Tremendous sexual tension with this guy at work, we got together against all odds, and now his dominating ex (who he broke up with, for me) claims she's pregnant. He's back with her, says I was just a shoulder to cry on!
Q. Hi, all and any advice will be greatly appreciated as I've gotten myself into a bit of a emotional pickle. In May last year I started a new job. In September a flirtation began between a colleague and I, one who unfortunately was in a 3 year rela...
A. 6 June 2011: @anon female 6th June: your story is amazingly similar to that of the OP! its like history is repeating itself.
i would say to anyone in this situation though who has the girl friend or ex 'from hell' - never take what someone tells you about th... (read in full...)
Tremendous sexual tension with this guy at work, we got together against all odds, and now his dominating ex (who he broke up with, for me) claims she's pregnant. He's back with her, says I was just a shoulder to cry on!
Q. Hi, all and any advice will be greatly appreciated as I've gotten myself into a bit of a emotional pickle. In May last year I started a new job. In September a flirtation began between a colleague and I, one who unfortunately was in a 3 year rela...
A. 6 June 2011: "At the moment I'm struggling because I don't know what was real, I don't know if he genuinely had feelings for me or if I was used"
you might NEVER know the answer to this so maybe it is best to put what has happened behind you and stop ponderin... (read in full...)
Should I get to know this girl better? Does she like me?
Q. hello, i'll get straight to the point. There's this girl at my school who is known as the slut of sluts and the b!tch of b!tches. Anyways, in the past she has always treated my friends and i badly. She called me a nerd once, and im not, i do two di...
A. 5 June 2011: op, if you have doubts like this about her then take a step back, dating it not a good idea, see how she performs as a friend first. i have found in my life that first impressions are the true one. i have given people the benefit of the doubt ... (read in full...)
How do I rid myself of the pain because of a selfish person?
Q. Hi,can anyone offer me good advice on how to rid yourself of the pain,hurt and anger you feel towards someone you loved deeply as they ended your relationship because they are plain and simply selfish...
A. 5 June 2011: make an honest list of all their good and bad points. read it back to yourself and keep it for the times when you start to miss them. you may find that they were not always horrible and selfish to you and maybe they did not mean to hurt you. you ... (read in full...)
Sexy surprise for my b/f who has been away?
Q. Hey, I'm looking for some ideas for a sexy surprise for my bf who gets home tomorrow after being away for a week. He's been on a stag holiday, doing surfing, sky diving, those kind of activities, and has texted me throughout to say he's been missing ...
A. 5 June 2011: if he has been away from you for a week i think it would not matter to him even if you meet up with him wearing your grannies clothes! but yes why not dress slutty, or at least with no underwear on?
x... (read in full...)
Guys: What do you like to hear during phone sex?
Q. I need help loosening up durning phone sex i'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination and i've had phone sex before, many times, but i don't know i just kind of froze up durning phone sex i was nervous about how he'd react to what i was sa...
A. 5 June 2011: tell him in *very* graphic what you would love to do to him and have him do to you. if you have had good sex experiences with him already, talk about them, get him to remember, talk about them as if you are telling someone who does not know what ... (read in full...)
She's into meth -- how do I take care of the kids?
Q. I just wonder if any other males have gone thru something like this and looking for advice just aggravated with the way she acts like she did nothing wrong. I've been this relationship normal up and downs. I have a son who is 7 yrs old and a step s...
A. 5 June 2011: you poor thing :( just keep going the way you are doing, your kids need you and you are doing a great job. then when you can afford it get legal advice. the law SHOULD give the children to the best parent who has their interests at heart, ... (read in full...)
Might he have feelings for me? Am I being naive over my former tutor?
Q. Hi this is quite a common question, but I haven't found any answers that help me. I live in the UK and have just left college, only exams left to do. In my first year I got on very well with one of my lecturers (he was also my tutor). By the time...
A. 5 June 2011: you are not a child and are no longer at college so i don't see a problem in you getting together now. but what does concern me is when you said you 'heard something about him'!
are you sure that you over reacted or do you think that honestly... (read in full...)
We met on line. But he's inconsistent. Is it him or is it me? I'm baffled by his attitudes.
Q. I'm seeing this guy, it's been a month, we like each other and like to spend time together. we met online and on our first date he invited me to a work event and introduced me to his co-workers and boss, etc. So we agreed to take things slow and ...
A. 5 June 2011: you want things to happen quicker than he does, maybe you are more into him than he is with you or maybe he just likes to let meaningful things develop at a more relaxed pace.
he introduced you to his co-workers coz he took you to a works ev... (read in full...)
Is it fair that I want to change my mind about the three-some decisions we made?
Q. My boyfriend wants threesome with a girl and i said i wanted one with a guy. Than he started complaning, because he isnt bi-sexual like me, so he wouldn't get any thing out of it. But with a girl we both would because i'm bi-sexual. So i gave in....
A. 5 June 2011: of course you can change your mind! its your mind, your body, your sex life. he is your boyfriend not your master.
if he is not attracted to members of his own sex then you really cannot expect him to do stuff with a guy but he is being rather s... (read in full...)
Xt Is it unrealistic to want a relationship where you never argue?
Q. If arguments are to be expected in a relationship, how do you meet someone who has the same level of tolerance for arguments? I once had a boyfriend who would argue with me all the time, I could set a timer on and he'd argue with me at that exact ...
A. 5 June 2011: sounds like your latest boyfriend is looking for an idealised version of relationships where the couple agree on everything. i doubt he is ever gonna find this unless he gets a girl with no mind or opinions of her own! you are therefore not the ... (read in full...)
I read that sex without a condom increases risk of cervical cancer. Is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I have sex without a condom. We were both virgins when we met and I'm on the Pill so there's no risk of STD's or pregnancy. However, I was reading my pamphlet for the Pill and at one point it said sex without a condom increases the ...
A. 4 June 2011: yes using a condom eliminates the risk of catching the HPV virus from the man, which can lead to cervical cancer. but in recent years girls are now vaccinated against HPV so it will become less of a problem
x... (read in full...)
Tremendous sexual tension with this guy at work, we got together against all odds, and now his dominating ex (who he broke up with, for me) claims she's pregnant. He's back with her, says I was just a shoulder to cry on!
Q. Hi, all and any advice will be greatly appreciated as I've gotten myself into a bit of a emotional pickle. In May last year I started a new job. In September a flirtation began between a colleague and I, one who unfortunately was in a 3 year rela...
A. 4 June 2011: only HE knows his true feelings, but her pregnancy would not be enough of a reason to get back with her if she was such a monster and he really wanted to be with you.
why was he with her for 3 years if she was so bad?
yes the scan dates add u... (read in full...)
Found a lump in my right breast, but I'm too scared to go to the doctor!
Q. i know this might seem a bit weird, but iv noticed a lumb in my right breast, at first i just ignored it as i thought it may just be beacuse i lost weight and they are changing, but know i am a bit worried. i am to scared and ashamed to tell ...
A. 4 June 2011: absolutely get yourself straight to the doctor! this may be be very serious or it maybe nothing to worry about, but you definitely need to get it checked out.
even if your GP is a man, there is no need to be shy. they see breasts every day of t... (read in full...)
My friends children are spoiled and misbehave all the time! How can I get her to see that this isn't normal?
Q. Parents out there please help!!! I need some advice so I can help my friend with her children who are a nightmare! I don't have children myself so I apologise in advance if I offend anyone . My friend has 2 children- a 10 year old girl a...
A. 4 June 2011: god how annoying! i hate it when parents are so laid back while their children are causing world war 3 right in front of them!
well you have already pointed out the problems to her and she isn't listening. if you persist in trying to make her... (read in full...)
Help! I've lost my motivation in life. How can I get it back?
Q. hey, my life is falling apart and i nothing is helping. i only have a part time job and although i am greatful that i got a job, i never have enough money. due to this im losing all my friends as they go out and do things and i cant because i n...
A. 4 June 2011: why don't you get a second job for the evening and weekends too? a few hours a week working in a pub maybe? - its sociable and you'll be earning money - plus tips if the customers like you. i did it when i was younger as well as my part time job, i ... (read in full...)
Should I get to know this girl better? Does she like me?
Q. hello, i'll get straight to the point. There's this girl at my school who is known as the slut of sluts and the b!tch of b!tches. Anyways, in the past she has always treated my friends and i badly. She called me a nerd once, and im not, i do two di...
A. 4 June 2011: maybe she has a tough exterior but is softer on the inside, or maybe she is what everyone thinks and says she is - a bitch.
get to know her as a friend, but 'forewarned is fore armed', keep your wits about you but ultimately, decide for yourself... (read in full...)
Xt Is it unrealistic to want a relationship where you never argue?
Q. If arguments are to be expected in a relationship, how do you meet someone who has the same level of tolerance for arguments? I once had a boyfriend who would argue with me all the time, I could set a timer on and he'd argue with me at that exact ...
A. 4 June 2011: these 2 men you have written about are the 2 extremes the end of the argumentative-passive scale. obviously neither has been right for you but that does not mean that you will never meet a suitable match.
i understand argument to mean that the... (read in full...)
So was it really my ugly self this whole time? :(
Q. [Moderator note: Users own title] I am crying so bad as i right this i feel horrible right now, so my boyfriend looked at porn and i found out about a year and a half ago and i came online for help because i have such a low self esteem and i felt l...
A. 4 June 2011: some guys take porn more seriously than others. some will be able to watch it and jack off and it may have no impact on sex with their partner, unfortunately there are other guys who seem to get so into it that it adversely affects their performance ... (read in full...)
Are girls who grew up without a father attracted more to "bad boys"?
Q. My question put simply: Do Girls who grew up without knowing their father (i.e the father left home when they were born) have a tendency to be attracted, and go with "Bad Boys" who dont really care for them, and ultimatly cheat on them and treat th...
A. 4 June 2011: in my case - yes. my dad died when i was a 4 and was severely handicapped for a few years before that after suffering a severe stroke and i have often felt that this has had something to do with my bad dating history. apparently our personalities ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 18, I have a boyfriend but really like the 18 year old!
Q. Okay, well to begin with the truth, i am a 15 year old girl and i really like this 18 year old boy.. he tells me he really likes me too, and that he always wants to see me... we've met, and we're not together, but we always tell each other how much ...
A. 4 June 2011: you are not being fair to your boyfriend or the 18 year old, they do not even know about each other. it is time to make a choice - you cannot have both of them.
you are playing both these guys and it is not fair. imagine how you would feel if ... (read in full...)
Why does it feel like he's bored of me?
Q. My boyfriend and I text, well, 24/7, and it is him who texts me first. Now, this may seem weird, but he sent me a text saying :'no offense, but I wanna concentrate on this film.' I understand most of you think I am over reacting but the point is...
A. 4 June 2011: i think its ok that he wanted to concentrate on a film, at least he texted you to tell you so. if someone keeps texting me just to chat while i am busy doing something else they will not get reply until i have finished. so don't worry ok? why did ... (read in full...)
I want to be friends with this girl even though things didn't work out?
Q. Long story shot, there was this girl that I use to like and we had a thing going on with each other and then one thing led to another, she just wasn't that into me anymore and i felt like she led me on and all this, i got over the fact she did and...
A. 4 June 2011: if this girl truly wanted to drop all contact with you then she could have removed you from her friend list on FB.
'I know things didn't work out into a relationship but no need to throw away a friendship' don't tell us - tell her! send her... (read in full...)
He has two kids by two different women
Q. Do you think it's bad if a man has two kids by two women ?. I have just met this man, and he has a 12 year old son with one woman, and a one year old daughter with another woman. He is single at the moment though. I don't have any children. I'm not ...
A. 3 June 2011: as you have only known him for a week maybe you should get out of the situation before you get more involved, as there are big issues here that will cause problems - maybe you would be more suited to a guy who does not have kids already so you won't ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to ask him to help with the bills and go home sometimes?
Q. My man and I have been together for over 6 months. When we first started hanging out we hit it off so well he hardly went home. Then I had a stalker calling me, telling me where I lived, trying to pretend he was the pizza man to get me to open the ...
A. 3 June 2011: being jealous to this extent is NOT a sign that someone 'loves you so much' so don't be fooled. its a sign that he thinks you have no self control and can't be trusted and you don't deserve the respect to be believed when you say you are faithful. ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go because I might not be able to have children....even though I still love him?
Q. Hi everyone, my situation is this, I have been with my bf for a long time since I was 18 and I am currently 26. We are going on 8 years together and I love him dearly. When we began to have sex, I did not use any type of protection basically because ...
A. 3 June 2011: whether you are overweight or not depends on your BMI (body mass index) go back to your doctor with the paperwork find out your correct diagnosis and see what your options are. have you you should be under the care of a gynaecologist if you are not ... (read in full...)
What are my dreams telling me?
Q. So, my dreams might be telling me something. I have no idea what's going on! So the other day was my brothers graduation and i saw the guy I used to be crazy in love with. We never dated, but I liked him a lot! It was basically like a crush. I used ...
A. 3 June 2011: course it is, crush away! the crush will dissolve itself when you meet a guy who you're attracted to and who likes you too
x... (read in full...)
Is sleeping around normal for models and actresses?
Q. so i was at a party my friend invited me too (he's in the music industry, i'm not) and there was this girl i liked. it was a lot of people there from the entertainment industry. this girl was smoking hot, around 26 y.o. i was gonna go over and talk ...
A. 3 June 2011: well since you believe that she is slutty you are right to avoid her as i don't think you would trust her and feel secure with her if you two ever did start a relationship together. its nice to hear that you have actually got a standard, lots of ... (read in full...)
Your opinions on breaking up over the phone.....
Q. My ex of 4 month dumped me over the phone. In fact she almost did it over text, but I called her before that happened. Now I have no thoughts of even attempting to get her back, for the reason that I'm mad at her. Is it acceptable to be mad at her ...
A. 3 June 2011: no, phone is fine i think. face to face just makes it a more long and difficult process. dumping or being dumped is never an nice experience anyway so why should being face to face make it feel any better? i do think that text/email/facebook ... (read in full...)
Do you think its ok to have a couple's profile on Facebook and for me and my BF to share it together?
Q. My boyfriend made the suggestion last night that we delete both of our facebook profiles and create a new one that is a couples profile and share it together that way the people that add us or that are real true friends will not have a problem ...
A. 3 June 2011: does he have jealousy issues? i know you said the joint FB idea is coz of that woman who is a fbook friend of his but is obnoxious to you, but i'm sorry, i fail to see the relevance. if someone is horrible to you and he cares about you then he ... (read in full...)
What are my dreams telling me?
Q. So, my dreams might be telling me something. I have no idea what's going on! So the other day was my brothers graduation and i saw the guy I used to be crazy in love with. We never dated, but I liked him a lot! It was basically like a crush. I used ...
A. 3 June 2011: just see it for what it is then - a crush and its ok to feel like that towards someone, get on with your life too and hopefully you will meet someone who you feel just as excited about and who will be available for you, it'll happen one day.
hope ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go because I might not be able to have children....even though I still love him?
Q. Hi everyone, my situation is this, I have been with my bf for a long time since I was 18 and I am currently 26. We are going on 8 years together and I love him dearly. When we began to have sex, I did not use any type of protection basically because ...
A. 3 June 2011: i am sorry to hear this, my friend is having lots of trouble conceiving and like you, she loves kids and borrows other peoples but would dearly love her own. its heartbreaking i know.
did your doctor not tell you what your condition is called? ... (read in full...)
I lost weight...how do I keep it off?
Q. Hi im wondering if anyone can help me... after i put on a stone over Christmas i decided to do something about my weight and joined weight watchers. Since then i have lost a stone but it was with many ups and downs; i would have one good week and...
A. 3 June 2011: well done for the weight loss, you need to understand that the first bit of weight is always the easiest to lose and then the loss can slow down a bit - don't feel bad about this - it does NOT mean you are doing anything wrong.
you can lose you... (read in full...)
I dumped him, but he didn't fight for me!
Q. my ex and i got back together after a break up of a year.he finished things then asked me back so we gave it another go.we've been together 4months now and its been goin good up until recently.hes been quite distant and doesnt text as much.he blames ...
A. 3 June 2011: this is why you should never say things to a person that you don't really mean. i can see that he pretty much drove you to say it though, by his acting uninterested and cold towards you i know you were just looking to get a reaction from him weren't ... (read in full...)
Believe him and stay? Or leave and accept a cannabis addiction?
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles, I'm 17 and I love my boyfriend (also 17) dearly. We have been together since January. Before we got together, we were really good friends and he regularly smoked cannabis. Since we have been together, he has given up ...
A. 3 June 2011: i think you should have a zero tolerance policy with this if you are so against it. you are right to be concerned about the mental health implications of this drug, some (but not all) people develop schizophrenia exacerbated by cannabis, your ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my internet friend, how do I make the environment less tense?
Q. I need some help with something. I've recently started talking to a girl on the internet, maybe a month ago (i am a girl, yes im bi) im totally head over heels for her and shes so cool and nice and i love her already shes just my dream girlfriend. ...
A. 3 June 2011: calm down. saying you love her already is a bit much and is making you put her on a pedestal so its not surprising you feel nervous about meeting her. i think doing an activity that you both enjoy will be a good thing to do coz its less likely that ... (read in full...)
What are my dreams telling me?
Q. So, my dreams might be telling me something. I have no idea what's going on! So the other day was my brothers graduation and i saw the guy I used to be crazy in love with. We never dated, but I liked him a lot! It was basically like a crush. I used ...
A. 3 June 2011: you like him again and you are worried that you will regret it if you never tell him. i am not telling you whether you should tell him or not, i just feel that you are pondering telling him, if you don't you may always wonder about 'what might've ... (read in full...)
I don't like who my fiance is around his friends
Q. So i have been engaged since December, and am living with my fiance. I own the house myself, and he was working two jobs to be able to pay me, as he has one low-paying job that pays off his student loans. However, the second job ended, and now he ...
A. 3 June 2011: i'm not surprised you are pissed off. sounds like you have grown up but he hasn't and when he gets with his friends they bring out his childish side. no offence but your relationship sounds a bit 'mother and teenage-child'. and as we know - the ... (read in full...)
I need to get her off my mind so I can focus on other relationships
Q. I'm 15, I've liked my girl best friend for quite a while but she says were too good of friends to be together at the moment, I have had relations with other girls but I know she was more important than them what can I do to get her off my mind so I ...
A. 3 June 2011: it might help you to get over her if you see her reason for not wanting to be with you for what it really is...
she isn't attracted to you but she does not want to hurt your feelings or lose your friendship by being so blunt. i know you are disa... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to ask him to help with the bills and go home sometimes?
Q. My man and I have been together for over 6 months. When we first started hanging out we hit it off so well he hardly went home. Then I had a stalker calling me, telling me where I lived, trying to pretend he was the pizza man to get me to open the ...
A. 3 June 2011: yep. take the money for back pay of what he owes you and then DON'T let him move in. how can you want to be with someone who has been violent and scared you? he's got plenty of excuses why he wants to live with you but i think the real reason is ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my wife without exposing my infidelity?
Q. I have been having an affair for a year now, even though I have been married for 7. I got sober 8 months ago, no more booze or drugs, but I cannot quit this woman. If my wife finds out about us I will lose everything, friends, family (no children ...
A. 2 June 2011: well the simple answer is this: make up a bogus excuse to her "its not you its me..." then don't be seen in public with your girlfriend for a respectable amount of time. later on you can tell people that you have met her recently.
BUT this wil... (read in full...)
I want sex all the time. Am I an addict?
Q. I think I might be a sex addict. I think about it all the time. My wife had sex with me last night (I admit it had been a long while) and then we cuddled and she fell asleep. I woke her up in a couple of hour because I wanted to have sex again. ...
A. 2 June 2011: maybe you are craving sex because you want the comfort, intimacy and closeness that you feel you are not getting coz your wife rejects you quite a lot? from what you say i think 'addict' is a bit too strong a word. you just have a higher sex drive ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't use words of love like my ex!
Q. Hello i want a solution to my problem.. Im engaged to person who is too kind ...i got engaged after a long love store with another guy now i've been engaged for almost 8 months.i saw the guy i was with before by chance and i felt that somethin...
A. 2 June 2011: sweet talk is nice but it is just WORDS! it is better to be with someone who *shows* you that he loves you rather than someone who is just good at saying it. remember: he is your ex for a reason.
are you really happy with your fiancé or are y... (read in full...)
He has two kids by two different women
Q. Do you think it's bad if a man has two kids by two women ?. I have just met this man, and he has a 12 year old son with one woman, and a one year old daughter with another woman. He is single at the moment though. I don't have any children. I'm not ...
A. 2 June 2011: it does not necessarily make him a bad person. look at other aspects of his personality too. does he financially support his children? does he see them? is he a good father? is he respectful to them and their mothers? (one day you may end up having ... (read in full...)
Is sleeping around normal for models and actresses?
Q. so i was at a party my friend invited me too (he's in the music industry, i'm not) and there was this girl i liked. it was a lot of people there from the entertainment industry. this girl was smoking hot, around 26 y.o. i was gonna go over and talk ...
A. 2 June 2011: you don't know what happened between her and the 50year old that she left the party with really. how well does your friend know her? if what he says is true then yes this girl seems shallow and ambitious enough to do whatever it takes to get ahead ... (read in full...)
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