Can you get pregnant or catch std from having unprotected anal sex?
Q. Can u gt pregnant or catch sti from havin unprotected anal sex? if u can which ones? are they treatable? Please help xxx...
A. 21 January 2007: Go to your doctor or a family planning clinic and get more advice if you need to. If this is too embarrassing, try the library or the net and find out for yourself. It's actually easier to catch aids through anal sex, due to the blood vessells in ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant or catch std from having unprotected anal sex?
Q. Can u gt pregnant or catch sti from havin unprotected anal sex? if u can which ones? are they treatable? Please help xxx...
A. 21 January 2007: As above, you cannot get pregnant from anal sex but you can get all the STD's and not all of them can be cured so be warned! Whatever you do with a guy, make him wear a condom! Your body is too precious not to. ... (read in full...)
My sensible friend has gone wild! She wanks off guys, gives a blowjobs! What's up with her?
Q. My friend is 15, and has recently been going out clubbing and to parties alot. She's been kissing random guys and at a recent party she wanked this lad off and gave him a blow job. She's a very sensible girl, and clever and I don't think she'd do ...
A. 21 January 2007: Lot's of us go through a silly stage in our lives, for some people it's booze or drugs and for others, it's experimenting with guys or girls. She's just experiencing new things but it sounds to me like she's getting a bit ahead of herself.
It's ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't want sex b/c he's "got something" that's none of my business. Then I found a vile text from him to another woman!
Q. Dear Cupid My partner had been tempted to have a fling with a girl he met at the gym and I found a text he was going to send her, which was vile. He swore nothing came of it and never would. It forced me to look at myself and why he may want to ...
A. 19 January 2007: You need to make him sort this out or walk. He is obviously having a rough time at the moment, maybe it's the drugs he's taking, or maybe he's acting up for another reason but you don't have to put up with this. You sound like you've made a massive ... (read in full...)
He with this other 'perfect' girl now---so how do I get over him?
Q. Hi recently my boyfriend dumped me for another girl who is just perfect.. I've tried getting him back but he doesn't care I even once told him how I feel.. That was a mistake.. Enough said. Anyway, I'm so sick of chasing him and even though I love ...
A. 18 January 2007: This must be awful-especially as she seem so perfect to you. But you must move on with your life, you're worth more than this. No guy is worth wasting time being unhappy over, believe me. He may seem happy now but don't you worry, she will end up ... (read in full...)
We can never finish doing things b/c I can't come - what can I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 3 months now. we couldnt be happier and we havent gone all of the way yet but are doing things. but everytime we do, i can never come. or at least, i cant take alot, but because of this we never finish thi...
A. 16 January 2007: This is totally normal. Most women never come during sex and many don't come at all unless they're alone. Work with your partner, relax and find something that works for you. Nobody can give you rules on what makes a women come: nobody knows. Just ... (read in full...)
I love him a lot but now...I need some space! Where did this feeling come from?
Q. Hi everyone. Dont know where to start or how to word this,so here goes. Ive been with my partner now for 18 months.Its been a happy relationship and next month (valentines day) we are due to get engaged.Im happy about that thrilled infact and...
A. 16 January 2007: This sounds like it's all just getting a bit much for you, with the engagement planned and everything. It seems like you love this person and want to be engaged to them but something so big can hit us quite hard and we can start backing off and ... (read in full...)
How should I bring up the subject of my husband visiting porn and porn chat sites, with him?
Q. While looking at the history on the computer i have found quite a lot of porn sites which my husband has been looking at, i dont mind him having a look and we have looked at them together before but what worries me is that some of them were ones ...
A. 16 January 2007: You need to bring this up as soon as possible or it will cause friction and will come out at the wrong time and cause even more problems. You sound quite understanding and seem to accept that this is just something men like to do. However, the sites ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her again?
Q. Hi friends..i have been involved in a relationship for 9 months now with a certain girl..the problem with me is she was always saying she loves me a lot..but soon i came to realise that she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend,she confess and ...
A. 14 January 2007: When someone does something like that to someone, it is always hard to forgive and some people never can. However, the love that was there before doesn't completely go and we find ourselves in a horrible situation: the trust is gone but the love ... (read in full...)
We're both virgins and he couldn't get it in!
Q. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 19, we're both virgins, and we've been waiting to do it for about 6 months, we tried to the other day, but he told me he couldnt get it in. Is this a major problem? What can i do to fix it?...
A. 14 January 2007: You are not alone - not a week passes on this site without someone writing in with this exact problem! It always takes time to learn to do something new, especially when there's all that nervous excitement going on. You both need to relax, get some ... (read in full...)
I'm finding that having sex with my bf is hard to cope with, emotionally. Any advice?
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles Im 17 and have been seeing the most amazing person for about 7.5 months now. Most things about our relationship are good - we both really care about each other and have a perfect balance in the relationship. Recently...
A. 14 January 2007: This is normal and you are just experiencing all these new feelings and emotions that are new to you. That is always going to confuse and mess up and young brain! Sex is something we think about a lot before we do it and anything in life that we do ... (read in full...)
Age Of Innocence
Q. I am of quite a young age, and the thing is i avoid getting fingered. I have been fingered before, and i am willing to give them the favour (hand job/blow job) But for some reason, i avoid getting fingered. All of my friends, are the complete opp...
A. 14 January 2007: If you're not comfortable with doing something then don't do it. Nobody should make you and you shouldn't make yourself by feeling this is not normal. This is normal. You said yourself, you're young, this is obviously not something you're ready for ... (read in full...)
18 and single ...help!
Q. i need some help ppl..i feel so so down at the moment.im the only single 1 out of all my friends..Im 18, i know thats not very old.I have so much bad luck with men. They just dont seem 2 take me seriously. I want a bf so badly but nothing ever works ...
A. 14 January 2007: You should never settle for second best. You just need to chill out and wait for the right guy to come to you. No one likes desperateness in a person and that's what people come across as when they are always looking for their next date. That's no ... (read in full...)
I need ideas for composing naughty notes to my bf-help?
Q. Hi all, i was just wondering if any of you could help me out..i want 2 give my b/f little naughty notes but i have no idea what 2 write?? we go to the same uni but study different things so only really see each other during our breaks.i want him2 ...
A. 14 January 2007: Just tell him what you want to do to him and what you want him to do to you. That always works! Makes sure it's explicit and use dirty words! Say things you wouldn't normally say too, that always gets them going, as they think you're in a really ... (read in full...)
Do I need help? Can't stop myself from looking at porn and I want to stop!
Q. dear cupid, im 17 years old and i keep looking on the internet for porn, i only look at it because there is nothing else to look at. I try to tell myself not to go on it but i just do. Do i need some kind of help? i have been doing this for over a ...
A. 14 January 2007: Please don't worry about this, it is nothing to be ashamed of! Men of all ages like to look at naked women and sex and stuff, it's natural. Many women do too! Don't beat yourself up over this, you will find that, as you get older and start to have ... (read in full...)
If he finds out I cheated with my ex, it will destroy him and out future. What do I do?
Q. Hi, Right what it is, ive been with my bf for 2years and i love him more than anything and yes we are only young but we plan to b forever, and we talk about having children. Bt about 3month ago, i cheated with my Ex, of 3 years, and until then, i ...
A. 14 January 2007: You need to come clean now, before it goes on too far. It will only get harder as time goes on and things like this go away. They eat up inside you and it ruins the relationship anyway. Otherwise, you may keep quiet and someone else might tell him. ... (read in full...)
My friends are upset I am going to date my ex again! What should I do?
Q. Well I just got back together with my ex like a week or so ago. The last time we went out like over a year ago we didn't break any ground we did even make first base. He lives two hours away and so we still haven't seen each other since a year ago ...
A. 13 January 2007: I can really understand why you're back with this guy if you haven't seen him in all that time? But if things go well on the date, you both go as far as you feel you want to. Don't worry about what you think you should be doing, just do what feels ... (read in full...)
Cant get my ex tutor out of my head. What do I do?
Q. Hello I really need some advice on this. Right i had a huge crush on my fourm tutor when i was 15 and im 19 now, nothing happened between us apart from when i looked at him i blushed and so did he and one year i got an valentines card of him and ...
A. 13 January 2007: I think you need to get this guy out of your head, not track him down and make things worse for yourself. In my experience, everyone has someone in their life who they feel they let slip away or they missed out on something, everyone has that ... (read in full...)
Troubled by my inverted nipples!
Q. Hiya, I have inverted nipples and it courses me so much embarrassment that i have never taken my top off, even in front of my long term boyfriend. hes very understanding but i havent even told him why. i really think its time to face this problem, ...
A. 13 January 2007: I think you've probably made this into so much more than it really is over the years. Most people have something about their body that they dislike, it's only human an, as far as deformities go, inverted nipples is minor and quite common.
I kno... (read in full...)
He was jealous of my past, then I learned about his - now I'm jealous! Should I let it go?
Q. Help!!!a wrote in a while back sayin that my boyfriend is really jealous about my past im 18 and have slept with 3 ppl,he then confessed the only reason hes been so jealous is that he lied to me sayin he had only slept with 4ppl when he has actually ...
A. 9 January 2007: It seems like you both need to sit down and talk about this. The lack of communication, or lies, has caused this to be worse than it has to be and this could break you up if you don't sort it now.
Sit down and tell each other everything you want... (read in full...)
Is it healthy for two people who have broken up to remain in the same house?
Q. Is it healthy if two people broke up to still stay in the same place/house?...
A. 9 January 2007: I think the answer to your question is no. I know sometimes, people stay in the same house because of commitments or children but I don't think it's healthy. There are reasons for the split and hanging around is only wasting everyone's time. Both ... (read in full...)
If I could change him, things would be great...
Q. My ex moved in w/ me 5 mos. ago so I could pay for school/living expenses. We don't have sex, but have fooled around twice since then. I know he loves me, but he's almost 20 yrs. older and acts like a kid. If I could change him things would be ...
A. 9 January 2007: I think you answered your own question there: if I could change him, things would be great. The fact is, honey, no matter how much we want to, we cannot change people. They will be who they want to be and we can do nothing about that. They can only ... (read in full...)
I want to move out but my familys says to wait? What should I do?
Q. I'm planning on moving but my family keeps telling me to wait a couple more months.. do you think I should take their advice or just follow my heart!? ...
A. 7 January 2007: You're family only want the best for you so listen to what they have to say. As for following your heart, in my experience, can lead to disaster but if you don't, you always regret it in the end. If it feels right, do it, you can always move back if ... (read in full...)
I told all my friends "I'm NOT a virgin' and I'm so worried they will find out the truth! Any advice?
Q. I've got a huge sex problem. This is going to sound incredibly pathetic and I wish I'd never started this whole thing. I'm 18 and a virgin. Thing is, I lied about it: all my friends think I've been having sex for a while. I know the obvious...
A. 7 January 2007: You need to stop stressing about all this! It doesn't matter what you've told people, they won't find out the truth unless you tell them. Don't have sex with boy mates, it's stupid. You'll not only lose the most special thing to a young woman but ... (read in full...)
When she's at Uni, it feels like she doesn't care about me! What can I do?
Q. i feel like lately me and my girlfriend are not that good, its only when she goes to uni it all messes up, i start this october and will be nearer to her, but while shes there alone she goes out alot and it scares me cause i dont know who shes with ...
A. 7 January 2007: You sound very low about yourself and the relationship right now. You have insecurites, we all do, but you need to sort them out before they ruin the relationship. I know it's hard when they're away and you don't know what they're doing but surely, ... (read in full...)
Some advice for a virgin please!
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend tried to have sex a couple of days ago but i couldnt get it in .... are the any positions that will help us two virgins?...
A. 7 January 2007: You need to both be relaxed and make sure this is what you both want, first of all. Think about contraception as well. Once these things are considered, you can get down to what matters!
One of you on top is probably the best place to start. G... (read in full...)
She is sexually experienced, I wasn't!
Q. I am an 19 year old college student and have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. We are very serious and I love her to death, but I have a problem getting over her past. She is 21 and has had sex with 5 guys between age 18 and 21 (lost her ...
A. 5 January 2007: I understand the way you feel right now. My partner has slept with 100's of women and it kills me, especially when I have to see them around. It can be hard to see how they can do this with people they don't care about and then suddenly be doing ... (read in full...)
I've always been sexually attracted to girls and even kissed on, but have only been out with boys. I'm confused about my sexual orientation!
Q. Hello i have always been sexually attracted to girls but have never thought about it too much as was scared and i thought it was just a fanatasy or something and i didnt know whether it was real or not.I have had long term relationships with boys ...
A. 4 January 2007: Only you can answet his question, I'm afraid. There's no reason why you cannot be attracted to men and women and be bisexual. Some people have phases or obsessions with one person of the same sex, this doesn't make them gay or lesbian. Some people ... (read in full...)
I'm worried to sleep with my boyfriend because I'm worried about how my labia minora's look!!
Q. I need your advice, im 17 and thinking about sleeping with my bf for the first time. the problem is im really embarressed as i have large labia minora's that hang down outside the lips of my vagina. Im really insecure about them and i dont know what ...
A. 4 January 2007: This is one of those things that we think is really horrendous when we look at our own body but in the real world, nobody notices, I'm sure! This guy should love you, if you're going to sleep with him, and he won't notice these things. He's probably ... (read in full...)
How do you flirt without looking desperate?
Q. How do you flirt with a guy without looking desperate? I really like a guy and want to show im interested but im not very experienced and dont want to scare him off because I really like him!! thanks!!...
A. 4 January 2007: I would say don't start anything. If he starts to flirt with you, this is the green light for you to play too! You starting the flirting can look desperate and you don't want him to play along just because he feels he must!
Just make some eye cont... (read in full...)
I feel i've put a leash on him but I want him to be free. What can I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year, we've had a lot of ups and downs, like most relationships. I have an intense fear of losing him, causing me to be almost abnormally jealous at times. So I feel like I put restrictions on him, he doesnt go ...
A. 4 January 2007: I think you need to get some professional help to sort out why you are feeling so down on you and other people. These are your problems: you don't trust him, you think he's going to run away. Maybe it's because people you love have always walked ... (read in full...)
Is it really impossible for men and women to be "just friends"?
Q. i have a question. is it impossible for men and women to be "just friends"? it seems like all the guys i get close to, end up having some sort of feeling for me. then they say that i should have known, because guys and girls cant stay just friends. ...
A. 2 January 2007: I think women often want the men in their lives just to be friends. But I don't believe men will begin a friendship with a woman if they have no attraction or feelings for her. That's just the way men are and why girls who aren't that attractive ... (read in full...)
We got together to talk and it went further. Do I tell my bf or not?
Q. I have a boyfriend which I love. He is the best thing that has happened in my life and I am so happy with him. There is this guy from my past with whom I had a 5 year old relationship. We are best friends and we sometimes fooled around and well I ...
A. 29 December 2006: Most people have someone from their past whom they never get closure from and it's hard to move on. It sounds to me like your ex is this guy and you need to start moving forward and away from him so he doesn't keep coming back and wrecking ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy tells you that he likes you more than he should? Any advice?
Q. What does it mean when a guy tells you that he likes you more than he should? confused by this, it makes no sense, help!...
A. 29 December 2006: Well, it's pretty much what it says on the tin really! He likes you more than a friend but for some reason feels that this is not acceptable. Whether one of you is seeing someone or the circumstances mean he feels this shouldn't happen right now, ... (read in full...)
Is it still wrong to feel used?
Q. is it wrong 2 feel used if you give a blow job and then they leave..?..i duno if it that they got what they want now they can leave.or that they really do need to leave..but is it still wrong 2 feel used?!...
A. 28 December 2006: It is not wrong to feel used, this is something we cannot help feeling when someone treats us this way. I don't really know the details about who he was etc, but it sounds to me like this can be a lesson learnt. Don't give yourself up to people who ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's old boyfriend is always texting and calling her... it drives me nuts!
Q. Does i bother anyone elce when your girls old bf is always texting her or callin her, it really makes me mad! he asked her to get ack with him but she said she wouldnt but i already knew she wouldnt. and she works at a store where her old bf is ...
A. 27 December 2006: You need to chill out and trust her. These are your insecurities and they are going to drive her away if you don't curb them. I know it's hard to see someone you love with an ex but this happens: when they split up, the other person doesn't ... (read in full...)
He padded up but coul d I be pregnant?
Q. PlEASE HELP My boyfriend and i had sex last friday and we did use a condom and he did come. Because we used a condom doesnt that mean that im not pregnant especially as i have come on my period im not late im around the right time maybe a li...
A. 27 December 2006: You've come on your period and you used a condom, there's no reason to believe you could be pregnant. Condoms are not 100% effective but that fact that you're bleeding shows that you probably are not pregnant.
It seems to me that you may be too y... (read in full...)
Can a child have more than one biological father?
Q. Dear Cupid, Is it possible for a chlid to have more than one biological father? I was not even two months pregnant when me and my husband broke up, and I started dating/sleeping with someone else. I slept with this guy for 4 months straight a...
A. 27 December 2006: Only one sperm gets into and fertilises the egg. So, officially, the man who owns this sperm is the baby's 'father'. However, just because his sperm made the baby doesn't mean he's worthy of being a father. Any man can provide a sperm, it takes ... (read in full...)
Why do others recommend a guy have a 'wank' before having sex?
Q. Hi Just a quick random question here... If you are about to have sex for the first time, why do people recommend having a 'wank' before? Is it meant to help keep an erection or something? Thanks!...
A. 19 December 2006: People say this so that you don't get too excited while you are having sex and come too soon! The theory is, if you've already cummed once not long before, you won't be so eager to do it again so soon and you can show her what you're really made of ... (read in full...)
I want her back, but I think she likes somebody else. Help me out please.
Q. I need help please im only young but recently my girlfreind broke up with me beacause i think we were shy with each other and were taking it slowly but i really really want her back but i tghink she likes somebody else but im not sure and i dont ...
A. 14 December 2006: You need to talk to her and ask her whether or not there is someone else she likes. If there is, you can move on, if not you need to find out why she did split up with you and whether it can be sorted.
You admit you're young, go out and enjoy yo... (read in full...)
I like him but my Mom says he is bad news! What should I do now?
Q. i like this guy but my mom and friends say he is bad news, but i still like him...what do i do???...
A. 14 December 2006: Your mum and friends are only looking out for you and I don't see any reason why your mum would say he's no good if this wasn't true (you never know with friends, they may be jealous!) You need to look at why your mum is saying this and whether ... (read in full...)
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