Together a week and 17 and pregnant already, what to do!?
Q. My girlfreind today had a pregnancy test. She is positive. What am i to do? We have established that we have to make a decision as a couple and not as individuals because i was asking her what she wants? Shes 17 and we've only been going out f...
A. 3 April 2006: If you've only been together week and have only been sleeping together for a week, I would seriously look at the possibility that the baby is not yours. When the egg is fertilised, it can take days for it to embed in the wall of the womb and show up ... (read in full...)
My partner has fallen for the guy we brought back for a threesome!
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years now. The sex was great at first and after 8 months we moved in together, then he started saying he thought we should try threesomes or clubs to make things more interesting. I agreed to go along but I was ...
A. 26 March 2006: I think you need the get away from this crazy situation. He's obviously moved on and to be honest, the whole situation sounds a bit freaky! You need to leave him to do what he wants with this other guy. You need to find someone who loves and ... (read in full...)
I don't feel too fresh "down below" any more - any tips?
Q. I used to love foreplay and being eaten out and now i have a vaginal odor that makes me feel not in the mood. My doctor says dont douche and eat more yogurt. But nothing works and i don't feel fresh. Help! what will make the sometimes light fishy ...
A. 26 March 2006: I can understand this making you uncomfortable but genitals do have a smell to them, however clean they are!!! If you've not got thrush or any other infection down there and you shower enough, then try feminine wipes. They're quick and easy to use ... (read in full...)
Had a one night stand last night and now I feel bad... Why?
Q. I had sex with a guy i know last nite. I am not normally the kind of girl who has one nite stands. I feel so guilty and i can't understand why i feel that way or why i did it really. I got ditched by my ex quite some time ago but still i feel like ...
A. 23 March 2006: Lot's of people feel this way in the cold light of day about the way they've acted the night before, whether they were drunk or not. I just think you value sex very highly and don't just want to do it with people to pass the time. You feel like it ... (read in full...)
I feel he's being selfish and not giving me enought time with him...
Q. My boyfriend and I have be going out for just over a year. Recently he has been going out alot with the boys on a Sunday to watch footie and we never go out on Saturday because he is saving himself for the Sunday. We spend about 2 nights a week ...
A. 23 March 2006: When that buzz of first getting with someone wears off, couples can get in a rut and get a bit bored with each other. I think you're right to be questioning him about this; after all, you're his girlfriend and you deserve the majority of his ... (read in full...)
I think I let things get too far with my boyfriend. Can I slow things down?
Q. I am 15 and I have had my boyfriend for 6 weeks and I love him. Soon after we met I let him feel my breasts and a couple of nights ago I let him put his hand inside my panties. But now I think I let him go too far and that he will want me to go all ...
A. 22 March 2006: You don't have to do anything you don't want to do and have to be sure to let him know that you feel this was too far and you want slow down. If you don't let him know, he'll get confused and things will go downhill from there.
If you feel as ... (read in full...)
Not sure how to feel now my friend has got together with this guy I fancy?
Q. I really don't no what to do beacuse recently I went to a party and this guy who i am quite good friends with and who i have pulled before got with my friend at the party. They have been texting and she went round his house yesterday and they pulled ...
A. 20 March 2006: Friends are always more important than guys so never sacrifice a friendship for someone you fancy. See how things go for them and just be happy for her, as hard as that may be for you. Make sure you keep your good friends, as lads will come go, ... (read in full...)
How should I ask him out? Please help!
Q. There is a boy ive liked since... well a very long time. when i was in first year he used to tease me, walking home from school he and his mates would shout my name out in strange voices, i usually ignored it and took the longer way home to avoid ...
A. 18 March 2006: This guy probably like you too, boys that fancy girls often tease them to try and hide their feelings from others. However, as he was teasing you, he may be a bit embaressed about liking you in front of his friends so you need to go about this ... (read in full...)
Confusing feelings for a friend... It's like I want to hug him forever, but I have no interest in going out with him!
Q. Hi, I have a real big problem. I don't know what's happening! Two years ago I got put into a maths group with people I barely knew. I sat next to a girl and two boys. Let's call one of them boys Bob. I started talking to them and Bob was really a...
A. 18 March 2006: This is simply a really good friendship, one that will probably last a very long time. As you have no sexual feelings there, and you're sure he doesn't either, just go with it!!! This is truly a wonderful thing, something some people never ... (read in full...)
He's hot and cold and I can't tell if he fancies me too!
Q. Here's the thing: I really like this lad in my form. We only just got to know each other this year when were were split into different forms. I used to talk to him quite a lot in form and some of my mates think he fancies me, but recently I think he ...
A. 18 March 2006: I don't know whether he fancies you as I don't know him, but I do think he is playing a not-very-nice game with you. If he does like you, he should be nice to you all the time, no matter who else is around.
However, he may feel you are just fri... (read in full...)
My crush's best friend is irritating to me, but I end up thinking more about him than my crush!
Q. OK, I need to clarify my question before. Sorry I was in a bit of a rush. I have a crush on guy A, which can't go anywhere due to the fact he has a girlfriend and also that he doesn't see me that way. My problem is I hang out with both, and when...
A. 18 March 2006: It seems like you may have some feelings for the friend, although you are finding it hard to understand them. We usually find that the ones we care about most are the ones we think about most. Now this thinking about doesn't have to be good thoughts ... (read in full...)
He wants to rush things, but I don't. What should I do?
Q. hi, i have been with my fiance for 3 years, and recently he has given me an ultimatum. if i dont move in with him and out of my parents then he will finish with me. I had to say no because i am a student at university (im 21) and i have no income ...
A. 15 March 2006: This is always the problem in age gap relationships - you're both in different places in your lives and some people just aren't willing to compromise.
You are being very sensible and I say stick to your guns. You have to live with your decision... (read in full...)
My bf's in the hospital, should I stay or go on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend of 9 years who is 13 years older has been in the hospital for 2 months and will be in longer. How do I rationalize staying with him or moving on? ...
A. 15 March 2006: If you truly love this man, you have to stand by him whatever he goes through. People in true love don't bolt at the first sign of trouble, they stick together and get through whatever life throws at them. The fact that you wrote this tells me yo... (read in full...)
I've liked him forever, but he is now confused about us
Q. Hi there I have always liked this guy from school since i have been 14 and im 24 now. We meet up last weekend and we got it together. He kissed me and said that he always wanted to do that since he was 14. We both have partners. Anywa...
A. 13 March 2006: This sexual tension has been brewing for a long time and now it's overflowing!! You need to put that on the back seat for a moment and think carefully about the relationship you're in now and if you're willing to sacrifice this for a fling or ... (read in full...)
He really doesn't have a sex drive and now neither do I!
Q. Are there any other women out there that have felt like i do. And i don't have a clue what to do. I just dont enjoy the sex with my boyfriend of 2 yrs. I have tried lots of things to improve the sex but nothing works. We talked lots and there is ...
A. 13 March 2006: I have the same problem; he has no sex drive most of the time and I feel like I'm just doing things when he wants to, not when I do. My sex drive started to drop because of this because my self confidence was being knocked constantly as he kept ... (read in full...)
I love him madly..so how do I get him to make love to me?
Q. I have posted this elsewhere and I hope you do not think I am being rude or crude. I love my bf madly. I live at home. When he brings me home after a date and we are kissing, I do really do like him feeling my tits and putting his fingers in me but ...
A. 13 March 2006: If he isn't wanting to wait until he's married to have sex or anything, maybe he's just taking things slowly because he thinks that's what you want. You have to let him know that you want to make love to him. This is the 21st century, hun, we don't ... (read in full...)
Rumour is that my boyfrend is seeing someone else. Do I dump him or talk it out?
Q. I am 14 and so is my boyfriend. We are born on the same day but we do not go to the same school. My friend, who I chat to online, has told me that my boyfriend is seeing another girl but my boyfriend asked me out. What shall I do? Dump him or talk ...
A. 5 March 2006: Of course, you have to talk to him. Never listen to gossip, it might have been started by some jealous person wanting to split you two up. Ask him to his face what's going on and if there's any truth to the rumours. You'll know if he's telling the ... (read in full...)
I had a negative experience with sex and I'm not ready for that this soon. What do I say to guys I'm dating?
Q. About a year ago I was a dating a man who I thought I really trusted until one night he forced me into sleeping with him. It was a horrific experience but I now feel that it's been a year and that it's time for me to move on. I want to start da...
A. 5 March 2006: Firstly, I'd like to say how brave and mature you are being, putting what that loser did to you behind you and moving on with your life. That must take a lot and you deserve a good guy and to be happy.
Any guy worth having will wait until you're r... (read in full...)
Has the love gone?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 9 months now. At the beginning we were both really into each other and all our friends could see the spark but I'm scared that the fire we used to have is starting to fizzle out. I'm really paranoid about ...
A. 4 March 2006: I think you have both got too comfortable with the relationship and need to get back whatever you had at first. It's only human to get like this, the first few months is amazing but, over time, things do change and, although it may not seem as ... (read in full...)
I need to learn to stop being so jealous and suspicious-It's driving us both crazy! Advice is needed
Q. I am really jealous and insecure with my partner and I dont know why. He has never really given me any reason to be but we have lived together for 1.5 years and i've gotten myself into a rut of checking his phone/emails/internet. I know it's not ...
A. 21 February 2006: I am exactly like you and share your problems!!! I am obsessively suspicious about my boyfriend and check his phone and email all the time! It's pathetic, I know, but I can't help it!!! I was not insecure at all until I found messages from an... (read in full...)
He's told me that "we're going to sleep together" on Saturday. Should I?
Q. I have a problem. There's this guy I've known for about 4 years. We have been on and off for ages, usually when he has a girlfriend, but we've never slept together. Now, he's breaking up with his girlfriend and we've been flirting outrageo...
A. 19 February 2006: If you're unsure you have to say no!!! Sometimes the voices in our head do speak sense and tell us what we should really do or not do. I understand it can be fun, flirting and messing around, but take it slow. You don't want to get used or ruin a ... (read in full...)
Mum doesn't even think I've kissed a boy before and I don't know if I should tell her I'm considering sex...
Q. Hi I am in a teenage crisis... I am 13 years old and have been going out with a guy for 5 months now and we both want to have sex but we are mature enough for our age and we are going to wait at least a year. The thing I'm saying is...my mum does...
A. 16 February 2006: You are very young and you do need someone to talk to about these thoughts about having sex at this age. Maybe not your mum, if you're scared she will take it badly, but a trusted adult like a counsellor, teacher, aunt etc? Someone who you trust to ... (read in full...)
Things with a workmate looked promising, but she refuses to talk about dating now...
Q. I've met a woman at work a few weeks ago. We seemed to like each other and looked like heading for a relationship. Now she says she may be dating me in the future but not right now. She refuses to talk about it. She says she will talk to me about it ...
A. 16 February 2006: She sounds like she needs some space. If she's got things going on outside work then she needs to sort all that out before she even thinks about guys and dating. Just chill out, give her the space she wants and, if it's meant to be, she'll come back ... (read in full...)
My BF isn't ready to get married, but he thinks I am -- so he keeps breaking up with me!
Q. My boyfriend is 5 years younger and we both love each other very much. Problem is that he somehow thinks I'm ready to get married and now wants to break up because he wants me to find someone to marry. He says he still loves me, but we just can't be ...
A. 16 February 2006: He sounds really confused and thinks he can't offer you what you want. 5 years is not a big age gap and he needs to be reassured that you want what he wants and most of all, for you both to be happy. You have to talk to him, tell him how you're ... (read in full...)
Is real love a thing of the past? All these guys are interested in is no-strings sex!
Q. It's not fair - how come so many guys these days just want to be friends with benefits? I'm sick of guys telling me I'm great but they don't want a relationship but can we still sleep together? It sucks and I don't think they realise how muc...
A. 16 February 2006: True love is not a thing of the past and don't let these retards make you think that. True love is out there and you will find it someday, you just have to be open to the possibility everyday, but don't be looking for it, that's just desperate!!!
... (read in full...)
How many is too many sexual partners?
Q. How Many is Too Many?? I am just curious, I had the post earlier about peoples opinions/views on casual sex? That got me to thinking, how many would you think is too many for past number of sexual partners?? I mean I know there are average...
A. 8 February 2006: I don't think it matters whether you are a man or a woman, lots of sexual partners shows immaturity and low moral standards. However we've all been young and stupid and people deserve a second chance.
For example, my ex boyfriend had slept wi... (read in full...)
She is pregnant by him and though I love her, I don't know what to do
Q. my fiance of two years had an affair in October with one of my friends. We worked through it and were as stong as ever and had set a date for the wedding. Last Friday she told me she was pregnant by him and was keeping it. We love each other ...
A. 8 February 2006: I agree, you need to get out now. This woman has betrayed your trust in the worst way possible and, although you say you love her, this will never go away. This child is always going to be there to remind you what she did to you and more hurt is all ... (read in full...)
How do I get over this jealousy?
Q. Hello, i would really like some advice. i am 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for over two years. I really love and trust him but i am very jealous and insecure. i get annoyed when my boyfriend goes out without me and i dont like ...
A. 8 February 2006: The fact that you don't really have many friends around you is the root of all this, I think. You resent your boyfriend for having the things you so desperately want. Although this is understandable, I can also see why is getting tired of it. As you ... (read in full...)
He gets drunk and can't remember kissing some girl..can I ever trust him again?
Q. im going out with fiance for five years we have a 3year old child. when he drinks hes a totally diferent person while out last week we had an argument and he drank so much he just wasnt the same person .he was up at the bar talking to a girl and the ...
A. 8 February 2006: Something like this is obviously going to make it hard for you to trust him again but of course it is possible. But I think the main issue here is the drink. I get the impression he's fine without booze so he needs to sort this problem out. When ... (read in full...)
Not in the mood for sex with my husband any more. Is it the birth control?
Q. I'm 21 years old and I'm married to a loving man. While we were dating the sex was great. We did it all the time and the after our son was born I started to use birth control (depo). Now I don't feel in the mood to have sex with him and it kind of ...
A. 8 February 2006: All times of medication can affect our bodies in different ways and with birth control, this is especially common as it changes hormone levels in our bodies and we all know what can happen when our hormones get messed about! Every month is a good ... (read in full...)
She's been hurt...how do I show her that I'm different?
Q. I have recently met a fantastic girl. Who I have so much in common with. We get on so well, the other night we kissed and it felt so right. But she has had very bad experiences in the past with boyfriends hurting her, and cheating on her, and so has ...
A. 6 February 2006: I think you need to let her know you're there if she needs to talk but also give her the time and space she needs to come to terms with what has happened in the past and grow to want you as much as you want her. I know you really care for her, I can ... (read in full...)
Is he always finding fault with me...
Q. Hi, I have been married for 2 years. My problem is that my husband is always finding fault with me. Even the smallest things are a major issue to him. And worst of all, he does not tell me abt his dissatisfaction but complains to my mum, brother ...
A. 6 February 2006: He sounds very unreasonable and two-faced to me. You're not his slave and you don't have to cook breakfast for him everyday or do anything he wants for that matter!!! You do things as favours when YOU want to, not when you've been told you should. ... (read in full...)
I love my long term bf...but "in love" with his friend.
Q. i wonder if anyone has some advice for me i'm in a bit of a pickle i'm with my partner of 5 and a half years i love him dearly but not quite so in love anymore i see myself growing old with him but the problem is i'm in love with his best mate he is ...
A. 6 February 2006: I think you have to ask yourself 'am I really in love with this friend?' Sometimes, really really liking someone can make us think we really love them, but in fact we hardly know them! You may really fancy him, want to sleep with him, think he's a ... (read in full...)
LAdies-give me some creative, different ideas on Valentine's gifts for my gf.
Q. Bit of a different question now... Hi to all! Im sure you all know its valentines day next week. Im 19 and so is my girlfriend. We have been going out for exactly a month today. I'll be honest and say that i've never had to do anythin...
A. 6 February 2006: I obviously like it when my boyfriend spends a lot of money on me (jewellery etc)!!! But the presents that have made me smile and cry the most have been the little symbolic ones. Something I saw on our first date in a shop window, a ... (read in full...)
I feel like my married life has been a lie now his porn secret has come out! WHY do men do this?
Q. I found our three years ago that my husband (whom I had been married to for 16 years) had been using porn to masturbate over since before we met and consequently brought it into our marriage. I feel like my married life has been a lie. I was so ...
A. 6 February 2006: I understand you are hurt after he's hidden this from you for so long but I just don't see masturbation as a big problem in a relationship. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knew you would react this way? I see how boring it must have been when he ... (read in full...)
Sex once a week is not enough for me! Does he not find me attractive? Help
Q. my fiance wont come near me! i've tried and tried to get him to want to have sex, he works hard and i understand that but once in 3 weeks is not enough! im starting to worry thats its me and he just doesnt find me attractive! which he denies! can ...
A. 1 February 2006: I understand how you feel. My boyfriend is 10 years older than me and his sex drive is much lower than mine. He is having problems at work too and hasn't been in the mood to make love lately. It is really annoying but I'm sure it's nothing to do ... (read in full...)
He's slept with 60-70 women in his past. Is he just another player or am I just being paranoid? help
Q. After a long period of avoiding men for fear of getting hurt I have recently started going out with this guy. Things are going amazingly well and he is everything I'd look for in a man. My friends say how much he clearly adores me and how good we ...
A. 25 January 2006: I can't really answer this but all I can say is 'trust your instincts'. Us women have a good sense when someone is being truthful and when they are lying. Look in his eyes when he says things to you, you'll know whether it's the truth.
You j... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't feel the way she used to...
Q. my gf tells me it might be over and that she does not feel how she use to and as recently moved back to her mums, i know we are so good together and we can have a great future i love here dearly, y cant my mistakes be forgiven and for her to let me ...
A. 25 January 2006: I think you need to give her some space to think about whatever issues she has on her mind. If she does love you, she'll come back to you in her own time and you can start working things out. Pestering her to come back will do either of you any ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me...what should I do?
Q. I really need some advice on what to do..my so called bf has been totally ignoring me he hasnt taken any of my calls for 5 days now i leave him emails and instant messages but nothing i had written a letter to him like 4 days ago reguarding our ...
A. 25 January 2006: IGNORE HIM!! I'm begging you, just leave it. He's probably loving all this attention, most people would. Don't ask desperate and he'll come running back once he thinks you're not bothered anymore. And if he doesn't, there's your answer: he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He lied to me! Told me he was 26 and he's really ...45!! What should I do?
Q. I'm almost 17 but my boyfriend's recently just told me that he's 45 after telling me 7 months ago that he was 26.He was too scared to tell me in case that i would dump him. He really loves me and i really love him too, but where would we get from ...
A. 25 January 2006: The fact that he has lied tells me that he isn't too bothered about lying to people he loves and could well do it again. I know he's come clean now but now you're just left confused.
That's a big age gap, he must look really good for his age!!! I... (read in full...)
Visions of her past sexual history haunt me..it's a serious problem and I need specific advice.
Q. How do I get over my wife's sexual history? Please be specific. I don't need any comments stating to "just get over it," or the "past is the past." I'm well aware of these things, but I just can't. I made the mistake of asking about her past, and ...
A. 25 January 2006: I would just like to say I know exactly how you feel. I am in completely the same position as you. My boyfriend has had so many sexual partners and I have this silly idea that asking about details will make it easier, when in fact, it just makes it ... (read in full...)
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