I like him but my Mom says he is bad news! What should I do now?
Q. i like this guy but my mom and friends say he is bad news, but i still like him...what do i do???...
A. 14 December 2006: Your mum and friends are only looking out for you and I don't see any reason why your mum would say he's no good if this wasn't true (you never know with friends, they may be jealous!) You need to look at why your mum is saying this and whether ... (read in full...)
I want to write a love poem for my baby's father - any help?
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost five years and out of the years I have a two year old son I am in love so much with my baby's father and I feel like I would really like to show him in a poem how much I love him can you help!!!!...
A. 12 December 2006: I would steer away from poems: unless you're a pro at writing them, they can come across corny. Stick to a really meaningful and heartfelt letter. Say everything you really want to say while you have the chance.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I get w/ all the wrong guy and find myself jealous over my friends' relationships! How can I overcome this?
Q. well the deal is i always seem to fall for the wrong man or when i do find a man all he wants is sex. since my spilt with my baby's dad( of seven years) i've lost al ot of my confidance and can only seem to talk to guys when im drunk. i'm feeling ...
A. 12 December 2006: Getting another man right now is not a good idea: you need to concentrate on yourself for a while. You need to build up your confidence and see why you keep choosing these men and work out how you can change the things you're unhappy with.
I kno... (read in full...)
I want this christmas present for him to be special but...what do I get him?
Q. Here I am. I am 17, and my boyfriend is 18. He is complicated to shop for and I am stressing out big time. Here it is, two weeks until Christmas and I cannot figure out what to get him. I had an idea for getting him a Jersey (football), but then I ...
A. 11 December 2006: Hey there, check out my answer to the other Xmas pressie boyfriend problem above - great idea!... (read in full...)
What do I get my 19 year old BF for christmas ?
Q. My bf is almost 19, I'm almost 18. We've been together for a 16, almost 17 months. I bought him a DVD he was looking for for christmas, i need ideas on what i can get or something of the sorts to buy him. I'm not exactly creative and plus being so ...
A. 11 December 2006: I had a great idea last year and my boyfriend thought it was the best present ever! I bought him a share in his favourite football club. It's a top idea and they really do own part of their favourite company! They get letters and updates and even ... (read in full...)
It still bothers me, the cheating,drinking and other bits
Q. This is probably a long post ,but i am really stuck on this, I have been married for 20 year's, over that time we have had many rough patches.2 children which are both now grown in the military. Both boys are my step children from his first marria...
A. 9 December 2006: Well this is complicated but the only thing to do here is to follow your heart and make yourself happy, even though it's inevitable that someone will get hurt. You've spent your life making other people happy and you deserve some now.
It sounds l... (read in full...)
I dont want anyone to know that I fancy a geek!
Q. hi i have a friend thats a boy and i am starting to like him as more than a friend. the thing is he doesnt hang around with me and my friends cos he's kind of a geek :( he hangs around with the geeks. so none of my mates are friends with him. ...
A. 9 December 2006: I think you need to stop playing silly school games and be big enough to stand up for the guy you like and stand by it. People are always going to call those no in the 'in crowd' but it's all so childish and pathetic, they're usually really nice ... (read in full...)
I have a bad feeling about this girl and don't want her around my bf!
Q. there's this girl at school i really don't want around my bf, cuz i think she likes him and she really threatens me. my bf used to sit beside her in class and talk to her about lessons, theyre always groupmates etc and when i told him about that im ...
A. 9 December 2006: I think you need to have more trust in your boyfriend and more confidence in how he feels about you. You're his girlfriend and you're only going to push him away if you continue like this. You have no right to tell him who he can and cannot be ... (read in full...)
He left her before he knew she was pregnant, now he's with me and she's just had the baby - I feel excluded!
Q. My boyfriend just had his first child with his ex-girlfriend. We have been dating for almost 7 months and he had left her before she found out she was pregnant. Prior to the baby, we had intentions on getting married, buying a house and starting a ...
A. 30 November 2006: This is a tough situation, as you want what's best for all of you but you don't want to miss out on this time of the babies life who could be part of your one day. You need to talk to your boyfriend. He must explain to this ex that you are part of ... (read in full...)
My bf has a terrible temper - should we continue together?
Q. My boyfriend of one year has a terrible temper. He feels very bad about it, knows it is wrong, says it makes him a "shit" person and will try to get better. Soon afterwards he is very very remorseful but I am worried that I will never know in the ...
A. 30 November 2006: He definitely needs some help to get this under control, as things like this only get worse. He's obviously not choosing to act this way, it's out of his control and he needs to get that control back before he hurts someone. Lot's of people have ... (read in full...)
What should I say to my ex (23 years ago!) who wants me back?
Q. hi there please could you help me my ex wants me back. i have been with my husband for nearly 17 yrs. my ex and i parted 23 yrs ago.i just want to be friends nothing more but he dont what should i do?...
A. 30 November 2006: You need to tell this guy what you want. You're happy now and you don't want to risk this for some one from your past, it's just not worth it. He obviously hasn't moved on so you need to let him know you have and that you never want anything like ... (read in full...)
I want to meet someone who is not just interested in sex! Any ideas?
Q. Where have all the good guys gone? Anymore it seems like all guys are interested in is sex. why doesn't anyone want to take the time to get to know my personality? Please Help me...I want to meet someone nice. Where do i go?...
A. 28 November 2006: The thing you need to realise is that most men will want sex if they think the girl they're after is 'that' kind of girl. Not many men will turn sex down if it is offered to them on a plate and you just have to be careful that you don't give off the ... (read in full...)
My ex bf is a player..I want him back so do I wait until he changes or should I move on?
Q. I don't know what I want from this guy! We've been on and off for a year. We've been bf and gf, sex buddies and friends and none of them seem to work. The relationship was the best, but when things got too hard it fell apart as neither of us were ...
A. 25 November 2006: I can only tell you that he's just being a normal young lad who wants to go out and do what he wants and not be tied down. Yes, they can sometimes treat the people who cross their path badly but, most of them, grow up eventually when they meet the ... (read in full...)
He thinks our relationship is make-believe
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. We are very close. We use to talk about marriage and having kids, not seriously, but just in a sentimental kind of way. Then one day, he tells me that realistically he thinks we have ...
A. 23 November 2006: I think you need to move on from this guy. He's told you he sees no future with you so that, in itself, means your wasting your time with him. Do you really want to spend valuable time with someone who, quite frankly, will drop you when a better ... (read in full...)
I love someone who doesn't love me and it hurts! Any tips to dealing with this?
Q. I love someone who doesnt want me. It hurts so much. I wake up thinking about him and cant seem to get him out of my head or heart. He told me he loved me then ignored me. He came back to me 2 months later and has repeated the same thing. I h...
A. 22 November 2006: I don't know what this man is playing at. He could be playing a game with your emotions or he could simply be confused and scared of commitment and when you get too close, he has to back off. Whatever the reason, this is no good for you and you need ... (read in full...)
He admits he doesn't love me and it's been a year? Do I stay or go?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. Whilst he behaves in a loving manner and is respectful and caring, he never tells me he loves me, in fact he tells me he doesn't. Should I accept this at face value and leave, or could it be self ...
A. 22 November 2006: Get out of there. You are wasting your time on a guy who, after all you've put into the relationship, cannot even tell you he loves you and, even worse, admits he doesn't! This is crazy!
You deserve so much better than this. Find someone who love... (read in full...)
I think he's pushing me away and when I ask him about it...he says 'nothing is wrong'. What should I do?
Q. hey, i need help i love my boyfriend more then any thing in the world he has changed my life, he help me get into college he is an amazing guy. but now i feel as if he is pushing me away and sending me mixed messages, we hardly ever have sex and i ...
A. 22 November 2006: You need to talk to him and see where he's at. Maybe it's nothing, maybe he's just got something on his mind or maybe he's a bit bored. You need to find out before it's too late and while there's still time to save what you have.
Sit him down and... (read in full...)
He hurts me, and changes his behavior but doesn't apologize!
Q. my b/f never apologizes. He has not not done horrible horrible things. But things that we have argued about and i tell him this isn't about me telling you what to do, i am telling you that you HURT my feelings by doing it. So most times, his actions ...
A. 22 November 2006: I think you need to pick your battles here. Men and women are on different planets when it comes to how and why we get hurt by things said and done and we need to accept that sometimes, men just don't get it when they hurt us. They don't see what we ... (read in full...)
Oral sex and the lifespan of sperm
Q. If u come through oral sex, and then in a couple of hours have sex without a condom but do not come is it possible your girl friend could get pregnant or would the sperm from earlier on be dead?...
A. 20 November 2006: It is possible that the sperm may have been still alive on your penis and this could cause pregnancy. However, just not coming when you have unprotected sex does not protect her from pregnancy - 'pre-cum', or that bit that comes out before you ... (read in full...)
I wear condoms in my new relationship! But I can't orgasm...why is this?
Q. Hi I've recently started a new sexual relationship, but can't seem to orgasm when wearing a condom. What do you suggest I do?!! My previous girlfriend was on the pill so we didn't use condoms, so am very used to feeling 'skin on skin'. We've...
A. 20 November 2006: Condoms obviously take away some of the sensation caused when having sex, so the men I've spoken to about this say. It's nothing to do with the girl, I guess it's just a downside of practising safe sex!
There's no reason you can't have a perfectl... (read in full...)
During oral, I give her my best...shouldn't she do the same for me?
Q. Do u girl's love your guy's cuming in your mouth? because my girl give's good head i will admit but because it's so good i take longer to cum and she get's bored so quick and stop's. i asked her the other night if i could jerk off and cu...
A. 16 November 2006: You can't force her to do something she doesn't want to. If she isn't comfortable with you coming in her mouth then don't pressure her. I know you like to give her oral and that's all very good, but making love is not a swap shop: you give, yes, but ... (read in full...)
I'm fine getting physical with strangers, but when I meet someone I like, I go all shy!
Q. I'm 19. I haven't had much experience! However with people I don't know that well, for example I met on holiday or on a night out, I have no problem being physical with them. But whenever I really like someone I somehow get so shy and tense up. I ...
A. 16 November 2006: I think when you're with these people who mean nothing to you, you have nothing to prove and you're simply doing that to please you. When you're with someone you care about, it's not just about you anymore: you want to please them too, as making ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and he's 26. My friends at uni know about us, but I haven't told people back at home! I don't think they'd approve. Advice?
Q. Im a 18yr olg girl n im goin out with a 26yr old man, weve been 2gether for 4months now n were very happy n very much in love with each otha. Im at uni n he works full time so we only see each other at the weekends, which we are both ok with for the ...
A. 15 November 2006: I was in your position when I met my partner. I was 18 and he was 27 but I left my boyfriend at the time for him because I totally fell head over heals for him. I didn't make a mistake and, although my family were a bit wary at the time (he was the ... (read in full...)
I cheated on her and now she wants to start over as friends. How can I deal with this?
Q. I m 28 and my girlfriend is 31. We've been seeing each other for a year and half now. And ive hurt her once too many times. Ive cheated on her once and made other silly mistakes in nasty arguments. She said she still loves me and needs some space. ...
A. 15 November 2006: Sounds like you really need to leave her alone for a while and give her the space she wants. You have hurt her, maybe a lot more than you think, and with everything else going on in her life, maybe she needs some time away from you to decide where ... (read in full...)
When my friend was dating her bf I became best friends w/ him. Now I've fallen for him!
Q. Hey..so a friend of mine met this guy and they were together for 3 months.while they were together we became best friends,he's an amazing guy,2 years older and very attractive.they broke up 2 months ago,he broke up with her an now we are ...
A. 15 November 2006: I think you need to speak to your friend first. Tell her how you feel and ask he how she feels about you making a move on him. Undoubtedly, she may be upset, but if she wants you to be happy, she needs to suck it up and let you have a shot. Just ... (read in full...)
Will I lose him if I'm honest about my wild past.
Q. i have a loving bf everything is fine we are planning to get married soon but the problem is i had a wild past and i havent told him abt it,he knows it but not everything, should i be entirely honest wth him?i do regret i was like this be4 i cant ...
A. 14 November 2006: I don't think that the past matters and unless this comes up, I don't think it's any of his business. Me and my partner made the mistake of telling each other everything and it has really caused problems, some which I know we'll never manage to work ... (read in full...)
She says she's ready for sex, but avoids it everytime the chance comes up! What can I do?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year now. we haven't had sex yet, and she says its not a big deal. shes says shes ready for it, but everytime the chance comes up she gets mad about something or finds something else to do. how do i ...
A. 14 November 2006: Sounds to me like she's not ready yet at all. She's stalling and causing problems between you two to avoid it and this shows me she's nervous and doesn't know how to get over this. I think you need to give her some time, tell her there's no pressure ... (read in full...)
How do you know when it's time to move on from your on/off again ex?
Q. My ex bf spoke to me online today, our first contact with one another in 3 weeks. Last time I saw him we were having sex, cheating on his new gf. Today he told me he was single again. We flirted a little, and I know if I put my mind to it I can win ...
A. 14 November 2006: I think it's time for you to move on. Neither of you seem to know what you want from this right now and probably won't until you take a step back and work out where you both are with this. I know how you feel; it is hard to see when something is ... (read in full...)
My relationship is on the rocks--should I move on or work at it?
Q. I'm a lesbian in my mid-30's. My 4-year relationship has been in trouble almost since the first year we were together. She is a lovely, sweet person, and some years my junior), and I feel very affectionate and loyal toward her. But living ...
A. 12 November 2006: I think you're moving on. We can only try so hard at something and when we know, deep down, that it's over, we sometimes get sent a sign that shows us we're making the right decision. If things were good between you two, you would not be considering ... (read in full...)
My friend told me she gave 5 guys oral sex and I am disgusted! Am I a prude or do all girls consider casual oral sex..no big deal?
Q. Dear cupid, I need some help! My gf and I were talking about our past sex lives and i was kinda shocked that, apart from the two guys i knew about that she had had full sex with, she had performed casual oral sex on five other guys that I knew ...
A. 12 November 2006: You're not being an asshole at all, you just see things differently to her. Me and my boyfriend are the same: he's been a slag in the past and I am totally disgusted by his behaviour: he even has an STD already that he can't cure!
Howev... (read in full...)
My bf does not look at other women sexually. Is this unusual?
Q. my boyfriend said that he does not look at women sexually, for example he does not care to look at a woman's body ie; breast and bums, like many men do. He says that I insult him when I say he must do and that it is in a man's make-up to do that. ...
A. 12 November 2006: This is unusual but not in a bad way. This guy sounds really nice and respectful and I think more guys should think like him: he sounds lovely! I know lot's of men do look at women for their boobs or bums or whatever, but once a man's in love, those ... (read in full...)
Is it safe if you get lube inside your vagina?
Q. Hi, I was wondering whether it is safe to get lubricant in your vagina when having sex, (to leave it in there after sex!) Me and boyfriend are thinking about having sex together (we've been together for about 6 months) and we're planning to use ...
A. 12 November 2006: As long as you buy a safe, proper lubricant which is meant for this purpose then it will not harm you. You can put it on the penis or opening to the vagina or both. I'm glad you've looked into it and are using a water based one so it will work with ... (read in full...)
Can i prevent bleeding on our romantic night ?
Q. Is there anyway of enducing your period by sexual pleasure or fingering? im supposed to be due 'on' very soon and im supposed to be having a romantic evening at my boyfriend's house. is there anyway i can bleed during this night from the sexual play ...
A. 9 November 2006: There is no way you can bring your period forward by doing sexual stuff. If it's gonna come, it'll come regardless of what you're doing but if it's not time, it won't. Hope it holds off until after your special night! xxx... (read in full...)
A year on and we argue every day. I think it's become unhealthy - should I act?
Q. Hey Dear Cupid Agony Aunts, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend a little over a year now, and things have always been really shaky with us. We argue everyday and sometimes the arguing gets on a "near breakup" level Although neither of us ...
A. 6 November 2006: I am in a similar situation to you and it seems that you must work out why you keep arguing. The reason I have problems with my partner is because of his promiscuous past and this leads me to argue with him because of the resentment I feel towards ... (read in full...)
He always chooses to be with his friends rather than me. Why?
Q. He used to spend alot of time with me, but now he wants to spend all of his time with his friends when he is off work. Why ...
A. 6 November 2006: Maybe he's getting too comfortable with you and is starting to take you for granted, knowing you'll always be there when he decides to come home? Or maybe he's getting bored? Maybe he's just going through a phase, freaking out about commitment? I ... (read in full...)
My husband turned down my offer of sex! What's going on with him?
Q. my husband came home tonight after going out riding around, i texted him and asked him when are you going to be home so we can have sex, he said no thanks not in the mood. ...
A. 29 October 2006: Well, firstly, we need to know how unusual this is for him? Has he ever done this before? Secondly, are there any reasons he may not feel in the mood? Maybe work stress or illness? If you can't find a solution from these things then I think you need ... (read in full...)
Do I tell his new gf that he and I had sex? Does she really need to know?
Q. I've never felt so guilty in all my life. I slept with my ex (who i still have feelings for) who has a new gf. They'd only been going out for 2 days, but she's my age (16) and a virgin. What if they end up having sex? Everyone wants their first time ...
A. 27 October 2006: I think you need to tell her yourself. If she's got any sense she'll leave him, but she probably will be mad with you too. Things have a weird way of always getting out so tell her now, before she finds out another way and it causes even more ... (read in full...)
Partner just doesn't seem interested in me anymore. Am I being silly?
Q. Hi I’m really new at this i mean i just cant count on my friends to understand or tell me the truth. i have been with my partner for a year now and its so hard for me to explain what its like. He is a very jealous person but never shows it only eve...
A. 23 October 2006: If you're not happy in a relationship, you need to do something about it. Don't be silenced just because someone else thinks the way you are feeling is 'silly'. You need to sort this out, as you feel that you are putting more into the relationship ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have sex at 14? Please advise
Q. isit ok to have sex when your 14? i know im under age but i would like to have some teenage advice about it...
A. 23 October 2006: According to the law you are underage. The law is there to protect us from being taken advantage of and should be listened to. However, I am aware that very few people take any notice of this law and many people do have sex before they are 16.
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Long distance romance-I'm annoyed because I make all the travel plans and huge efforts...he doesn't! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone... long distance relationship advice please???? My boyfriend and I see each other every two weeks - we live in different countries. We have been doing this for two years. I always feel like I have to be the person who organises w...
A. 23 October 2006: I am not a fan of long distance relationships and don't believe they are ever very successful. For me, two people in love need that regular contact and intimacy to keep the love strong. Simply seeing each other every now and then isn't even enough ... (read in full...)
How much does a virgin actually bleed after sex ??
Q. Hi, I have a question: How much does a girl bleed after having sex? Ok i know some do and some don't and the amount varies but I want to know is it a lot? Am I gonna have to run out of the room and get something afterwards? What is it in compar...
A. 17 October 2006: don't really think that they will be a lot, if any, it's probably already been broken.
Good luck... (read in full...)
How much does a virgin actually bleed after sex ??
Q. Hi, I have a question: How much does a girl bleed after having sex? Ok i know some do and some don't and the amount varies but I want to know is it a lot? Am I gonna have to run out of the room and get something afterwards? What is it in compar...
A. 17 October 2006: As you already know, it differs from girl to girl. Sometimes, the hymen is already broken before they even have sex either by exercise or tampons. If it is still intact, either fully or a bit, it really depends. I bled a bit but my friend had it ... (read in full...)
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