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writes:I can't find a boyfriend. I've had love intrests and people intrested me and everything, but I can't seem to find someone who will not use me, and not mess me about (such as, take a liking to my best friend rather than myself)I'm only 15 and I already feel that my love life has ended before it's even properly began and I won't be able to find anyone.It doesn't help that my friends are in relationships. It sometimes makes me feel ugly and that im doing something wrong to turn guys off.I've been told that my time will come to find love, but I'm sick of waiting. I'm on the verge of totally giving up on guys.What can I do about all of this??x
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reader, myshell  +, writes (2 July 2007):
Hey honey,You don't need me to tell you you're going thru something abosolutely normal do you? But you are!I'm the father of 6 daughters and 4 of them to my knowledge went thru the same thing between 14 and 18.Problem is boys (most of them) don't want the same thing as girls (most of them) and most relationships will be one sided for a few years to come.I know hon, I was one of those boys! and how!!See, you want love and companionship, sex maybe, but arising from the emotions as all good sex does. Most boys won't want those things till they're in their 30's. Make a list of your friends who are in relationships, think about what they really have, you'll find most have relationships you wouldn't want anyway! Play the field, hon ... the boys won't be ready for a few years yet. Sexually they're only interested in F'ing. Emotionally they are mostly lost and often feel inferior to girls, compensating by playing the big 'I am' and playing mind games with their girls. Many modern boys have a big identity problem since women broke out. Maybe you should avoid boys from single parent or broken or crippled families for a while too ... they can be vry hard to relate to. Luvya Hon There's a lot of sunshine out in front, reach for it eh?
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Hunni, you WILL find a boyfriend one day and he'll treat you like a princess. As you said you are only 15 and have a lot of time for the love game hunni. I know it doesn't seem like it. I can remember being 15 too and it sucks. Your love life HASNT ended at all. You'll find as you leave school and meet new people your love life will just be beginning!
There are so many people out there and there is a least one guy out there that will treat you decent!
I wouldn't give up, just enjoy life as try to forget about the fact you havent got a boyfriend. I know that isn't easy.
xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): I'm 19 and I only got a girlfriend last year when I was 18 that only lasted a month and she ditched me for her ex. The majority of my friends who are girls (90%) didn't have a boyfriend until they started university. And even those who were in relationships when they were 15, all they did was hold hands.15 in my opinion, is still very young to be having a relationship. I heard of one story about a 15 year old dating a guy 2 years older (in the 6th form), all they did was hold hands but he went round spreading rumours about them having sex and how she was branded a tart. Would you want a boyfriend who's that imature.This is just my opinion (sorry if I couldn't be more helpful) and whoever said your time will come to find love is right you will find someone special.
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