I'm scared that my friends will hate me if I date him.
Q. i am really in love with this guy, and he really loves me. but we're not together because i am scared. he split up with his girlfriend (one of my best friends) a few months ago, and i am scared all my other friends will judge me if we start seeing ...
A. 28 April 2009: Who's more important, this guy, or your best friend? ... (read in full...)
How can I come out to my parents?
Q. i first realised i was gay when i was 17. i had a brother who was gay as well who lived in london but died of aids in 1995. which made it difficult for me to come out to my parents, subsequently i have never come out to them as they blamed ...
A. 28 April 2009: Just admit it to them, maybe take time to introduce your partner later, because giving them two sets of news at the same time might be too much for them. ... (read in full...)
I think my Dad is cheating, what should I do?
Q. I think my dad having an affair. I was doing my parents taxes and found a receipt of condoms, my parents don’t use them. I know it can be a lot things but I have had many suspicions! I’ve always been a straight forward person so I confronted him. He ...
A. 28 April 2009: I agree with satin. Talk to your dad again about it. If he refuses to say anything, tell your mom about it. I'm not your mom, but I know that whether I was sick or not, I'd want to know if my husband was cheating on me.... (read in full...)
He is one of the coolest guys in school, does he like me?
Q. how do you know if a 10th grade boy likes a 7th grade girl?for example,he usually smiles in a very sweet way at her,looks with dreamy eyes at her,brushes his arm against hers(this happened twice).he is one of the hottest guys in school and you ...
A. 28 April 2009: I'm sorry to spoil the magic for you, but there is no one of knowing unless you ask the person. ... (read in full...)
School friends pressuring me to have sex!
Q. Just began a relationship with my boyfriend to weeks ago. We were mucking around and he lay on top of me. I was fine with it when it happened. Afterwards, I started thinking that he might get the wrong idea. :S Everyone at school is trying to find ...
A. 28 April 2009: Do what feels best for you. This is one reason why I never dated anyone at school. People like to get in other people's business. Ugh.
Best wishes.
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Boyfriend has jealousy issues
Q. Hello, everybody! Most of my friends are guys, ages 14-17 (I'm 15) and my bf (14) seems to dislike it. I don't think it's that he doesn't trust me--he doesn't trust THEM. My ex and I are very close, and I know of a few of my friends that just bro...
A. 27 April 2009: He has to admit he has a problem before he can overcome it. The question is though, do you thrive on that jealousy?... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my 10 year old step-sister
Q. Lately, I have been having really troubling thoughts. I have come to terms with the fact that I have fallen in love with my 10 year old step sister (I'm 18). I just don't know what to do anymore. Before anyone asks or starts accusing, I am n...
A. 27 April 2009: I think you should fight this. If she is someone you truly love, you will realize that she is too young for you. She may act more mature, complex, etc. etc., but she is still too young for you. Children grow up fast, when they are forced to grow up ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her to marry me?
Q. I'm in love with this girl--we're worlds apart (I'm more sheltered and grew up in a caring environment, she was abused as a kid and used to cut her wrists....) but I love her and she has admitted to loving me back. We've been taking a break, but we ...
A. 27 April 2009: If she says no, just continue being her friend, or bf. Be patient. A lot of men aren't.... (read in full...)
Every time we have an argument he throws the past at me...
Q. My boyfriend keeps bring up the past, what should I do?? Well I cheated on him one time and I know it was wrong but he told me he forgave me and he made me promise I wouldn't do it any more but it's making me mad beacuse every time we get into...
A. 27 April 2009: When he brings it up, ask him if this is still bugging him, and that if it is, he needs to talk to you about it, instead of using it in arguments against you. ... (read in full...)
Help me figure this guy out!
Q. What the heck is this guy doing and what does he want from me?? Is he just playing games? Does he miss me? What is his deal? A quick bit of background info: I was seeing this guy from October last year to middle of January this year. Then we ki...
A. 27 April 2009: One of my friends had a bf like this. He didn't call her for three months and then called her one day expecting everything to be the way it was before.
Just ignore this guy.... (read in full...)
Does the guy always have to make date plans?
Q. Should the guy always be making the move to make plans when dating someone or is it the girls responsibility too? I feel like sometimes I'm always the one asking if she wants to hang out and I don't want to come across as needing her. ...
A. 27 April 2009: Don't worry. Sometimes the girl takes more initiative, sometimes she doesn't. Maybe she doesn't want to appear "desperate," or at least this is how society has told her not to appear.... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair and ignoring my problems
Q. I am 51yrs my husband is 45yrs, I have a son from my prev marriage. My husband is a Christian, I am a free thinker. My husband is having a affair with a Malay girl age 26 yrs, I found out, he says sorry to me and swear not to see her again. O...
A. 27 April 2009: I think that you should divorce him. You are online now, look up information about divorce and what the laws are concerning where you live. ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I still love the father of my children
Q. I am married; we seperated for about 4 months and I went back with him because I wanted my kids to be with there father. I am 19 yrs old with 2 lil girls I mean my husband isn’t a bad person he just is very jealous. He don’t want me to have any ...
A. 27 April 2009: It is confusing, isn't it? Cos on the one hand, it is like oh this person must really care about me if they are always so jealous, etc., but on the other hand, it is annoying and it's like man I wish this person would just back off.
You could ge... (read in full...)
Is fighting a sort of cancer in a relationship?
Q. Does fighting cause a sort of cancer in a relationship? I mean i know that ever relationship has its fighting but if it happens enough than can it ruin everything? Me n my gf have had 4 fights this week n it seems we cant go an entire week without ...
A. 27 April 2009: What are you having fights over? ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him for another guy, but I'm afraid of what he'll do
Q. I have been dating this guy for a year. He was nice at first but he had gotten meaner over the months. He makes fun of me, says negative things about me and make me feel bad all the time. I have tried breaking up with him several times. I even ...
A. 27 April 2009: You don't "love" him. You pity him. There is a difference. Let him go. Cut him off completely. Ignore his calls. Ignore his texts. Just let him go. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with one boy, but starting to like another.
Q. Hi, i have a guy friend i've known for 4 years. I hang out with him almost every day. Lately i haven't been able to stop thinking about him. Is it possible that i'm starting to like him? But i'm desperately in love with other boy, could it still be ...
A. 27 April 2009: You can like/love two people at the same time. It is up to you who to choose. At least with your best friend you have a head start in that you already know him somewhat.
Choose wisely. But don't stress over it. You are young and there will ple... (read in full...)
Insecure over the casual sex she had before me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now and have a great relationship, a month or two into our relationship, we were walking down the street and this guy grabbed her from behind in a friendly sort of way. When he left, she casually ...
A. 27 April 2009: This is normal thinking.
Talk to her about this, ask her what makes you so special.... (read in full...)
She's really independent -- should I worry that she doesn't want to hang with me everyday?
Q. When dating a girl who is really independant and likes doing her own thing how do you go about dating her? She likes to hang with her friends and do things on her own. She is a freshman in college I'm a junior in college. Is this just what young ...
A. 27 April 2009: LOL. Will she grow out of it?
Why would she grow out of a personality trait of outgoingness? Don't worry about it. Yes, just let her do her thing.
Now if she's out clubbing, I'd be worried. ... (read in full...)
We fight for stupid reasons and she hit me
Q. Hi there my girlfriend hit me one night. We had an argue about a blanket she didn’t want to share that with me and I told her why and keep asking her she hit me. Before that me and her we had some drinks. What happened is she punch me in my chest ...
A. 27 April 2009: Hmmmm. You may have hit her too hard. Or maybe she can't take it when someone fights back. Either way, if she hit you out of malice you don't want to be with someone like that. If you feel your heart is telling you to do so, tell her you... (read in full...)
The guy I've been crushing on has a g/f at another school!
Q. Hey I really need some advice (I am 15 by the way), I am really upset cause I just found out that the guy I have been crushing on FOREVER has a girlfriend at another school, like a serious one and their MySpace’s are all devoted to each other and ...
A. 27 April 2009: You've got to let him go.
Or take the other route and keep checking his myspace until they are broken up? I say this, because even if you are trying to get over him, sometimes it will be rough and you will be wondering if he is single, and you ... (read in full...)
I love her I think she's still the girl
Q. i love her,but she loves the girl until now,,,,,dont get mistaken,yes same sex,same girl,also in a serious way,what can i do,please help me,give some advice, thanks ...
A. 27 April 2009: Hmmm. It's difficult for me to understand what you are saying. If this girl that you like loves another girl, you may not have a chance if she is homosexual. But you say she loves the girl until now, do you mean she stopped loving her?... (read in full...)
Broke up and I just don't know what to do..
Q. Okay... Sorry this is so long. The boy i posted about on 30th March, he broke up with me about three weeks ago, and when i asked why i got this reply: ------------------------------------------------------- Him: riiiighht.. look tas...
A. 27 April 2009: Sorry this happened to you. I'm not telling you to get over this, those are stupid words, but (and I can't believe this is coming from me, because it sounds optimistic) look at this as an opportunity. You know, I know you're from another country ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be like this
Q. Please, Help me. I'm a teenage girl and haven't gotten my period yet. I hate wearing underwear and pants with zippers, buckles and flys around the waist. I'm just very sensitive around my stomache and "down there". Is there any thing I can do to ...
A. 23 April 2009: You are very young. Don't worry. If you don't get your period by the time that you are sixteen, then it is time to worry. Then is the time to go to the doctor.... (read in full...)
I told my teacher I have a crush on him, what's gonna happen?
Q. I really have a huge crush on my teacher... I've had it for a while and it was bothering me a lot. I really wanted to tell him. So last night I wrote a letter about how much I admire him and that I couldn't keep it in anymore... and I was stupid and ...
A. 23 April 2009: I am trying to become a teacher. This is what will happen, your teacher will tell his supervisor so that his supervisor will know what's going on, in case you try to lie or something and claim that the teacher likes you or has made an advance at ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't love me but wants to do right by the children
Q. Hi I am the mother of 7 children ranging from the ages of 30 to 8 years old. About 14 years ago I met my husband. I was a devout christian woman with 4 children then. I abstained from a relationship for about 10 years. Then I found myself going in...
A. 23 April 2009: Let him go. If the children observe the behaviors that he exhibits while being married to you and not in love with you, they will think that these behaviors are typical of a "normal" marriage and possibly spread it to their own marriages when they ... (read in full...)
I don't know what things would be like if we DID start dating again.
Q. I dated this girl for a while, and I fell in love with her. She also fell in love with me, but she later dumped me because she hated how hurt I always was and she hated the pressure that my depression added to the relationship. It's been about tw...
A. 23 April 2009: I don't think you should get back with her. She wasn't there for you when you were going through your problems. A relationship is a two-way street. Both people need to be there for each other. And what if your depression comes back and she leaves ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with another guy... Twice.
Q. My Girlfriend slept with another guy, Twice. the thing is we started dating about seven and then we started arguing over petty things and they grew bigger. she suggested we went on a break then a month later suggested we get back together...
A. 23 April 2009: You know...when a girl says she wants a break, she doesn't always mean she wants to be broken up. I've taken space from my man sometimes, but we only wanted time away from each other, not time away from each other and doing other people.
She p... (read in full...)
His brother pays more attention to me than my b/f!
Q. Okay... me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months almost 5 in May, and he wont hold my hand, kiss me, tell me he loves me, or anything. The most he will do is hug me. His twin brother gives me waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more attention then my bf ...
A. 23 April 2009: Talk to him about this. It sounds really weird. Talk to your bf about this, I mean. Twins are usually close, so chances are he knows his bro might have a crush on you. As to why he is giving you less attention? Yeah, you need to talk to him about ... (read in full...)
Signs are pointing toward him breaking up with me but he deniesit
Q. i was told that my boyfriend stoped caring about me 4 months ago by a guy that works with my boyfriend and he is going to breack up with me and move away in aug and he is going to let me know a month ahead and i ask him and he says no. then 3 weeks ...
A. 23 April 2009: Wait, is your bf the father of his ex's child, or is his ex's bf the father of her child?
Idk if he's planning on dumping you or not, but I wouldn't be with a guy that was joking about dumping me to some girl.
It shows immaturity.
A... (read in full...)
Backoff..I'm in a relationship
Q. how do you get someone you had an affair with to backoff because you are in a relationship??...
A. 20 April 2009: Stop giving them mixed signals, if you are.... (read in full...)
Signs are pointing toward him breaking up with me but he deniesit
Q. i was told that my boyfriend stoped caring about me 4 months ago by a guy that works with my boyfriend and he is going to breack up with me and move away in aug and he is going to let me know a month ahead and i ask him and he says no. then 3 weeks ...
A. 20 April 2009: He shouldn't be making such jokes with his ex. Jokes like that will only lead his ex on. Why is he trying to lead her on?
Break up with him first, before he does it to you. Clearly his ex is more important. I think he wanted to break up with you... (read in full...)
So in love why do I feel this way?
Q. hey people short and quick i am in love wit my boyfriend who we havent been going out for that long but we were talkin for a long time. ive had plenty or girlfriends and boyfriends in the past but none of them made me feel as good as he does... but ...
A. 20 April 2009: Just focus on what you have now and don't worry about it. You both fear the same thing, so you can both comfort each other. ... (read in full...)
Sex drive has flatlined wedding coming up
Q. I’m getting married in a few months, and my sex drive has flat-lined. I always thought I had a very high sex drive, but now I’m starting to worry. I’ve been with my girl for about a year and a half now. Things have been going great, we used t...
A. 20 April 2009: Talk to her about all that you are going through, and that, even though you see her as desirable, you just don't feel like sex lately.
Hopefully she will be understanding. Just be fair-if she ever gets this way be as understanding to her as you w... (read in full...)
Loving a cheater
Q. Dear Cupid im pregnant and love my boyfriend very much but the thing is he is cheating on me, when i ask him about it he always want to put the blame on other people, for instance he would blame me accusing me of listening to my brother's girlfr...
A. 20 April 2009: If you are sure that he cheated on you, leave him.
You might have to go through a bunch of legal mumbo jumbo, but it will be worth it in the end. ... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him to contact me or do I call him to arrange something?
Q. I went out with this guy on Friday night and we got along really well, the date went on for 5 hours (no kiss at the end, just a hug - I wasn't too comfortable just yet). At the end he asked me on a second date for Saturday night but I already had ...
A. 20 April 2009: Yeah, call him so that you two can arrange something.... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my "friend with benefits" and I'm so depressed...
Q. I'm in a friends with benefits relationship with someone I dated for a few months. We see each about once a week to hang out and have sex. I've become secretly very attached to him. I can't eat, I can't sleep and I feel so sad most of the time ...
A. 20 April 2009: This is called codependency.
No matter what anyone says on this site, your response will be "I can't."
It is up to you to find the strength to get out of this cycle. Talk to someone.... (read in full...)
I just need some honest opinions on age differences.
Q. I just need some honest opinions on age differences. What would you think of a 17 year old girl going out with a 29 year old guy? Right/wrong/doesn't matter? I need some insight to this, thank you....
A. 20 April 2009: I think it's fine. Just be true to yourself. Don't do anything that you wouldn't want to do.
And chances are, if he is pressuring you when he knows that you don't want to, he is not for you.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for being mad at him?
Q. well me and him have been together for 2 weeks. i reallllllllllllly like him. everything was perfect. but he started talking to my ex best friend i trusted him so didnt say anything. but she asked him "am i hot" and he said yes but dont tell j...
A. 20 April 2009: No. You did the right thing. It sounds like he just wants to be with any good-looking female, because after you left him he is still talking to the other girl.
... (read in full...)
I can't avoid him, I can't have him and I can't let anybody have him other than me...
Q. Dear agony aunt, I am 26 years old... and I can't think like it. My best friend is a guy(D). We love each other and it's quite deep and we are physically intimate. We can't marry cuz we both belong to different religions. So the heart of the ...
A. 20 April 2009: Let him go. Maybe become friends with someone who is part of your religion? Idk if you can or not, depending on your religion.... (read in full...)
I think he only wants to meet me for sex... but I'm NOT ready!
Q. Hey, I need help asap. A guy I have known for about 6 years now, we are very good friends has asked me to meet him, I am really scared because I think he wants to have sex and I'm not ready, specially not with him, he's told me he just wants to ...
A. 20 April 2009: The key is where are you meeting him at? I hope that you are not meeting him at a hotel/motel room or alone at his place or something like that.
If you are, bring a friend with you. If he acts offended later on, say, "Well you said that you want... (read in full...)
How come I would choose my ex over anyone?
Q. How come I would choose my ex over anyone? Like if he wanted to come back... well he has a girlfriend and he tried getting back with me but I didn't really tell him how I felt so now he's back to her and he said he'll always love me, he just ...
A. 20 April 2009: "I try so hard to get over him but I just can't do it." Rome wasn't built in a day! This might take longer than you want it to. Some people we probably never get over really. Just don't spend all of your time thinking about him. Go out and do fun ... (read in full...)
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