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Suspisions that i could be pregnant.

Q.   Last month i had suspisions that i was pregnant and then my period came three weeks late for only three days. now my period has not come this month and i dont know what to think. i have alot of symptoms but i had my period for three days last month ...

A.   18 June 2006: If you've had unprotected sex then a difference in your periods is a sign that you may be pregnant. If your periods are usually regular, then you should get a test as soon as possible. You may want to do this to put your mind at ease anyway. Other ... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend, but fancy her sister, what should I do about it ?

Q.   I fancy my girlfriend's sister but i still love my girlfriend what should i do about my feelings? ...

A.   15 June 2006: Absolutely nothing which involves her sister!!! I know you feel like going off with the sister is the right thing to do and it may feel like it is but trust me, it will only cause pain and upset for everyone involved. Mates and relatives of the o... (read in full...)

I have Post Abortion Syndrome, Im scared and dont know what to do!

Q.   i have PAS. i have just been told that i have PAS which is post-abortion-syndrome and i am so scared. it just seems to get worse and my mother doesnt know about the abortion so i cant go to her. emotionally, i feel like im falling apart... ...

A.   15 June 2006: It sounds like you really do need to talk to someone about what you're going through, this is too big to go through on your own. I'm sure the decision you made to get rid of the baby was the right one for you and for your future and, in time, you ... (read in full...)

My husband is a selfish pig but I don't want to be a lone parent!

Q.   I have been married for 3 years and I have just had our first child. Although it was not a planned pregnancy my husband and I always knew we wanted children so were both delighted when we found out. Shortly after the celebrations died down my ...

A.   13 June 2006: This man sounds truly awful and you deserve a medal for putting up with him for this long. However, you have to think of your daughter. You say you don't want her not to have a father but wouldn't you rather be a loine parent than let her have a dad ... (read in full...)

What is an orgy?

Q.   What exacty is an orgy?? Help, I feel so stupid for not knowing....

A.   12 June 2006: An orgy is where lot's of people have sex at the same time. This can be men and women and they all basically just do stuff to each other all at the same time, just sharing each others bits and pieces! Don't be shy for not knowing, it's more emb... (read in full...)

My fiance went out with friends, then home with his ex-girlfriend!

Q.   Hi I am due to get married in 4 weeks to the man of my dreams but I have found out that last week he went out with his friends and ended up going home with an ex g/f. I know this because his friends took a photo of them both and he was also seen ...

A.   12 June 2006: This is most certainly a sign of things to come. I understand that sometimes people panic before they get married that they will never have their 'freedom' again but this is just downright ridiculous. You're due to marry this man in 4 weeks and he ... (read in full...)

I have a BF he has a GF, but I cant get this lad out of my head, what should I do ?

Q.   I have a boyfriend who i love but i really fancy someone else! Im in my first serious relationship and im only 17 this is the person ive lost my virginity to n who i love so much, but iv got a job ive not bin at long n theres a lad there i real...

A.   12 June 2006: I absolutely know what you mean. I started my job just over a year ago and I had a boyfriend at the time. However, I met someone else and couldn't help flirting and stuff. We the started sneaking around together, he would take me out or we'd sneak ... (read in full...)

Is it love if there is no physical attraction?

Q.   Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone if you are not physically attracted to them, even after a few months of dating? We have great chemistry and get along quite well, always laughing and having fun, but the spark isn't there. ...

A.   12 June 2006: I've always believed that there must be some physical/sexual attraction between a couple. After all, you can have a laugh and get on great with your best mate; how is that different to your girlfriend if you don't fancy her? I know that not ever... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is being difficult!

Q.   I'm going through hell with my b.f of 1 yr! Saturday, I found him chatting with his ex (whom he dumped miserably while she was pregnant... for me. She had an abortion). Everything was fine till Friday. And on Saturday I had the feeling somethin...

A.   12 June 2006: It certainly sounds like this guy is messing you around. No one should be able to tell you who to speak to, especially when he goes behind your back and speaks to other girls. This guy sounds like more trouble than he's worth, get shot of him and ... (read in full...)

We had a chat about our feelings, now she needs space ? Is this now over for us ?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for the past 5 years. We lived apart for the first 1, together for 3 and have been long distance for the last one. We are (or were) supposed to move to Boston in a weeks, but last week we got on the ...

A.   12 June 2006: You definitely need to give her some space. Once she's had time to think, you'll know the decision she makes is the right one for her and you'll know she really means it. If you don't leave her alone and you end up pressuring her into a decision she ... (read in full...)

Im not as attractive as all my friends or as clever, how can I become more like them for acceptance ?

Q.   My friends are amazing fun, and I love them all to pieces. However they always look better than me, wear better clothes, have nicer hair, and generally have a better appearance than I do. Also I'm really dense and say stupid things because I don't ...

A.   12 June 2006: I'm sure you're a lovely person and they wouldn't be friends with you if you weren't. Friendships aren't fashion shows or intelligence competitions, it's just a group of people from all backgrounds, not matter how you look, how clever you are etc, ... (read in full...)

How do you get over having an abortion??

Q.   How do you get over an abortion when the reason for it was a medical complication and you actually really wanted the baby??...

A.   9 June 2006: Well, you don't really give much information about what the medical complication was but I'm assuming that is was something that was going to harm either you are the baby if the pregnancy went ahead? I have no idea what you must be going through,... (read in full...)

Friends-with-benefits. Will he be put off if I ring him for a booty call?

Q.   Truthfully, when in a friends-with-benefits relationship, do guys prefer to still be the one to call the girl for a booty call? I figure, since we're both using each other, technically it's OK if I call or text sometimes, since it's not about like ...

A.   8 June 2006: Go for it girl!!! You're not there to pleasure him all the time, this arrangement, as strange as it may be to some people, is about both of you being sexually satisfied. If you want it, you get it, honey, don't be waiting around for him!... (read in full...)

My girlfriend thinks sexual acts are disgusting....what can I do?

Q.   Well, I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months already. Everything is going good. We are both, just graduated from high school. She likes me a lot, and I like her a lot. The thing is, that she thinks oral sex, sex, or even sexual ...

A.   7 June 2006: I understand you being annoyed by all this, as you say, we all have out urges. However, if you love this girl and she is the one you want to spend your life with, you will wait until she is ready, whenever they happens to be. She obviousl... (read in full...)

Questions of a 21 year old virgin...

Q.   i am 21 and still a virgin and i think it is because i dont know about sex. So i have some questions. What is anal sex? What are different positions? What is oral sex? What is role playing? Thanks for the help. ...

A.   7 June 2006: Firstly, I'd like to say there's no rush to lose your virginity. Everyone is different and I promise that the longer you wait, the better it will be, as you're more likely to have found the perfect person. Here' some answers to your question... (read in full...)

Questions of a 21 year old virgin...

Q.   i am 21 and still a virgin and i think it is because i dont know about sex. So i have some questions. What is anal sex? What are different positions? What is oral sex? What is role playing? Thanks for the help. ...

A.   7 June 2006: Firstly, I'd like to say there's no rush to lose your virginity. Everyone is different and I promise that the longer you wait, the better it will be, as you're more likely to have found the perfect person. Here' some answers to your question... (read in full...)

9 years together but not serious, is he seeing somone else?

Q.   My partner and I have been together for 9 years. I keep asking when are we going to make it serious. He gives me excuses. It has made me constantly accuse him of being with someone else, to the point of him telling me to leave him alone. Please ...

A.   7 June 2006: I think you need to get some commitment out of this man or walk away. It seems you've spend a lot of your life on him and if he can't even tell you it's serious after all that time, something's defintiely going on with him. I think you need to ... (read in full...)

Revenge the best medicine?

Q.   I got dumped, and now I want revenge, problem is he is in another part of town and I cant go and flaunt my stuff, I want him to hurt real bad and I want him to feel guilty for hurting me. I wish he could come back and say he wants me so I can play ...

A.   7 June 2006: I'd say don't bother with all that. It doesn't show you're over him and that he's lost out, quite the opposite in fact. It shows him you're immature and definitely not over him . . . so in effect, you're feeding his ego still!!! The best thing to... (read in full...)

My sisters half my age and pregnant

Q.   hi i am lou age 26 and my little sister age 13 is very out going and she is settled with her boyfriend as she says. the other day i was looking after her while her mum was out and i went in her room to ask her what she wanted for her tea and she was ...

A.   4 June 2006: I think you need to talk to your sister first. Maybe there's a reason she hasn't told your mum yet or maybe she's still thinking about what to say to her. Either way, a 13 year old needs help in a situation like this and big sisters are perfect to ... (read in full...)

He cheats but I'm thinking... he just needs female attention.

Q.   i helped my boyfriend set up an online account for profile page where messages can be sent. i was on a business trip before and he ended up cheating on my a little over a year ago (not related to the site). i'm again on a trip and i just happened to ...

A.   4 June 2006: I understand you may love this man but I think you're being too nice about this, and very naive. No one knows the reason men, or anyone cheats, but whatever that reason is, it's inexcusable. No one with respect and love for their partner could do ... (read in full...)

I 'm scared to let him see me naked..I need more confidence Help!

Q.   im sammy aged 14 going on 15 and me and y boyfriend not yet sexually active but we go do sexy things. have given him a hand job and we have done things with clothes on but i darednt go all the way because i dont want him to see me naked. i am not ...

A.   4 June 2006: Well I must start with what everyone who reads this will be thinking . . . you are very young to be worrying about all this kinda stuff. You've got your whole life to do all that so chill out and wait a while, I promise it will be worth the wait. ... (read in full...)

He won't act like a boyfriend!

Q.   Hi I'm only 12 and my boyfriend won't really act like a boyfriend and we've been dating for over a year. What do I do?...

A.   4 June 2006: This guy sounds too immature to have a girlfriend right now. He's obviously not proud to say you're his girlfriend or anything, he just wants the best of both worlds, i.e. a girlfriend when it suits him and being able to go off with his mates when ... (read in full...)

Finally told my BF I love him... and he just ignored it!

Q.   Hi - My boyfriend and I have been dating for at least a year and I sent him a note telling him that finally I love him. He ignored me for 2 days. I sent him another note about it and he ignored me again for 2 days. I don't really care if he loves...

A.   4 June 2006: Absolutely!!! That was really crappy of him. You open your heart to him like that and he just ignores you! That's terrible and you need to confront him. You've been together a year, it's not as if you're moving too fast and scaring him, is it? He ... (read in full...)

Why do I love him more when he's away than when he's with me?

Q.   When I'm around my bf I don't really like him "that" much anymore. But when I'm not around him I think about him constantly and miss him a lot.. What's the deal?...

A.   4 June 2006: You know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. I think, when people are not around, we think about the good things about them and tell ourselves we are happy and like being with them. However, when they're around, it's another story. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has herpes and I am worried!

Q.   Hi, I'm sorry if this is going to be long, but I really need advice. My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with herpes and I am having a hard time dealing with it. When he heard the news he said he was surprised by his own reaction when he didn't cry ...

A.   3 June 2006: I was in your position when I met my current boyfriend. He told me straight away he had herpes and I freaked out completely. I thought that nothing would ever happen between us because of this, as I would never be able to touch him sexually. Howev... (read in full...)

Cant seem to move on after my gay ex lover, What should I do??

Q.   I need some help. I have just split from my gay ex (21) after five months and I miss him dearly. He recently said he would think about us but goes cold whenever I ask if he made up his mind. Anyway, I recently went out on a date but I am finding ...

A.   25 April 2006: Of course this pain is normal, when you lose someone you love, it's the worst feeling in the world. But all I can say is that time is the greatest healer. Stay away from other people for a while, you know they won't make you happy until you're over ... (read in full...)

New man won't commit, What can I do??

Q.   Hi, I started my uni course last September while I was going out with my now ex boyfriend. I met a boy on mycourse who I got on really well with and really fancied (despite knowing he had had slept with quite a few grils from uni). Anyway...

A.   25 April 2006: I think if you want commitment and he won't give it to you, you need to move on. Guys like this want the best of both worlds, they like the single life when it suits them but they also like a 'back-up' plan when they're bored. I don't mean this to ... (read in full...)

I don't want to regret not doing something, what should I do?

Q.   Ok,i have been in a relationship for the last 4 years. When i met my partner i thought he was the one and couldnt ever imagen being with anyone else (bare in mind i was only 17 at this point)anyway over our time together we have had ups and downs ...

A.   25 April 2006: I think you are too dependent on him after all this time. It often happens when you get with someone so young, you just don't know what life will be like without them and you don't realise what is out there for you. You say a weight was lifted o... (read in full...)

We "act" like we're a couple, but he says he's not ready....

Q.   Should I wait? I have been dating this guy for 5 months. He is 41, I am 31. He was married for 10 years, divorced four years ago, which was a big big blow to him. He has two kids from his marriage. Since then he has had one serious relationship. ...

A.   25 April 2006: I suppose the only answer to this is 'do you think he will change and be the man you want him to be?' If the answer is no, you know the answer to your question. It must be so hard, loving someone but wanting different things. He sounds like he'... (read in full...)

How can I get over this shyness that I have with guys?

Q.   I feel like such an idiot. When im out clubbing at night im always the one thats strutting my stuff on the dance floor and getting chatted up by all the hot guys BUT underneath all that i'm secretly shy (just really with guys i fancy) and it gives ...

A.   25 April 2006: Men like girls who are themselves. If you're a shy person, that's fine, a lot of men get turned on by this!!! They don't all like 'in your face' girls who come up to them and make all the moves. If you want to be a bit more confident to come acr... (read in full...)

Advice On Being Outgoing

Q.   Whats wrong with me? Im 16 and only this last year did I really start thinking about girls and it pains me so much to be alone. Im so jealous of the other guys that have a choice of what girl to date, especially when those guys are jerks. I know im ...

A.   21 April 2006: It's situations like this that bug me about my time at school. The complete idiots get all the girls and the nice guys, who aren't really as popular get none! But here's something you should know; the girls that are interested in jerks like them are ... (read in full...)

Is it true love or an obsession?

Q.   I have known a guy since i was 14 and now I'm 26. I have been egaged and have had children, but I could not be happy in that relationship. now i am in another relationship of two years, a pretty good guy, but was again am unhappy. I always think of ...

A.   19 April 2006: My answer to that question is no, I don't think you can get over that someone and your words really moved me. Very few people will ever get to love someone the way you obviously love this man and I advise you to do all you can to be happy. Don't be ... (read in full...)

How can I be happy with my life??

Q.   Today I just feel really depressed, i've been angry with my sister and mum. I think its because I feel like I don't have any close friends, I don't have a strong social network, someone who I can talk to when life seems to be against me. I'm us...

A.   19 April 2006: I am in your position at the moment too; stressed with exams and revision, boyfriend doing my head in, work all the time etc. The thing with us women is that our hormones play a big part in our mood everyday, and when we're on our period or ... (read in full...)

Sweet 20 and never been kissed...

Q.   Hello everybody, this is kind of simple but I am almost 20 years old and I am going on a date this weekend. I have been on dates before, but believe it or not I have never really kissed a guy. I mean a peck, yes, but I KNOW that I am going to make ...

A.   19 April 2006: In experience, no matter how nervous we are, if sexual stuff happens in the right circumstances, our body will just know what to do, even if we've never done it before. Ok, you'll be a bit anxious, but trust me, it will be fine. Try to relax, as ... (read in full...)

What do you think of girls who sleep with lots of men?

Q.   i am extremly horny and sleep with plenty of men does this make me a whore...

A.   19 April 2006: I am all for women being able to satisfy their sexual appetite just as much as men and I don't think we should be labelled 'whores' for doing something which men get labelled 'sex gods' for. As long as you're careful in what you're doing, and you're ... (read in full...)

Need suggestions for motivating myself and using my time more efficiently!

Q.   hey guys, I'm a medical student and finding it really hard to get motivated. Does anyone have any ideas in motivation? I find myself working for 12 hours but really getting 3 hours' worth of work done. As a result I have no time to do anything...

A.   13 April 2006: I sometimes have your problems; I'm a law student and do find motivating myself hard sometimes. I always have a timetable when I'm revising and a diary the rest of the time so I don't forget to do anything. I always try to stick to them and don't ... (read in full...)

Love my boyfriend, but he's got to get some fashion sense!

Q.   Hey... I have a boyfriend... and I luv him loads and loads. I know this sounds real harsh but his fashion sense is a bit bad. His clothes are kind of OK but his trousers are too short and he wears this manky jacket. It's a bit embarrassing and a st...

A.   13 April 2006: I can see why this would bother you, but don't feel bad, most guys need a bit of help from time to time when it comes to looking good. I think you need to go shopping together and just pick things up that are fashionable and that will suit him. That ... (read in full...)

He says they're splitting up, then why does he still have his ring on?

Q.   About 6 months ago a work colleague of mine, who I have fancied for 2 yrs, told me he and his wife had split up. We met up weekly, and until the beginning of Feb nothing much happened apart from the odd kiss.. One night I got drunk, was sick all ...

A.   3 April 2006: Well I think only you can find out the answer to this question. You need to ask him straight is he leaving her or not. You're not going to be taken for a ride and you want answers and I think he's the only one who has them. If he's still wearing ... (read in full...)

I just hope that he doesn't go back to his ex for his kids, what do you think?

Q.   Hi all, I have been with this guy for 2 years now, everything is great, I love him, he loves me, very caring and sweet and I know that if anything he is the only who truly loved me. The only problem is he has already 2 children from a previous ...

A.   3 April 2006: He obviously loves you very much and you love him too. It takes a lot for someone to accept someone else's children and get on with it. I admire you for that. As for him going back, I don't think that will happen. It must be hard for him to leave... (read in full...)

I've got a high sex drive, but he hasn't - and I'm not sure his "penny fits the slot" either

Q.   I just dont know what to do, ive been seeing my boyfriend for just over a year, hes the nicest guy ive ever met, and my family and friends love him! i have a high sex drive and he really doesent, and hes not really large where it counts so i find m...

A.   3 April 2006: Me and my boyfriend are the same; he's older and has next to no sex drive, I'm only 19 and have a very high one. It often gets me very frustrated too but I have never strayed. Sex is an important part of a relationship, of course, but the whol... (read in full...)

Together a week and 17 and pregnant already, what to do!?

Q.   My girlfreind today had a pregnancy test. She is positive. What am i to do? We have established that we have to make a decision as a couple and not as individuals because i was asking her what she wants? Shes 17 and we've only been going out f...

A.   3 April 2006: If you've only been together week and have only been sleeping together for a week, I would seriously look at the possibility that the baby is not yours. When the egg is fertilised, it can take days for it to embed in the wall of the womb and show up ... (read in full...)

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