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writes: I'm 21 years old and I'm married to a loving man. While we were dating the sex was great. We did it all the time and the after our son was born I started to use birth control (depo). Now I don't feel in the mood to have sex with him and it kind of hurts to see him wanting to make love to his wife.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (8 February 2006):
 All times of medication can affect our bodies in different ways and with birth control, this is especially common as it changes hormone levels in our bodies and we all know what can happen when our hormones get messed about! Every month is a good example!!!
There could be a few reasons why your sex drive is lower than it was. The birth control may be one, but lot's of people find this makes them want sex more!! Also, after having a baby, lots of women find their sex lives have changed and this is just something they have to work on.
I think you need to talk to your husband, as this is just as much his problem as it is yours. He's probably feeling very neglected so you need to explain what's going on. Talk to your doctor, maybe. Tell him you think it might be the birth control and maybe he can try you on something different and see if that helps. Spend a lot of time with your husband, intimate time and see what happens. Sometimes, when we concentrate too much on what we're doing wrong, or not doing at all in your case, we can't see a light at the end of the tunnel or how easy it may be to solve the problem.
Relationships don't stay the same forever and it's not always going to be diving all over each other like rabbits. Relationships mature, just like we do, and we have to accept the changes that come with this and enjoy everything about being in love. Good luck and be patient, it will be better.
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