How can I change myself so that he desires more intimacy with me?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in a relationship with a man in his late 40's and I am in my late 20's. The question is about our sex life. He does not do much foreplay, when we do have sex and outside of this act, casual hugging and kissing is just not his cup...
A. 9 August 2009: Talk to him about these issues. If he refuses to talk with you about them, obviously he is not the one for you, and find a stress-free time to do it in, so he's not likely to get easily frustrated and dismiss what you are saying.... (read in full...)
I'm trying so hard to be the bigger person but he's being a jerk!
Q. I'm so confused and angry!! My boyfriend of six months and I broke up recently (his decision), and I have been a mess. I am dying to get back with him but I am holding onto my dignity and I am not contacting him or saying mean things about him or ...
A. 7 August 2009: Why do the reasons for his feelings matter anymore to you? Keep being the bigger person. Let him show his ass. You are doing the right thing. Maybe write about it some. Draw some funny pictures of him being stupid. ... (read in full...)
He stills flirts but he has a girlfriend now.. so why?
Q. I have know this guy for about 7 years. He’s a great guy, down to earth with A good sense of humor. He knows that I like him and have feeling for him. We saw each other off and on through out those years with out any commitment which was ok wit...
A. 7 August 2009: Yes, you should just stop talking to him. You asked this question, because you have morals, which is more than what some people have. Congrats. ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend who's using weed as an escape?
Q. please someone help me. my best friend is depressed and he is mentally addicted to weed. he explains to me that its the only way he can escape. he knows its stupid and he knows its ruining his life. hes 17. and i just know that its a cry for help...
A. 2 August 2009: He is not solving his problems. He is basically "zoning out." Sometimes depression can be caused by chemical imbalances, but it can also be caused by other things going on, as in actual reasons, actual problems.
Ask him what he is trying to escap... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is obsessed with licking my toes!
Q. my boyfriend has this weird obsession with licking my toes and it kinda creeps me out when he licks my toes but im afraid that if i don't let him lick my toes he'll break up with me and go out with some other girl who will let him lick their toes ...
A. 2 August 2009: What a silly fear! Sounds like something one of my professors once said, "Oh if they don't get it at home, they will get it somewhere else."
Listen, if he does this to you, as in cheats on you if you don't let him lick your toes, he was not wort... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't satisfy me sexually
Q. Ive been dating my bf for 8 mths now, we have a great connection.We are in our mid to late 20s with previous relationship experiences prior to us dating. We have reached level of intimacy, though I'm hitting a stale mate at a point in which makes ...
A. 2 August 2009: Communicate your desires to him. If he is not willing to compromise, let him go. It *sounds* wrong, but it would probably be best for you both if he is not willing to compromise.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend goes out clubbing/drinking with friends and disappears. Am I wrong to wonder what she's doing and why I don't' hear from her?
Q. Sorry in advance for the length of this, I want to provide as much background as I can to help set the mood for my question. I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 10 months and I'm concerned that something is wrong. We don't live together ...
A. 2 August 2009: Why are there so many questions like this from people in England? It seems like there is a lot of partying going on down there. Well, first off, I can see alittle of her point, and I can see a little of your point. I don't always tell my husband ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband and go it alone, or should I stay and risk being unhappy for the rest of my life?
Q. thinking of leaving my husband of 7 years. He is a kind caring consdierate person who would do anything for anyone but there are a few issues i just cannot live with. they are : he hits and verbally abuses our children calling them stupid, he swears ...
A. 1 August 2009: Let him go. Yes you should leave him. You will probably get a lot of responses to this question, because the answer is so obvious. Not trying to offend you, just saying.... (read in full...)
Jealous over walpaper?
Q. i came home from college today. i asked my mom to drop me off mu boyfriends house. he was excited to see me as i was to sew him. when we did see each other, we hugged and what not. not soon after, he found my cellphone wallpaper was of zac efron. i ...
A. 1 August 2009: Well, if it would make you jealous, just change your paper?... (read in full...)
Was it the scene or was is something more?
Q. Hi everyone, I just wanted to ask something that may seem simple to some people but is confusing me. I have always identified as bisexual and have had 2 serious relationships with women. I am currently single. I am involved in a play at the moment w...
A. 1 August 2009: I think he likes you. Be careful though. ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with the enemy.
Q. Sex with an enemy. Well sort off, I have fallen out with an ex friend after he ruined my chances of promotion by copying my proposal and sending it in at the same presentation to the board. I have always liked his wife and she used to really like me ...
A. 1 August 2009: Why did you sleep with her if you didn't want him to know? Did you want like a secret revenge? I thought people who wanted revenge rubbed it in their enemies faces. What you did was a horrible thing to do, but I think that you should tell him. His ... (read in full...)
Unloved and Unhappy, what am I to do?
Q. HELP I am really unhappy. I have a BF who doesnt seem to love me. He never says it or hugs or does anything with me. When he wants sex he just asked for it. We have 3 kids and 1 on the way. I tried telling him over and over again how i feel. He d...
A. 1 August 2009: It's not about getting through his head. He is sending you all sorts of clues that he doesn't care about how you feel. I think you should leave him. But on the flipside of the coin, if he doesn't really love you, why is he hanging out with you and... (read in full...)
Lost love and found?
Q. Hi I have never done this before, but am in turmoil. I was reading some other chats on here and decided to tell my story. I am totally in love with my childhood sweetheart. He has been married about 15 years now. I am so ashamed about it...
A. 1 August 2009: Let it go. He is married. I know it's hard, but let it go. Your situation seems tougher than what I am going through now, but trust me, let the feelings fade. Avoid him at all costs, get a new best friend, because compromising yourself is not an ... (read in full...)
The programs on tv just make me want a baby!
Q. Heyy :) this isn't a major problem but just something i'm curious about. i've been watching the programmes 'underage and pregnant' and i imagine they were broadcast to try and stop teens from becoming parents and to stop/be more careful when hav...
A. 1 August 2009: Listen, if I leave you with anything I want to leave you with this. Thoughts are neither good nor bad. Don't worry about whether your feelings are normal or abnormal. You sound like you've got a good head on you. Not trying to lecture you, but just ... (read in full...)
We love each other but I feel hes afraid
Q. When My ex-boyfriend - (who is very emotional in a quiet way) - gets upset he throws himself into extreme work at the office and at home. It is his way of protecting himself when he is upset. I have seen him 4 times in the past 3 weeks and we have ...
A. 30 July 2009: Let him pursue you this time. Hope it works out for the best.... (read in full...)
My ex asked my best friend out! Was he trying to make me jelious?
Q. please help on this one ok i had a bf then we ended it before school ended about a week after that he asked my best friend out and but it only lasted a week but he knew that i had feelings 4 him was he trying to make me jelious?...
A. 30 July 2009: Most likely. It only lasted a week!... (read in full...)
Is he just not into me or shy?
Q. I have known this guy for a couple of months and we are constantly flirting with each other. We don't really see each other that often because he has a job in a town 2 hours away from where we both live and I don't know when he comes up. I can tell ...
A. 30 July 2009: Maybe he thinks that because you are hot, you are already taken. If you don't want to make the first move, just give him some time. ... (read in full...)
The programs on tv just make me want a baby!
Q. Heyy :) this isn't a major problem but just something i'm curious about. i've been watching the programmes 'underage and pregnant' and i imagine they were broadcast to try and stop teens from becoming parents and to stop/be more careful when hav...
A. 30 July 2009: The shows on tv actually seem to glamorize being pregnant at a young age. Years ago, it was seen as a disgrace.
I think the middle ground is healthy.
It doesn't seem normal. Maybe you should try playing with one of your baby dolls as in keep... (read in full...)
This fight has been going on for 3 days now, what should I do?
Q. Hello, Im in a fight with my girlfriend for three days now. It started with something minor, She was rude and I told her that hurt me, but then she started accusing me of manipulating behaviour in our fights. She claims that im trying to make h...
A. 29 July 2009: Let her go. She sounds like she is emotionally abusive. You had a right to tell her your feelings. How would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot? ... (read in full...)
Does my Piano teacher like me?
Q. I'm 16 and my piano teacher is 28 and I've been noticing a lot of weird things that he does around me and doesn't do around his other female students and I am really confused. Does he like me? (I know dating him would be dangerous and I don't want ...
A. 28 July 2009: Watch him closely. If you decide to keep him as your piano teacher keep a recorder on you to record all that he says to you. ... (read in full...)
Please help, missing pieces!
Q. I'ved dated this guy for seven years, he is the first and last person I've ever have to asked if I need or wanted something however, he has cheated twice that I know over and we've been seperated for over six months and I've began to sleep with some ...
A. 28 July 2009: What do you mean, "my ex the cheater beginning to come home"? is he military?... (read in full...)
How can I prove that I won't do the things he did?
Q. A girl that i met on a online dating site, who originally approached me online first likes me a lot and I MEAN A LOT, probably the most a girl has ever liked me, and i like her as a person and her looks. Ive seen hundreds of pics of her and she has ...
A. 28 July 2009: 1) No, you have to wait. 2) Yes, tell her she needs to move on if she isn't happy and not to be afraid. 3) No, you can't prove anything to her. She has to be willing to trust you. ... (read in full...)
Why not let me see the message? Why lie?
Q. Im am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 27. Before we got together he used to cheat on a girl he was seeing but changed when we got together. We have been together for just under a year and he hs never cheated on me and we have a really good ...
A. 28 July 2009: Tell him to get lost. If you have issues with trust you need someone who is open with you, even if you didn't have those issues to begin with. ... (read in full...)
Why no reply to my birthday text?
Q. an ex spends loads of time playing little games to get my attention, she cheated on me i walked away. It was hard but i never gave her any trouble. she suddenly thinks im seeing someone else (but im not)we eneded 18 month ago. Anyway i aim to be ...
A. 28 July 2009: Maybe she's done trying to get your attention.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gave up prostitution for me but I think she's gone back to it! What should I do?
Q. She use to walk on the streets and her mates did it to. but when we started dating she said she would stop and she did and it was fine until she ask me to sleep with her but i didnt want to and we had the fight about how she was giving up everything ...
A. 28 July 2009: Tested for aids, man. Tested for all sorts of diseases. You were the one who weren't comfortable sleeping with her, even after she supposedly quit. Tell her to get tested. ... (read in full...)
My annoying boyfriend follows me around, help, please!
Q. I just got a boyfriend but am having second thoughts, he is a really nice guy but just a little to nice. he follows me around a lot and sends me texts every night saying how much he loves me. i really like him but he can be annoying at times. i dont ...
A. 27 July 2009: I think it's really sweet too. I wish my husband did that! LOL but I know how it is to be with someone who is a little clingy. Just tell him how much you love him, but that sometimes you need your space. ... (read in full...)
My annoying boyfriend follows me around, help, please!
Q. I just got a boyfriend but am having second thoughts, he is a really nice guy but just a little to nice. he follows me around a lot and sends me texts every night saying how much he loves me. i really like him but he can be annoying at times. i dont ...
A. 27 July 2009: Tell him how you are feeling, but don't go flip flopping with him. If you tell him how you are feeling, and he changes, don't be all oh now I miss it. You will probably confuse him. ... (read in full...)
He seems selfish sometimes! I'm not sure he appreciates me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for several months now and we were friends for a couple years before we started our relationship. We have a lot of fun and spend a lot of time together. However, I find that he can be really selfish sometimes and I am ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hmmmm. He does feel his wants and needs are just as important as yours which is why he left earlier, and didn't submit his needs to yours. He probably felt you could meet your own needs by yourself. ... (read in full...)
Would a good friend stay? Or leave him alone?
Q. I'm having problems with my married guy friend. I have known him for a really long time, way before he got married or even met his wife. We dated initially but realized we were better off as friends. He recently found out that his wife cheated on ...
A. 27 July 2009: Leave him alone. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends mum tried it on with me! Should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. I'm in a rather uncomfortable situation and I don't have a clue how to handle it at all! It concerns my girlfriend's mother. She's what I can only describe as a "sex pest". I don't know any other way of describing her behaviour. When I first started ...
A. 27 July 2009: Go to the police with those pics. Tell your gf what is going on. Stop going to your gf's house. ... (read in full...)
Intenet Dating: How long is too long to meet after emails and phone calls?
Q. I corresponded with someone I met online almost everyday for about three weeks. We live less than two hours away from one another. He asked to call me about a month ago. We have talked on the phone 4 times. He knows my schedule and the weekends ...
A. 27 July 2009: Let him go. Find someone else. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gave up prostitution for me but I think she's gone back to it! What should I do?
Q. She use to walk on the streets and her mates did it to. but when we started dating she said she would stop and she did and it was fine until she ask me to sleep with her but i didnt want to and we had the fight about how she was giving up everything ...
A. 27 July 2009: She needs to get tested. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to sound mean. She doesn't exersice and shes putting on weight
Q. ok. i dont want this to sound horrible but it probably will. Im very very into fitness and working out. i have a very good body and feel its really important to stay in shape not just for myself but for my partner. my girlfriend however, with...
A. 27 July 2009: Where do you get all of this time to exercise? Do you have a job yourself, or is she supporting you?... (read in full...)
Do I tell my wife I haven't really ended the affair?
Q. I have recently separated from my wife after I had an affair, I told my wife that I was no longer seeing the other woman, to save her any further upset, but I am still seeing her and want to be with her, my wife sends me malicious emails, texts and ...
A. 27 July 2009: 1) Tell her about the other woman.
2) Get a divorce since you obviously don't love her anymore, or let the other woman go.
3) Change your number or just chalk it up to something you deserve. I know you want to get past this and on with your lif... (read in full...)
He whispered another woman's name during sex
Q. My husband had been sleeping soundly for several hours when I came to bed late. He initiated sex and during the course of having sex he whispered another woman's name. I think he was having an erotic dream. I didn't recognize the name, when I a...
A. 27 July 2009: Question: He initiated sex when he was asleep? ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to marry me if he treats me so badly?
Q. I have been dating a man for about a year and a half. He has had a very tough year due to unemployment and has become very discouraged in just about every aspect of his Life. In order to try and provide what I can for solidarity to the relations...
A. 27 July 2009: He wants to marry you, because he knows that only you will take his sh**, and no one else will. You are proving him right by staying with him. Dump him. ... (read in full...)
I unconditional love worth waiting for?
Q. My love life is beyond complicated. My last serious relationship lasted roughly 2-3 yrs, the last year of which I lived with the guy. After a year of living together he asked me to move out. I can't explain how awful I felt, having to recoll...
A. 27 July 2009: I think that you could do better. ... (read in full...)
He won't see his daughter when shes menstruates!
Q. Hi there, I have been divorced for some years now and since my daughter started her period, her Dad has refused to see her the weekends she menstruates. I was wondering if any Father's or other Mother's have had the same experience so so...
A. 27 July 2009: I think he needs to see a psychologist. There is no way to get it "stopped." Even with birth control pills that limit the amount of times during the year that she gets it, they still don't stop it.
Maybe he just doesn't want to buy her pads. ... (read in full...)
How can I change myself so that he desires more intimacy with me?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in a relationship with a man in his late 40's and I am in my late 20's. The question is about our sex life. He does not do much foreplay, when we do have sex and outside of this act, casual hugging and kissing is just not his cup...
A. 27 July 2009: I don't think that you need to change yourself. If you are keeping yourself clean I don't see why he is acting this way. ... (read in full...)
I have been cheated on before and now I think my new boyfriend is cheating too!
Q. Boyfriend trouble..... Not sure what to do/think....................? I have known this guy that I am now seeing for almost a year. We just recently started dating almost 2 weeks now. I am 28 years old and have a 9 year old daughter. He is ...
A. 27 July 2009: With bands, it's a weird thing, because any groupy can claim to be doing stuff with him. But how did she get his number? I think that you should meet her in person and ask her to give you intimate details about him, and then you will know or not ... (read in full...)
I'm dying to talk to my girlfriend but her mother has taken her phone away!
Q. its been like a week since i talked to my girlfriend and i'm already dieing to talk to her, her mother took away her phone from her and "i have no idea when she would get it back or if she would get it back" so what should i do ??...
A. 27 July 2009: What did your gf do that was so bad?... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that I'm telling the truth?
Q. I have been talking to this guy on and off for 6 months now. Recently, he called me from another number, and when I asked who it was, he told me to guess. Not realizing it was him, I called him by someone elses name and now he won't drop it. He ...
A. 27 July 2009: I agree with the first poster. He needs to trust you, and if he can't do that, and would rather argue with you and treat you this way, let him go. Let the jerk be right. ... (read in full...)
I'm dying to talk to my girlfriend but her mother has taken her phone away!
Q. its been like a week since i talked to my girlfriend and i'm already dieing to talk to her, her mother took away her phone from her and "i have no idea when she would get it back or if she would get it back" so what should i do ??...
A. 27 July 2009: Do you have your own computer? Get a mic, and connect it to the computer, and talk to her on yahoo im, or some other im. ... (read in full...)
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