Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 26 June 2011: op- when you say you were picked on as a child, who was it that picked on you? your parents? in particular your father? if so you could really do with getting some help to over come this or else you may find that after you finish with the ... (read in full...)
Is it that bad that I get frequent pictures of my newborn nephew from my sister? My wife is making a big deal out of this!
Q. I have been a husband for almost 5 years now. My wife and I fight all the time. I wanted to get advice for the most recent reason she got mad at me. My sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and has been sending me a text message with a picture ...
A. 26 June 2011: in spite of what you say i STILL think she is jealous, not of your sisters life but of the attention that your sister gets from you, even just by looking at a picture message from her. she moans about you watching too much tv? (1 - 3 hours per ... (read in full...)
Does he still want to be involved with his ex?
Q. What if your boyfriend keeps liking the facebook status of his ex-girlfriend knowing that the status is for him? Does it mean he isnt over his ex and still likes her??...
A. 24 June 2011: status says she still loves him and he is clicking that he likes it? not good. i think you are right to be worried about this. whatever his feelings are towards her now, he should not be clicking 'like' on comments like that coz its just ... (read in full...)
My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. Is there something we can do?
Q. My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. As I've researched this it seems like it's a pretty common problem, but the reasons seems to be it's not enough or oral isn't done long enough. I have never timed myself, but I know I have gotten him ...
A. 24 June 2011: the tip of the penis is the bit that counts so give that plenty of attention with your mouth,use tongue to tickle the underside of the penis near the tip, use hand on the shaft as well to pump using a nice grip, with a slightly twirling motion too, ... (read in full...)
Is it that bad that I get frequent pictures of my newborn nephew from my sister? My wife is making a big deal out of this!
Q. I have been a husband for almost 5 years now. My wife and I fight all the time. I wanted to get advice for the most recent reason she got mad at me. My sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and has been sending me a text message with a picture ...
A. 23 June 2011: your wife is wrong. you are right.
she sounds a very jealous and insecure person.
? jealous of your sister (complains about her lifestyle choice)
? jealous that your sister has a baby. is your wife feeling broody by any chance?
? jealo... (read in full...)
Sex is getting stale with him. How can we change this?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 3 years very much. We have sex quite regularly, usually whenever we see each other. However, I am finding it's becoming quite stale and it doesn't really excite me anymore. What can I/we do to change it? I've tried new ...
A. 23 June 2011: people are not naturally designed to be monogamous so this is a problem for many people! there is plenty of other stuff you can do. i like older than dirts idea for role play, you and him going out separately, meeting up in a bar and having a 'once ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting?
Q. I recently started a new job. One of my co-workers has been over the top nice to me, making jokes, and continuously touching my shoulder or back which makes me uncomfortable. Since I'm more shy, I find it difficult to look him in the eye, but he ...
A. 23 June 2011: make sure you chat about your boyfriend to people at work. this may be enough to put him off you. some people are just super friendly and enjoy making people laugh, maybe he is trying to help you to settle into your new workplace and wants you to ... (read in full...)
Am I smothering him too much with my words of love?
Q. Ok, so I know this is a little long and I suppose Im looking for opinions rather than answers. My boyfriend and I met on the internet and have fallen in love very quickly, however he is a very busy man, works many hours, evening and weekends etc. He ...
A. 23 June 2011: i am not sure if you are TOO needy but you are definitely needier than he is. we don't know how much time you spend talking to him and there is no standard amount of time that you people SHOULD spend on the phone but the fact is this - it is too ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him even though he has done nothing wrong! How can I stop this?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for just over a year, we have a beautiful son, and he is a sweetheart. He has had some problems, but never given me a reason to distrust him, yet I do. How can I calm this distrust? It's ruining my ...
A. 23 June 2011: look at your own childhood, your relationships with your parents and their relationship with each other. putting your trust in someone i think does not just automatically come, i think that to have blind trust in a person is unrealistic. is there ... (read in full...)
His Gf is blaming me. What should I do? I tried telling him to back off and leave me alone
Q. I am still getting mixed signals from my best friend. I tried telling him to back off and leave me alone but that didn't work since he gets full on and will almost amount to behgavior that is like to stalk one until one has forgiven him. When I w...
A. 23 June 2011: you need to tell him to stop overstepping the mark with you because all you want is his friendship. if he cannot accept this then he is not a suitable friend for you. i am not surprised his girlfriend is not happy! she can obviously see that he ... (read in full...)
Should I continue our long lasting 'thing'?
Q. Well, hi there ...Me and this guy started talking a year ago. After two weeks of constant texting and hanging out a few times, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes, but we only dated for about a month, because he started talking to his ex g...
A. 23 June 2011: you said yourself that you will get hurt in the end, i know its hard to make the break from someone even when we know they are no good for us, but this is gonna happen sooner or later. don't be telling yourself that he is too good for you!! why ... (read in full...)
Are some people meant to be alone? Are trust and intimacy overrated?
Q. So my mom was addicted to crack for about 6 years and she was in and out of hospitals, rehab, prison..and my life. She also had a baby in that time who I knew for less than a year before he was taken away. Since then, I haven't been able to rel...
A. 23 June 2011: i am sorry to hear you've been having such a rough time. its little wonder that you don't feel able to let anyone get too close again. you are afraid of being let down again and of losing someone so the easiest way to avoid this is to not let ... (read in full...)
I feel he needs to make more of an effort!
Q. Okay, i want to be with him and he says he likes me.. but when he texts me he's like really blunt and he never puts the effort in with me.. i wanted to distance myself a bit to see if he would care, and i told him to tell me the truth cos he tre...
A. 23 June 2011: no special test is needed. his behaviour is telling you the answer to your question already. if he is not bothering to text you back, see you and he is treating you the same as every other girl then it means he is not really into you. if he was ... (read in full...)
I hate her, she loves... Now what do I do?
Q. Hi I used to like this girl but after a cuple of incidents i fell out with her and began to resent her and hate her it was like having your heart crushed and squeshed everytime I saw her most of my friens were beging to whisper that i was becom...
A. 23 June 2011: i don't know what she has done to make you feel this negative about her but i think that sometimes just TOO MUCH happens and there is no coming back from it. if you ever softened enough to like this girl again i suspect you have trust issues about ... (read in full...)
He stopped texting, what's going on?
Q. I met this guy at a gig a couple of weeks ago and we really really hit it off that night but the thing is that we live miles apart with a small stretch of water between us and hes 26 and im 18, we have been texting non stop for a week and he ...
A. 23 June 2011: why do you want to make him feel special? - he isn't bothering to make you feel special is he?? i am guessing that he just sees you as someone casual and he has not promised any commitment to you so he may be dating other women already or has met ... (read in full...)
Does he still want to be involved with his ex?
Q. What if your boyfriend keeps liking the facebook status of his ex-girlfriend knowing that the status is for him? Does it mean he isnt over his ex and still likes her??...
A. 23 June 2011: i think he should stay off her page really as they are no longer an item and he is now with you. he is just keeping a hand in what she does and there is no real need for it. i am not against exes speaking to each other if they happen to meet in ... (read in full...)
I am invisible in her life outside of our relationship
Q. If you have been dating someone 4 months and they have never mentioned your name once in all that time. She has talked about things we did but instead of we she put I did this. I am learning to golf. I spent my b day with my girlfriends. No mention ...
A. 23 June 2011: i take it you are talking about facebook or similar? maybe she does not see your relationship as important as you do, maybe she does not want to big you up to other people so that she won't look silly if you decide to dump her at some point. or ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 23 June 2011: yep, its coz you were happy, on cloud nine, loved up and having lots of sex that cheered you up, that's why you were in a better mood with everyone, even your wife and if you were properly in love with your wife that's the feeling you would have ... (read in full...)
Married for 6 months - now some disturbing things coming out about my wife?
Q. After a drunken night of wine last night, a few things came out about my wife that I probably didnt want to hear. I have a big thing about honesty, as I have a fair few trust issues of my own, and after a few lies that she's came out with, I feel a ...
A. 23 June 2011: i can understand why she would lie ( i am not saying its ok) she is obviously ashamed of being with men in the past, she regrets it and did not want you to know and maybe think bad of her.
the drunkeness is a bit of a cop out i think. alcohol ... (read in full...)
Am I sick or evil for wishing bad things for my ex?
Q. ok, I hate myself right now. my ex was manipulative and lied and was insensitive and we broke up and now i look at her facebook page and see she is having fun, traveling with some new guy in Florida. and i cannot help but wish her BAD. i am je...
A. 23 June 2011: how long you been split up? it is not nice to be treated bad, dumped and replaced so you are bound to feel angry at her. when you start to get your life back on track and maybe find someone else your bad feelings towards your ex will end and you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's nail polish turns me on, is it normal thing?
Q. I have this beautiful girlfriend for the last four years and everything seems to be going perfect for us. But I have a this strange behavior that whenever she puts on sort of a dark-red color nail polish , it turns me on big time and I feel lik...
A. 22 June 2011: i think this is only a problem if the attention you pay to her hands ends up replacing a fulfilling sex life for you both, or you find that without the nail polish you cannot get aroused. otherwise, don't worry, lots of men have a thing for red ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong or am I really a bad person?
Q. Well this isn't a relationship question really... It's about my dad. He's mentally unwell and uses it as an excuse not to do anything around the house. The bathrooms haven't been cleaned for 3 months and the floors haven't been vacuumed in about ...
A. 22 June 2011: is he doing anything to resolve his depression? you need to help around the house but so does your brother. tell your dad you are not doing every room. try and have a talk, not an angry argument and draw up a fair rota of cleaning duties. maybe he ... (read in full...)
I stress about my stomach making noises in class! Is there any way to stop me worrying about this?
Q. When the classroom gets quiet in school I tend to lose focus because I worry about my stomach making noises. I try not to but I get nervous and worry about when it quiet in the class. My stomach makes growling sounds because I worry about it so ...
A. 22 June 2011: try relaxation techniques and peppermint tea. so this only happens when you are thinking about it then? that makes it unlikely that there is a physical cause but why not get it checked by your doctor just to make sure. do you find that you eat ... (read in full...)
Should I move to my ex's city?
Q. Ok, so here's the situation my ex and I have been broken up for over 9 months now. We were in a LDR and there were plans for me to move to her city. But since we're broken up obviously those plans fell apart. The problem is that I love the city that ...
A. 22 June 2011: as long as you are not moving there to stalk her i don't see a problem. i only live in quite a small town and it is surprising how i can go for YEARS without seeing people i once knew, for instance, old school friends that i have NEVER seen since ... (read in full...)
Lies, lies. Should I cut him of my life for lying? Or can he change?
Q. I recently dumped my beloved boyfriend and eventually friend, because he has a bad habit of lying. He doesn't just lie when he needs to in pressure, but he just randomly lies about the most craziest things. Things that aren't important whats soo ...
A. 22 June 2011: its your choice but i would advise that if you find yourself doubting him and not being able to trust and believe him then you should cut him off. there are a lot of guys in the world and you are very young to just settle for one who seems to have ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 21 June 2011: sympathy is thin on the ground when a player gets played. leave your poor wife, hopefully she will find a real grown up to have a relationship with. with regard to your GF it is hardly surprising that you don't trust her so she needs kicking into ... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy thinking that my boyfriend is cheating on me. Is he??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years and we live together. There has been no change in his behaviour or mood towards me which would make me suspect anything is wrong. Just a few weeks ago, he was showing me an email from a family member ...
A. 20 June 2011: why has he changed his password? could be that he knows or at least suspects you of snooping already. this isn't going to go away now that you know. even if he is not mailing her anymore, the trust is unravelling. you may as well tell him what ... (read in full...)
Lies, lies. Should I cut him of my life for lying? Or can he change?
Q. I recently dumped my beloved boyfriend and eventually friend, because he has a bad habit of lying. He doesn't just lie when he needs to in pressure, but he just randomly lies about the most craziest things. Things that aren't important whats soo ...
A. 20 June 2011: whether he stops lying or not, you have to ask yourself will you ever be able to trust him again?? and if the answer is no, then that tells you that you are better without the relationship. the lies might be silly and quite harmless but the fact ... (read in full...)
I know I should wait to have sex, but I think I'm ready.....is this the right choice?
Q. im 14 and like other teen girls i think about sex A LOT and i think im ready to have sex with my boyfriend but im scared of the pain or what could happen if we (Im) not carefull......you might think "oh all he wants is sex" not really i told him i ...
A. 20 June 2011: i lost mine at 14, which i regret lots and feel shit admitting it to anyone who asks me. i haven't seen the boyfriend for years even though at the time we were so sure we were meant to stay together for ever, we grew up and moved on. you are WAY ... (read in full...)
He went from speaking to me every day to nothing! What is going on?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles.... Really need advice about a man. Where shall I begin...will give you the short version. Met guy I'm 31, his 27. Liked him. Usual stuff doesn't do relationships! Find out was in a 5 year one long time back which he wasn't ...
A. 20 June 2011: i agree. don't be confused, it is obvious what's happened and i am sorry for you but did he promise you or lead you to believe there was any future for you? i hope you can move on too and meet someone who won't drop you as soon as a new woman ... (read in full...)
Great relationship but 2 big problems.....what should I do?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months and its gohng great we have so much in common we both have a child from a previous relationship and they get on great too, he spends most of his wk with me because he works nearby and on a wk end he has his ...
A. 20 June 2011: i think 9 months is still early days. it is not worth uprooting and changing yours and your daughters lives for a relationship that may not even last, sorry, just saying - don't rush to to ANYTHING until you are sure this is the real thing!
b... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he wants to kiss me and I want to kiss him back.
Q. We become a friend of a couple which are mutual friends of other friends I have known for along time. I have a very normal relationship with this guy, we talk, I like him but not anything crazy. But lately whenever we say goodbye I have a strong ...
A. 20 June 2011: sounds like you may be bored in your marriage, i am guessing you been married for a long time? kiss him if you think it is worth jeopardising the marriage for, otherwise keep your distance from this friend, its the only way to stop the craving
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Does he sound like he is genuinely interested and respects me or is just leading me on?
Q. I am having an issue with this guy I really like. I have a feeling that he is Just leading me on and isn't genuinely interested or cares about me. He will ask me to hang out with him and wants to flirt. He has even asked me to kiss him and sit in ...
A. 20 June 2011: do you trust the person who told you the guy called you a stalker?? if so it sounds as though this guy is enjoying the attention you give to him but he is not really interested in giving you anything REAL back. maybe you should just remain on a ... (read in full...)
He had a secret Facebook account and was talking to a girl on there, but now I have opened my own account he says he cant trust me!
Q. How do I respond to an unfair comment about trust from my bf? The story goes like this: A couple of years ago I found out my bf had a secret facebook account. Not only it was secret, but he was talking to a girl in a very intimate and friendly ...
A. 20 June 2011: he is judging you by his own standards - he had a secret account and he was using it to flirt so obviously he thinks you must be doing the same. why you are still with him after his untrustworthy behaviour last time? what reason did he give you ... (read in full...)
How fast should we be moving?
Q. Hi everyone! I have just started dating a guy who is awesome to me so far. I am 21, and he is 24. We met through mutal friends, and I made the "first move" (a simple goodnight kiss) on our second date. Just wondering how fast people around our ages...
A. 20 June 2011: why are you stressing? if you are not sure when to make the move and are worrying about making moves too soon, why not slow yourself down and leave it up to him?
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Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 20 June 2011: of course you want to come out of this looking like the winner. sorry but i think this has a lot to do with your character which seems (purely based on your post) to be selfish and immature. also the fact that you feel used, led on and let down by ... (read in full...)
Disappointed in engagement ring, am I being selfish?
Q. I'm interested in your opinions. My boyfriend was engaged before he met me. He bought her a very beautiful $7000 ring, for which he spent all his savings on. The relationship failed and she returned the ring. After us being together for ov...
A. 20 June 2011: i would be annoyed at him too. yes of course 'a ring is just a ring' but this is your ENGAGEMENT ring we are talking about here. a once in a lifetime event not just a random gift. the fact that he spent so much on his ex'x ring and then for the ... (read in full...)
Not in love with wife, but lover says she wants to have child with her boyfriend, and no longer wants sex!
Q. I am in quite a complicated relationship, let me explain: 1. I am a married man, no kids 2. In a relationship with a woman 7 years older to me who is living with another man. 3. We work toghether, earlier in the same team now in different teams...
A. 20 June 2011: you're being used as a bit of companionship, attention, lunch buddy and someone to walk home with. your girlfriend knows you would leave your wife for her but she does not want you to. she wants to make her life with her boyfriend - you are just a ... (read in full...)
GF lost respect for me, I dumped her, and now I am totally miserable.
Q. Hi, I think I have never been that lost in my life. I've been with this girl during two years. We loved each other madly.We're both young (25) but our relationship was great: mature, affectionate and sincere. It was an euphoria. But these pa...
A. 20 June 2011: of course you're in a bad place at the moment but it gets better with time. get on with your life, see your mates as much as poss and plan fun things to look forward to. don't dwell on wanting her to be miserable without you, just let go of it, ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my gf feel anything when I kiss her?
Q. my girlfriend says she does not "feel" anything when we kiss and when i try to make her nipples hard, what does this mean???!!???...
A. 20 June 2011: has she always been this way with you? has she been with this way with other guys? have other girls had a problem with the way you have kissed them or are inexperienced. sounds like she either does not like your technique so you will need to keep ... (read in full...)
Any name ideas for a little boy?
Q. Hey! I am pregnant and we've recently found out it's a little boy... We're running out of ideas for baby names so... Could anyone help us coming up with some ideas? Thanks everyone!...
A. 19 June 2011: congratulations! we picked my son's name by looking through a baby names book and making a short list of names that we liked. make it something that sounds good with the surname and just resist the urge to pick anything silly just for the sake of ... (read in full...)
Why do women care so much about men having a job?
Q. I am 39 and have never been able to get a job, so I have never been able to find love. And am still a virgin! Why do women care sooooooo much about this job thing? Why can't I be the one who does the housework and take the kids to school ect. ...
A. 19 June 2011: having a job shows a woman that you have pride in yourself to want to work for your crust rather than have it handed to you. its what real grown up men do, since the beginning of time women have always been attracted to the hunter-gatherers, it ... (read in full...)
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