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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months now. We are in love with each other and he has already mentioned engagement and marriage. I believe that it is too early to discuss them, but on the other hand, it expresses how we feel for each other and avoids time wasting. When I mentioned living together before marriage, however, he said 'it is best not to live together outside of marriage because it makes it harder if you get married' and 'over 76% of couples who live together before marriage' end up in divorce. I disagreed and said that living together before marriage is a good opportunity to give you both a chance to see if you can both get along and thus wishing to spend the rest of your lives together, ie. get married. Also, if I were to get a job in his city, he would find get a friend to lend me their spare room because of his opinions and cos he wants us to work. How true is what he said or is he being illogical? Is it too early to discuss engagement and marriage just 2 months into a relationship? Please help, thank you.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 June 2011):
 Yes. I think so. Where is the fire? What is the rush?
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (13 June 2011):
 he is trying to rush you and he sounds quite bossy and opinionated so be careful! why the rush? if he wants to marry you he should be able to provide somewhere for his new wife to live, getting his friend to put you up in a spare room is not really ideal is it? i agree with you op, to live with someone is how you REALLY get to know someone. maybe this is what he is afraid of
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