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writes:Hi, so, I need some advice about whether it is ok to feel irritated if not bored when your boyfriend is talking to you, please! I've been with my bf 7 months, things are great, and I love him......but, sometimes when he's talking to me, I get so bored! He talks about work all the time, and tells me the same stuff repeatedly. I do listen and am supportive if he has problems at work, but do find myself getting bored and irritated.....is that ok? Sometimes I wish he'd shut up and just kiss me instead! My friend thinks this means I am in lust not in love......do you think that's true? Is is ok to be bored and irritated when your significant other talks to you? Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): I have the same problem with my husband because he is always talking about the economy, business, and politics! and on and on and on..... I feel so irritated and frustrated as we go out to have fun and he starts the same story as a usual! One night I couldn’t stand it anymore because we went out to have dinner and celebrate our anniversary and instead of being romantic he started to analyze the market again and I just exploded as I couldn’t take it anymore. I just talked to him right on the spot and told him that I am very disappointed with this and asked him to realize when he should talked about what. Now I’m more comfortable reminding him as he starts again, usually when we go out, and he changes the topic of conversation. He is much better now. I don’t know how much you are comfortable and close to your boyfriend, for sure you don’t want to act like me, I have a different relationship with hubby and he really doesn’t get annoyed, but I think you should talk to him and remind him when he should talk about what in a manner that he does not get hurt. Good luck
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (12 June 2011):
 if you are like this just 7 months in then i don't think your relationship is gonna be a long one. has he done something in the past that has made you resent him? when you are with him and you start to feel like this, how do you feel *exactly*? do you feel trapped and wishing you were somewhere else like out with your mates? do you feel like you would like to replace him with someone new? it sounds like you have had enough of the relationship, for some reason. put yourself in his place though - how would you feel if you were talking to someone and you knew they were bored and irritated with them? if you are like this with him i think you should probably let him go coz your feelings for him don't seem strong enough
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): No its not ok - I think your friends right - its just lust on your part
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