It's just easier to appeal to guys' sexual interest!
Q. Hey. I have never had trouble getting a boyfriend and have always had lots of attention from guys. Lately though, I feel like I have been getting it on with any guy I meet. I don't want to be labelled 'easy' and I never mean anything by making out ...
A. 16 August 2005: Letting a guy get what he wants too soon makes them lose interest in you and move on to someone else. Don't let this happen, keep him in suspense for a while until he deserves to touch you! Trust me, the longer you wait, the better it is and you'll ... (read in full...)
I'm shy and I'd like to learn to be more outgoing...
Q. I find it very hard to make conversation with guys. I talk to them, just not that long. People like to kid around with me because I'm so shy, but I don't want to be shy. How can I break the habit? ...
A. 1 August 2005: Everyone has their own personality and you need to learn to use it to your advantage. Not all guys like the same kind of outgoing, loud girls, some like the mysterious, quiet type.
People shouldn't make fun of you because you are shy. It sounds t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend enjoys it when I want to do something sexual, but she doesn't respond in kind!
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and our love for each other is as strong as ever. But when it comes to sexual actions she seems hesitant. She lets me do things to her and she enjoys it, but then she doesn't do anything ...
A. 1 August 2005: Girls often take a lot longer to settle into a relationship before they feel confident and comfortable enough to enjoy sexual activity. We're not like you guys! It seems to me you really care about her so give her the time she wants and she should ... (read in full...)
I can't believe that my ex would say awful things about me behind my back...
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and I have a really big problem. A year ago I met this really amazing guy *James. We started going out with in a few days of meeting each other. We fell in love with each other and he worked so hard to make me see that he ...
A. 1 August 2005: As much as I am proud to be one and hate to admit it, girls can be terrible bitches! She's probably just jealous of the relationship you had and still have with him and wants to cause problems. Don't let her! Speak to him and ask him about what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to try oral sex, but I can't get past my revulsion...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and only in the last week or so, he's voiced his desire to attempt oral sex. The act has no appeal to me whatsoever and I am highly reluctant to attempt it. He says that whatever I decide w...
A. 1 August 2005: I think most girls have been there, worried about what it will be like and whether they will like it etc. He is right, some girls do grow to enjoy giving oral sex but truthfully, most of us simply do it to please our other halves! Relationships are ... (read in full...)
He's made his decision to leave our relationship, but I can't stop the stress I'm feeling!
Q. I thought my relationship was a great one until while my boyfriend was working on a ship found a Hungarian woman to be unfaithful with. Thing is he has made his decision to leave me for her but I can't seem to let go of my love for him. THe day ...
A. 27 July 2005: I understand your pain, letting go of someone we love so much is always going to be hard. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you but this is his decision and it's something you must come to terms with or your life will not get any better.
It's ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend avoiding touching me?
Q. Help! My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. Recently he doesn't seem to want to touch me or anything. I haven't done anything but he still behaves this way. Why?...
A. 27 July 2005: Men are so strange sometimes! One minute they're all over you and the next . . . nothing! If he has been very affectionate up until now, it would seem there is something to worry about, though.
I started to act this was towards my boyfriend when... (read in full...)
What signs will tell me if my girlfriend is cheating?
Q. Please help..I feel my g/friend maybe cheating..What are the signs to look for? - serious answers from ladies and girls most appreciated..Thank you.....
A. 21 July 2005: This is very hard, as sometimes, you could swear they're cheating but it ends up being nothing but your own paranoia! Be careful and find out more information before you go asking. Some people will tell you 'talk to her' 'ask her' but this is not ... (read in full...)
This will be my first time having sex and I'm worried I won't know what to do!
Q. It's my first time having sex and I don't really know what to do. If I'm having sex in the missionary position do I just lie still or should I move with the bloke? It seems a silly question but I'm nervous I won't know what to do....
A. 21 July 2005: Everyone gets nervous before having sex, whether it's your first time ever or even a first time with someone new! It just has to feel right and you need a bit of confidence. Provided you are in a happy and comfortable relationship with the guy and ... (read in full...)
Ready to move on to oral sex, but what if we want to kiss afterwards?
Q. Hi...i am almost 16 and my boyfriend is 17. We have been together for almost a year now and both very happy. We got off to a very slow start because we go to different schools and didn't see each other much. We are both very happy together and now ...
A. 21 July 2005: You have to do whatever makes you happy. Some people like to freshen up after giving oral sex and some don't mind! If you feel better brushing your teeth or getting drink, do it. See how he feels, he may not mind kissing you straight after you have ... (read in full...)
He starts asking me awkward questions when we're kissing!
Q. Ok. Here's the thing. Basically when my boyfriend and I are doing some heavy petting he starts to say/ask some things. I don't they are like normal things like "Do you like that?" and "Are you wet?" but to me they just seem kind of corny. I usua...
A. 21 July 2005: Everyone likes different things in the bedroom area and you just have to have an open relationsip with each other. Tell one another what you like, what you don't like and any new things you may want to try.
Before you tell him this, just give it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is jealous and clingy and she won't let me go anywhere without her...
Q. My girlfriend is so clingy I can't do anything without her, and when I say I want to go out she cries. So I stay in cos I feel bad. She is also very very very jelous and even deletes my mates' (that are girls) mobile numbers. What do I do?...
A. 21 July 2005: It seems to me your girlfriend is feeling a bit insecure at the moment and needs some TLC. Show her you only want her and no other girls matter. It will take time, as getting over insecurity is very hard.
However, even though you have to make her... (read in full...)
He's 23 and I'm 16, but I think my parents would approve. How do I get to know him?
Q. I am 16 years old and I have a crush on a 23 year old guy. I know my parents would agree with the relationship. He plays for my local football team and I talk to him after every game but I don't know whether I should tell him that I like him or how ...
A. 21 July 2005: Firstly, I want to say be careful. You don't really know him yet so takes things slow, as older guys often want more than younger girls are ready to give, if you know what I mean.
If you want to get to know him, go for it! You'll never know if you ... (read in full...)
Recently, my bf has talked about getting engaged, but I have a bad experience with that...
Q. hi, How I really need someone's help. I'm in a relationship and have been for some time now. Recently my b/f has mentioned getting engaged. I really want to but I'm scared I was engaged about 2 yrs ago and then my b/f turned violent. I'm scared i...
A. 21 July 2005: I know it's hard to forget how someone treated you, especially when this was bad. But making your partner suffer because of something an ex or someone in your past did is not fair on either of you.
If you have doubts about getting engaged, then... (read in full...)
How and when should I reveal my past pregnancies to my boyfriend?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for the past year and he is soon to be moving in. I know in the future that he wants children which I am in agreement with, although I don't generally have maternal feelings. However I have had 2 ...
A. 21 July 2005: Whatever has happened in the past, he must learn to accept. If he loves you, he will do this. It all happened before he met you so he can't hold this against you and the longer you leave things like this, the harder they are to come clean about in ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but my boyfriend still wants to sleep with me "to say goodbye"...
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and spent 3 years together...went through a miscarriage and lived together for a year. He worked overseas and after I lied to him about someone breaking into his car...he sought solace in a girl he met in his work place. Since ...
A. 20 July 2005: I always think it's sad when lads say 'let's just be friends . . . but we can still have sex!' I always interpret this as them wanting the best of both worlds: the single life when it suits them and someone to have sex with when they've got nothing ... (read in full...)
I just want to lose my virginity, like all my friends have, but I'm still scared...
Q. I am 17 years old and am still a virgin. I have told my friends I have had sex before when really I have not. I now really want to lose it as all my friends have. I guess I'm just too scared of the pain and the fact that I may bleed. Can you give me ...
A. 18 July 2005: I think it's sad you had to lie to your friends about your virginity, as it's nothing to be ashamed about. You're only 17, there's plenty of time! I know it can sometimes seem like everyone but you has done 'it' but it's not true. In surveys on ... (read in full...)
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