He says he can't see himself spending the rest of his life with me so we broke up. But now he says he loves me and I love him too! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend I were together for a year, it was true love. About 2 weeks ago he told me he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me, but he needs to be single first. We've been broken up for 2 weeks, talk everyday, are still intimate, ...
A. 5 March 2007: This must be very hard for you, as I can see that you believe you two are supposed to end up together. However, I have problems seeing how he is working out these confusions when he's still seeing you and sleeping with you? When someone needs time ... (read in full...)
I seem to feel lost all the time, not depressed but lost, anyone any solutions ?
Q. Hey all.. just wanted some views or opinions on this please.. i feel so lost in a world i dont want to be in, its hard to explain..doesnt matter where i am or what i do i feel so alone in a big world.. i have many friends and family that love me and ...
A. 5 March 2007: This is a common way to feel and we all feel it sometimes. You're obviously just one of those people who thinks a lot about things and that doesn't have to be a bad thing. It can sometimes get you down, though, the world isn't great all the time. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex out of my mind?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm 21 and I went out with a boy for 18months from when we were 17. During that time we argued quite a lot, as I was the only 1 who made any effort. He didnt make any effort to meet my friends or family, it was always me going to him, ...
A. 5 March 2007: I think many people have been in your position because I believe we all have someone from our past who we never really get over, even though we don't know why because they were never really that nice to us anyway. It just takes all our strength ... (read in full...)
Should I wait to see if they will be together again, or should I just go for him?
Q. There is this boy, and he lives pretty far away. I reallly realllly like him.. and i know we could never have a relationship now because im a bit young for a long-distance relationship. but herein lies my problem: he and this girl dated befor...
A. 5 March 2007: I think they must have split up for a reason so why not try and see if you can make it work with him Once you get chatting, you can find out the details, like why they split and whether there's still anything going on or likely to happen in the ... (read in full...)
He slept with someone when we broke up, we're together again but I don't know if I can handle this. Should I stay with him?
Q. I got back together with my boyfriend of four months recently after two weeks apart. I broke up the relationship but realised I wanted to try again and he was very willing to give it another go. The problem is while we were apart he slept with some ...
A. 1 March 2007: I don't think he can love you as much as he says he does if he could jump into bed with someone else so fast. I know this sounds harsh but I don't. I know if I split with my partner, he would not be able to touch another woman for months and rightly ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend works with his ex-girlfriend and she still calls him e-mails him and texts him.
Q. My boyfriend works with his ex-girlfriend and she still calls him e-mails him and texts him. He has told her to move on but she wont. It has been almost a year since they parted. This is still very disturbing to me. It would do him no good tho ...
A. 1 March 2007: I don't think you're overracting, it's hard for anyone to accept that they're partner has been happy with someone else, never mind if they see them and communication on a daily basis! I don't blame you for being like this: even if I trusted him ... (read in full...)
Do I like this new guy for who he is or because he's like my ex?
Q. 6 months ago I came out of a 3 year relationship. He was my childhood sweetheart. We've broken up before for a year but got back together. We broke up because it wasn't the same anymore because we kept arguing. 6 months on I've had several ...
A. 1 March 2007: You really need some time on your own to get your head together. You're still only young and to have had a relationship for so long at your age is unusual. You need to find out what it's like to just be you, to enjoy your own company and not need ... (read in full...)
I feel as if our relationship is falling apart as he gets so jealous all the time. How can he curb this?
Q. me and my boyfriend been going out for 11 months about to be a year on march 22,2007 and at first our relationship been going great. well i fell in love with him and got to the point where he asked me to marry him. i said yes! well now i am getting ...
A. 1 March 2007: I think you're awfull young to be thinking about marriage! But if you want this relationship to work, you need to take things slow, don't do anything rash and work through the problems. Don't get rid of him or marry him yet, see how things go and ... (read in full...)
I get a nasty rash everytime I shave my pubic area! Help!
Q. Everytime I shave my pubic area I come out in a rash that looks really horrible. I don't want to wax, I want to shave but is there anything I can do that will stop me coming out in a rash? Such as a cream or a certain razor? Only whenever I go on ...
A. 1 March 2007: This sounds like you have some ingrowing hairs. It's very common and most people get at least a couple when they shave a sensitive area. Exfoliating will help the hairs come through but I have also found a great ointment you can put on it and it ... (read in full...)
I'm a male and afraid to lose my virginity, I seem to think that people who lose their virginity before marrige are not good people. Why?
Q. I am a guy alright. But i wonder why does it discomfort me when someone is looking at me or makes eye contact, i feel shy, when they look at me I think they were probably thinking about having sex with me. That sounds absurd but i am extremely ...
A. 28 February 2007: I don't think you're taking it too seriously. In fact, if more people realised, like you, how important and powerful sex is, the world would be a better place. Sadly, however, this is not the case for most people, as they see it as something you do ... (read in full...)
Why did he not cum? I don't think I could put myself through such a work out again!!!
Q. ok I'm really inexperienced here so help needed. I recently had sex for the first time and like most people was extremely disappointed. To start with my bf did not rub my clit properly so i wasnt wet enough and it hurt more than when I've used a ...
A. 25 February 2007: I think everyone feels this way at first: sex really isn't that enjoyable for a women any time, never mind when it's a load of inexperienced fumbling around! If you're nervous, that won't have helped either and maybe he didn't come for the same ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that my sister's having a party while they're away even although they've told her no?
Q. I found out that my sister might be having a party. Now I don't now all the details (where, how many are going etc.) but me and my parents are out that weekend and there are guys older than me, who might be going. My parents say she can't have a ...
A. 25 February 2007: I think it's sweet you care about your sister and want to look out for her. I know it's not the cool thing to do, to tell your parents about a party, but if you think she could be in danger, i.e. from older guys, or the house may be in danger, I ... (read in full...)
How do I play the social scene?
Q. Heya, I hve a question about friendships. I have recently started sixth form and all my friends left to go to different schools for the sixth form. I sort of have a group of friends but it is quite small and two of the members of the group are dati...
A. 25 February 2007: You need to branch out and get involved with new people. Sticking with the same group of friends can be good, they're your closest ones, but once they start to leave you out and get boyfriends and stuff, it sucks. If they want to put their ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I'm REALLY obsessed about my weight!
Q. hey, i think i have a problem. i am really obsessed with my weight, sometimes i have thought of becoming bulimic but have thought better of it as to be honest i hate the feeling of throwing up and i know it is stupid so i wouldn't ever do...
A. 22 February 2007: I think everyone today has some hang ups about the way they look. We have it rammed down our throat how thin we're supposed to be all the time, I don't think any of us are ever happy with our bodies, no matter how thin we end up. Size 8 is 2 sizes ... (read in full...)
I find intercourse boring and something to be done out of compulsion or pressure. Am I normal to feel this way or is something wrong with me?
Q. I find the act of intercourse to be boring and something done out of compulsion/pressure and not genuine conviction. Is there something wrong to feel that as a guy?...
A. 21 February 2007: There is nothing wrong with you, there could be many reasons for this. Lot's of women feel this way when they are not 'making love', just doing it with someone random. Maybe if you waited until you met someone you felt a lot for, it might get ... (read in full...)
I am so obsessed that he still has feelings for his ex even although I'm pregnant with his 3rd child.
Q. I have been with My fiance since I was 15, I'm 22 now and he is the only person I have ever been intimate with, we have 2 daughters and I'm 35 weeks pregnant with our first boy. recently, he broke up with me for about a month, he told me during that ...
A. 21 February 2007: I don't blame you for being obsessed: he committed the ultimate betrayal against you! You need to decide whether you made the right decision in taking him back. If he left you to be with this woman, even after you'd given him 2 beautiful children, ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to respect me regarding sex, should I let him know this?
Q. hi me and my bf are both 16 and have been going out with eachother for nearly 2 months. we have only kissed about 4 times in one day. but that was about a month ago and we havent kissed since! also his mate has a gf and he is always saying to ...
A. 19 February 2007: His mate sounds childish and you two need to concentrate on you two, not what everyone else is getting up to. If you're not ready to do anything with him yet, that's fine, you're only young, you don't need all these problems yet. Just let him know ... (read in full...)
Help! How can I move on?
Q. hi..i need help plz guys..i just broked up with my bf. last year we went out for very short time but i did liked him then he said lets just be friends then, i said ok but i wasn't happy and now i still like him i havent moved on yet can someone help ...
A. 19 February 2007: We all go through this at some time in our lives and some people never fully move on. The thing is, you have to have the self esteem and confidence to get a grip and realise you're worth more than hanging on some guys every word, waiting for him to ... (read in full...)
We both keep arguing about our ex's all the time and it's just getting worse, is it me?
Q. i been with my girl two years now we argue everyday about the exes and she always accuse me of mine for no reasons at all then when that dosent work she starts with something something else is it me or is she the one whos guilty of something?...
A. 19 February 2007: You mean you accuse each other of cheating with exes? Sorry, it's not that clear but I'll answer with regard to this anyway!
It sounds to me like you both have self esteem and trust issues. You don't feel you are good enough for the other one and ... (read in full...)
Is there a condom available for the larger man ?
Q. me and my b'f have been dating 11 months. My b/f has a problem. everytime we have sex he doesnt feel anything. this is because the condoms he is using are too tight for him. he is very wide and long if u get what i mean, and i was wodering whether ...
A. 19 February 2007: I think it's great that you're thinking about this to protect yourself and so you both enjoy it as much as possible. There are different types and sizes of condoms but not all of them are available in the high street. Go to a special sex shop or the ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being scared of fat women and certain people in general?
Q. I am scared of certain type of people, like those who are imperfect in their physiqie, especially fat women. I think they have a low self-esteem and it's a safe thing to not let them come close. Same thing about people with dark skin. I find them to ...
A. 19 February 2007: Everyone has issues and, no matter what some people try to tell us, stereotypes are everywhere. We all have, in our minds, the 'type of people' who are criminals and the 'type of people' who have low self esteem and are going to hurt us but we can't ... (read in full...)
I am very insecure about my bf's past love relationships! Is this the norm..do others feel this way?
Q. i'm insecure over my b/f's past and i get jealous thinking about girls he spent time with, slept with, had fun with..I have been with him for almost 2 years and i still get like this..he has given me cards that in it have written things such as ...
A. 18 February 2007: It is always going to be hard for everyone to come to terms with the fact that the person they love has been in love before and has been intimate. I understand these feelings, my partner has a very colourful past and I find it difficult, especially ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but I still have doubts that she's "The One"
Q. Hi, I've been dating an amazing girl for 7 months. She truly is all that I ever wanted. But I still have doubts about her being the one that would pop up every so often but would then disipate. This came to a head 5 days ago and we decided to ...
A. 14 February 2007: I think we can all freak out sometimes when we get in such a serious and meaningful relationship. Sometimes our minds can tell us this is not what we want as a sort of defence mechanism to make sure we don't get hurt. You seem to really love this ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me?
Q. Hi iv been seeing a guy 4 about 3 month now however i had 2 go away on buisness for a month over christmas. we stil kept in contact and was eager 2 meet up when i got back. We did only once however we still emailed and texted each other. Im ...
A. 14 February 2007: I guess only time will tell whether or not he's using you. You haven't seen him many times so you can't really know the answer to that yet. If you really like him, give it time and don't sleep with him until you're sure he's not using you. If you ... (read in full...)
I love sex, it's my passion and all I seem to want is one night stands. What can I do?
Q. im a girl and sorta in a long distance relationship... but i think the only thing i want out of a man is sex what should i do? for sum reason i have a thing for one night stands which usually end up being 3 night stands cuz i will se the guy a week ...
A. 14 February 2007: You're awfully young to consider sex one of your 'passions'! Whatever happened to music or clubbing?! Anyway, you're obviously way past all that so I'll just answer your question . . .
You obviously have problems getting close to someone.... (read in full...)
Is he covering up about this other woman? Do I believe him or do I just leave it?
Q. this is an update, i asked my bf again who this woman is that he keeps ringing 3/4 times a day and he didnt tell me who she is, just that they are not having a relationship. I really do want to believe that is the truth but the fact that he avoided ...
A. 14 February 2007: It sounds to me like you have a right to have doubts! If he's got nothing to hide, he should just be telling you who she is@ we're all allowed friends of the opposite sex but ones that are kept secret are a little more suspicious. You need to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has become boring, hopefully my break to Prague will make me miss her more
Q. History: I am 21 shes 18 7 months roughly going out, weve split up twice due to her wanting space and me going to a strip club. She has kissed two other people in these times. I realise the infatuation stage has gone now and she puts all my effo...
A. 11 February 2007: It seems to me that the spark has definitely gone between you two and this time apart will make you both realise whether you want to be with each other or whether this has just become habit. It does sound to me like you two are in different place, ... (read in full...)
He's with someone else now but does he still have feelings for me?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend about 5 months ago as we decided it wouldnt work out with me goin 2 college and him staying on a sixth form as we thought we wouldnt see each other, he moved on and by the end of the month was getting together with ...
A. 11 February 2007: You need to stop acting like kids and sort this out. He's right, it's not fair to this other girl to have her hanging around if he still likes you. I get the feeling he only got with her try and make you jealous in the first place. You need to talk ... (read in full...)
Do YOU believe in love at first sight?
Q. Do you believe in love at first sight? What do you think of a 15 year old dating a 23 year old? Is it wrong? Let me know! Thanks...
A. 9 February 2007: I do not believe in love at first site: I believe this is lust. Love is something that must be achieved by getting to know someone deep down like nobody else knows them and having a special bond. You cannot get this by just looking at someone.
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My hubby never pay attention to me, he lies, he views porn and I don't trust him! What should I do?
Q. I have been married for 3 years, however i feel my husband is not in love with me anymore, He hardly ever pays any attention to me and on the odd occasion he does want to have sex, I feel that that is all it is-that he just wants sex-not that he ...
A. 9 February 2007: You need to sort this out or move on. I know it's hard to think of leaving a marriage but can you honestly spend the rest of your life feeling this way? You deserve more than this, whatever the reason for the change in his ways.
If you feel tha... (read in full...)
I can't get a boyfriend
Q. hi,im really upset because i cant get a boyfriend and every one else can what can i do?p;ease write back a.s.a.p thank you xxxxxxxxxxx...
A. 8 February 2007: Don't worry about this, you're way too young to be thinking about having a boyfriend. I know you and all your mates are starting to notice the guys but it's silly going out with one of them now: they're immature and stupid and only cause you ... (read in full...)
I hoped she'd grow on me. Five years later though, I still haven't found much in her... !
Q. My girlfriend is talented, bright, caring, hard working, very successful and always seems to be on top of things. We've been together five years. I haven't fallen in love with her however. She ticks a lot of the right boxes and we share many ...
A. 8 February 2007: I think she means a lot to you but she's not the woman you're supposed to end up with. I might be young and mushy but I believe there's someone out there for all of us who, when we meet them and get to know them, we'll just know they're the one. ... (read in full...)
My husband took everything we had - trust, love, and ruined it by sleeping with a Thai bar girl...
Q. I had a very happy marriage until about three months ago. My husband went on a business trip to Thailand and visited a go-go bar where he had protected sex with a bar girl. He got back and confessed the very same night but said he only had oral sex ...
A. 8 February 2007: You need to let him go. Not only did he commit the untimate betrayal, he lied to you about it and that's unforgivable. Some people will tell you to work it out for your childs sake but you deserve to be happy too, you deserve a good life and ... (read in full...)
Why do I get these paranoid feelings??
Q. hello I am 16 and have a bf and we have been together for a month. I used to have a bf about a year ago and he didnt want anyone to know we were going out with each other (i can see now that he was obviously ashamed of me for some reason) :( So n...
A. 4 February 2007: This ex obviously hurt you more than you thought. Feelings like this don't go away over night. If someone has really hurt it, that can stay with us forever. The trick is not to let it ruin every good thing that happens in the future. You need to ... (read in full...)
He doesnt seem interested anymore but I dont want to lose him!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a week and already having problems. I am 17 and he is 22 and i think the age gap is making him have second thoughts. His friends are the same age as him and all have younger partners. He just doesn't seem inte...
A. 4 February 2007: You've only been together for a week and you're already having problems: I think this is a clear indication that this relationship is going nowhere. I don't know whether it's because of the age, or maybe there's another reason, but if you don't feel ... (read in full...)
If somebody was raped are they still a virgin??
Q. If some one was raped and they never has had sex before would they still be a virgin. When you ask poeple that know what has happened then if you try to talk to them they just say what you want to hear so it dosen't upset you and not wat they think ...
A. 4 February 2007: If someone has been raped, they are obviously not physically still a virgin, as they have had sexual intercourse, despite the horrible circumstances. However, I like to think of virginity as more of an emotional state, not a physical state. You have ... (read in full...)
How do I orgasm during sex w/out touching myself? And how do I tell him I faked it??
Q. When ever i have sex i never climax.If i do it is because i touched myself but i never get one if i leave it up to my partner being inside of me. What's wrong with me? Is this normal? i want to be able to do this without touching myself but how do i ...
A. 2 February 2007: 70% of women cannot come solely by penetrative sex. I know it's rubbish but it's a fact, most of us have to help ourselves on a bit! There's nothing wrong with that though, guys should know it's not as easy for us as it is for them!
As for faki... (read in full...)
Can anyone convince me and tell me why councelling is beneficial?
Q. I'm clinically depressed and my doctor is suggesting I try having councelling (I'm on prozac but it's not helping). I'm pretty sceptical about it; talking to a complete stranger about my private life isn't my idea of fun, and I really don't see how ...
A. 24 January 2007: As was said above, it really depends on the person as to how successful it can be. I've had counselling before and she told me that you get out of it what you put in. If you work hard, open up and really be honest with your counsellor and yourself, ... (read in full...)
I find condoms desensitizing, and it kills my mood for sex--any advice?
Q. My girlfriend used to be on the pill, but currently is not. I am not sure how long she has been off it. Currently we use condoms, but I really hate them. Now we would be safe and get tested if she were to go back on the pill. When we talked about ...
A. 24 January 2007: Yes, coming on and off something like the Pill can be risky: you know how temperamental our hormones can be at the best of times! It's also advised to spend some time off the Pill and not be on it for years and years at a time. So condoms are ... (read in full...)
He's been put off sex which has caused me to be more clingy! Any advice?
Q. Hi, Im 17 and me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last nite. This morning we went to the clinic and got the morning after pill and i had no side effects or problems and im fine. Before my boyfriend ususally goes home in a different town - we...
A. 21 January 2007: It's normal to be a bit freaked out after something like this, whether you are a girl or a guy. The pair of you should have known better than to have unprotected sex in the first place but I guess you've learnt that lesson now!
I think maybe yo... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant or catch std from having unprotected anal sex?
Q. Can u gt pregnant or catch sti from havin unprotected anal sex? if u can which ones? are they treatable? Please help xxx...
A. 21 January 2007: Go to your doctor or a family planning clinic and get more advice if you need to. If this is too embarrassing, try the library or the net and find out for yourself. It's actually easier to catch aids through anal sex, due to the blood vessells in ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant or catch std from having unprotected anal sex?
Q. Can u gt pregnant or catch sti from havin unprotected anal sex? if u can which ones? are they treatable? Please help xxx...
A. 21 January 2007: As above, you cannot get pregnant from anal sex but you can get all the STD's and not all of them can be cured so be warned! Whatever you do with a guy, make him wear a condom! Your body is too precious not to. ... (read in full...)
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