How much does a virgin actually bleed after sex ??
Q. Hi, I have a question: How much does a girl bleed after having sex? Ok i know some do and some don't and the amount varies but I want to know is it a lot? Am I gonna have to run out of the room and get something afterwards? What is it in compar...
A. 17 October 2006: don't really think that they will be a lot, if any, it's probably already been broken.
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How much does a virgin actually bleed after sex ??
Q. Hi, I have a question: How much does a girl bleed after having sex? Ok i know some do and some don't and the amount varies but I want to know is it a lot? Am I gonna have to run out of the room and get something afterwards? What is it in compar...
A. 17 October 2006: As you already know, it differs from girl to girl. Sometimes, the hymen is already broken before they even have sex either by exercise or tampons. If it is still intact, either fully or a bit, it really depends. I bled a bit but my friend had it ... (read in full...)
I cant get past relationships and being badly treated, I dont trust and its ruining me life!
Q. there is this boy ive been seeing for the past few months i only see him at weekends, i really really like him but i think hes using me, he has made it clear he doesnt want anything serious, but hes asking me to have sex with him, i want to but past ...
A. 17 October 2006: The only way to get over the past is to change the way your life goes. If you get close to someone and they start to walk all over you, there's only you who can be blamed after it's happened lots of times. You know what they say: 'trick me once, ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being needy and clingy? I constantly need reassurances. Any good tips?
Q. How do I stop being needy and clingy? I am easily hurt and easily disappointed and I constantly need reassurance and unconditional love. I know unconditional love is practically non existent but I need it. If I don't get it I start to feel depressed ...
A. 16 October 2006: Problems like this usually come up because of something that has happened in your past, for example, maybe you felt that everyone you loved as a child let you down or disappointed you? Or maybe they made you feel unloved at times and that they were ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend only ever talks about herself and her life and never bothers to ask me how I am or ever interested in me and my life!!!
Q. Why does my girlfriend talk and talk about herself and her family and her part time job and does not talk about 'us' or me and stuff. When I pick her up after work she just talks and talks about her shift and what she did and its gets too much. S...
A. 16 October 2006: It sounds like this girl needs a wake up call. She seems to be forgetting that she's not the only person in the world and we don't all revolve around her! You're in a relationship with her and the interest in each others lives should be equal.
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I found out my bf had cheated, now I am pregnant. What should I do?
Q. my partner has treated me very badly for a very long time, telling me he loved me, then he didnt etc... i feel like ive been through hell and back with him. when i had just come out of hospital a few months ago he had to go away, he came back from ...
A. 14 October 2006: You need to get an abortion. Tying yourself to this man for any longer than you already have is not fair on you or the little baby. I know it must be hard to be in this position, after he lied to you for so long, but you have to be strong and pull ... (read in full...)
My bad hair day stops me from talking to girls, what can I do?
Q. Hi every one, i have one huge problem. i am 14 years old and i have short curly/wavy hair, it makes me look like a complete idiot and a baby, whenever i talk to the girl i like:( is there anything i can do(straighteners dont work!) please help....
A. 14 October 2006: You could always shave it all off?! But if that's not the look you want to go for then just stop worrying about it. Buy some good products to calm it down, go to a good hairdressers and get some advice and just chill out about it! I'm sure so many ... (read in full...)
When we first got together he was seeing his ex, I think he still is, but he says not!! What do I do ?
Q. Hi im 18 and with a 21 yr old man. its been 3 months now and when we had been together a month i found out he was still goin back to his ex. Even now people are telling me that he has been at his ex's flat. An enemy of my boyfriend had said that he ...
A. 9 October 2006: It sounds to me like too many people are getting involved in your relationship. They're all telling you things that your guy is supposed to be doing but you can never be sure that they're telling the truth. People like to cause problems for other ... (read in full...)
My friends behaviour is very unsavoury and unfair, I want to tell her, but not to lose her!
Q. Over 2 yrs ago I left my BF of 13yrs cos I found out he was cheating on me for over 2+yrs. 1yr later my best friend Ruthie (who's married) told me she was seeing another man it's been a year and she's still seeing him, now she's met yet another man ...
A. 5 October 2006: What she is doing is unfair and he husband has a right to know. The problem is you have to decide who you agree with more, as interfering with anyone's business can lead to you losing friends, even if you're doing it for all the right reasons.
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My ex is pregnant, but Im really happy with my now relationship!! What should I do ??
Q. My ex is pregnant, but I am in a wonderful relatinship until now. What should I do? Dear Readers, My ex(17) who I (19) was with for about a year is 4 months pregnant from me, but have been in a relationship now for about 4 months too with a ve...
A. 5 October 2006: This girl sounds like trouble and you should not get back with her for the sake of a child. People have no right to tell you to do this, it's not fair on you or her, for that matter. I think, if you're happy with your new girlfriend, you two should ... (read in full...)
Do girls really like guys that treat them bad or what?
Q. I really don't get it... I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and just broke up, before i was dating her she was with this other guy for 3 years. That guy, treated her so bad, he doesn't kiss her or hug her or do anything for her. She eve...
A. 4 October 2006: In my experience, some women do enjoy being treated badly. I don't know whether it's the excitement of the fights, whether they find angry men sexy or whether they just enjoy being the victim all the time. Whatever the reason, these women are never ... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest any resolutions to a couple who moved in together too soon?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year. I just graduated from grad school a couple of months ago and we were put in a situation where I was going to move back home until I had enough to get my own place and then he said that ...
A. 4 October 2006: If you two don't want to live in separate houses, I suggest that you both have time to yourself within the one house. A couple of nights a week, just stay away from each other. Leave him watching TV and you go and read a book or something somewhere ... (read in full...)
My 19-year-old son is dating a 38-year-old woman; I'm worried the age gap is way too large
Q. Hi there I've got a problem which I've never dealt with before in our family: age gap relationships. My 19-year-old son is dating a 38-year-old woman; I'm worried the age gap is way too large. My husband is the same age as me, so I've n...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi there, I can understand your concern! I don't know what type of woman could possibly want to put up with younger guy. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure your son's lovely but men are so far behind us emotionally and mentally . . . I just don't know how ... (read in full...)
I feel unaccepted by my husbands family and friends. How do I overcome this?
Q. My husband is from a very different and quite a closed to outsiders kind of community. While his family has been totally off, some of his close friends (also v set in their ways even though they are younger) have tried to accept me a little but ...
A. 4 October 2006: It must be hard not to feel accepted by the family and friends of the one you love. I think you should firstly mention this to your husband. Maybe he'll have a subtle word with his family and ask them to be a bit more open with you, obviously ... (read in full...)
I feel as though my bf is manipulating me, worse still I fear is he cheating!!
Q. I have been in a relationship with someone forover 12 months; he moved in with me after only two months (silly, I know!!!). I am feeling so confused; I really feel like he manipulates me (although I have no way of proving if this is definitely the ...
A. 29 September 2006: I think you should follow your instincts here: they're usually right. You obviously don't trust him and he needs to go. Someone you're in a relationship with should make you feel loved and happy, not the way you're feeling now.
By the sounds o... (read in full...)
I swallowed, can I get pregnant?
Q. hi rite i have been with my boyfriend ages n recently i sucked him off but i swallowed it can i get pregnant ?...
A. 26 September 2006: No you cannot. The sperm goes down your throat when you swallow, to your stomach and this doesn't lead to your ovaries or womb, so the sperm cannot fertilise an egg.
Maybe you should find out a bit more about the things you're doing before y... (read in full...)
My bf says I just lie there during sex, what can I do to improve this ?
Q. My bf claims i don't 'do much' during sex except lie there and make approving noises. Neither of us particularly enjoy having me on top. What exactly can i do when he's on top. Am i actually meant to be doing some of the 'thrusting' and if so do i ...
A. 26 September 2006: Firstly, if my boyfriend said I 'don't do much', then he'd get a slap! But if you're okay with that then here goes: If you're happy with the way things are, keep them that way. You don't have to do anything to please him.
However, if you want to ... (read in full...)
It was a no strings sex encounter, the fact I slept with someone doesnt make me a cheat right ??
Q. Before my boyfriend and I actually got together,we basically started with screwing each other.We both barely knew each other and so forth. From what i had assumed we were just messing. I slept with him and slept over his place 2 nights in a row ...
A. 26 September 2006: No, I don't think you did cheat. If you let him know when you were having sex that you didn't want any commitment and he carried on with the arrangement, regardless of the fact that he wanted more, then you did nothing wrong. Just because you became ... (read in full...)
What sort of questions should I be asking him if we are to plan our future together ??
Q. I have met a wonderful man and I think he is going to ask me to marry him soon. I want to be sure I have asked him all the best questions so I know him as well as possible since I may be spending the rest of my life with him. What questions should I ...
A. 26 September 2006: I don't think working out whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with someone can be about questions and answers. I think the answers to whether or not you are compatible come on a day-to-day basis, in conversation, intimacy and ... (read in full...)
How can I get over things I did in my pre-teens? I feel so ashamed and don't think I deserve to be happy.
Q. Ok, will someone please tell me ways to get over this or tell me about your embarassing things? When i was a kid. I know under 10, my mom babysat these 2 kids and there was a baby and i think he was sleeping. Well, i got on top and don't know if i ...
A. 23 September 2006: You seem really down about all this and you really don't need to be! Yes the things you did weren't nice but it's normal for curious children to do things like that to each other. I really think you need to get some help to get over this guilt. ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is having sex with my mom. How do I get closure?
Q. My ex-boyfriend is having sex with my mom.I am having a hard time dealing with this since I have to see them both. I don't want him back, but I don't want my mom to have him either.I am jealous that mom is in a relationship. Recently, I've begun ...
A. 22 September 2006: You need both these people out of your life. I can accept that a guy may like the thought of sleeping with the mother of his ex (coz they can be sick like that!) but for your Mum to sleep with an ex of yours?! That's just nasty and she should be ... (read in full...)
Is this normal ?
Q. Me and my bf had sex without a condom, whilst i was on my period (time of the month), i was wondering, if this is ok, it was the first time we did this, we have been together a year... im worried now.. is this normal??????...
A. 22 September 2006: This is normal to some people, abnormal for others. It won't hard either of you, so it just depends on whether or not you're both comfortable with it.
Although having sex anytime without a condom is risky (provided you don't use any other fo... (read in full...)
Married 15 years, he's cheated twice, decided to make a go of it, but whats to stop him doing it again!!!
Q. Hi I've been married for 15 yrs and husband cheated twice. Once 10yrs ago and now again we've now decided to try and make a go of it.But I feel betrayed and not sure if I still what to stick around I feel I cannot trust him its like I see him as a ...
A. 22 September 2006: The thing is, honey, there's nothing to stop him doing this again. I understand you love him and want to make this work but the fact is, if he gets away with it this time, the likelihood is, he will continue to do this to you forever. People like ... (read in full...)
We broke up but its like we hadnt, but then he was seeing someone else!
Q. right this is my problem,basically i got with this guy last year in jan and we got on so well i was really startin to like him,i hadnt been with anyone sexually before him,he was my first for everything n i love him so much, but this year has just ...
A. 21 September 2006: This boy sounds very childish and you need to get rid of him He's only causing you pain and trauma and nobody needs people like this is their lives. Tell him you don't want to see him anymore, let him be the one confused and upset for once.
He ju... (read in full...)
I want to make it right and stop acting with paranoia, but is it to late ?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have split up and gone on a break for a week because i have emotionally drained him with paranoia.He says we can get through this and we will meet up again after our break but how can I give him back his strength and get him ...
A. 21 September 2006: When you say paranoia, do you mean about him cheating on you? I think you need to get some help. Problems like this stem deep in our minds and we cannot sort them out on our own. You need to talk to a professional and find out why you're acting this ... (read in full...)
Im really anxious about my bf going away for a month, what can I do to stop stressing!
Q. My boyfirend is going away for a month and I know im really gonna miss him. I do have a life hobbies and friends but miss him loads. I can suffer from anxeity attacks and dont want to come accross needy to him I dont want to push him away We text...
A. 18 September 2006: I think talking to a professional may help you with some of your problems. You're obviously scared of being alone and may feel that people in your past abandoned you and you're scared of this happening again with your partner. Your anxiety sounds ... (read in full...)
Is it normal...for some men 'not' to have much ejaculate when the orgasm?
Q. Seems a strange question but I can't really get a feel on the web and thought i would ask in here. I have had sex with a man on quite a few occasions over the last year, we're not in a relationship and never will be, my question is about him ...
A. 17 September 2006: Well there's always the possibility he didn't come at all! But provided he did, some men just have less semen coming out than others. Smaller penises will obviously be felt less by the woman so that's nothing to worry about either.
They'... (read in full...)
I centre my life around my relationship, but would like to get other things back!!
Q. I have a fantastic relationship with my bf and we love eachother very much. However, the things that used to be important to me (nothing to do with relationships) no longer are. I used to be very ambitious and had very definite plans on what i ...
A. 17 September 2006: I think you need to get back into doing those things that used to make you happy. I've been where you are and you just end up resenting the guy, even though he did nothing wrong. You end up giving things up and letting chances pass you just because ... (read in full...)
We opened up one night about our sexual pasts, I now dont feel sexual towards her!!!
Q. My wife's sexual past is hurting us both. My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married for 4. I've always been reluctant to discuss our sexual pasts, largely because I was "afraid to know." Well, she breeched the subject one night b/c she ...
A. 16 September 2006: I'm totally going through now what you are. My boyfriend has slept with everything that has moved for the past 10 years and now we're together, it kills me to think about it and see the girls around town. Everyone keeps telling me to "let it go" and ... (read in full...)
Engaged for 4 years and he bores me to death! How do I end this?
Q. I have ben dating my boyfriend for almost 7 years and have been engaged for almost 4 of them. But now I feel nothing more than friendship with him, and he's like a security balnket for me. How do I end it, because I'm going through the "How do I ...
A. 16 September 2006: I have been in your position but once I was out of that situation, I couldn't believe that I'd wasted so much time wondering what to do and how to do it: I just felt so free! If the time has come to move on, you have to do it fast, there's no point ... (read in full...)
what do guys like in girls..tall, slim, blonde or short, petite, curvy, brunette??
Q. hi... im a teenager and wanna know, y would teenage guys want a tall, thin blonde girl to go out with? Wouldnt they prefer someone who is shorter than them? Cos my boy mates all always say "oh theres this really fit girl, she's tall and ...
A. 16 September 2006: Guys all like different things, just like we do. Some will like the skinny body, but it is my experience that men prefer a curvy woman to a skinny one. A woman with any colour hair or body shape can be attractive, there is no set of rules saying ... (read in full...)
Are people in long distance relationships more likely to cheat?
Q. Are people in long distance relationships more likely to cheat?...
A. 16 September 2006: Well it all depends on the person, I guess. Obviously not seeing your partner for a long time can be stressful and some people will stray, most just because they want the intimacy they are not getting with their partner. However, people who are ... (read in full...)
He can't make me as horny as he used to
Q. dear cupid, me and my bf of 2 months like to have cyber sex becuz he works away alot but he cnt make me as horny as he used to any more has any one gt any thoughts on new ideas for us to try??? plz help xxxx...
A. 14 September 2006: This cyber sex thing always baffles me. I would be bored of it after 5 minutes, how much stuff is there you can say before it all gets old?!
Listen honey, I know this is hard, but I believe that a relationship should be between a man and a woman:... (read in full...)
What can I say as a good turn on???
Q. what can i say as a good turn on to him?...
A. 14 September 2006: Why not talk about what you want him to do to you, before anything happens. Describe what you want to happen next throughout your love making. Make sure you speak quietly and seductively, using 'porn' words, men like a bit of a minx in a girl!
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He has e-mails from other girls and says its the past but the date is recent...
Q. hi i been with my boyfriend for a year now i met him in a different provence so i dont know any of his friends one night he left his bag at my house and i found a love email letter in it dating back just a few days before so i was up set when i ...
A. 14 September 2006: This guy is playing you! Get rid of him now, it's obvious he's cheating on you and emailing other people. Trust me, it would have taken a lot less than he's done for me to split with my guy. Not only is he doing this, he's lying about it, which only ... (read in full...)
Is he after one thing or does he really like me???
Q. theres this guy and i like him. but on wednesday he kissed me but i think it went too fast, i dont want to hurt his feelings by turning him down if he asks me out. but im not sure if i want to say yes. please give me some advice, im new to the ...
A. 14 September 2006: Well the only way to find out if this guy really likes you and wants to really get to know you or whether he does just want to use you and that's patience. Let him take you out a few times, spend some quality time getting to know each other. If he ... (read in full...)
I really love him but cant tell him im a virgin!! Im size 8 would this be why any form of penetration hurts ?
Q. My bf and i live together he's 27 and has a daughter aged 8 who doesnt live with us, Im older than him and i have the ordeal of still being a virgin. We love each other very much, however ive not told him im still a virgin, hes slept with 27 girls ...
A. 12 September 2006: I understand how painful, emotionally, this must be for you. But if this man loves you, he will understand whatever you tell him. My advice to you is to tell him the truth. Tell him you've never met anyone special enough before to give your ... (read in full...)
My long distance GF is starting to question us.. thinking of getting to know other woman, not to cheat, but to get another perspective!!!
Q. this is prob. a stupid question. still would like some opinions. thank you. i am in a situation where my long time girlfreind is living far from me for about another six months. she is starting to question us. i am sure of us, but with her questio...
A. 10 September 2006: This is a bad idea and will only end the relationship faster than it may be ending anyway. You need to find out what's going on with this girl, find out why she's questioning the relationship and try and work through these questions with her. Going ... (read in full...)
I need advice on anal sex..my bf likes it and I want to do it properly for him.
Q. My bf attempted to give me anal for the first time, but i ran into a few troubles. I know it's meant to hurt at first but we actually had to stop because it was so painful. I know this is really gross but I have what I assume is a skin tag in that ...
A. 10 September 2006: Firstly, if this is not something you're comfortable with, forget what he wants. If you don't want to do it and he loves you, he won't make you feel bad.
Anyway, if you do want to do this for all the right reasons then maybe you could go and see ... (read in full...)
Is she walking all over me? How do I approach this with her?
Q. i'm so confused about my friend. i've liked her forever. she's in a relationship, but confessed her deep feelings for me recently, saying that she fell in love with me. but she also said that she still wants to stay with her current partner. but ...
A. 10 September 2006: She needs to make a decision and fast and if the decision is her boyfriend, then all these romantic nights out and picnics need to stop. She is being unfair to her boyfriend and to you, because she must know you care about her and want to be with ... (read in full...)
He pays more attention to the dog than me!!!
Q. I would be grateful for some outside opinions on something that has been bothering me. Earlier in the year I moved in with my boyfriend and since then have been quite annoyed with how much attention he gives his dog. I'll come right and out an...
A. 7 September 2006: The only thing you can do is talk to him about it. This animal has been part of his life for a long time and has probably been there when he had no one else, so maybe he's used to giving the dog all the attention! Anyhow, if this is causing problems ... (read in full...)
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