I'm a 22 year old virgin..still waiting for someone special to share that with. How long is this going to take?
Q. im a 22 year old male im still a virgin im waiting for that special some one to enter my life ive been waiting for a long time but ive had know look how much longer should i wait ...
A. 26 March 2007: Keep waiting, trust me. I'm only speaking from a womans point of view but I'd say the same for anyone with your question. You've got this far, it's not like you're at school and it's all people talk about all day long! If you feel you want to wait ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to lose weight! Do I make myself sick or what?
Q. Recently, I've been contemplating making myself sick. I've been trying to lose weight for about 3 months now, yet I've been feeling really depressed recently, and feel as though, if i was thin, it would be one less thing for me to worry about. ...
A. 26 March 2007: You cannot go to these extreme measure to try and get thin. Everyone will tell you not to and you probably won't listen but you really must: these are quick fixes and ruin your body so it's impossible to lose weight in the future. If you make ... (read in full...)
Should I take her back, even thought it hurts that when we split she slept with her ex ?
Q. i have been dating my gf for 3 years and before me she had an ex bf who she had sex with..she was my first by the way..we recently broke up and have been for about 3 months..during this time she was reunited with her ex bf..he got her drunk one ...
A. 26 March 2007: The circumstances of this one are very difficult. Had she not been drunk and had chosen to do this with him of her own free will, I would say stay well away, as a person who can jump straight into bed with someone else stright after a split to ... (read in full...)
I like his personality, but not sure I fancy him, what should I do
Q. im 20 and this guy i work with who i have become friends with told me he fancies me. thing is i do really like him personality wise but sometimes i look at him and say "yeh i fancy him" and other times i think "theres no physical attraction", its ...
A. 26 March 2007: You need to relax and not force this. So what if you do just feel friendship for him? Just coz he's a guy and you're a girl doesn't mean there has to be an attraction. He fancies you, great, but if you don't then nothing has to happen - just be good ... (read in full...)
Found some condoms in my partner's pocket, and we never use them... is this what I think it is!?
Q. Hello I`m a fourtyseven year old male. I was getting some dry cleaning ready to drop off and found some condoms in my partners coat pocket We don`t and never have used them . This really is what it looks like , no ? ...
A. 20 March 2007: This is totally what it looks like, I'm afraid. Even if she didn't use them, she must have been planning to. You need to talk to her about this asap. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My mum forced me into a termintion and has told my bf who I really love never to come near me again! Help!!
Q. i recently feel pregnant with my long term boyfriend. i really love him but my mum made me have a termination. When i was in the hospital they both came with me and all they did was argue my mum wants him to never contact me again but i love him...
A. 20 March 2007: This must have been horrible for you and I must say they should have been more supportive. They were the people you needed the most and they sounded like they made the whole situation a lot worse. But you got through it and, at your age, it probably ... (read in full...)
Any advice on what I should in social situations??
Q. I am inclined more towards being shy. But it is not that i can't speak when it is vital. I have realized the root cause of my shyness to be my father's treatment. He treats me like an underdog in most of the conversations i have with him. Rarely...
A. 20 March 2007: You need some professional confidence and self esteem work. This will help you learn how these people made you feel, get in touch with yourself then make the changes that you want to make.
I think it will be hard to change you and the habits o... (read in full...)
We mainly use condoms but if we don't he only "pops in"... Could I be pregnant?!
Q. OMG! i know i am probably stressing over nothing but im 3 days late on my period. i still havent come on. I am sleeping with my b/f and we mainly use condoms. and if we dont its only for a second and he never cums in me and that rarly happens. Im ...
A. 20 March 2007: Obviously a condom should be used every time he even comes near you with his pants down, sperm have a way of getting where they want to be! There is pre-cum which comes out of the penis when they become aroused so before you even start having sex so ... (read in full...)
His friends say he really like someone else now and that I should finish with him!
Q. me and my boyfriend are having a bit of a problem at the moment so i thought i would ask :) well about october time there was rumours flying around that he kissed another girl, so i got upset and then got over it, but then around a month ago when i ...
A. 20 March 2007: You need to get rid of the this guy. You were going through something as bad as an abortion and he wasn't there to support you and was messing about with all your friends? Get rid of him and start working on your own happiness again.
Make sure the... (read in full...)
Im planning on having sex with him, hes my first, Is it possible for a woman to enjoy sex within a week?
Q. My LDR bf will visit me for his week long spring break in about ten days. I feel I am ready to have sex with him (he would be my first) but he is hesitant because he's worried it will be painful for me and I won't be able to enjoy it within the six ...
A. 20 March 2007: You firstly must make sure this is what you want. I know you think you do but don't rush into it just because you don't get to see him as often as you would like.
There's no reason why you can't enjoy the sex within a week. The first couple o... (read in full...)
Is it normal for breasts to get bigger before period?
Q. this is going to seem very vauge, but is it normal for breasts to get slightly bigger before your period? xxx...
A. 20 March 2007: Yes it is normal, most women notice this. It's just the surge in hormones that occurs that makes them do this. So make the best of it while you've got em!... (read in full...)
Would you agree that January was the month for a lot of break ups ?
Q. Would you agree that January is the month for break-ups? Speaking to friends and having myself gone through a break up in January, I felt that maybe it is not a coincidence but more like something thousands or millions of people go through each Jan...
A. 19 March 2007: Maybe it's just the new start to a year and people want to make changes and make a fresh start. Who knows but I can see why. Plus, Christmas can be very stressful for some couples and they end up breaking up afterwards. ... (read in full...)
Shes 19, had at least 15 sexual partners, I think shes easy and this bothers me, is it worth sticking at a relationship ?
Q. hi im 21 and have been going out with my GF(19) for about 4 months now. I really like her personality and i think she is a great person. However she has had sex/"done stuff" with 15 other guys and its really killing me. Most of these were one night ...
A. 19 March 2007: I had this problem with my ex: he slept with so many women, I just couldn't forget about it, even though I trusted him. But I think a distinction has to be made here. In my opinion, men and women have one night stands for different reasons: women, I ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont let me near her, what should I do ?
Q. My girlfriend has now suddenly changed. She Doesnt allow me to touch her, or even hug her What should i do ?...
A. 19 March 2007: You need to find out what is going on with her. It's fine for us all to want a bit of 'me time' every now and then and a bit of space but if there's more to it, you deserve to know. Sit her down and talk about whatever she wants, don't let her avoid ... (read in full...)
His response to his friends when asked if I were is girlfriend was "We are not together like that" Im devastated!!!
Q. I've been dating a guy for six months and I thought things were progressing nicely. We spend a lot of time together, have regular sleep overs, and talk on the phone every other day. We never said we were boyfriend-girlfriend but we agreed to be ...
A. 19 March 2007: If he's not ready for this then you must respect that. However, I do have problems differentiating between an exclusive relationship where you see only one another and have sex and girlfriend and boyfriend. How can he say the relationship was not ... (read in full...)
He still refers to me as a virgin even though Ive told him im not ??
Q. Ive told my bf (hes a virgin) that im not a virgin and that I have had a few sexual partners. I've told him this more than once. But he keeps refering to me as a virgin. we are both 18 and were waiting to have sex. ...
A. 19 March 2007: It seems like he might be in denial about the information you have given him. He has no right to act this way, as this could make you feel you've done something wrong. He isn't a virgin either so there's no need to be a prude about it!
Talk ... (read in full...)
what do guys think about when they are having sex ?
Q. what do guys think about when they are having sex?...
A. 18 March 2007: Obviously I'm not a guy but I have spoke to guys about this and I was shocked! When they're with a girlfriend, they said they wanted to control themselves so thought about random, non-sexual things. When they were on one night stands and didn't ... (read in full...)
Is it normal NOT to enjoy open mouthed kissing?
Q. Right, Aunts. I just wanted to know if it is normal not to enjoy open-mouth kissing? Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month now and we still haven't kissed properly. Neither of us think it is exactly romantic but it does seem wei...
A. 15 March 2007: I am the same, I hate kissing, unless it's in the heat of the moment and very passionate. I find it disgusting and forced the rest of the time.
It's like anything it a relatiosnhip: if one of you doesn't want to do it, you don't have to. There's ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my boyfriend and how can I be sure I'm making the right decision?
Q. hi, i need your help. im at uni and i think i want to break up with my boyfriend on a year..my life has changed and he doesnt seem to accept that. how do i do it and how can i be sure im making the right decision?...
A. 14 March 2007: I don't think any of us can ever be sure we're making the right decision anytime in our lives, we just have to follow what we think is the right choice and live with that. If you're doubting whether you want to be with someone, I'd say there's some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has asked to meet me and said that it was bad. I'm terrified in case he wants to break up with me!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now. we were getting on fine and then this afternoon he rang and said that he needed to speak to me face to face and that it was bad. when i asked him if he was going to break up with ...
A. 14 March 2007: Well, the only way to find out what he wants is to go ahead and meet him. Whatever he wants to say isn't going to go away if you deny it so find out what's going on and deal with it then. It sounds to me like he wanted to scare you: why else say ... (read in full...)
I belong to an asian culture. Is it true in the west, you can have sex with anyone you want?
Q. I belong to asian culture and i have this mindset about West that you are free to do whatever you want there. Meaning you can have sex with anyone you want to, if both are ready. Is this true? ...
A. 14 March 2007: We do have a very liberal view of sex here, yes, especially with the younger generations. If two people meet on a night out or are friends, quite often they have sex. It's embraced by our culture, it's everywhere, even though not all people agree ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you date a girl who didnt like oral sex?
Q. Guys, would you date a girl who didnt like oral sex?? I hate giving guys oral sex, its a massive turn off for me (Im actually not a fan of recieving it either) but my guy friends were talking the other day and said they could never date a girl who ...
A. 14 March 2007: I know I'm not a guy but this is ridiculous! If a guy was worth anything and had any respect for someone he liked, he would not judge her for not doing something and would not force her into anything she didn't like to do.
These guys are loser an... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to think he was a player or just looking for a booty call?
Q. Dear Cupid, Call vs. not to call. Need a bit more help on my situation. I also need a guy’s opinion as well. Last I wrote, I had met a guy who worked as a stripper. I had given him my #. He started to text me, asking me out. However, when he...
A. 14 March 2007: It sounds to me like he was playing you. He wasn't interested in texting you, like guys are when they first meet someone they like and I'm not one to judge but a stripper? I can hardly see him being the settling down type, can you? Maybe he was just ... (read in full...)
My bf and I want to have sex...but not sure if I want to give up my virginity! Help?
Q. I am almost 16 and i have to make a huge decison. My boyfreind wants to have sex. He keeps reminding me that he doesnt want to force me into anything and we must both feel comfortable and want to do it. he said he has protection and everything. I ...
A. 14 March 2007: If you're having these doubts, my advice is do nothing! This is our minds way of letting us know that this needs more time and more thought. You're right, this is a massive decision and once it's gone, there's no getting it back. I know you love him ... (read in full...)
After 3 years of being with my bf-I suddenly have become afraid of sex! What is wrong with me?
Q. This is going to sound stupid but here goes.. I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We love eachother so much :) He's the first person I slept with and at first it was great, I loved it. But all of a sudden I've become scared of it.. ...
A. 14 March 2007: I can't really answer whether you have gone off sex, only you know this. For women, sex is very much psychological, not just physical as it can be for some men. If there's something on our mind and we're upset with our partner, we withdraw from ... (read in full...)
Why does my vagina keep making this farting noise? It's extremely embarrassing!!!!
Q. please could you give me some advice,when my partner and i start to make love my vagina makes the most awful farting sound; it doesnt bother him but i find it extremely embarrasing, please could you help me i am getting married in six weeks...
A. 13 March 2007: Yes, this is just trapped air. I find this happens most when we do 'doggy style' so try doing something else. Find out what does it for you and stop doing that position if it annoys you. Also, ask him not to keep removing and entering you, as this ... (read in full...)
I feel totally destroyed as I found out he cheated on me (with someone I can't stand)
Q. ive just found out my partner of 14 yrs has cheated on me with someone i know and always hated.i cant eat,sleep or cope. doctor just gave me pills. dont know how to cope. i feel totally destroyed i need help?...
A. 13 March 2007: You need to get this man out of your life and move forward alone. He not only betrayed you in the worst possible way, he did it with someone who you hate? This truly is unforgiveable and moving on alone is the only answer.
I know it may seem har... (read in full...)
I finished my relationship but how do I move on after 5 years?
Q. Hi Everyone. I asked a question on this site a couple of weeks ago as I was thinking of ending my 5 year relationship. I have now done this and feel stronger in myself and I know it was the right thing to do as there was just nothing between us ...
A. 13 March 2007: I am in your position right now, only it's only been 2 years for me. I feel numb too. I think it's because it's just the right decision and we know that so we can't be sad. I know I feel a bit lonely but only because I'm used to having someone ... (read in full...)
How could he of wanted to sleep with another woman if he still wanted me back?
Q. I finished a relationship a while back because i felt it lost its spark etc,it lasted 4 years but my fella wouldn't take no for an answer,anyway we have got back together because i started to miss him and wanted to work out our differences. Anyway, ...
A. 10 March 2007: You are right to feel this way, I would too and would not take him back if he's been with someone else while we were apart. Anyway, I think the main problem here is not understanding the differences between men and women: when we love and care for ... (read in full...)
I feel as though I'm losing all my friends because they're "doing it" and I'm not...
Q. Hi.. It seems as though all my friends are doing it and I'm not. We're all around 13/14 and the girls that have done it are slowly forming their own clique, becoming cool. I feel as though i'm losing all my friends! I'm wondering how to deal with ...
A. 10 March 2007: You are not ready for sex, this is a terrible idea and under no circumstances should you even consider losing your virginity because of this! These girls are way too young for all that and are not only putting themselves in long term physical risk ... (read in full...)
I think she's wanting sex but we've only been going out for a month. I think this is way too fast but how do I tell her without losing her?
Q. Yo...ive been dating this girl for about a month and i think she wants to have sex and ive been in a relationship where we moved too fast and it tore us apart ....i really like this girl and i dont want to lose her....i want to tell her but i dont ...
A. 10 March 2007: You need to be honest with her: another way to ruin a relationship is with secrets and dishonesty. I hope you are close enough to be able to say how you feel. Make sure she knows why too, i.e. you care about her and don't want to move to fast and ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant if we never had actual penetrative sex?
Q. ok so i am 16 years old and i have a pretty serious boyfriend. i dont want to sound stupid but can you get pregnant if you dont have sex? we both had pants on, but there was thrusting and i could feel *him* and i kind of had an orgasm, but since i ...
A. 10 March 2007: You are not pregnant. His penis must enter you and either ejaculate or some semen come out. They're good but they're not magic! Stop worrying and get more clued up before you go any further. ... (read in full...)
What does it feel like when you cum?
Q. When i fool about with my boyfriend i get close to cuming but i never can, i have just started this kind of stuff is it suppose to be like this, i havent had sex with him yet, although im not a virgin. What is it supose to feel like just in general ...
A. 9 March 2007: I believe that women need to experiment and learn about their bodies alone before anyone else can satisfy them. We are complicated creatures when it comes to orgasms and it doesn't happen easily for most of us. It's all very phsychological, not just ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my gf with another guy and I dont know how to tell her!!
Q. I think im addicted to anal sex, and even worse with men! Recently i was wastching some porn and they were having anal sex. I asked my gf if she wanted to try it, she eventually said yes. That night we tried it, lube and everything, all it made ...
A. 9 March 2007: This is awful! How could you continue to do something to her that hurt her so much? That really made me upset to read your post. You need to have more respect for this girl you say you love and think about her needs, not just your own.
As or sleep... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me before, how do I know he won't do it again?
Q. ive been with my boyfreind two years we met while still at school, i love him with all my heart and want to be with him forever. he's cheated on me before how do i know he won't do it again?...
A. 9 March 2007: I guess you never know whether he won't do it again but, if you want to make it work, you have to work on the trust so you believe he won't. I think everyone makes mistakes but I couldn't forgive a cheat: it's just too much to forgive and move on ... (read in full...)
How can i let a friend whose just admitted their feelings towards me down gently without hurting them or ruining our friendship?
Q. how can i let a friend whose just admitted their feelings towards me down gently without hurting them or ruining our friendship?...
A. 9 March 2007: This is a hard one but the only real answer is to be honest. The easiest way to ruin a friendship is to lie: tell them how you feel. If they respect you, they will realise it took a lot to explain it and leave it alone. I know it will be difficult ... (read in full...)
My bf really wants a photo of me in lingerie, I really dont want to incase it gets in the wrong hands!!
Q. my boyfriend wants photos of me in lingerie and he's been asking me since october and i've been putting it off out of discomfort from the whole idea. (i'm actually a little surprised i managed to put it off for so long but ever since he moved to the ...
A. 7 March 2007: I think you need to tell him you're not comfortable with this and not do anything you don't want to. If the picture may find it's way into the wrong hands and you don't want that, don't bother, he will have to wait.
However, I must ask: why are ... (read in full...)
Only been together 4 months and I really dont feel special to him anymore!!
Q. i need some advice. my boyfriend and i have only been together for 4 months. after the first week it started going down hill. before he asked me out he would send me thousands of text messages everyday just telling me he is thinking about me.. and ...
A. 7 March 2007: You need to decide whether you can continue like this. He sounds quite immature and not willing to compromise with the things he wants in his life to make the relationship work. If he cared about you enough, he would make sure he made time for you ... (read in full...)
What STI causes a smelly discharge?
Q. What SDI do u have when you have a smelly discharge ??...
A. 6 March 2007: It could be gonnorhea, clamyddia maybe, I don't really know of any others. You need to get checked out if this is about you asap. Things that get left only get worse.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I just want someone to tell me it can work if we're both committed to it
Q. we've been together for 3 years 4 months. living together for a year and 9 months out of that and supposed to be planing our wedding. thing is he cheated on me from december till february. we lost a baby in november 2005 and well of course it was ...
A. 6 March 2007: I can understand you're hurting right now but the first thing I must ask is what is wise to get pregnant again so soon because you do have many issues with this man? Maybe, if you're not, it would be best to be careful for a while until things calm ... (read in full...)
He says he can't see himself spending the rest of his life with me so we broke up. But now he says he loves me and I love him too! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend I were together for a year, it was true love. About 2 weeks ago he told me he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me, but he needs to be single first. We've been broken up for 2 weeks, talk everyday, are still intimate, ...
A. 5 March 2007: This must be very hard for you, as I can see that you believe you two are supposed to end up together. However, I have problems seeing how he is working out these confusions when he's still seeing you and sleeping with you? When someone needs time ... (read in full...)
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