Should I trust her or not? I don't know if a cheater can change...
Q. hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it w...
A. 15 March 2008: Exactly...."I can not get so close to you and so attached to you, if you are going to stay with him." ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her or not? I don't know if a cheater can change...
Q. hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it w...
A. 15 March 2008: Don't go. I think you brought up a very good point about having a great time and then her possibly going back to her bf. ... (read in full...)
35 and single, what do I do?
Q. I'm 35 and not married. I feel like Bridget Jones. I'm tall, slim, attractive with blond hair and intelligent - have an amazing job, well paid and lots of friends. I have no idea what the secret to finding a man and having a long lasting ...
A. 15 March 2008: I think the online thing is a good idea. Good luck! And I don't believe that you need some stupid Miranda complex to hook a man!!!!... (read in full...)
First he want's me to move in, then he changes his mind.
Q. Im 43 and I have been dating a guy of 40 for the last 4 moths. We have both been through painful divorces and we got close very quickly. He said he thought I was an amazing person and he was happy with me. He said in the near future he would like me ...
A. 14 March 2008: Mirror him, okay? If he acts not interested in you, don't act interested in him. If he does act interested in you, act interested back! This will give him a chance to see how he is making you feel when he says stupid stuff like "I don't think we ... (read in full...)
Is she telling the truth, I don't know what to think!
Q. my girlfriend has been cheating on me with a coworker. the coworker emailed me about it and told me so. i asked her and she denied it saying that she and the coworker didnt get along so the email was the coworkers way of fucking with her life. i ...
A. 14 March 2008: I could be wrong, (cos she could be putting on a facade and really be cheating), but it seems to me like she is not. Talk to her more, and just wait for his proof. If it never shows up, he's just an ass. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a man to fall in love with the woman he loses his virginity to?
Q. Can men fall in love with the woman they lose their vigrinity to? I've seen it happen with women at a young age, my boyfriend was a virgin and after we started having sex he completely changed and started saying i love you and buying me things. He's ...
A. 14 March 2008: That's not love. That's viewing you as property. That's why it's best to wait for a long time before having sex, otherwise some people can get like that (viewing you as property.) I say the property thing, because he has no right to get mad at you ... (read in full...)
Are boys more mature in their 20's and are they commited or are they just like boys of 17 and 18?
Q. I find myself attracted to men in their 20's mainly 21 and 22 year olds, I'm 18... do I stand a chance. I feel they are more mature than boys my age, boys my age are just interested in shagging the fittest girl in the year, are they more mature in ...
A. 14 March 2008: Men don't fully mature until they are 45. I heard that from somewhere, can't remember where. But some don't even mature at or after that age. I will say this, my bf of seven months (almost eight) who is 25 may be immature and act stupid sometimes... (read in full...)
Feeling broken... but I'm only 14.
Q. Hi, I am only 14, but I just got out of a "thing/relationship" that lasted nine months (that's a long time for a middle school relationship) on and off, and was very complicated. We got involved back in the summer (2007), and during the summer ...
A. 14 March 2008: I think what you had was an obsession, but who knows? It might've been true love. You probably just regret the decision you made because you miss him, but I think that you made the RIGHT decision. It all boils down to maturity. You were simply way ... (read in full...)
35 and single, what do I do?
Q. I'm 35 and not married. I feel like Bridget Jones. I'm tall, slim, attractive with blond hair and intelligent - have an amazing job, well paid and lots of friends. I have no idea what the secret to finding a man and having a long lasting ...
A. 14 March 2008: You are not a failure for not being married yet. This is the modern times, not the 1950's!!! And even then I wouldn't call you a failure if you were this age and single back then.
Go for the ones that seem really into you, but make sure to dista... (read in full...)
She wants to have a break but I don't know how to play this...
Q. Hey guy's... I've been with my partner for 10 months and after a hard morning texting her we decided to meet after work and talk about things as the past 4 or 5 weeks have been tough, we've argued quite a lot, she's been changing her job as she's...
A. 14 March 2008: Wait for her to contact you.
Or you could just ask her what she wants. What are her conditions regarding this space???
You could call her and ask her. ... (read in full...)
My girls mate, looks after her more than I do! Should I be worried?
Q. This isnt a real big problem but i would like to kno other peoples advice on it. ok well my girlfriend has this guy friend they have known eachother for years. no problem there right. well i found out that he has had the biggest crush on her all the ...
A. 14 March 2008: I see problems in the future with this guy. And I see problems for her in letting him go in the future, since he did all those nice things for her. After all, she wouldn't want to have let him do all those nice things for her, and then dismissed ... (read in full...)
I need some advice about my ex boyfriend.
Q. My ex boyfriend who I still love and well am still in love with, I can't stop thinking bout him. He recently was with this girl who he claimed HE was in love with but yet he was still sleeping with me at this time. I think we slept together almost ...
A. 14 March 2008: You were not in the wrong, and you've got to stop blaming yourself for things that were not your fault. The ass ruined his own life by seeing two women at one time, and thinking he would not get burned. ... (read in full...)
How do I get past negative feelings to bring those butterflies back?
Q. My ex (24) broke it off with me (27) after 3 1/2 years together, mostly because we got stuck in a rut, and somewhere along the line I stopped doing things that made her get those butterflies and feel special (as can happen in any long relationship). ...
A. 14 March 2008: I think that yall should work it out. Mind you that it's up to both of you whether you want to be together again or not. Treat her special again, but don't try too hard, otherwise you might end up getting frustrated, feeling as if you are giving ... (read in full...)
How can I marry someone and have the thought that my wife has slept with someone else and I haven't?
Q. Hello I dated a girl for about 4 months. We fell in love quickly. We always saw each other before our relationship. She's my best friend's sister and is a year and a half older than me. We took each others virginity. We broke up because of some ...
A. 14 March 2008: I suggest you let this go or don't marry her. If you are not able to let this go, this WILL affect your married life, and end up making her feel like she did something wrong, when she didn't. ... (read in full...)
I am still in love with them but I can never say it cos I don't want us to fall out completely and because it all started as a secret relationship...
Q. I was in a secret relationship (for various reasons) with my best friend for about 6 months solidly, then on and off for another year or so. This was 5 years ago now. We've fallen out (as friends) because of it but we have never talked about it ...
A. 14 March 2008: Oh, I believe there is someone you can talk to about it: God. Whether it was with a female or a male, He is there to help us sort out our frustrations, not to condemn us for our preferences as some people would probably have us to think. ... (read in full...)
Sexual orientated texts from a married woman
Q. Would you consider it appropriate for a married woman to send text messages that have a sexual theme to a single man? There's a woman at my workplace who I foolishly gave my number to so she could send me, at the time, an innocent media message. Now ...
A. 14 March 2008: Hell no you are not being a prude!!! Tell her doing this makes you uncomfortable and that you want her to stop right now. If she protests or acts like you are weird, threaten to tell her husband. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm going to be a virgin forever and if I do have sex, he'll just laugh at me!
Q. im 18 a female, i feel im going to be a virgin for ages, i dont want to get to 20 and still be a virgin, although i do value being a virgin but im just frightened i will be one for a long time and when i finally do have sex the bloke will laugh at ...
A. 14 March 2008: You know, I had a friend in school who was a virgin. This guy taunted her, saying, "Are you going to be a virgin for the rest of your life?" And later on in her mind she was saying "Yes, if I LIVE TO BE 21."
Point of the story is this-you... (read in full...)
Is a younger man taboo?
Q. I met my son-in-laws brother a year ago, he is 16 years younger than me, he is the most intelligent, loving, amazing man I have ever met, he said age is nothing but a number, and just because my daughter and his brother are married does not make he ...
A. 14 March 2008: Probably for some people it is, but who cares what other people think? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is female and we don't get along.. help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years, and we've lived together for 2. We met in college, and his best friend whom he spent almost every day in college with is a female. I was actually sort of friends with her at first, but as soon as him ...
A. 14 March 2008: You're bf's not stupid. He can see very well what is going on and he is playing with fire. Maybe he just likes the attention or the fact that this makes you jealous (him spending more time with her) or both. Whatever the case, if he really loved you ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm being persecuted by him and I haven't done anything wrong.
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend about six months, sometimes his behaviour has been erratic and we split up just before christmas when he told me I was crowding him. He later apologised for this and said it wasn't true, he was just feeling under pr...
A. 14 March 2008: This is how you can tell that a guy IS doing something wrong. You find out he lied to you, you confront him about it, and he ACTS LIKE YOU ARE THE ONE WHO DID SOMETHING WRONG!!!!!!! He tries to flip the script on you!!!! And then you are so busy ... (read in full...)
A Will, or Marriage--or BOTH?
Q. I am living with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We are in our forties; both divorced, no little ones to deal with... footloose and fancy free. I would like commitment; however, he's got cold feet. I feel at our age and no worries of havin...
A. 14 March 2008: I think that since he is afraid of commitment a set of wills would do just fine. ... (read in full...)
Need help, what should I do????
Q. hi, I need advise about my boyfriend again. Well if you answered my other question you would of known. I finshed my boyfriend about 2 weeks ago, then got back with him again a week ago. When we first went out we didnt go farer than a kiss,I would ne...
A. 14 March 2008: Doesn't the act of sex mean anything to young people today besides "getting off?"... (read in full...)
We're sleeping together but he won't kiss me!!!
Q. hey everyone. I am seeing this guy and although we are having a sexual relationship he will not kiss me! I don't have bad breath he just says it does nothing for him which I think is a little selfish as I love it! this bothers me. Is there anyone ...
A. 14 March 2008: There was a question on here before similar to yours. Idk if you are the same person, but most people on here said things to the nature of "Don't worry about it, everyone has their likes and dislikes." ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 14 March 2008: Yw. Basically you are just going to have to deal with this aspect of his personality (if that's what it is.) You have tried time and time again to get him to change, but he hasn't, so obviously he's not going to. ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 14 March 2008: He's not leaving you for her. Sorry, but he's not. He's just stringing you along.... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 14 March 2008: Maybe he doesn't feel mushy all the time, or maybe he just wants his space, though that wouldn't explain him treating you badly. Sometimes people with health problems act badly towards others, grouchy, etc. I'm not saying it's an excuse, just saying ... (read in full...)
I thought her religious upbringing frowned upon premarital sex, but her almost inexistent desires continued to be a problem after our marriage!!
Q. I have been married now for almost 3 years. Prior to marriage, we dated for a few years and during that time there was a gradual decline in our sexual relationship. I spoke to my wife about this and she said it was a moral issue since we were not ...
A. 13 March 2008: Sex isn't love, love isn't sex. She shouldn't have to have sex with you, just because you want her too.......
BUT, if she is NOT having sex with you, she should still be at least honest with you, and she is NOT being honest with you when she says... (read in full...)
At times he is nice, at time he calls me nasty names. What do you think?
Q. I am seeing guy who is like two people sometimes he is very nice and then later he calls me a s___ and a w____ and says that I am fooling around which I am not. Is there any hope of him calming down and being always nice?...
A. 13 March 2008: Leave this insecure person. ... (read in full...)
Should I believe her or my friends about her flirting? I'm confused.
Q. i dated a girl five yrs ago 2003 to be precise before i went to school. i got back to find out she still likes me: she always smiles when she sees me, always wants to be round me, i asked her if she loves me she says yes, if she wants me back, she ...
A. 13 March 2008: Drop the idea. It's one thing if a few people are just jealous of her and spreading rumors, but if nearly everyone is saying the same thing, I'd say just to be on the safe side-drop the idea. ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her or not? I don't know if a cheater can change...
Q. hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it w...
A. 13 March 2008: I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater, because I've cheated before and I don't do it anymore. Here's the thing: ask her if she is serious about you. If she says that she is, ask her to break up with this guy. If she doesn't or gives ... (read in full...)
Advice for my pregnant twin
Q. Dear Cupid and All readers; This is a question about my twin sister, not about I. I'm 17 and my twin sister is pregnant. I'm so excited to be an Auntie, but I'm also scared for her. Her boyfriend is only 16 and he's already an alcoholic. He...
A. 13 March 2008: I think it's best if he does leave. Her child doesn't need such people in his/her life like that. I'm sure yall will do fine. Just talk to her and comfort her fears. I'm sure everything will work out alright in the end. Counseling could help as ... (read in full...)
The mother of my child wants to date a drug dealer - help!
Q. my ex says she has no feelings for me and there is a new guy texting and calling her who is a drug dealer. my ex is asking how i would react if she started seeing him. as we have a 3yr old son together. obviously im not happy to say the least. what ...
A. 13 March 2008: Tape record her admitting to going out with a drug dealer, and get custody of the three year old. If she is feeling bad about herself she should be getting counseling, not being stupid. ... (read in full...)
Dealing with a wounded ego after I bested my BF
Q. I think my BF is being really pissy over something I didn't think was a big deal. We were talking the other day about sports we no longer take part in but used to enjoy and I mentioned that I used to do judo in college and was pretty good, even ...
A. 13 March 2008: Agree to another rematch and best him again. It is not your job to boost his ego. He acted like you didn't know what you were doing, and now you are proving him wrong. Just be yourself. Don't be someone else to please your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 13 March 2008: Don't worry about accomodating other people's feelings. You can only control yours. ... (read in full...)
Guy number 1 versus guy number 2
Q. sorry but this is a very complicated, weird, and long question. so i just got out of a six year relationship with guy#1. he was a wonderful guy, caring, although i was very much in love with him, it somewhat fizzled in the end. conversations ra...
A. 13 March 2008: Yes, I think that you should move on to someone else. Neither of these guys are right for you, and if guy number two really loved you, eventually he'd stop punishing you for something you were already sorry for, but he hasn't stopped this, so yes, ... (read in full...)
How common is it for a guy to give his girlfriend oral sex?
Q. How common is it for a guy to give his girlfriend oral sex? My girlfriend says she wants it but I don't know if I'm ready. Any advice would help. Thanks....
A. 13 March 2008: If you are just not ready then don't do it. ... (read in full...)
Does he genuinely love me?
Q. How can I tell if my boyfriend is in love with me and doesn't love his ex anymore?...
A. 13 March 2008: Notice his habits. Does he hang around her as often as he used to? Is he still talking to her as much as he used to? Does he talk to her more than to you?... (read in full...)
Since my BF told me he was bi, we did not have sex as much as before. What is happening?
Q. My boyfriend told me that he was bi, which is okay with me. We have had fun exploring with it. But lately he doesn't always want to have sex with me or go down on me as much anymore. He does other things to please me. He says because he is angry. He ...
A. 13 March 2008: I think that there is something mentally off about him. I don't think that this is because he is gay, but because he says that doing things with a woman makes him angry. Was he abused in the past by a woman? If so, maybe he needs some counseling. ... (read in full...)
Please suggets whether to carry relationship with her or not????
Q. I am a 26 year old guy in love with a 27 year old girl and she shows that she loves me more.. but her nature is very practical and professional as she can do anything for her job and whenever we spend emotional time she immediately switches to ...
A. 13 March 2008: Find someone else. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should ask her out?
Q. I'm a 14 year old boy and she is 13 do you think it would be the wrong age to go out with her, I met this girl last year we met through a friend and we have seen each other about 2 times but we always talk on msn and bebo. She said stuff like "love ...
A. 13 March 2008: Ask her out already!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes my hair combed down over half my face...
Q. I have pretty shoulder length dark brown hair and my boyfriend wants me to have it combed down over half my face all the time because he thinks it's sexy. Is this normal?...
A. 13 March 2008: I see nothing wrong with this, but don't wear it like that ALL the time, just to please him, k? ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep bleeding? Is this normal?
Q. PLEASE HELP I lost my virginity last monday, with hardly any blood after more like a spot, anyway since last thursday I've been bleeding after sex and on saturday and last night (weds) I bled during sex, it's blood like from a period, but no pain ...
A. 13 March 2008: Maybe your period came on.... (read in full...)
I don't know if he likes me or not because he can't say hi to me online.
Q. I was out with my family and another family there was this guy I met. He asked me to give him my msn so I did. We talk online but sometimes he hardly says hi. He asked me out 5 or 6 times I was really busy and had a lot of things I had to take care ...
A. 13 March 2008: Get a webcam. Ask him to get one. Then get on there so you know that it is him face to face. Then ask him if he likes you or not. ... (read in full...)
How much longer do I wait? I don't want to nag, but I don't want to let it go either.
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for 6 mos now. He has soul custody of 3 kids. They sometimes go and see their mom, but she is not very frequent. I love them all dearly, and we get along quite well, but there just isn't enough time for he and I ...
A. 13 March 2008: Sweetie he just doesn't have time for you. Tell him you've tried with him over and over again and that you are moving on. Go find someone who does have time for you. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 13 March 2008: Well you get someone who understands you more than other people, just doesn't accept you as much as you'd like him to accept you, because he doesn't show you love. At least that's what I gather from it.
You say he doesn't judge you for what you... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think that people should be able to do fine regardless of whether they are single or not, but acting like they wouldn't miss you is another thing....so you want to keep him despite his not giving you affection. Well if it's not affection you're ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 12 March 2008: Maybe he makes it clear that it won't affect him if you were to split up, because he is trying to say that just because he is disabled doesn't mean that he needs someone. Anyways, if he is not affectionate just leave him. And I mean affectionate in ... (read in full...)
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