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He's slept with 60-70 women in his past. Is he just another player or am I just being paranoid? help

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Question - (25 January 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 27 January 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

After a long period of avoiding men for fear of getting hurt I have recently started going out with this guy. Things are going amazingly well and he is everything I'd look for in a man. My friends say how much he clearly adores me and how good we are together.

However, he has told me that he has slept with around 60-70 women, he's only 22 and I feel this is a bit extensive.

When we got together he wanted to wait for us to sleep together, saying that rushing usually doesnt make the relationship last that long. Now I'm wondering is this because he was sleeping with someone else at the time or was he genuinely wanting to wait?

I'm also concerned that he is just another player and might get bored with me.

What do you think? Am I just paranoid or are my worries vaild? Should I talk to him about this? How would I ask?

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A female reader, MilanaNYC21 +, writes (27 January 2006):

MilanaNYC21 agony auntAs a female I would have a problem that he does not have much respect for the female body and intimacy. I suggest finding out the true reason why he felt the need to sleep around so much and really determining if he is a changed man. Also have him checked for STD's 60-70 DAMN!

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A female reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx United Kingdom +, writes (25 January 2006):

xxxsoulsistaxxx agony auntI can't really answer this but all I can say is 'trust your instincts'. Us women have a good sense when someone is being truthful and when they are lying. Look in his eyes when he says things to you, you'll know whether it's the truth.

You just have to take your time. Don't get too serious too fast and you can find out what kind of person he really is then make a decision about him. I know what you mean, it's hard not to judge people on their past conquests but everyone deserves a second chance. He may have never cheated on anyone, which makes it a bit better.

My boyfriend has slept with around 110 women (that he will admit, I bet it's more) and, at first, it was hard for me to accept that. But I have to, that's the past and, as long as he's faithful to me (he always has been in the past to all his girlfriends) I don't care.

Good luck and just be careful, people aren't always what they seem.

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