I fell for a teacher, he kissed me, sent me roses daily, I got sick, he moved on, what do I do now??
Q. My name is Alex (I'm a girl). I'm a freshman at highschool. When I started school I saw a very cute guy (he must be about 26) who was a teacher at the school (he isn't really my teacher, he doesn't teach at my classroom). We kinda liked each other, ...
A. 4 July 2011: your teacher realises that what he did was really stupid and could cost him his career as if he gets fired from your school, no other school will employ him either.
he wants to move on from this and if you care about him at all you will accept t... (read in full...)
How can I make my life better?
Q. My problem is that i have had so many bad experiences with people, especially men, that i am finding it hard to trust people, and i don't want to socialise that much. I also suffer from depression and get panic attacks sometimes, and don't have much ...
A. 3 July 2011: same here luv! i suppose all we can do is NOT GIVE UP, although giving up trying seems like the easiest thing to do. make yourself accept invitations, make yourself take exercise and eat healthily coz this will make your mind feel better, tell ... (read in full...)
Why are guys pursuing me now? I just want to be friends!
Q. I'm extremely confused and being pulled in a million different directions... bear with me if I get confusing... I recently got out of a very bad relationship. he was controlling, manipulative, and overall not right in the head. I still find mys...
A. 3 July 2011: just be honest with them, tell them you are out of a bad relationship and really not looking for another one at present. if they don't accept what you say and they persist in asking you for more than friendship, then maybe they are not as great as ... (read in full...)
How do I get my missing rib back?
Q. Hi cupid, There was a girl. she was my first girl. the first time we met, everything was fine and really good.she text and call me everyday and night and i also do. After some times, I got serious anger and told her to stop calling me. She asked me ...
A. 3 July 2011: i think your the girl feels like you pushed her away when you had her, then you wanted to pull her back on a piece of string so how does she know that you won't do the same again if she agrees to get back with you? you cannot blame her for not ... (read in full...)
I fell for a teacher, he kissed me, sent me roses daily, I got sick, he moved on, what do I do now??
Q. My name is Alex (I'm a girl). I'm a freshman at highschool. When I started school I saw a very cute guy (he must be about 26) who was a teacher at the school (he isn't really my teacher, he doesn't teach at my classroom). We kinda liked each other, ...
A. 3 July 2011: he's a paedophile if he is going around picking up young girls at his school! i can't actually believe your mum condones this and wants to have to speak to him for facilitate this 'relationship'
in spite of how utterly wrong this is, i apprecia... (read in full...)
I accidentally kicked a ball in my GF's face while playing football! Now she won't talk to me!
Q. Two weeks back while playing soccer, my shot on goal hit my girlfriend on face, she was standing close to goalpost, which left her in extreme pain and swelling. It was an incident and I made apology but she made issue of it and dumped saying that I ...
A. 2 July 2011: well if you managed to aim the ball at her face and actually hit your target then you must be a REEEEEAAALLLY good footballer! sounds like she may be using this football thing as an excuse to break up, as you have been having problems lately (she ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband take his penis out and squeeze it?
Q. My husband often takes his penis out to squeeze it himself, right when he is cuming... could that mean that my vagina is not tight enough to give him a pleasurable enough orgasm, and he is getting it with his hands? We are both able to orgasm from ...
A. 2 July 2011: do your kegal exercises everyday to improve things. maybe he just likes seeing his semen, or do you think he might be taking his penis out and squeezing it to try to stop himself cumming? could he be worried about you becoming pregnant? you really ... (read in full...)
Analysis of personality?
Q. Hi, What would you make of someone with this past... as a child.. stole from other kids stole from parents at one stage stole from shops regularly disruptive at school sexually aware from a very young age, messing around with girls from arou...
A. 2 July 2011: i bet you have been all over the internet researching sociopath behviour haven't you? so you know that these are classic signs. but whatever label you give him - how does that help you in your relationship?
wheh you say you have bever been to ... (read in full...)
She chose her husband over me and I can't deal with it!
Q. My married girlfriend just told me that this is the end of the affair. I don't understand why would she dump me if I was there for her in time of need and always very supportive. She says she still loves me but she can not take the pressure that I ...
A. 2 July 2011: i know it hurts. you have idealised her, you cannot see this coz love has blinded you but i can see it - she is NOT a nice person. a good person does not meet some new guy behind her husbands back, a good person does not trick the new guy for the ... (read in full...)
Emotionally abusive, untrusting, 10 year older boyfriend wants kids with me NOW, or else he's gone.
Q. Hello everyone. Some background info for my question: I'm 22, my boyfriend is 32. We've been living together about 2 years. We have had some problems in the past due to his emotional unstability. He has been jealous and paranoid, he has been emo...
A. 2 July 2011: you are not with the right man. i suspect you have known this and tried to leave before now but he does not let you go or grinds you down so you feel you deserve no better. the fact that you have invested 2 years, that does not mean you have to ... (read in full...)
To threesome or not to threesome...mature answers only please!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years now. Recently, we've hit a few rough patches and I'm trying to spice up and revive our relationship. One of his fantasies is to have a threesome with a woman that neither one of us ...
A. 2 July 2011: its a big gamble isn't it? you like the idea coz its sexy but if your fears about feeling bad when you see him having sex with another woman and if he has a really great time with her- become reality - then how will you get over witnessing images ... (read in full...)
We have a great relationship except for the fact that I am just his girlfriend, and he doesn't EVER want to marry me.
Q. I hope someone can help me with this problem. I am back in the dating scene after 10 years of marriage. I NEVER thought I would want to get married again, but I have found someone that I don't want to live without. When we began dating, I made i...
A. 2 July 2011: him not wanting to get married does not make him a bad person. look at other aspects though - when you say you eat all meals together, i hope this does not mean you are providing all the food and doing all the cooking? when he bought a house is a ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by cutting him off?
Q. I'll just jump right into it. I dated this guy. I completely fell head-over-heels for him. In a few short weeks I was infatuated with him. We dated for about a month and a half before breaking up for complicated reasons. He said he wanted m...
A. 2 July 2011: absolutely you have done the right thing and you KNOW you have but i think you are now just afraid of his reaction.
he sounds like quite a poisonous person and as such you are better away from him. i am not surprised he does not have friends if t... (read in full...)
I feel like I am sacrificing a lot and he is not having to sacrifice anything! Am I being selfish?
Q. In a long distance relationship for 2 years. When my fiancé and I got engaged we agreed that I would move to his city he has a son there from a previous relationship and I don’t have children. It would be reasonably easy for me to find a job there ...
A. 2 July 2011: you're not being selfish its bound to be daunting for you, but realistically if you want to be with him, then you moving to him is gonna be the way it has to be (he's got a child and wouldn't be able to find work where you live)
what does he mean ... (read in full...)
My married lover now wants a threesome!
Q. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for 7 years. We see each other every now and again and really enjoy each other physically, emotionally and psychologically. He was always honest with regards to his status and that was fine with me. ...
A. 2 July 2011: he is trying to tell you that he is doing this FOR YOU, even after you have told him that you are not interested in sex with a woman, and that you just want him not a 3some?? he still says he wants it to happen! he wants it for HIM honey, NOT YOU. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend crossing the line with her guy friends?
Q. I realize many people have this similar problem with a girlfriend having several guy friends, and I believe each answer is based on circumstance so that is why I'm asking about my personal situation. For the record, I've dated people in the pa...
A. 2 July 2011: your girlfriend just needs to learn that the true meaning of 'friend' is not a person who is sexually/romantically interested in her. a true friend is one that wants to hang around with you even if they're not attracted, like a same sex friend ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to know WHY exactly do I love him! What do I say?
Q. I have not been dating my boyfriend a long time but I have fallen in love with him. I told he recently. We have a strong connection and chemistry since the day we met. He means so much to me and I dont think he understands. Im thankful for the day ...
A. 2 July 2011: is he insecure? i find it a little worrying that he is over thinking like this. in any case, it does not matter so much WHAT you say, it is the way you treat him that will truly show him that you love him, rather than your words. i think he asked ... (read in full...)
Dating Rules
Q. Because I have so many years of dating and being a strong salesman I have learned some "Dating Rules" that many have not learned yet. This article will explain "Transitional Dating." It is one of the most destructive and/or damaging relatio...
A. 2 July 2011: yeah, i have found to my cost that the new partner who blows your mind and seems too good to be true - usually is! they use you to claw back the self worth that their last partner took away from them. when they have got this affirmation and they ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid dating a serial dater in the future?
Q. When you date someone it takes maybe a year for them to show their true selves. Everything in the beginning is just then putting on their good side, so they can get laid. I miss they way my ex was at the beginning of teh relatiosnhip, not the actu...
A. 2 July 2011: if you find a man to be overly charming and he seems to be pushing things a long too quick and seems to be too good to by true and every thing you are into he is like 'me too!' if he seems to have had a lot of women in the past and that his exes ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like my BF cheated on me?
Q. This girl told me my boyfriend had cheated on me with her in her car. He denied every bit of it (there has been several rumors of him cheating) so I told him to call the girl in front of me so I know he wasn't lying, well he refused to do that. ...
A. 2 July 2011: yes sorry but it really does sound like he's cheated.
i can see why a girl might lie, so you will break up withy your BF so she can have him.
i cannot see why your friends/acquaintances would lie
and i can DEFINITELY see why your boyfriend wo... (read in full...)
Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse
Q. Lately, there have been a lot of posts relating to relationships that are going wrong because of Emotional Abuse (EA). There are often obvious signs of abuse such as shouting, use of cruel words, lack of love/affection, use of guilt etc. However, ...
A. 2 July 2011: great article. i agree with cerberus too when he says that it is more difficult to accept signs when you are already IN the relationship.
i will give you an example from my personal life. being interested in matters of this sort (followi... (read in full...)
A view of retroactive jealousy
Q. There are many posts on this site about people tormented by retroactive jealousy. I would like to offer a perspective on its real causes and how to deal with it. For those who don't know, retroactive jealousy (RJ) is the feeling of intense envy ...
A. 2 July 2011: i think most of us have experienced feelings of RJ at some point in our lives but can i share with you my opinion from the other side of the fence? i myself have been quite promiscuous in the past, had quite a few long term relationships, casual ... (read in full...)
Nice Guys
Q. Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
A. 2 July 2011: when we are with a nice guy - he makes us confident that he will care for us, no matter what and we KNOW that we have got him right where we want him so there is no motivation there to treat him better! with a bad guy we are kept in a state of ... (read in full...)
How would we know that we are sexually compatible with our partner???
Q. How would we know that we are sexually compatible with our partner??? ...
A. 2 July 2011: if:
the sex is satisfying for you both
your sex drives are at similar level
you are both be happy to please each other
you are able to TALK about what you want/enjoy
you are confident to try new things to spice things up if needed..
that means... (read in full...)
Should I set my heart on this one girl if I am doing 'bad guy stuff'?
Q. Hi everyone, basically i need some moral advice on how to act to women. I'm 18 and so far have been lucky enough to be in love twice. I was with my first girlfriend for 18 months, i was head over heels, wanted to have a future and all that..th...
A. 2 July 2011: you seem to fall in love easily and you feel that you should be in love with kari-ann. why do you feel like you have to? dating does not always have to be about being in love with the person and looking at settling down with them. you are very ... (read in full...)
Should I end it with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months is becoming unreliable and a bit of a let down when it comes to going out to places that we had organised, with or without other friends. He says he can do it then suddenly changes his mind. we agrue about it until the point ...
A. 1 July 2011: why does he decide he cannot be bothered to go? does he choose to see his mates instead? is he short of money? is he spending his money on something else? does he take drugs? is he depressed and unmotivated to go places? is he busy with studies? ... (read in full...)
Shall I give him the silent treatment after him not replying to my text?
Q. I've been seeing this guy pretty regularly for the past 6 months now. We normally go out 2-4 times a week and text every day or so. Anyway, we last met on Mon and he said' we'd meet on Fri, late afternoon. Cool. So, I organized my chores and duties ...
A. 1 July 2011: not replying to a text does not have to be a dealbreaker, as there are reasons for no reply - maybe he did not receive your message or maybe he replied but you did not receive it - it DOES happen you know. but its the fact that he let you down ... (read in full...)
He seems to be hiding something.........
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and for about the last year hes been very secretive about his phone. He never used to care if I messed around with his phone but now all of a sudden he does. I have questioned him about it a few ...
A. 30 June 2011: i know its horrible breaking up with someone but just think of the positive side - you have lost someone who you cannot trust and believe and who prevents you from having peace of mind. you are now free and available to meet someone better. oh and ... (read in full...)
Is uni worth it or should I quit and live life like my brother?
Q. I have a question about university and the point of it, because I'm a first year, just finished my first semester and I'm studying for a Bachelor of Arts, majoring in history. Lately it just seems that, for starters, if I did get my degree then ...
A. 28 June 2011: your brothers job- is it legal?? it is long term and secure? what would happen to him if he lost that job? of course you are seeing his lifestyle is good at the moment and you want some of the same but you must have given your degree a lot of ... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife hates me when there is nothing romantic about my relationship with her husband! What can I do?
Q. ok i have a male best friend i mean we are even closer then best friends more like brother and sister hes 9 years older then me. he calls himself my gaurdian angel and thats what he is. he helps me i help him. anyways hes married and has 2 kids. in ...
A. 28 June 2011: she probably resents you a bit coz you are best friends with her husband, but at the same time she is happy to use you for baby sitting. she is disrespectful to you because she is getting away with it. she doesn't speak to you, says she doesn't like ... (read in full...)
I finally left my husband of 5 years who cheated on me many times.. but I don't know how to deal with the pain
Q. how do you survive after the cheating..? i finally left my husband for 5 years who cheated on me many times.. but i don't know how to deal with the pain ...
A. 28 June 2011: write down every bad thing he ever did, write down the way he made you feel. getting things out of your head and onto paper helps.
start looking at yourself as someone who did a brave thing in leaving because she refused to be a doormat anymore ... (read in full...)
If there is no medical reason, what else could be the problem if my husband never wants to have sex with me?
Q. What can I do ,if my husband can't tell,why does he not want to have sex with me? If there is no medical reason, what else could be the reason, if your husband never cares about sex ,yet he used to. I asked him, he says ,he doesn't know why. He did ...
A. 28 June 2011: how long have you been married? maybe he does not find you attractive anymore? maybe he has been unhappy with sex in the past or thought that you were only doing it for his sake and not because you really wanted to. is he depressed? have you been ... (read in full...)
BF unexpectedly dumped me. I need some support
Q. Hey, I'm really devastated right now and really hurt. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. When it happened i felt as if i couldn't breathe. I mean, he just broke up with me out the blue. The day before the break up we were all fine. He sai...
A. 28 June 2011: i love eyewideopen's tip. redecorate the bedroom. i have done that in the past and it really does help to overcome the memory of sleeping with the man in that room and gives you more of a fresh start. i had forgotten about that!
x... (read in full...)
My lover is married, how do I get people to stop judging me?
Q. I'm so fed up of people judging me for being with a married man. Once again my best friend has broadcasted on facebook that I am a homewrecker and my boyfriend will only cheat on me blah blah blah I started seeing this man a year ago but never as...
A. 27 June 2011: first of all, stop calling that person your 'best friend' she obviously does not agree with what you are doing (no decent person would) but to broadcast it over facebook is just plain nasty and unnecessary. but there is no way on this planet that ... (read in full...)
Men and porn!!! Why do they need it?
Q. I need help! I don't understand why my boyfriend has 2 look at porn!! I'm beautiful why can't I be enough? He says I wouldn't understand. We have been together 6yrs an he's hid it the whole time until I cought him! I told him 2 make me understand an ...
A. 27 June 2011: human beings are not by nature monogamous. looking at porn helps them to cope with having only one partner in life.
i don't believe he doesn't jerk off with it, i think he only said this to spare your feelings. just try not to take it personal... (read in full...)
Do all relationships go stale and lose their spark a few years down the line?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. I love him to pieces, but for the past 2 years he's changed. He used to write me lovely letters and tell me im beautiful and how much he loves me etc. Now he just complains at me and does nice things when ...
A. 27 June 2011: you may have made the mistake of putting him on a pedestal. in all relationships i believe that one partner loves slightly more than the other. you have dropped into the role of being the more loving one. i suggest you pull back a bit, get a life ... (read in full...)
BF claims he hasn't used his online dating account in over a year. Then how is it that it showed recent activity? Can there really be glitches like that? Could someone have used his account to log in?
Q. I have been exclusively seeing someone for about six months now. He treats me well, I see him everyday and talk on the phone with him everyday. We've said we both love each other and things seem to be going well. He told me that a long time...
A. 27 June 2011: i do not know if a glitch could have happened but what he really needs to do if he is so not interested in the site is to close his profile down. if he has forgotten his username and password i am sure that he can still gain access coz lots of ... (read in full...)
BF was turned on by FWB idea. He insists nothing but I can't get it out of my head. What do I do?
Q. Hello. I desperately need to get this out my mind..so please bear with me. I'm having a LDR with my bf of 3 months. This is the third month and we're talking about one of his friend. Iasked my bf is his friend is seeing someone ? He said.. he g...
A. 27 June 2011: just coz he finds it sexy it really doesn't mean he will act on it. but if you are not a secure person then a LDR is probably not a good idea coz i cannot see that it will make you happy. i personally would not even entertain the idea of LDR coz i ... (read in full...)
BF turning out to be a real abusive jerk. Is this worth saving?
Q. I'm in a relationship that is currently going on 7 months. My boyfriend and I met in college, and we are both 19 years old. It didn't take long, perhaps one month, before we slept together. I had been in a very serious relationship previously in ...
A. 27 June 2011: "My question is, is this truly a relationship that I can work out?"
you already KNOW the answer to this! if you have come here to get other peoples vote of confidence in telling you you are right to dump him - you will not be disappointed coz i ca... (read in full...)
BF unexpectedly dumped me. I need some support
Q. Hey, I'm really devastated right now and really hurt. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. When it happened i felt as if i couldn't breathe. I mean, he just broke up with me out the blue. The day before the break up we were all fine. He sai...
A. 27 June 2011: i am sorry to hear this. i think we have all been there, and yes the morning times are the worst, i bet his face is the first thing you think of as soon as you wake isn't it?
you are missing him and dreading that he will replace you with someone ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 26 June 2011: op- when you say you were picked on as a child, who was it that picked on you? your parents? in particular your father? if so you could really do with getting some help to over come this or else you may find that after you finish with the ... (read in full...)
Is it that bad that I get frequent pictures of my newborn nephew from my sister? My wife is making a big deal out of this!
Q. I have been a husband for almost 5 years now. My wife and I fight all the time. I wanted to get advice for the most recent reason she got mad at me. My sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and has been sending me a text message with a picture ...
A. 26 June 2011: in spite of what you say i STILL think she is jealous, not of your sisters life but of the attention that your sister gets from you, even just by looking at a picture message from her. she moans about you watching too much tv? (1 - 3 hours per ... (read in full...)
Is it that bad that I get frequent pictures of my newborn nephew from my sister? My wife is making a big deal out of this!
Q. I have been a husband for almost 5 years now. My wife and I fight all the time. I wanted to get advice for the most recent reason she got mad at me. My sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and has been sending me a text message with a picture ...
A. 23 June 2011: your wife is wrong. you are right.
she sounds a very jealous and insecure person.
? jealous of your sister (complains about her lifestyle choice)
? jealous that your sister has a baby. is your wife feeling broody by any chance?
? jealo... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 23 June 2011: yep, its coz you were happy, on cloud nine, loved up and having lots of sex that cheered you up, that's why you were in a better mood with everyone, even your wife and if you were properly in love with your wife that's the feeling you would have ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 21 June 2011: sympathy is thin on the ground when a player gets played. leave your poor wife, hopefully she will find a real grown up to have a relationship with. with regard to your GF it is hardly surprising that you don't trust her so she needs kicking into ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 20 June 2011: of course you want to come out of this looking like the winner. sorry but i think this has a lot to do with your character which seems (purely based on your post) to be selfish and immature. also the fact that you feel used, led on and let down by ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 20 June 2011: you're being used as a bit of companionship, attention, lunch buddy and someone to walk home with. your girlfriend knows you would leave your wife for her but she does not want you to. she wants to make her life with her boyfriend - you are just a ... (read in full...)
He seems to be hiding something.........
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and for about the last year hes been very secretive about his phone. He never used to care if I messed around with his phone but now all of a sudden he does. I have questioned him about it a few ...
A. 9 May 2011: ok, has he ALWAYS used the vibrate setting or this part of his secretive behaviour? i don't wish to panic you but to be honest, this doesn't look good. think you should tell him his behaviour is looking seriously dodgy and you would like him to ... (read in full...)
He seems to be hiding something.........
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and for about the last year hes been very secretive about his phone. He never used to care if I messed around with his phone but now all of a sudden he does. I have questioned him about it a few ...
A. 9 May 2011: definitely hiding something. taking the phone into the bathroom is a definite red flag i think, also look out for these: keeping it in his pocket, taking it with him whenever he leaves the room, using a silent ring/text tone, keeping text inbox and ... (read in full...)
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