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writes: dear agony aunt . . .there is this boy who i have been having feelings for, for two years now. we only started talkin about 8 - 9 months ago. one of my friends told me that he wont go out with me but he will do things with me. obviously i didnt want that so i tried to forget about him. that was last year. only recently have i found out that he has feelings for me too. but the only problem is, is that he is seeing someone at the moment. he has been with her for 2years now. me and him had planned to sneak around because he has a girlfriend, but then i found out that he was in love with his girlfriend. so i couldnt sneak around with him, it wasnt right. now im really upset. how can i get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): dear writer,As reading your sad letter I have come to an agreement. If I were you I would just keep myslef active in friends, sports, school, etc. Try your hardest not to think about it, as hard as that might be. Always look your best. Get your nails/hair done and always have a hot outfit on and get into shape. But only do it for yourself not hime and youll get a load of confidence on yourself. The more you act like you dont care the more he'll love you. Be as mysterious as possible and this will make you want him more. Thanks for your great time.Much love and best wishes!!Love,Jonathan Negrin
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reader, bonym  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 "......................one of my friends told me that he wont go out with me but he will do things with me."
My dear, stop right there. He wont date you but he will play you, thats what it sounds like to me.
Listen my friend, I can honestly say I know how you feel but do you really want a guy who is not prepared to have you as his girlfriend but is prepared to "mess" around with you?
Wendyg has given you some great advice, you need to go out and meet someone else. Dont pine for a man who is with someone else, it will only get you down and more down and then you will start feeeling even worse.
There are sooooo many more men out there, go and find the right one. xXx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (20 June 2006):
 YOu need to get out and find a SINGLE guy that you can focus your attentions on!! Put him in the past bracket and focus on new things! Join a club, go out with friends, put your energys into other things other than a man and find yourself. Once you are happy with yourself you will glow and others will notice this and you will be more attractive to the opposite sex and more approachable. This guy hasnt got feeling for you all he wanted was a quick fling behind his girlfriends back and you were prepared to do it... if thats the sort of guy he is then you can certainly do so much better. Stop thinking about what could have been, put a line through it and make yourself available to someone else.
take care x
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reader, Eddiezbabygurl67 +, writes (20 June 2006):
 hey chicky, my name is Jess, i used to have the same problem man he was sooo hott and i "loved" (i say that now because i thoughti was in love but i realized it was nothin)him and he was just soo perfect then i realized all he wanted was a piece of me and i was like "dude WTF?" ya know and then later thye were like OH OH HE LIKES U HE LIKES U i was soo happy and then we got to gether then he was like hey i have a girl and we were just like...basically over, i was soo devestated then i started hangin out with friends and like. just doin wutever, it was last summer that iw as completely obsessed with him and it was only by the end of summer that i forgot about hnim and now im happily engaged and yeah things are pretty cool, i hope you can move on because something better is DEFINATLY out there for u chicky, keep ur head up and stay strong, you'll know what to do, and i know u'll be over him if you just get out there and keep ur mind off him i guess..i didnt even realize i was keepin my mind off him lol but yeah hope its all good :) much luvv chica 33 Jess
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