Am I right in thinking my husband might be having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. My husband has been a bit distant from me and he's been more into his job lately. I have this gut feeling that is starting some relationship with a female co-worker of his since he used to just call on a break to say hi and that has stopped and says ...
A. 31 January 2008: I think that you made the right decision.... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me back but wont give up her new guy. I feel like I'm being manipulated, what should I do?
Q. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. It was mostly because I wasn't attentive enough. She started seeing someone else. I stayed away from her. I didn't call her at all. She called me after a month and told me she missed me. She told me she thinks ...
A. 31 January 2008: Let her go. Find someone who is not taken. Whenever she tries to talk to you and pretends to be interested in you, either ignore her, or ask her how her bf is, how long they've been going out, where did they meet, how did she know that she wanted to ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have a low sex drive or is there more to it?
Q. I have a lovely boyfriend for over a year now and we get on great only problem is we don't have sex very often. He is very shy about his body and to be honest i don't know why as he has a lovely lean body. Anyway, he insists that he has a low sex ...
A. 28 January 2008: The best advice I can give in this situation is just to love him.... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, he's a Jehovahs Witness I'm not, will there be any problems?
Q. There is this guy i like at collage, and i have a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too (have been shamelessly flirting with him lol). He is a Johavas Witness and im not. I was wondering about the 'rules' regarding JW's and non JW's dating. As i ...
A. 28 January 2008: Talk to him about it, or research into it. I think things will go fine, so long as neither of you tries to push the other's beliefs on each other. ... (read in full...)
My wife had a boob job, after I said no. I am leaving her!
Q. My wife went and had a boob job and I find it absolutely disgusting. Once she had small, pretty breasts and I loved them just the way they were. she kept asking me if she should get them "done" and I told her no, not only no but, H--L NO!!!!! I ...
A. 28 January 2008: Speaking as a female, um, ahem, it's HER body, NOT yours. Just because you are going out, or married, or whatever, doesn't mean that her body is yours just because you are having sex with it. Thx. ... (read in full...)
We fell in love 5 months ago, now he wants to end it, why?
Q. hi i met a wonderful man 5 months ago and the way we met we both believed it was fate. we clicked straight awy and fell in love he was always making me feel spcial telling me how much he loved me that i was the best ting to ever happen to him. we ...
A. 28 January 2008: I'm sorry this happened to you. It seems like you are a very trusting person, and he took advantage of that. Maybe you should do some investigating, possibly so it would be easier of you to let him go. Was this man married and didn't tell you? ... (read in full...)
He can't keep up with my sexual demands. How do I keep him going for longer?
Q. I know this will be sooo crazy but as a normal, mature, and beautiful 17 year old girl, lately i've been sexual active! but i've been havin sex with my boyfriend( my first and dating for 1 year and 5 months!) but when we do have sex, i always be...
A. 24 January 2008: Penis ring, condom, etc. Desensitizer. but warning read the box. ... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 15 January 2008: Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells? Look up Borderline Personality Disorder. There are some books on it and maybe a few free ones in your local library. It gives the four different types of ways people with this disorder try to manipulate ... (read in full...)
Should I be offended???
Q. i was talking to my friend about this boy who i meet who she knows and she said that he will say i am ugly should i be offended by what she said too me?...
A. 15 January 2008: I think you should tell her that if she likes him that she needs to come out and tell you and stop playing stupid games. ... (read in full...)
My dad works at nights, my mum is an alcoholic and has just been arrested, my bf cheated and I've problems at school. Please advise me.
Q. Hey. I'm going through deep depression right now. I'm already seeing a physcologist right now, but i also need some other ways to help me. I feel like i have too much stress on me. All the time.. School is way too much right now, but i don't want to ...
A. 12 December 2007: I'm glad that you don't want to quit school. Use school as a way to get you out of where you are now. What I mean is, some day you will be going to college, and when you get out of college and find a good job, you can use the money to get you out of ... (read in full...)
My first sexual contact 7 months ago was painful and I am still in immense pain during sex. What can I do?
Q. i am 18 and have been in a relationship for the past 12 months. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend around 7 months ago which was really painful. I still however still cannot have sex without bein in immense pain. This is now becoming an issue in ...
A. 12 December 2007: See a doc.... (read in full...)
Why have I fallen in love with someone that scares me so much??
Q. I can't stop feeling so stupid that I gave my ex a second chance. We met two years ago and I had just gotten out of a relationship and so had he. Many times I told him we should just be friends, but he kept insisting and I finally gave in. We wer...
A. 12 December 2007: Stop beating yourself up. He did that enough already.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I want to be friends with this girl anymore but I'm scared of what she will do.
Q. Hi all, A few months ago i had a one night stand with this guy, and the next weekend when me and all my girly mates were supposed to go out one of them cancelled on us saying she was going to this party. Later on i found out from another friend t...
A. 12 December 2007: If you become that attached to people when you have sex, you shouldn't be having one-night stands. I agree with what most everyone else has said, don't let her use you, and you need to find a new friend. ... (read in full...)
My new man is so much better and I have everything I could need or want...but I still can't get my ex out of my head.
Q. hi, please can u help me? I met a man last year and i finished my 3 year relationship with my ex for him. Anyway my new man treats me better than i could ever wish for and he is everything i will ever need in a man and i love him so much. Howeve...
A. 12 December 2007: I agree. Don't meet up with him. Find other things to occupy your time.... (read in full...)
I hurt someone I love so much...what should I do??
Q. My ex-girlfriend and i were broken up this summer. this was our 3rd break up in 1.5 yrs. We decided to get back together before the summer ended. When we officially got back together, i went to Europe just after and had kissed 2 girls in that ...
A. 12 December 2007: Tell her that you are sorry for what you did and sorry for lying to her all this time. Don't make excuses for what you did- ie "I was in a weak moment." And next time when you are in a relationship with someone, try to avoid temptation altogether. ... (read in full...)
I am falling in love but don't want to ruin my best friendship.
Q. I have somewhat of a problem; I think I'm falling for my gf but I don't know how to tell her. She's one year older than me which means that after next semester she's off to college and probably out of town. We've been close friends all of highschool ...
A. 12 December 2007: Just tell her already!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to give up porn...and I would choose her but I refuse to pretend to be something I'm not.
Q. Before anyone chips in and says that I don't understand this from the female perspective, please hear me out - because I have read posts, and heard views from the female side - and believe me they are pretty mixed. My girlfriend and I have been tog...
A. 12 December 2007: What do you mean you are a "normal" bloke? I get so tired of generalizations. Not every man is the same and not every woman is the same. Not every man looks at porn. Also, I wouldn't go for your argument either-it sounds like you are comparing women ... (read in full...)
He wont go down on me until we are married but we aren't even engaged.
Q. I have been with my man for a little over 2 years and he won't go down on me, he has NEVER gone down on me or anyone else for that matter. He says he'll do it when we are married (not that we are even engaged yet!) but sometimes he teases me and ...
A. 12 December 2007: Some guys aren't into that. Idk if he's joking or not. Ask him.... (read in full...)
Should I have let my older boyfriend fondle me? It made me unconfortable, but was I just being childish?
Q. I'm a female. I have a boyfriend called Ricky (not real name)he is 24 and i am 16 (i know big age gap but he and i get along really good). We ain't made out yet but he wants to. I went to rick's house when his parents were out somewhere and we did...
A. 11 December 2007: Be true to thine ownself.... (read in full...)
I have fallen for another man!
Q. I'm 22 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. After spending the last year working away, and hardly ever seeing him we moved in together in July. I thought things were ok until I started having feelings for a work collegue. It was just a c...
A. 11 December 2007: Maybe try to fix some things in the relationship with him, but if nothing works, then just try to let him down as easily as possible. ... (read in full...)
3 yrs of dating, and suddenly he hangs up the phone on me. Why?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost 3 years, but here's the problem. He went to his country which is Haiti, we talked a couple of times over the phone, but all of a sudden after Thanksgiving I have never been able to speak with him again. When I ...
A. 11 December 2007: Maybe he found another woman.
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She is teasting me. Does she like me?
Q. there is a girl in my class and sits in front of me and i like her. i wnat you tell me if she likes me or not. she says she hates me but my friends say she likes me. she always smiles and laughs and play mean and act weird when i'm around. she ...
A. 11 December 2007: This happened to one of my friends when he was younger. This girl acted all mean to him, but in the end, admitted that she liked him.... (read in full...)
I don't feel normal and am depressed. How can I get back to normality?
Q. ok, i feel like im giving in for asking for help here, but i need some help.Sorry if its long.Im fed up with lying to myself,pretending im fine, but im not, so heres where my problem starts... I was with my ex for nearly 2 years, he split with me ...
A. 11 December 2007: Sounds like you were embittered by what this guy did to you, so you figured relationships aren't worth it and started playing with people's heads like he played with yours. It also sounds like there are some people out there who are still playing ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to occasionally use porn?
Q. I met my wife 10 years and married for 2. I love deeply and think she is one of the most attractive women that I have ever seen. Occasionally I watch porn.By occasionally I mean I may not watch it for a few months then I may watch it say 3 or 4 tim...
A. 11 December 2007: Porn can be scary to some women, as some guys have become addicted to it, and how do they know that their husband won't be one of the ones who does? This guy she's been talking to, she should know his intentions and stop talking to him altogether. I ... (read in full...)
Why do I think no-one is good enough?
Q. Recently i've been through a break-up. And everytime i meet a new guy i compare him to my ex. So i dont know the good guys from the bad. Why is this happening? Why can i just get over my ex? And when i compare any guy to him, i think none of them ...
A. 11 December 2007: You are very much in love. ... (read in full...)
He treats me more like a slave than an equal partner. What am I to do?
Q. I have moved from one country to another for my former fiance(well,now my husband)just a year ago. Before I moved, I made a good living and had a nice job etc and was very happy. Moving to this country, language became a barrier for me and so thus I ...
A. 11 December 2007: Ditch this loser once you move back to the states. But truthfully, I don't think that you will be moving back to the states any time soon. I think he is just filling your head with lies.... (read in full...)
He's a cheapskate, but am I making a big deal out of his stereotyping people?
Q. I've been dating this guy that I really like for the past month and half. There are two things about him that I would change if I could. He is a bit cheap, he will tell me to pay for stuff when we go out and I don't mind doing it but I do mind him ...
A. 11 December 2007: I don't like when my bf uses certain words either, like spic, etc etc. It's not that you don't know him better by now, it's that you don't like him saying those things, period. What? Only a good person that you know is not racist can say those ... (read in full...)
Do I dump him or keep him?
Q. Do I dump him or keep him? I have this guy i have been dating for 8months now. In two weeks is christmas. Him and me have fun and enjoy cuddling. A two months ago, his ex came back and i didnt like it. we fought alot, and i won his heart. She never ...
A. 11 December 2007: Try to rekindle your flame with your bf that you are currently going out with. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend upset me when she was drunk... do I forgive and forget?
Q. At the weekend i went away on holiday with my girlfriend and her family. I went out clubbing with her and her brothers. When we got back to the hotel it all got a bit strange. waiting in the lobby for her brothers to get back (making sure the...
A. 11 December 2007: Talk. Sometimes people are being truthful when they are drunk. Ask her if it trully bugs her that you talk about your mom. Did she hate your mom when she was living? Did she have conflicts with her? Or do you talk about your mom during inappropriate ... (read in full...)
I don't want anything heavy. What's the advice?
Q. Hey met a girl off the internet twice now she lives a while away but i love her and she loves me genuinely just when i get train home from meeting her it hurts real bad and i miss her like crazy the thing is i wana go travelling in couple of years ...
A. 11 December 2007: I think that you did the right thing. It would've been too fast to have sex with her when you first met her if you want something real. Ask her if she wants something real.... (read in full...)
How do I overcome being sexually frustrated whilst trying to build up his confidence?
Q. I am married to a computer geek who is afraid of intimacy (it's hard for him to tell 'i love you', he'd rather fill up my gas tank.) He also developed a sexual disfunction a few months into our relationship, retarded ejaculation, and because of it ...
A. 11 December 2007: Relationships are not all about sex, but I don't see an excuse for him not telling you the words, "I love you." He really needs to work on that. ... (read in full...)
I didn't find swinging as thrilling as he did, and I don't want a bloke touching me. How do I get to understand why he likes it?
Q. ok i will be as detailed as i can, been with my partner 20 years in the summer he told me had been with a few prostitutes he only told me coz he had fallen for one!!!! anyway i said i will try and forgive him we have talked and talked it turns out ...
A. 11 December 2007: I wouldn't want some other guy touching me either!!!!... (read in full...)
I'm still slim and attractive but he'd rather look at other women. Should I leave and find someone who is interested in me?
Q. I am worried about my sex life with hubby, we have a difficult sex life anyway mainly due to him masturbating since being a boy, he is now 48 and we have been married for 29 years, I only recently found this out, and he was watching porn behind my ...
A. 11 December 2007: This behavior is unacceptable. You should leave. No one is perfect, and some people slip a few times, but this behavior is persistant. I'm sure you could find someone else who thinks you're the sex! ... (read in full...)
Should I invite her to the party?
Q. My ex split with me at the beginning of November. She wanted freedom at uni but she still cares about me. We text every now and then as friends but I really miss her and love her. I don't know how she feels. Anyway, it's my birthday tomorrow...
A. 11 December 2007: Just invite her.... (read in full...)
Does he hate me? Did I do something wrong?
Q. There is a guy I met this summer, he was just so amazing. At first he annoyed me with several of his childish gestures. But I dealt with it. We appologized to eachother then became friends, sorta. The last night at the camp, he opened up to me a ...
A. 11 December 2007: I think he felt embarrassed in front of you and is trying to avoid you.... (read in full...)
She wants out. Can I do anything?
Q. i am a lesbian who has been with my partner for 12yrs.i have cheated on my wife a few times several years ago and told her everything a couple of years ago.during all of this i realized how nieve and weak i was. i took people for face value. i ...
A. 11 December 2007: Just tell her how you feel, and if she still wants to leave, that is her choice. Even if you could stall her leaving for a bit, if she really wants to leave, she eventually will.... (read in full...)
Last night I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. I have a terrible dilemma--I cheated on my husband last night and I don't know if I should tell him or not. We have been together for over seven years (married two), I met him when I was 18 and he's the only guy that I had ever slept with or even ...
A. 11 December 2007: After Christmas. ... (read in full...)
Is he a mental case or just naturally violent?
Q. My b/f of 2 yrs seems to disagree with almost all my opinions. He talks loudly and emotionally throwing hands when reacting to my opinions. This really upsets me, i feel intimidated because i do not like it at all. Sometimes I choose to keep my ...
A. 11 December 2007: He sounds very aggressive. I'd let him go. You don't want to hold things in for years and then wind up going through a rather nasty divorce.... (read in full...)
It wasn't my first time, but it was horrible. Is something wrong with me?
Q. I had sex last night and I didn't enjoy it the least bit. It wasn't my first time. But for some reason it was boring and horrible. It didn't hurt of feel bad, it just didn't feel good. Is there something wrong with me?...
A. 11 December 2007: No, sounds like this person was just sucky.... (read in full...)
My wife masturbates in her sleep - is this normal?
Q. Hi over the past several weeks i have been woken up by my wife masterbating in her sleep. she say she wasnst when i question her about it is this normal or is she wanting somthing...
A. 11 December 2007: This is normal. If she wanted something she would tell you. Maybe the reason that she denies it is that she doesn't remember doing it.... (read in full...)
Does she have a disease?
Q. hello, I'm 13 years old; I think this girls likes me.At school she acts funny and cute. But on aim she like goes all crazy when she talks to me like if i dont talk she keeps saying my name over and over and if i answer shes like i gotta pee im like ...
A. 11 December 2007: No, she just likes annoying you.... (read in full...)
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