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writes:If you have been dating someone 4 months and they have never mentioned your name once in all that time. She has talked about things we did but instead of we she put I did this. I am learning to golf. I spent my b day with my girlfriends. No mention of me. Also not one pic of me anywhere. She says she doesn't share her personal life on there. C'on! She writes everything she does, she just Never talks about me. Ever!! I think she is a "player" am I wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 4 months isn't that long. Have a talk with her about it, without any accusations. Many prefer to use the first 6 months or so to just get to know each other before they take the step of announcing it. Just in case it didn't turn out that you were a great match after all.
I don't know how you think this means she's a player? Do you think she's got more men on the side, is that it? Then this isn't such an indication of a player, you'd need other clues. Have you discussed exclusiveness?
Just have a chat with her and ask her what's up.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 i take it you are talking about facebook or similar? maybe she does not see your relationship as important as you do, maybe she does not want to big you up to other people so that she won't look silly if you decide to dump her at some point. or maybe you are right in thinking she is a player and she maybe either seeing someone else or at least is interested in some other guy and wants to appear single and available.
tell her how you feel about it. hopefully she will open up and give you some honest answers, or maybe she will have excuses. after you tell her how you feel about it, look at things again to see does she start to make your relationship a bit more public. have you met her friends and family yet?
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 It does seem odd that she doesn't include you. Try talking with her about it.
Good Luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 It does sound like she doesn't want people to know that you are both seeing each other. It might just be a case that she feels it is early days and wants to keep it between the both of you until she is sure that it is going to work out. Tell her how it is making you feel though so that she is clear on everything.
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