I'm only 15, but it seems like I'm getting a reputation already!
Q. Hi I am only 15 years old, and I am worried about my reputation already! I lost my virginity in Feb of this year (I was 15) while in a relationship, but 2 weeks after we had sex, my boyfriend finished with me. Then in May I went on holiday,...
A. 28 September 2005: I went through this phase when I was your age but I don't believe it's because you like sex so much. I know now that I was looking for attention, affection and acceptance from men and I ended up getting used for sex and called names.
Now, ... (read in full...)
How could I be so stupid? I had sex with an older guy, because I really thought he liked me!
Q. I feel so stupid. I met this guy as soon as our eyes met we flirted. He got my number and we started texting each other. He called me 'gorgeous' and said he wanted me. A week later, I followed him home. Once inside we started snogging and things got ...
A. 28 September 2005: Don't worry about it, we all make these mistakes. People can be so cruel and use us but you just have to use them as a lesson learnt, a mistake not to be made again.
It's sad because it's idiots like him that make us lose all our faith in men a... (read in full...)
Nothing's right with my boyfriend and I want to split, but we've been together so long!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year and I don't think I could leave him although I feel like leaving him. I have never been totally happy with my boyfriend. There's something about the relationship and it doesn't feel right. I love him but probably...
A. 28 September 2005: We all feel like this when it comes to change. Nobody likes it, but that's what life is about. You know what they say 'a rolling stone gathers no moss'. You've been with him for so long that the thought of being apart hurts you, even though you ... (read in full...)
Mum doesn't know I'm engaged. How do I break it to her?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a bit of a pickle. I been seeing this really nice guy for nine months and we are now engaged. The problem is I'm 17 and he's 23. We really love each and he never disrespects me in any way. He even agreed to wait til our hon...
A. 28 September 2005: I understand you're worried about telling her this but don't you think this gives you a bit of an idea about how you feel deep down? If you were 100% confident that you were doing the right thing, would you be this worried? Wouldn't you just be ... (read in full...)
Even little things my girlfriend does and says are starting to annoy me!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend now for 1 and 1/2 years. I feel really close to her but lately the relationship has not been great. Phone calls are often long and boring, so we decided to stop phoning each other as often. The problem is when ...
A. 28 September 2005: It sounds to me like you are just bored with the whole relationship and that's what being young is all about. (I know I don't know your age, I just get the impression you are young-ish!) If you are not happy with this, don't hang on to something ... (read in full...)
Help me decide if my relationship is worth saving...
Q. Should I stay with him if...? We were together for 3 yrs and broke up, then got back together for 6 months and I'm ready to call it quits again. To my 3 calls he has one. Sometimes doesn't call for 2 or more days at a time. Is never around when I...
A. 28 September 2005: I don't even have to read the reasons you have given for thinking about ending your relationship with this man, the fact that you have written this tells me everything I need to know. A relationship is a very special thing and our instincts are ... (read in full...)
My partner can be terribly bad-tempered, but every time I leave he coaxes me back to him.
Q. The man that I have been in a sexual relationship for 2 years is confusing me. He is bad tempered and can be really nasty to me telling me that it's over and doesn't seem bothered at my distress... However I have stayed away and he always comes ru...
A. 28 September 2005: This sounds like a very dangerous relationship to be in for anyone and I would advise you to get out now. It sounds like he isn't a very nice person and likes to have control over you. People who love and care about you do not act this way, they ... (read in full...)
The breaking-up with me was bad enough... but the sick lie made it worse!
Q. G'day Several months ago my then girlfriend told me her younger brother was dying from recently diagnosed terminal brain cancer. Over the next four weeks i was unable to see her as he was being treated, but spoke to her and her family weekly on...
A. 21 September 2005: It sounds to me like this lot are sick and are not worth another second of your time. Forget about her and her strange family and move on, get yourself and decent girlfriend who's honest and caring and who will treat you with respect. Good luck :)
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I'm confused about the way my father shows his "affection" to me...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am confused about the behaviour of my father towards me and our relationship. He likes to have so much intamicy with me, though I am a boy, that I feel uncomfortable and strangled in his emotional confinement. Also as I remember ab...
A. 21 September 2005: This behvaiour may or may not have been completely innocent but if you were unhappy with it, and he knew that, he should not have continued. Nobody, no matter who they are, has the right to do something to us that makes us feel uncomfortable or ... (read in full...)
He says he needs space. OK, but how much space?
Q. My boyfriend told me he doesn't want to break up but needs some space. How long should I wait before I call him? Or see him? I want to respect him and give him time to work out his issues, but not give him permission to leaving me totally hanging ...
A. 21 September 2005: I understand this is confusing the frustrating for you but if he hasn't said how long he needs, nobody really knows. Don't let him have the upper hand. Don't be waiting on his calls and hoping he'll be in touch, just get on with your life. If he ... (read in full...)
She thought I was getting stalker-ish, but I just wanted to talk to her...
Q. I was trying to talk this girl at school, but in a week of me trying to talk to her, it turned into her thinking I was following her too much. I wrote her a note saying I was sorry and she said that it was okay, but to just not follow her. What ...
A. 21 September 2005: There's a happy medium in situations like this. You see, us girls, we're very picky when it comes to how much attention we want from a guy. Too little, we think you're not interested and too much and we get scared off.
Give it a little while, a... (read in full...)
We're friends with benefits, but I'm ready for more than that. Should I tell him?
Q. Confused about my relationship with someone who is an friend and lover. I have been friends with this guy that started out as no strings attached. We are great friends now. I have grown to love him. I never told him that. I love him so much that...
A. 21 September 2005: This is obviously getting to you as you've found yourself feeling more for him than you originally thought you would. That's us girls for ya, always jumping in the deep end! Why can't it just be as simple for us as it is for guys? Where sex is just ... (read in full...)
I don't want an Open Relationship any more, because I can't bear to think of him with other girls...
Q. My boyfriend recently just went off to college. We decided to have an "open relationship" while he was away, but to get back together whenever he returned home. I realize now that it's too hard for me to know he's getting with other girls and not be ...
A. 18 September 2005: I think you need to tell him that it's all or nothing. You care about him too much and it's not fair on you to use you when he comes home. He's got the best of both worlds with that! He can be a player while he's away then come home and have a ... (read in full...)
My family and friends might not accept my girl's child. Do I risk it by dating her?
Q. I have been friends with a girl on and off for years. We would both like to take the relationship further. The problem is that she has a child from a previous relationship, who just happens to be of a different race/skin color. This doesn't ...
A. 15 September 2005: Follow your heart. Don't let chances of a lifetime with someone you care about go to waste, you may not get another. We have to cherish them as we don't know how many amazing people will come into our lives, it may only be one or two.
You family w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is beautiful, but she doesn't believe me when I tell her that!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year and a half. We live together in a beautiful apartment, I have a great job, I don't hit her or mess with her head in any way. I always tell her how beautiful I think she is. She doesn't ...
A. 15 September 2005: This poor girl has obviously had every piece of self esteem taken away from her by this loser and it's hard get that back when it's gone. All you can do it be a good boyfriend, which you sound like you are, carry on telling her she's amazing and ... (read in full...)
I fall in love with everyone! Do I just need a boyfriend?
Q. Im only thirteen, and I keep falling in love with everyone! I get really attracted to people. My mum says because I really need a boyfriend and that I'm lonely. Is she right? ...
A. 15 September 2005: You most certainly do not need a boyfriend under any circumstances! Where's your girl power?! We don't need them to survive, why do you think some of them treat us so bad sometimes? They think we need them! NOT TRUE!
Get out there with your mat... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend checks out women with big boobs, my heart sinks
Q. I am a small busted woman. I have always wanted bigger ones. My BF's exwife is petite w/ Big Boobs. His 15 yr old daughter has big boobs. When we have sex, foreplay to him is sucking my boobs and he gets aroused by that. That is what turns him on ...
A. 15 September 2005: Problems like this with ourselves cannot be solved by changes our bodies physically, our mental attitude and perception of ourselves must change. I'm sure having the implants would make you feel good for a while but, like any superficial change we ... (read in full...)
Our age gap doesn't bother me, but it bothers him!
Q. My partner and I have been together for five years. I'm 28 and he's 52. For me the age gap is nothing, it's my feelings for him that matter. But the age gap affects my partner. My friend says he'll be drawing his pension in 13 years and I'll...
A. 7 September 2005: This is the problem with big age gaps. People always say 'age is just a number' blah blah blah but it's more than that. It's our identity, how we're brought up, our values, morals etc. A large age gap can cause so many problems, as you're at ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend go from nice one minute to explosively aggressive the next?
Q. I really dont know what to do. I've been with my fiancee for two years now and I'm starting to have doubts about our relationship. When I'm around her it's like I'm walking on eggshells. One minute she can be nice and the next minute she can expl...
A. 7 September 2005: She sounds like she has some very serious problems and my advice is to get her to see a counsellor of some kind or get out of there. Things like this only get worse over time.
She sounds like she's had some problems in the past, either in her c... (read in full...)
Vaginal wind problems?
Q. What happens to cause a vaginal wind (fanny fart) and what can you do to prevent this happening?...
A. 7 September 2005: I know this can be very embaressing but most of the time you simply can't prevent it! Like the others say, just laugh at it, don't let it get you down. The bigger deal you make of it, the worse you'll feel and it'll become a real problem.
I fin... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has stopped sending me affectionate texts...
Q. I have this girlfriend for less than a year. Intially we were very loving towards each other. Every morning we will wake each other up, call and check how each other is doing, as and when, message each other with those sweet heartening words. T...
A. 7 September 2005: It maybe that the relationship has gone a bit stale and you need to get some of the affection back. Take her out on a romantic night out and have a good chat about you two and the relationship. You need to find out if there's anything wrong with ... (read in full...)
A jealous friend is spreading terrible rumours and now everyone hates me!
Q. I have had a girlfriend for about 3 months now and everything is perfect! Communication, affection, whatever you can name is perfect. There is just one problem that isn't either of our faults, and that is her friend. Her friend got very jealous and ...
A. 7 September 2005: It sounds to me like these girls are all just jealous of you two and how happy you are in the relationship. Don't let them ruin something that sounds really good so just ignore them! You and your girlfriend have fun, spend time together and forget ... (read in full...)
How do I persuade my family to give my boyfriend another chance?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who got me pregnant but promised me to acknowledge the baby when it came, but suddenly he changed his mind. My father was mad and decided to keep the baby and me away from him. Now he regrets his choice and asked for ...
A. 7 September 2005: This is a tricky one. They're only looking out for your best interests and the babies, of course. They just think that someone who can change their mind so many times over something so important is not someone you or your baby need in your life. He ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is in trouble, but I want to fix it. Can it be saved?
Q. My relationship with my girlfriend is going bad to the point we will most likely break up. I want to fix it, but she does not seem like she wants to. Can it still be fixed?...
A. 7 September 2005: It's sad when a relationship comes to an end but it does need both of you to want it be continue for it to be fixed. If she is not willing, there is no point in you trying to save it. You need to speak to her and see how she really feels, as you say ... (read in full...)
How can I be sure that this relationship will make it in the long term?
Q. Hi, I have been living with my partner N for three years. He is 24, I am 25. We both love each other very much, but since the beginning of our relationship I have been getting bouts of doubt about our future together. It happens every couple of ...
A. 6 September 2005: You know what they say; opposites attract. We can't help who we fall in love with and, sometimes, they want the total opposite of what we want. No matter how much we tell ourselves they're not for us, we just can't help it. A love that can get ... (read in full...)
It's wearing my boyfriend out, dividing his time between me and his son!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He is very nice and says he loves me. I also love him. The problem him being 58 and has a 16 year old son. I am 50 with no children and dependents at home. He says he did not think that he would...
A. 6 September 2005: He sounds like a great guy who just wants to make everyone happy. I think you should stick around because he could make you very happy. He sounds like he's trying really hard to please everyone and people like that are hard to come by.
His s... (read in full...)
I' lost interest in sex with my wife after the baby was born...
Q. After my wife had a baby, I don't want to have sex with her. I don't know why....
A. 6 September 2005: Many things change when a baby come along and with all that joy, they can bring their fair share of problems! There are a few reasons why you may be feeling differently about your wife sexually. Maybe her appearance has changed a lot throughout the ... (read in full...)
There are 10 years between us. It feels like too big a gap!
Q. I'm 15 years old and have been involved with a guy, we'll call him Joey, who just turned 25 for the past few months. To me, 10 years is a huge difference and really strange. With any other guy of his age I'd have nothing to do with him. But this...
A. 6 September 2005: 10 years is quite a substantial age gap when one of you is 15 and the other is 25. However, in a few years, 25 and 35 isn't too bad is it? But you must ask yourself the question 'why is he interested in someone so young, as opposed to someone his ... (read in full...)
I think sex is disgusting. Can I still find a proper relationship?
Q. Hi I'm 16. I think that sex is disgusting and I'm not to keen on kissing either. Am I the only one and is there any chance of me finding a proper relationship? help and thanks...
A. 6 September 2005: We all become ready for sex at different times in our lives and it's just not right for you at the moment. You're only 16 so there's no rush! Meeting the right person will help, it may seem less disgusting once you've met someone who treats you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me our "honeymoon period" was over, but I still want to see her!
Q. I was attached with this girl of mine. We have been seeing each other every day, doing the same thing like fetching her from work, having dinner together, spending weekend over at her place. This continued for 2 months until over one of the weekend, ...
A. 5 September 2005: I think you need to give her some space. You know what they say; absence makes the heart grow fonder. If she really does care for you, she'll realise what she's missing and come back. We all have busy lives and sometimes it's just not possible to ... (read in full...)
Has my interest in romantic movies ruined my chances of a happy relationship!?
Q. Dear Cupid, There is this weird thought that makes me constantly question the relationship between a guy and a girl. I am an adult guy who has had a few flings but that's all. I never sustained a relationship with a girl for the fear of getting ...
A. 5 September 2005: You sound like a lovely guy but I'm afraid to say that, yes, it does sound like your expectations are too high. Don't get me wrong, I know there are girls out there that would love to be swept off their feet and act out romantic films for a while, ... (read in full...)
He loves me so much that he's angry and jealous about other guys all the time...
Q. Hello, I am after desperate help to save my relationship with my partner. I am 22 years and he is 40 years. We are soul mates! We have been through so much more grief than anyone should have to go through however it has meant that we have become so ...
A. 5 September 2005: People with deep-set insecurities like this can cause harm to others and their own relationships. It's really sad to hear that it's causing so many problems for you two, you sound like you really are made for each other.
It's hard to understa... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my family to accept my relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, My relationship is cool, except that my family doesn't approve of it. What should I do?...
A. 5 September 2005: It's so annoying when this happens! The people you care about most in the world can't get on with the person you choose to date! This depends on how you feel about the guy. I know it's hard to go against what your family say but sometimes, if ... (read in full...)
Guy problems! They either aren't interested, or they won't go away!
Q. I really like this guy but he says he can't commit to anyone at the moment cos he has just gone back to uni. I understand that but I feel kind of used cos when ever he comes home, he is like always asking me to go out and stuff. Then he decides he ...
A. 2 September 2005: Always the way! The ones we're interested in don't want us and the ones we don't fancy in that way can't get enough of us! That's just how it works I'm afraid. There are gonna be loads of times you'll like people and they simply can't give you what ... (read in full...)
My husband can't show any emotion...
Q. My husband, who may I add is a wonderful caring man, is not interested in sex or kissing and has never masturbated or cried in his life. I feel like I am cracking up. I just want to feel something from the man I love, but it is now getting me down ...
A. 31 August 2005: People who have been abused often end up having personalities which make it hard for them to show any emotion at all. This is due to all those times they 'went inside themselves' whilst being abused to get away from what was really happening. After ... (read in full...)
The online-guy won't give a name, email or picture...
Q. I have a friend who has been chatting online to a guy for about 2 weeks. He won't give his e-mail, name or picture to her. What does everyone think?...
A. 31 August 2005: This guy is messing you around by the sounds of it, honey. The thing with the internet is, you don't get to see the person and, as body language is like 90% of how we communicate, you don't get to make those judgements you make when you first meet ... (read in full...)
After a disagreement, he wanted time to think, but I ended it instead!
Q. I need help ASAP! My boyfriend of 2 months and I had one of our disagreements and told me he needed a couple of days off to think and cool off. I didn't think he needed to think about anything, it wasn't like it was a MAJOR decision he had to think ...
A. 31 August 2005: No, i think you did the right thing. He just wanted your attention and you begging at his feet not to dump you. Lads get like that sometimes, you've just got to keep them on their toes and let them know who's in charge! If he's worth it, he'll come ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him about my finished affair, and risk losing his love?
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 yr old girl. I wrote an anonymous question about an affair I had on my partner of 5 yrs. I'd like to thank the people who answered my question; it gave me a wake up call. The advice was fantastic but now I have another issue! I ha...
A. 31 August 2005: This is a complicated one but the real question is; can you live with what you did? If you can and you can promise it's all behind you, you love him and this will never happen again, then there is no point in hurting both of you by telling him. If ... (read in full...)
I don't love my boyfriend as much as he loves me...
Q. I love my boyfriend of four years very much, but I don't feel the same way about him as I did about another man (8 years ago). I also know I don't love him as much as he loves me. The thought of being alone, without him, and of hurting him upsets ...
A. 25 August 2005: I always find that in most relationships, one person always feels a little more strongly than the other. That's just nature, some of us are deeper, more serious people than others and that's just the way it is. You will rarely find two people who ... (read in full...)
I keep discovering my girlfriend in lies!
Q. Please help. My partner and I have a great desire to be together. A few weeks ago we went out for a few drinks with her friends and her ex was amongst them. Our relationship was still very new at the time and she'd broken up with her ex for a few...
A. 25 August 2005: It seems to me that both of them are finding it difficult to get over each other. She may like you a lot but obviously, they still have feelings for each other if they can't keep their hands off one another and lie to people they care about to meet ... (read in full...)
It's just easier to appeal to guys' sexual interest!
Q. Hey. I have never had trouble getting a boyfriend and have always had lots of attention from guys. Lately though, I feel like I have been getting it on with any guy I meet. I don't want to be labelled 'easy' and I never mean anything by making out ...
A. 16 August 2005: Letting a guy get what he wants too soon makes them lose interest in you and move on to someone else. Don't let this happen, keep him in suspense for a while until he deserves to touch you! Trust me, the longer you wait, the better it is and you'll ... (read in full...)
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