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writes:ok I am 16 years old, I hate guys my age they're too immature... I recently started dating this 20 year old guy and me and him have done nothing but talk but my mom called him up threatening to put him in jail for just talking to me...the funny thing is I have dated a guy with the same age difference and she was ok with it before but I recently moved out of her house so I think shes just trying to get back at me.. so my question is can she put him in jail when we have had no sexual or really physical contact what so ever???
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (19 August 2007):
 fyi in the usa if your 16 and hes 20 he can get jail time for sleeping with you if she can prove it my sister inlaw im married to her brother slept with her bf shes 16 and hes 20 and he got 4 months in jail a felony on hes record and probation and in some states they make you sigh as a sex offender so watch out she lives the good old 816 missour, my mother inlaw called the police even thow she lives with grandma and the police picked him up and took him in and all they had to do is give him a lie test and her moms consent that she didn't approve of it and the put him in jail he bailed out for i think 800.00 cash so im not trying to scare you but im just saying i know from what has happend in my family.
just dont let your mother know you too are together if you dont live with her i think she wont have any way of knowing you really dont want to get him in trouble seriously watch your self i would feel bad if anything did but just because your not a virgin doesnt mean they cant arrest him they only need your body in missour if its rape or forceful sex according to my husban and sister inlaw
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): Your mum is looking out for you like any good mother should I suspect you have not been saying eye to eye on things and you have moved in with your aunt thinking you can do as you like but look at it this way this guy is alot older than you probably alot smarter than you and could take advantage i am not sayin he is but he could that is what you have to be aware of and tip have you heard of the terrible teens lol this will pass hope you make up with your mum as she will be your best friend always stick by you right or wrong so give her some credit as she will not be feeling that good about all this either
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): hey, your mother can not do anything and even if u did have sex or anything like that with him i sure you wouldn't tell her... in fact if she was to go to the police and say that you and ur boyfriend where having sex then she might get charged because she has no proof and if u dont say it is true then she is making a false complaint thingy so she could be charged for that... so she is proberly trying to break u and ur boyfriend jump and trying to get u bak home
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reader, love-him  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi babe, im 16 and my boyfriend is 20 soon to be 21. I dont know the legal age in US but if you wer havin sex then yes, she could. But if she did that, rang them, and you wernt havin sex, (and you may b asked to give proof by having a test to see if he has had his penis inside you) then he cannot be put in jail. I hope i helped. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Nope she cant do anything, and also, you are at legal age to have sex with him anyway. I totally agree about the guys the same age being immature. Well most of them are. Try and talk to your mom about it. xxxxx
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reader, sexi  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi, your mum cant really do much. I dont see what the problem is now when she was okay with it before. She is probably hurting because she feels you are growing up too quickly(moving out). Just take things one step at a time and give her some time to accept your relationship. Your mum loves you and is looking out for you but she doesn have to intervene in you love life so much. Try speaking to her and ask her to give him a chance.It seems like she is over reacting - it is not like the age difference is very bid, it is only 4 years!
Good luck, let me know what has happened
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reader, BeautifulLair +, writes (4 July 2007):
she cant intervine in your sex life.. you are 16 and legally you can sleep with who you want. she sounds caring and probibly just wants the best for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionum im the one that posted this and to the man below me.. i live in missouri and i do not live with my mom i live with my aunt so she cant do ne thing about a runaway and i met my boyfriend thru my friends boyfriend...and he is with me because he likes me, he was with a girl his age but they didnt have as much in common as me and him and i am very mature for my age i dont act or look my age at all...age is nothing but a number and i wont date guys my age i do not like them because they dont kno what they want out of life...and this boy is risking having my mom call the cops on him for me because he does care about me and even if me and him did have sex they cant prove it because im not a virgin either way...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): You are of leagal age to have sex, so your mam can't put this guy in jail even if you were having sex. Your mam has got to except that your a young lady now and need to start spreading your wings. I think you should sit down and talk to your mam and ask her why she doesn't like this guy and put all your cards on the table and tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels.Get to the bottom of this! Guys come and go but you have only got one mam.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Well it depends. Laws vary from country to country, and within countries, territory to territory. Let me put it to you this way...it is not about what acutally happened but how the law is interpreted.
For example, in some places the age of consent is 16 HOWEVER that is interpreted as intercourse. If you have anal sex, that may be illegal DISPITE the age in many places, including place in the USA. Heck, in the USA, using or selling sex toys is illegal in some place.
Anal sex, orla sex and intercourse will be treated differently under the law.
Also, you are considered a minor, and your mother may have influence as your legal guardian. Are you legally allowed to live on your own at that age? She could have you labelled a runaway.
In some places, your mother can issue the claim, and it is THE STATE that charges him, and does not require you to have him arrested.
Did you meet him off the internet? She could maybe have him charged as a pedophile. How and where did you meet will be looked at as a factor. If you snuck into a club and met him there, minors and alcohol is another issue that he could be charged with.
When it comes to these cases, even if he did nothing wrong, nor was convicted, it is the ACCUSATION that will damage him. Job application do not ask what he was convicted of, they asked what a personw as charged with. Big difference.
If you REALLY want to know for sure, talk to the sex crimes unit of your city police, or a family lawyer. The laws that were meant to protect children could be used to torture your bf.
BTW, what the heck is a 20 year old doing with a 16 year old living away from home anyways? Is he too immature to find girls his own age? I do not think you are doing yourself or him any service dating.
Quite frankly, I have a hard time beleiving that a 16 year old not living at home, seeing a horny 20 year old at his sexual peak is not doing anything. But I have a jadded view on this topic.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Brandi +, writes (4 July 2007):
 no she can not because even if you were it is not like he is forceing you
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reader, Brandi +, writes (4 July 2007):
no she can not because even if you were it is not like he is forceing you
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Nope. As long as you have no sexual contact with this man she cannot put him away.Like yummymummy said you do need to talk to your mum as it is better to fix this conflict now rather than pent up feeling and let them errupt which shouldnt happen between mother and daughtet. Just tell her you are not having sex and maybe let them two talk together to put her mid at ease.Remember shes your mum she has your best interest at mind and is just trying to protect you, sometimes not always the best way but she sounds like she is trying. Dont fall out with the woman who raised you over some guy ive seen it. Its stupid and your still young.PS: When it comes to boys 16 or 20 or 55 we are all 12 at heart, its our nature.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (4 July 2007):
 No she can't. Your mum can only get a guy of 20 put in jail for having intercourse with you i think. Not 100% sure on oral, but if you are having NO sexual contact what so ever then she can't put him away.
If your mum was ok with the last 20 year old maybe you should sit down and TALK, not argue, with her about what it is about your boyfriend now she doesn't like. Maybe you can set her mind at ease about whatever it is about him she doesn't like. Or suggest he come round to dinner to meet her properly. Don't fall out with your mum over a guy though! It isn't worth it. Your mum would protect you to the ends of the earth and die for you. Most guys will say they'll do that but many wouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): Well in Britain the age of consent is 16 but i dont know what it is in America. I dont know whether he can be put in jail but I extremly doubt it. Anyway if you are in the age of consent i cant see why he can be jailed.xx good luck
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