as you have been taking your pill correctly and you have been taking it for longer than 7 days already you should be ok but take ... (read in full...)
He gets horny over my baby bump. Is this normal?
Q. hey. i am 4 months pregnant. i have been with my boyfriend for 12 months, however it is not his baby. he knows, he's accepted it (i think) and he forgave me for cheating on him. anyway, now i am starting to get a bump. this seems to send my boyfr...
A. 16 June 2011: no, sorry, totally weird and sounds like he has got a severe problem with you cheating on him, like the sort of man who likes to ask his woman for vivid details of her affair or the sort who gets off on watching his woman get nailed by some one ... (read in full...)
He wants "vivid" photos of me!
Q. He's sweet and always really nice, but ever since we got deeper into getting to know each other, he been asking me to give him pictures of me, like "vivid" pictures. I know I would never do it, but I want him to like me still and I know he likes me ...
A. 14 June 2011: have you told him 'no'? he needs to hear it, if after that he still carries on asking then i would definitely take that to mean he has no real respect for you. don't give in to his demands, nude pictures can be looked at not only by his friends ... (read in full...)
He said he thinks of me as a little sister? Does he fancy me?
Q. what does it mean he thinks of you as a little sister or does it mean he likes you? btw we are both 16 going on 17. ive known him for about a 3 years he is always flirting and sometimes he acts friendly but idk if hes just a playing or what. an...
A. 14 June 2011: he is giving you mixed messages then if he is telling you he thinks of your as a little sister but then on the other hand he flirts with you (are you sure its flirting or is he just friendly?)
if he IS flirting but saying you are just like bro... (read in full...)
Obsessed with husbands ex.....
Q. I feel i am obsessed with my husbands ex. we have been together 8yrs and recently got married but literaly since day one she has been in our relationship trying to destroy it. we were on again off again with our relationship for a while and in those ...
A. 14 June 2011: 'she was my husbands first love and first fiance so i know there will always be something there' sorry but you are wrong - just cause someone has a first love it really doesn't mean they always have a special place in the heart, especially if the ... (read in full...)
He dumped me 2 months ago, but I love him more now than I did before! How do I get him back?
Q. 2 month ago I got dumped. This guy is the love of my life, my soul mate and my best friend and now its gone. Over time you're suppost to heal right and gradually forget well I love this guy more right now than I did 2 month ago and losing him h...
A. 14 June 2011: you need to give up i think, he knows how you feel and he has confirmed again to you that his decision is final. how can he make it more clear? if he doesn't socialise in college, work or out of work then maybe he has some kind of personality ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's daughter despises the fact that I moved in without consultation by her mother!
Q. I am 34 years old and my girlfriend is 48. She has 15 year old daughter that despises the fact that I moved in before my girlfriend consulted her daughter. Any advice to lighten the load?...
A. 14 June 2011: sorry but i quite agree with the daughter. she is a young adult who now finds herself sharing the house with some other person, and not by her choice. how would you feel if someone moved into your home without you say-so? at the end of the day it ... (read in full...)
He breaks up with me every summer, and this year is no different! How do I get him back?
Q. my partner have been together 3 years on and off. we seem to have a routine of us getting together September/ October time and him finishing with me in June (this is now the third summmer- he always finishes it). at first we fall in love all over ...
A. 13 June 2011: yeah you'll probably get him back coz he knows you are good for a door mat. have a good long think about the reasons that you actually would want him back though. make up a pros and cons list. he may be the love of your life so far, but you are ... (read in full...)
Is it too early to be discussing engagement/ marriage after only two months?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months now. We are in love with each other and he has already mentioned engagement and marriage. I believe that it is too early to discuss them, but on the other hand, it expresses how we feel for each ...
A. 13 June 2011: he is trying to rush you and he sounds quite bossy and opinionated so be careful! why the rush? if he wants to marry you he should be able to provide somewhere for his new wife to live, getting his friend to put you up in a spare room is not really ... (read in full...)
Could a married man be my soulmate?
Q. I have a bit of a strange question to ask. Basically my best friend is married, we are extremely close and so relaxed around one another. Sometimes its like we are the same person, it gets scary at times. We competly understand one another, whilst ...
A. 13 June 2011: soulmates, twin souls, karmic partners etc are not necessarily romantic partners. they can be friends, family members even a pet. karma can bring people together some of their life times and sometimes it is not in a positive way but it is the ... (read in full...)
Thinking that my wife was cheating on me, I did it too. I regret it now...how can I get her back?
Q. I need help! Ive been married for four years to my beautiful and amazing wife. But . we there was a time in our marriage that i didn't pay any attention to her, or make any effort for her, i completely took her for granted. ... i e...
A. 13 June 2011: give her time to be angry. she maybe angry at herself too and thinking that if she had not had her emotional affair then you wouldn't have gone and got a revenge f***. her emotional affair was in the same league as your sex-cheat, coz she probably ... (read in full...)
Feeling very guilty for cheating on my girlfriend....should I tell her?
Q. I cant stop this terrible feeling of guilt after cheating on my girlfriend recently. I want to tell her but im scared if i do i will lose her. She means the world to me and im gutted ive now ruined everything after a stupid one night stand. Ive lied ...
A. 13 June 2011: if you tell her she will probably finish with you, or if she keeps you things will NOT be pleasant for either of you. you will not be trusted, you will probably he questioned every time you go out without her, she may even decide to 'return the ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to talk to girls!
Q. My problem is that i do not know how to talk to girls at all. I recently came out of my first relationship that was 3 years. This relationship was pretty bad as my ex would not allow me to talk with other girls and being young and stupid i went alo...
A. 13 June 2011: girls love sincere compliments, they like to be asked questions and to have their opinions taken seriously. find out what a girl is interested in and talk about that, if you are also interested in it then great, but if not, you can still talk about ... (read in full...)
Questions about hook-ups and dating......
Q. Girls, how often do you have a hook up? It's hard being single and not getting affection, I haven't been in a relationship for about 3 years now and within these 3 years ive hooked up about every 3-4 months, i feel really guilty afterward, feeling ...
A. 13 June 2011: well i am not sure what i believe spiritually but if there is a god and he is good and just wants all his children to be happy, then i cannot see that he would say 'no, you've had your fair share for this year!' do what you want to do - be safe - ... (read in full...)
I want a girlfriend, not a friend who just happens to be a girl!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years and love each other dearly. THe only thing is that I feel that I am uninteresting to her now. In the begining she was the reason we started dating, she asked me out and would initiate e...
A. 13 June 2011: sounds like she has always been rather selfish sexually and now that she has been with you a while and the exciting horny period is over for her, she has no interest in giving you anything sexually coz she does not want anything from you. i hope ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want to meet?
Q. dear all. Pls help. I had a difficult split from my ex who I still love desperatley. We last saw each other 4 months ago. There,s not a day that passes when i haven.t thought about him. Anyway,we have been chatting a bit on messenger for the last ...
A. 13 June 2011: no need to block him but don't chase him either. you have split up so just get on with your life, that does not mean you have to ignore each other forever. maybe in the future you might get back together if it turns out you both want to but at the ... (read in full...)
Is serenading her a good idea?
Q. I Decided to tell a girl I'm in love with the way i feel about her. We dated for about 6 months and then broke up. But i still love her. I decided to let her know. And I'm thinking about singing her a song. I've never sung in front of anyone ...
A. 12 June 2011: are you a good singer? sing the song to other people whose honest opinion you can trust. it depends on the sort of person she is too, some people might find it embarrassing to be sang to
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She's really angry and I need some help.
Q. Yesterday night she miss call me and I dint called her back. She was angry when we chat online,she say,'WHY YOU DINT CALL ME WHEN I MISS CALL YOU??!!' Well, I was at a sports club training table tennis so I dint heard the phone was ringing....
A. 12 June 2011: who does she think she is?? don't be treated like that by someone. she is mistaking you for one of her pupils i think, tell her to have some respect for you and if that is too much to ask then maybe she should hit the road
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I'm tired of being accused of cheating. What can I do about my BF's jealousy?
Q. My boyfriend of two years has a "trust problem". Every time he sees me with another guy (like a coworker) he thinks up little scenarios of what I could be doing to cheat on him. He tells me this about once a month and this last time he told me I ...
A. 12 June 2011: he needs to get help with this jealousy issue or else it will stick with him for life ruining every relationship he ever has. you would think that the longer you are with him the more secure he should feel, but it does not work that way - in fact ... (read in full...)
I am interested in him as more than a friend. How do I let him know and should I?
Q. Lately I've become quite close to a guy who is almost 11 years older than me (I'm 19, he's 30). We started out as acquaintances but after knowing him for almost 5 years we're now very good friends. We have long conversations about anything at all ...
A. 12 June 2011: the age difference is not really that much, if you are capable of being in a good friendship to each other and be able to talk about anything and everything. if you have the same outlook on life and share many beliefs and opinions, then you two are ... (read in full...)
I feel irritated or bored when my boyfriend is talking!
Q. Hi, so, I need some advice about whether it is ok to feel irritated if not bored when your boyfriend is talking to you, please! I've been with my bf 7 months, things are great, and I love him......but, sometimes when he's talking to me, I get so ...
A. 12 June 2011: if you are like this just 7 months in then i don't think your relationship is gonna be a long one. has he done something in the past that has made you resent him? when you are with him and you start to feel like this, how do you feel *exactly*? do ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about ever having a sex life with him?
Q. I fell in love with this great man 2 years ago. He was so different from anyone I had ever met.I adored him from day one and could not keep my hands off him. Now things are different. I have started pulling back because I realized it was me always ...
A. 12 June 2011: what sort of porn was it? maybe he just doesn't find you attractive? or maybe he lacks confidence and so would rather refrain from sex coz he thinks he will only disappoint you. when he says previously women have dumped him coz he is a dud, what ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want to meet?
Q. dear all. Pls help. I had a difficult split from my ex who I still love desperatley. We last saw each other 4 months ago. There,s not a day that passes when i haven.t thought about him. Anyway,we have been chatting a bit on messenger for the last ...
A. 12 June 2011: it sounds like he is not keen on the idea but he thinks it would be unkind to tell you so, he may be hoping that you will leave it as long as he ignores the issue. you don't say what the circumstances of the break up were only that you still love ... (read in full...)
Sex isn't working out so well, is there a different position we can try?
Q. i had sex for the first time yesterday and then a second time today; but i just couldn't seem to relax today. when he entered me he basically got pushed out again. i think it could be the fact i'm still nervous but is there any other position that ...
A. 12 June 2011: maybe spend more time on foreplay (for you!) so that you are properly aroused and ready
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Overprotective boyfriend hates it when he sees red
Q. For over four years I've been in a great relationship with a beautiful woman. I'd say 99 % of the time its been fantastic, best friends and lovers at the same time. They have been the best times since I was a child. We do lots of stuff together and ...
A. 12 June 2011: your parents relationship, and the fact that your mum worries that women will hurt her sons (i guess she conveys these worries to you?) and your previous girlfriend not being loyal to you have all had a part to play in the way you feel now. maybe ... (read in full...)
Why did he start things with me if it was a mistake?
Q. Okay so my best (male) friend came over. And he's been over my house about 3 times. The first time we just watched tv like everything was normal. The second day he was in my room and suddenly grabbed me and said he wanted to bone me and he kept it ...
A. 12 June 2011: he's a dirtbag. he has probably lost interest coz he never got full sex from you. he has a GF. you should do the same as he is doing and forget about it. he is not someone that will give you any sort of a good relationship (unless you want to be ... (read in full...)
Maybe I'm not cut out to be a mom?
Q. Maybe I'm not cut out to be a mom. He's cute, yes, but too much for me to handle, financially and sleeplessness. It is burdensome and bothersome for me. I'm getting so stress out and burnout from taking care of a baby. I don't have a reliable sitter ...
A. 12 June 2011: try this: CHILD HELP USA HOTLINE, 1.800.422.4453. Provides crisis counseling and nationwide referrals to services for children and families.
or google around for help and support in your local area. are you on good terms with your family? ... (read in full...)
Can your movements be tracked by your mobile phone, and how is it done?
Q. This issue has been playing on my mind..... The question is.... Can your movements be tracked by your mobile phone. And how is it done. Can you tell if your has been tracked. I think am sounding a bit paranoid here. But a friend recently that her...
A. 10 June 2011: thanks but i only copied and pasted it! i didn't understand it. just spend the last few hours trying to get all my sons contacts and everything back on his blackberry after i deleted them by doing an update that i didn't understand. when he wakes ... (read in full...)
Why do I crave attention?
Q. I crave attention. Not in a relationship way, just generally in life and it gets in the way of doing normal things sometimes... Generally when I think people that crave attention, I think someone who hasn't been loved or a loner, I am neither,...
A. 9 June 2011: maybe you are trying to hard to please people and make them like you, it works but then i guess you just want to take a back seat and have THEM come to YOU. so you know that they still love you even when you are not acting so fun. do you feel like ... (read in full...)
Are guys who like damsel in distress girl bad type of people?
Q. [English as a second language speaker here] There's a girl in my class which I haven't found attractive before. In fact, I thought she's loud and annoying. Today she asked me a question about the assignment. Me being one of the smart kids in th...
A. 9 June 2011: it makes you feel more manly. as long as you have a caring and helpful attitude and you are not getting off on a power trip, i think its ok
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He breaks up with me every summer, and this year is no different! How do I get him back?
Q. my partner have been together 3 years on and off. we seem to have a routine of us getting together September/ October time and him finishing with me in June (this is now the third summmer- he always finishes it). at first we fall in love all over ...
A. 9 June 2011: sounds like he fancies himself as a bit of a player. if he has not matured by this stage in his life he is not likely to. he wants you through the winter but then wants his life to himself over the summer. he is treating you like shit and he will ... (read in full...)
He cancelled our trip and gave all the money to his ex for new clothes for his child! Do I mean nothing to him?
Q. My boyfriend planned a special weekend away together for us as my birthday present. Then his ex wife called and told him she wanted extra money (besides maintenance already paid and a few extras) to buy clothes for their child. Now this child does ...
A. 9 June 2011: maybe he has got debts that you don't know about. just a thought
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Can your movements be tracked by your mobile phone, and how is it done?
Q. This issue has been playing on my mind..... The question is.... Can your movements be tracked by your mobile phone. And how is it done. Can you tell if your has been tracked. I think am sounding a bit paranoid here. But a friend recently that her...
A. 9 June 2011: hi
i have copied and pasted this from an article i found just by googling. i couldn't be bothered to read it properly coz its too technical for me but i hope it helps...
Mobile Phone Tracking Is Explained Here in This Article
So can you re... (read in full...)
Maybe I'm not cut out to be a mom?
Q. Maybe I'm not cut out to be a mom. He's cute, yes, but too much for me to handle, financially and sleeplessness. It is burdensome and bothersome for me. I'm getting so stress out and burnout from taking care of a baby. I don't have a reliable sitter ...
A. 9 June 2011: it is hard work, no doubt about it you are certainly not the only one who feels like this. ease up on yourself. you don't have to be perfect, you don't have to keep your house tidy if you haven't got time, its ok to stay in your pyjamas for the ... (read in full...)
Isn't this a little too serious a little too fast?
Q. My girlfriend freaks out every time someone comments on my photos on fb or writes on my wall. We've only been dating for about a week but whenever someone writes something on my wall or on a photo she panics and starts questioning me about it. She ...
A. 9 June 2011: ooh, you are gonna have a tough time with this girl! she obviously has major trust issues and will constantly be looking for and demanding reassurance from you. its up to you if you want to sign up for that! she should be on her VERY BEST ... (read in full...)
Isn't this a little too serious a little too fast?
Q. My girlfriend freaks out every time someone comments on my photos on fb or writes on my wall. We've only been dating for about a week but whenever someone writes something on my wall or on a photo she panics and starts questioning me about it. She ...
A. 9 June 2011: ooh, you are gonna have a tough time with this girl! she obviously has major trust issues and will constantly be looking for and demanding reassurance from you. its up to you if you want to sign up for that! she should be on her VERY BEST ... (read in full...)
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