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writes:Ok, so here's the situation my ex and I have been broken up for over 9 months now. We were in a LDR and there were plans for me to move to her city. But since we're broken up obviously those plans fell apart. The problem is that I love the city that she lives in and I can honestly say that I could see a future there for me. It basically makes me happy everytime I go there, it's one of those special places that can give you a smile just being there. I recently got accepted into a program there at the local university. But knowing my ex is there makes it harder for me to decide if I want to move there. I have absolutely no plans on seeing or even meeting her. In fact she's already gotten engaged and I have intention even speaking to her again even if I bumped into her in the middle of the street. Luckily I don't have too many memories in that city so it won't be a problem of being reminded of her when walking around places. I guess i'm just worried that I will see her but I don't want that to cloud my decision in moving.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 as long as you are not moving there to stalk her i don't see a problem. i only live in quite a small town and it is surprising how i can go for YEARS without seeing people i once knew, for instance, old school friends that i have NEVER seen since high school and i am 39 now! as long as you don't go to places that you know she hangs out you might never bump into her but even if you do, so what? you are free to live wherever you choose
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (22 June 2011):
 I'm bound to ask why seeing her is a problem if your that indifferent. I totally believe you when you say you have no intention or desire to mend the relationship but it seems to me you still have a little, possibly not totally fully-healed scar left over. In this instance, I think you actually should move because I think it will be the final hurdle to overcome in the healing process, accepting you may see her and not letting that prospect bother you. It seems to me that you really adore this place and I think if you didnt move you would be forever kicking yourself because you will have missed out on something you really want for a not really that important reason. Do it for yourself because it's what you want and remember a city is a big place and the chances of you seeing her must be relatively small in any case. Even if you do, it doesnt matter, because your over her, right? Good luck :)
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