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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for just over 9 months now. At the beginning we were both really into each other and all our friends could see the spark but I'm scared that the fire we used to have is starting to fizzle out. I'm really paranoid about him not loving me anymore even though he claims that he does. We had sex on my 16th birthday and it was magical, it was more perfect than I ever could've imagined but recently it seems hes scared to touch me in case we have sex!? Its so weird!! Its his 18th birthday soon and I want to make his night as special as he made mine but I'm worried that the love isn't there anymore and that I might get rejected. He still says he loves me and kisses me goodnight bt ther arent anymore txt messages or random phone calls or spurts of passion even tho I can still feel something in his last minute pathetic kiss. I'm so confused!!! :( Please someone help me out here!
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reader, emma1 +, writes (4 March 2006):
welcome to the real world!!!!! the honeymoon period is over.im guessing he does still love you however may be bored as you have settled into a sort of routine.why not book into a hotel for his birthday and give him a night to remember,maybes do something different for a change.you may think im being a bit harsh but iv been there and done it.good luck chick xx
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (4 March 2006):
 The *spark* often becaomes a little less *sparky* towards the end of the first year and we begin to take each other for granted, if you tell him how you feel then at least it puts your mind at rest and gives him a chance to rectify things if he is unaware and still wants to be with you.
Good luckx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (4 March 2006):
The *spark* often becaomes a little less *sparky* towards the end of the first year and we begin to take each other for granted, if you tell him how you feel then at least it puts your mind at rest and gives him a chance to rectify things if he is unaware and still wants to be with you.
Good luckx
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reader, smeedle +, writes (4 March 2006):
 This is harsh but I really think he may be going off you, or he is scarred of something.
If you feel he is not as passionate and he just is not comming across like he used to it is a certain indication that things are going wrong.
You need to confront him with your worries and take it from there.
Hopefully he will be able to re-assure you and just tell you he has had things on his mind or something and then he will start putting in the effort again to keep the relationship alive.
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reader, twinkle +, writes (4 March 2006):
 hi,im sorry to hear your problem, i had a similour problem recently, next time your sat watching a film or just cuddled up on the sofa just say in a cute voice "how much do you love me?" and from his answer you should be able to see if he is still interested, or another good way is to write him a love letter/poem and get him to write back, just write how you feel about him, how much you love him, love letters are a really romantic way to put the spark of love back in to your realtionship. for his birthday (as well as a pary obviously lol) take him out for a meal just you and him that is a sure fire way to get the spark back. hope i have helped you a bit kay x :D
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reader, wnabe_ctygrl +, writes (4 March 2006):
If you want my honest opinion then here it is:you are too young, you guys are moving too fast, you guys need to take it down a notch so that you guys wont get tired of each other fast.PS: did you talk to him? ask him what he thinks of the situation. ask him if he feels if somthing is missing.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (4 March 2006):
 I think you have both got too comfortable with the relationship and need to get back whatever you had at first. It's only human to get like this, the first few months is amazing but, over time, things do change and, although it may not seem as romantic and slushy, it's just a different type of love - the long-term love.You could start the ball rolling by doing some romantic things for him and see if he does the same. This is the 21st century, honey, we can do anything they can do better!!! If you want things to change, you need to make them change. If this doesn't work, you need to talk to him and tell him how his distance is making you feel, i.e. that the love has gone from the relationship. If he cares for you, he'll buck up his ideas and make sure he does whatever it takes to keep you happy!!!Good luck, honey.
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