Am I experiencing a phantom pregnancy?
Q. Recently my body has been acting REALLY weirdly. My stomach has bloated out by a HUGE amount (I keep getting asked if I'm pregnant it's that bad) and it's rock hard. I honestly look 6 months pregnant. I'm getting cravings for strawberries, my boobs ...
A. 31 July 2011: don't want to worry you but i would definitely see a doctor tomorrow. tell them your symptoms and let them examine you
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I really like this guy but think he is not interested...should I delete his number?
Q. Why didnt he reply? is he just not interested? i like him alot.? I really like this guy work. He stares at me when am not looking, he smiles whenever we talk and he's very friendly with me. I gave him my number and he rang me and ta...
A. 31 July 2011: no need to delete his number. just act normal tomorrow, don't be shitty with him coz that will just ruin everything between you. there could be loads of reasons why he has not replied, maybe he did not even get your text, it CAN happen. some ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my b/f that I'm not a virgin?
Q. How am i going to tell my boyfriend that iam not a virgin anymore?...
A. 31 July 2011: what do you mean 'anymore'? where you a virgin when you started your relationship and you cheated on him or had you already lost your virginity before you met him?
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Am I experiencing a phantom pregnancy?
Q. Recently my body has been acting REALLY weirdly. My stomach has bloated out by a HUGE amount (I keep getting asked if I'm pregnant it's that bad) and it's rock hard. I honestly look 6 months pregnant. I'm getting cravings for strawberries, my boobs ...
A. 31 July 2011: get a pregnancy test. not everyone has morning sickness. when we crave a food it can be because our bodies are deficient in certain vitamins and minerals that certain food can provide, or maybe you are convincing yourself that you are having a ... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy and picky when it comes to girls?
Q. I'm a virgin guy and 20. I've finished my first year of uni. There have been a few girls. I kissed one in a club, danced with a few and there was one i was interested in but she wasn't. Anyway yesterday i met up with my mates who i hadn't seen in a ...
A. 31 July 2011: you seem to have given plenty of thought to this and have good insight which is good and very useful in solving the problem, rather than just saying 'i've not lost my virginity - why??'
if you feel you are TOO picky, then just start giving a... (read in full...)
Some quick questions regarding smiling at the opposite sex...
Q. Hi there, a fairly simple couple of questions regarding smiling at the opposite sex. As a girl (or lady), do you like being smiled at by a guy - whether you know them, or don't know them. Secondly, once you get to know a guy better, do you sti...
A. 31 July 2011: i think that everyone likes being smiled at don't they? doesn't matter to me if the person who smiles at me is a man or woman, attractive or ugly. it is just a nice signal, much better than being greeted by a miserable or unfriendly looking face. ... (read in full...)
My sister and I have the worst relationship imaginable!
Q. My sister and I have the worst relationship imaginable. We argue constantly and I'm not saying it's always her fault but she does bring on the majority of our fights. Ever since we were kids she's been a total control freak, everyone says I'...
A. 30 July 2011: she older than you? 2 teenage girls in a house can be a recipe for disaster. when you get older and move out you may even become great friends! in the meantime, just make sure you give each other PLENTY of space. stop making your poor mum be the ... (read in full...)
All of my exes have cheated on me so I'm sure my boyfriend is going to do the same thing....
Q. Dear Cupid. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. I have a problem trusting my boyfriend. Not because he's done things but because each and every one of the guys i've been with have hurt me bad! So pretty much im just waiting for him ...
A. 30 July 2011: trust is hard for most people i think. its the not knowing what that other person is doing/thinking/feeling that makes us feel vulnerable. i think you need to make a list of his POSITIVE points. you said he treats you well, build on that list. keep ... (read in full...)
How come it's much harder for a man to to find someone to cheat with?
Q. Statistics show that the number of both attached men and women that cheat on their significant other are about equal. If this is true, how come it's much harder for a man to meet a woman to cheat with than it is for a woman to find a man to do the ...
A. 30 July 2011: getting back to the animal kingdom (coz humans are animals) you will notice that the male animals always have to have SOMETHING that draws a mate. be it beautiful plumage, the ability to fight and beat other males, the best mating call, be the best ... (read in full...)
How come it's much harder for a man to to find someone to cheat with?
Q. Statistics show that the number of both attached men and women that cheat on their significant other are about equal. If this is true, how come it's much harder for a man to meet a woman to cheat with than it is for a woman to find a man to do the ...
A. 30 July 2011: men are usually the ones who are more into non-committed sex. since the earliest humans, men are are all about spreading their seed with as many breeding partners as possible. women are more about finding a man who will stick around to hunt, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man in his forties to have a sex drive this high?
Q. Is it normal for men to have the same sex drive in their forties that they experienced in their twenties? I'm in my mid forties involved with a lovely woman who commented about my high sex drive and being very sexual, but not in a vulgar, ...
A. 30 July 2011: physically it is very normal, make the most of it while you've still got it. but it sounds like you may have something wrong emotionally. look at your childhood and young life to find the roots of this, and address it if you are concerned
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Husband caught playing "sexual chicken" now what?
Q. I've been married to my husband for over a year. Two months ago I found a sexually explicit text on his phone (I wasn't snooping, it displayed the text when I plugged his phone in the charger. You can bet I snooped after that, though). It was from a ...
A. 29 July 2011: how awful! you know what you need to do don't you? and i know it is probably the thing you don't want to do. sexual chicken seems like bullshit. i don't believe that he spends time texting this woman just to see how far they can push each other but ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has aftershave that ex gave him and I don't like it
Q. I know this sounds ridiculous, but my boyfriend has this aftershave that his ex-gf bought him and when he wears it it makes me really angry inside. He obviously doesn't know this because I would look like a joke. He's wearing it more and more and it ...
A. 29 July 2011: the aftershave is not the problem really though is it? you seem to have a jealousy issue about his ex and i think you should address this yourself. if you tell him you don't like the aftershave coz it makes you angry coz his ex gave it to him you ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend text me more and become romantic again without sounding needy or clingy?
Q. Hello there.... I've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now...In the beginning, he was the most affectionate and romantic person in the whole world! He would kiss me and hug me all the time which I really enjoy since I'm very affectionat...
A. 28 July 2011: if you had been together a long time then i would say that his lack of attentiveness is because he is settled/comfortable/complacent even BUT you have only been together a matter of weeks and part of that time he has spent working away so really it ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's mother too clingy or am I being over sensitive??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, he's 20 and I'm 18. He's just about to start his third year at University and I'm about to start my first University year in the same city. He's an only child, and his parents had him quite la...
A. 27 July 2011: you are spot on. she IS overly clingy and sounds like a nightmare. i hope your boyfriend can cope with this and does not let her rule his life. the poor woman doesn't realise that the more she clings the less he wants her. my mum is quite similar ... (read in full...)
I found out that the man I was dating is married...now what?
Q. I was dating a man for 3 months and a week ago I found out that he is married. His wife read my message on his phone, contacted me and told me that they've known each other for 11 years, are married, have a 6 year old child and that she's now ...
A. 27 July 2011: it is really shitty that he did this to you and his wife. you feel like you are left out in the cold with nothing but please try not to think that way - you have been given the truth and you have been give your freedom back - so you can now move on ... (read in full...)
Are women just completely selfish?
Q. I was married for 12 years when I found out that my wife had been having an affair for 3 years. After about 8 months of trying to work at staying together for our at the time 8 year old twin boys I finally realized I couldn't be with her anymore. S...
A. 27 July 2011: don't let you experiences make you a woman-hater. yes there are some terrible women in the world but there are also some terrible men. are YOU a terrible man? no? so that proves that not all men are terrible doesn't it? the same rule applies for ... (read in full...)
Do women look too ?
Q. A question that will ignite a debate, we men although may have the most beautiful wife/girlfriend but we keep on looking at other women, we don't get enough! although we may be having the best woman...Are women like us in nature, do they look at men ...
A. 25 July 2011: yeah we do. its only natural to look, like we look at everything else in our surroundings. if we like the look of something we will look at it longer. ogling is uncalled for, (especially if we are with our partner) it does not mean we want to ... (read in full...)
Is there a connection between my eating behaviour and my love/sex life.
Q. I've been experiencing something rather odd these past few months. I feel compelled to eat often (high-calorie food in particular) even though I can tell I'm not physically hungry; I don't know if I can call it comfort eating because I don't feel ...
A. 24 July 2011: your brother is right! chocolate releases the same feel good chemicals in the brain as sex does. emotional emptiness cannot be filled with food. if you are lonely -seek company. if you are bored - find something to do, preferably get out doors, ... (read in full...)
Stressed, because my friends like to drink and I don't! How do I deal with this?
Q. I get pressure from people all the time, the same people. ALL my friends drink! I'm not much into it because I hate the taste. I will try a drink but I will never like it. I'm just sick of all my friends pressuring me. It's like they never heard of ...
A. 24 July 2011: tell them that you definitely don't want to drink and the need to accept it. if they carry on trying, then they are really not true friends. they are obviously very curious to see what you would be like and how you would behave when drunk, which ... (read in full...)
She wants some space! What should I do?
Q. I'm back with my ex wife, and for the first five months it was great. But now she is saying she wants some space, and she is losing her feelings for me slowly! she said space apart, to see if we will grow closer together....
A. 24 July 2011: you had space apart before. i don't know why this was or whose idea it was, but it looks like its not worked. being apart doesn't make people closer, in my opinion 'the break' comes before the 'break up' if your wife needs time away from you, it ... (read in full...)
I am bored and lonely, and the moment I find someone to hang out with while my boyfriend is at work, he gets angry and upset .
Q. Hi, my bf and I had been together for quite some time. First, we were long distance, then I moved in with him about 2 years ago. When I first moved in I didn't have any friends or family. I still don't have any family here, but I manage to find ...
A. 24 July 2011: he really doesn't trust you does he? he does not have the confidence to believe that he is enough for you and when you spend time with other friends in situations that could lead you hook up with other guys, this just intensifies his fears. he is ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a pathological liar..how do I fix this?
Q. I think i might be a patholgical liar. Its not like i make up complete stories, but i constantly manipulate stories and tell lies. Like for example, this past week i was with my cousins and my one guy cousin whose close to my age saw me with my ...
A. 24 July 2011: you are portraying to people a version of a life that you wish you were having. maybe you feel like your life is lacking in interesting things/activities/excitement. if so, get out and do something about this.
for instance, rather than make up ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I've gotten into another relationship where I am not going to be put first!
Q. Help me, I need advice - due to my past relationships with my mother, ex-husband and ex-BFs I'm worried I've gotten myself in yet another relationship where I'm not appreciated and loved as much as I should be. Due to that feeling I want to cut and ...
A. 24 July 2011: maybe your past disappointments have left you feeling overly needy and this will give your new partner a high standard to try to attain. talk to him about it. maybe he IS being selfish, or maybe you are just being unrealistic. discuss your worries ... (read in full...)
Are these spots friction marks?
Q. Its not really a relationship problem, but moreso of a health question (if its okay to post them here). I recently got back from Hilton Head Island, SC, and everything was fine down there. After two hours of being on wave runners, we went...
A. 24 July 2011: i would say see how this goes and if the spots are still there in a few days, go to your doctor so they can rule out other possible causes
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Could my boyfriend have a personality problem?
Q. I had a boyfriend and I'm wondering if he has some personality problems. He always changes up a story from what really happen when we argue he doesn't like to take faults when they are his he can't talk about his feelings he runs away from his ...
A. 22 July 2011: sounds like maybe he doesn't know how to love people (not been set a good example by his parents) he is not very good at showing affection to the baby and is disinterested coz the baby can't do anything for HIM. your boyfriend can TAKE from other ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend have a personality problem?
Q. I had a boyfriend and I'm wondering if he has some personality problems. He always changes up a story from what really happen when we argue he doesn't like to take faults when they are his he can't talk about his feelings he runs away from his ...
A. 21 July 2011: has his personality always been like this or just since you broke up with him but are still having to deal with him coz you've got a child together?
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Do sociopaths ever get lonely?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, So I recently got out off a (short term) relationship with a man who I believe was a sociopath. (He had all the signs, he lied all the time, was manipulative, said things he did not mean, was promiscuous, etc). We date...
A. 21 July 2011: they have no love for other people so you would wonder why do they bother wanting to interact with people wouldn't you? i think the sociopath does not want 'someone to love' but they want 'someone to love them' coz if they have got someone ther... (read in full...)
He disappeared after our second date...and I miss him so much I cry myself to sleep!
Q. I dated someone twice. Then, he disappeared - he didn't make contact with me after the second date. I haven't seen / heard from him for 2 weeks now. I'm disappointed and confused. I'm too embarrassed to call him because the last time we met (2nd...
A. 21 July 2011: so he got sex and then disappeared? he is a scum bag and really not worth your tears. i hope you realise this? you WILL get over him, it just takes time. try to avoid places you went together if you find it too hurtful at the moment. get on with ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend have a personality problem?
Q. I had a boyfriend and I'm wondering if he has some personality problems. He always changes up a story from what really happen when we argue he doesn't like to take faults when they are his he can't talk about his feelings he runs away from his ...
A. 21 July 2011: yeah he has got personality problem. whether or not he could be diagnosed with a personality disorder is another matter and one which only a psychologists assessment could provide the answer to (and even then some of these people are very good at ... (read in full...)
Is it too much to expect the man who wants to marry me to treat me to a gift once-in-a-while?
Q. I’m trying to figure something out concerning my relationship with my boyfriend of two years. We don’t live in the same town and see each other at weekends. We get along well, he does housework, he cooks, he calls me in his lunch hour just to say h...
A. 21 July 2011: i'll be honest with you - when i read the title of your question i thought 'oh my, who's this spoilt little princess?' but on reading further i agree with you! no birthday present is really hurtful, having you pay for his share of the meal with ... (read in full...)
Husband says he didn't buy extras at a strip club, but he spent a lot of money.
Q. My husband went to a strip club (more than once) and spent alot of money. He says he had beers and a few dances, but no extras. I'm having a hard time believing his story, but don't want to end our 38 years of marriage, if he is telling the truth. ...
A. 21 July 2011: he has got some SERIOUS answering to do. drawing out over $1,560 and can't/won't tell you why?
i know you respect the 38 years you have put into your marriage. i just hope that he does too
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He replies to my texts but never wants to meet up. Is he really interested?
Q. Do you think this guy is shy, or not interested? He gave me his number, and he always replies to me when i send him a message. But he hasn't asked me to meet up with him, and the times when we were supposed to meet up, he said he didn't have a lot ...
A. 21 July 2011: have you told him yet that you are not with that boyfriend anymore? x... (read in full...)
He replies to my texts but never wants to meet up. Is he really interested?
Q. Do you think this guy is shy, or not interested? He gave me his number, and he always replies to me when i send him a message. But he hasn't asked me to meet up with him, and the times when we were supposed to meet up, he said he didn't have a lot ...
A. 21 July 2011: just ask him, can i ask is all your communication done online and in text messages? if so it is hard to get a proper 'feel' of is he interested or not. and vice versa for him i imagine. just be straight with him. it seems like you are the one doing ... (read in full...)
Is it a crazy idea to have a baby at 15? Or a good idea?
Q. im 15 and i really want a baby. i know this is not really the best idea ever but i feel like i was born to be a mother. i have wanted a baby since i was 11 and like the idea of being a teenage mum. i currently dont have a boyfriend so it wouldnt be ...
A. 19 July 2011: erm congratulations?
you have a tough job ahead of you and there will be times when you think 'what have i done???' i wish you all the best for you and your baby, your childhood is now officially over, bit of a shame really coz you could have chil... (read in full...)
Do guys care if their girlfriend is taller than them?
Q. I have been talking to this guy my friend introduced to me too online for quite awhile and he's going to be in my area soon soon so we're going to meet in person. I am tall, 5"10 to be exact, and I know he is about four to five inches shorter t...
A. 19 July 2011: different people have different preferences. if the height bothers him so much that he won't want to be with you then there is nothing you can do, don't NOT meet him coz you are worried though, he might adore your height. you are not awfully tall, ... (read in full...)
I havent spoken to my boyfriend since May! What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend is ignoring me he actually went to the extent of blocking me from his facebook account he doesnt call nor txt nor email he is just silent we didnt break up he turn up when he make an appointment to see me and after all this im also rel...
A. 19 July 2011: he is not your boyfriend anymore, you WILL get over him when you accept the fact that he has left you and will not be back. he gave you no 'closure' by not telling you he was leaving, but sometimes you just have to make your own closure.
to ge... (read in full...)
My husband will not stop looking at porn. How can I make him understand?
Q. My husband will not stop looking at porn. i have asked him to stop but he does it behind my back. when i catch him he turns the argument around on me. i am a heavy woman and i am trying to lose weight. it hurts me because i believe he thinks i am ...
A. 19 July 2011: oh dear, men and porn. i'm afraid that you can ask him to stop, demand that he stops, and he may even do as you ask, but he will still WANT to watch it and he will resent you for taking his pass time away from him. if he is into porn he is into it. ... (read in full...)
He replies to my texts but never wants to meet up. Is he really interested?
Q. Do you think this guy is shy, or not interested? He gave me his number, and he always replies to me when i send him a message. But he hasn't asked me to meet up with him, and the times when we were supposed to meet up, he said he didn't have a lot ...
A. 19 July 2011: " hi, how are you ?. i've noticed it's your birthday this week. are you doing anything nice for it ?"
that is PERFECT, don't say it any different than that! :)
to him it will probably be a good sign that you have noticed when his birthday is,... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's ex-wife still turn him on?
Q. I'm in my 40's and divorced and so is my boyfriend. He and his ex have a good, civil relationship and it works really well for everyone. She's a very calm pretty rational woman and I don't get the thought like he's going to leave me for her like I ...
A. 19 July 2011: yeah, good call OP, just watch the situation instead of jumping in and saying something coz quite honestly i don't think you have anything to worry about, it seems to be that they are just maintaining a stable upbringing for their kids, even though ... (read in full...)
I feel like he's bringing things he's seen in porn into our bedroom
Q. I'm getting concerned. I feel my boyfriends' porn viewing is coming into our bedroom. On one hand, we have this amazing sex life, but on the other, I am noticing more and more that its taking a LOT to get him off, if he does at all. He does not ...
A. 19 July 2011: you just need to communicate more. if you are intimate enough to be having sex, you should be intimate to talk about it. sometimes you want it rough but other times you don't? unless your man is a mind reader, you need to help him out with regards ... (read in full...)
He replies to my texts but never wants to meet up. Is he really interested?
Q. Do you think this guy is shy, or not interested? He gave me his number, and he always replies to me when i send him a message. But he hasn't asked me to meet up with him, and the times when we were supposed to meet up, he said he didn't have a lot ...
A. 19 July 2011: ah well this shows things in a different light, (although he doesn't seem shy coz when you first met he was flirty with you) yep, maybe he does think you're still seeing the other guy. if he is a very good looking man, he may have a few women that ... (read in full...)
He replies to my texts but never wants to meet up. Is he really interested?
Q. Do you think this guy is shy, or not interested? He gave me his number, and he always replies to me when i send him a message. But he hasn't asked me to meet up with him, and the times when we were supposed to meet up, he said he didn't have a lot ...
A. 19 July 2011: that's fair enough that he wants to take things slow and be a friend before getting into an Rship. but from what you tell me he does not seem interested in forming even a friendship with you.
maybe he does not want a relationship with anyone, ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend's ex-wife still turn him on?
Q. I'm in my 40's and divorced and so is my boyfriend. He and his ex have a good, civil relationship and it works really well for everyone. She's a very calm pretty rational woman and I don't get the thought like he's going to leave me for her like I ...
A. 19 July 2011: nah, i think he got affectionate with you coz he got a sudden rush of good feelings about you, he was so happy to be with a woman who lets him spend time with his ex and the kids without getting all arsey about it! so he gave you a cuddle and then ... (read in full...)
Husband says he didn't buy extras at a strip club, but he spent a lot of money.
Q. My husband went to a strip club (more than once) and spent alot of money. He says he had beers and a few dances, but no extras. I'm having a hard time believing his story, but don't want to end our 38 years of marriage, if he is telling the truth. ...
A. 19 July 2011: hmm, the cell number and lying that he wanted to ring her boyfriend (did he give you a reason that he wanted to speak to the boyfriend?)- i can understand why your hubby would lie to you, its coz he's scared but he must think your pretty stupid if ... (read in full...)
He replies to my texts but never wants to meet up. Is he really interested?
Q. Do you think this guy is shy, or not interested? He gave me his number, and he always replies to me when i send him a message. But he hasn't asked me to meet up with him, and the times when we were supposed to meet up, he said he didn't have a lot ...
A. 19 July 2011: ask him. i know its daunting but its gotta be better than sitting around wondering.
he may be shy and needs a bit of encouragement from you so he might say yes and you've got yourself a date OR he may be simply not interested in you - in which... (read in full...)
Husband says he didn't buy extras at a strip club, but he spent a lot of money.
Q. My husband went to a strip club (more than once) and spent alot of money. He says he had beers and a few dances, but no extras. I'm having a hard time believing his story, but don't want to end our 38 years of marriage, if he is telling the truth. ...
A. 19 July 2011: no one knows the answer to this but your husband (and of course the people at the club) if he is frequenting places like this and paying girls for dances, what real difference does it make if he getting extras or not? the fact that he is there ... (read in full...)
Is it a crazy idea to have a baby at 15? Or a good idea?
Q. im 15 and i really want a baby. i know this is not really the best idea ever but i feel like i was born to be a mother. i have wanted a baby since i was 11 and like the idea of being a teenage mum. i currently dont have a boyfriend so it wouldnt be ...
A. 8 June 2011: i am sure you will make a great mother WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT but not now and you are never gonna find anyone on this site who will give you their blessing with this.
it is probably a case of teenage hormones working overtime that is making y... (read in full...)
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