I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 20 March 2008: Someone was right on here. Your mom tried to emotionally blackmail you by saying that if you pressed charges-she would kill herself. She needs to stop being so dependent on him. ... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 19 March 2008: I agree with lazyguy. Keep your children away from both your mom and your step dad, and if you have your mom come over around your children, monitor them while she is there. She is mentally off/ill. ... (read in full...)
My ex has always cheated and now I like his best friend! Should I go for it?
Q. well okay so i was with this guy we were together 4 years and we have a lil girl together but the whole time we were together he cheated on me this last time it was with my sister yes my sister but thats a whole nother subject ok so i have this ...
A. 19 March 2008: If yall aren't going out anymore, I say yes, go for it. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him how "insensitive" he is?
Q. Sometimes my boyfriend can be, in my opinion, very insensitive about my feelings. When i try to organize something fun and he sees a negative side about the idea he will voice his opinion without giving thought that i may have put alot of effort ...
A. 19 March 2008: You have a right to be upset about whatever you want to be upset about. If he cannot see this and you are constantly trying to accomodate his feelings(making sure he doesn't argue with you about what you have a right to be upset about), but he is ... (read in full...)
She thinks my parents are evil! Do I deserve someone better?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke off our engagement because my parents and her could not get along. Both my parents and my now ex-girlfriend are strong headed and would not try to find a common ground. She felt my parents were evil and every time ...
A. 19 March 2008: Why do your parents think that you deserve someone better? What are the negative qualities that they list about her?... (read in full...)
When to have sex with a new partner? Do you wait until marriage?
Q. Hi. I know it depends on a lot of factors, but can someone give some sort of a general timeline on the appropriate time to wait before having sex with a new partner? I was in a long term relationship for several years all of which I thought we ...
A. 19 March 2008: I'd wait until marriage, but if you don't want to wait till then, then at least wait 2-3 months before, so he doesn't think you're a slut. ... (read in full...)
I think I made myself look real bad here and need some advice...
Q. I think I made myself look real bad here and need some advice... A week ago my friend was at a party and made out with a girl, while he was dating someone else. Well my girlfriend is bestfriends with the girl he's dating, so she asked me if ...
A. 19 March 2008: Just forget about conflicting values and be honest next time. ... (read in full...)
The silent type...
Q. I'm a very quiet person. I love knowledge and music but I have a terrible time meeting others and leading a conversation with women. It seems to only be this way until I get to know someone but it is incredibly difficult for me to get to that point! ...
A. 19 March 2008: I am shy myself, but I've been in situations where I liked someone, and after getting over my initial shyness, I made myself be near them. You might get to a point where you seem interested in someone so much, that you make yourself get over your ... (read in full...)
I like this girl but she seems to hate me!
Q. hello, I like this girl but she seems to hate me... and I'm a shy person so I don't talk to her much but from what I have said to her and what she said back I think she hates me. Can anyone give me advice to maybe try to get her to like me.. or ...
A. 19 March 2008: You can't get anyone to like you. But look at it this way, maybe she is just pretending to hate you. I had a friend who this girl was always very mean to him, and then one day out of the blue, she was all, "I love/like you!!!!" It shocked him ... (read in full...)
Can anyone, please that understands the difficulty of giving up someone you care and feel like you love them so much help me?
Q. I know a lot of people face this problem on these sites, being infatuated by your teacher and it does get dull to help but I am stuck beyond stuck and like the rest need your help. I have tried to get through this on my own for years, and it's ...
A. 19 March 2008: This takes time, but in the meantime just write about your feelings. Maybe give her a present the last day of class to show her how much she means to you. ... (read in full...)
Am I taking what he said the wrong way?
Q. My daughter's Dad and I is starting to get along better, again. We've been spending time a lot together and he's been making dinner for me, you know... quality time. Starting all over. There's a couple times last week when I just showed up t...
A. 19 March 2008: When you say "starting over again" do you mean starting a relationship over again? Maybe he just wants to know when someone is coming over. ... (read in full...)
What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot???
Q. What do lads think about girls/girlfriend watching porn, a lot!? I just want to know if ye have a problem with girls watching porn. Is it a turn off? I would really appreciate your comments!!!...
A. 19 March 2008: Depends on who you are with. Is it a judgmental religious man, or one who is into porn himself? ... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll hate me? Some opinion's please.
Q. Hey everyone. For reason's which are not important; I was house bound because of severe depression. Thus to help the time pass I went online. I ended up talking to this guy. I'd heard people say lie about your age, what you look like, where you live ...
A. 19 March 2008: I think you finally telling him the truth will push him away. I think that you need to tell him the truth, but be prepared for him to sign off. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 19 year old boy to like a 15 year old girl?
Q. hey am a 19 year old boy and a really like a 15 year old girl, but me friends and stuff say its wrong. what should I do?...
A. 19 March 2008: Become her friend. They wouldn't say it was wrong if you were 22 and she was 18, now would they??? And it's still a four year difference!!!!! Become her friend, don't pressure her for sex, get to know her some. You might find out that yall have so ... (read in full...)
What does a break really mean?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years. The relationship was going down hill due to us arguing all the time about stupid things. Two weeks ago she said she wanted a break. She told me she wants to do her own thing and concertrate on ...
A. 18 March 2008: Sometimes I want space, but a break is something else. A break means that she wants to be single, or see other people. Btw, you are free to see other people during this time too.... (read in full...)
Could his smoking weed be contributing to the fact I'm not falling pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 years now we have always had unprotected sex. I have never been pregnant. He always smokes weed, do you think that has something to do with it?...
A. 17 March 2008: Smoking anything KILLS SPERM. Get it checked.... (read in full...)
Got caught masturbating!!!!
Q. I love to masterbate and love porn. I've been in a relationship for 2 year with my girlfriend and things are great but I feel she does not trust me because I masturbate. I tell her it is just a fantasy, I'm being truthful with her, we make love 4 to ...
A. 17 March 2008: I'm glad you were honest with her, but come on man, you don't need to look up porn to masturbate. Be a little more creative. You can imagine pretty girls in your head!... (read in full...)
Follow up: BF Ego Problem After I Bested Him.
Q. Hi! I'm the girl who asked a week ago about whether I should allow my BF a re-match after I beat him in a wrestling challenge. (March 13: "Ego problem after I bested my BF"). He still insists I got lucky when I pinned him--even tho' I know jud...
A. 17 March 2008: I think you need someone new. Someone who views women as strong, and that everyone is a different person.... (read in full...)
Every time me and my boyfriend go out I always think he's looking at other girls, when I ask him he says he's not and that am just to paranoid.
Q. hi can you help me Every time me and my boyfriend go out I always think he's looking at other girls, when I ask him he says he's not and that am just to paranoid!!!! I don't know if it's just me as I have had my little boy I don't feel as braw as ...
A. 17 March 2008: Just watch the direction of his eyes. You'll know if he's looking or not.
Btw, if he is looking at females, there are better ways to look at them besides oogling them and being disrespectful to you and to them!!!!!!!
Things like side-ways g... (read in full...)
Should I stop all communication with her?
Q. I'm a happily married man who loves his wife of 3 years a lot. Just last month, she bore me a beautiful son too. I started at a new job in January 2007. Later that year, this lady colleague, A, joined. She was quite attractive looking and I wa...
A. 17 March 2008: I think that you cannot stay friends because you tried that in the beginning. I think you should stop all communication with her.
Idk who you think you are telling her things are irrational when you are having the exact same feelings. I think yo... (read in full...)
When is the right time to tell her my proper age?
Q. I have recently met a very attractive lady that I really like (and from the look of things, she is very much into me as well). The only problem is that she is 5 years older than me. I don't have a problem with the age difference because i have dated ...
A. 17 March 2008: I'd give it six months. But I agree with the other poster on here, don't lie about it if she asks. If she asks you could just say, "I don't really feel comfortable discussing my age, but I am legal." lol... (read in full...)
My friend touched my girlfriend in his sleep, what do I do?
Q. i dont know what to do.we were at a party and drank alot.my best friend couldnt drive home and i said he could sleep over.he shared the bed with me and my girlfriend.in his sleep he touched my gf and kissed her neck and the touched her vagina.he ...
A. 17 March 2008: I don't get why she was in the middle to begin with. Tell him what he did, because maybe he knew, maybe he didn't, but whether he knew or not, he can most certainly tell her that he is very sorry for what he did. ... (read in full...)
Want to have sex, but worried about how I'll look with no clothes on!
Q. hiya, well i'm 14 and i have this most amazing boyfriend, i love him to bits. The thing is we muck about talking about sex and stuff and i no he actually does want to have sex with me as he has told me and he keeps hinting it. I also think i want t...
A. 17 March 2008: You can be beautiful and big at the same time. You just gotta learn to love yourself.
(Btw, I am neither condoning nor condemning what you are thinking of doing, it is your life, do with it as what you see fit.)... (read in full...)
Dating a younger man in secret..am I wasting my time?
Q. I am a 37 yo divorced single parent of two children. I have been dating a coworker for the last 5 months and it is a complete secret at work. We have a lot of fun together, but I wonder if there can really be a future with us because of the age ...
A. 17 March 2008: You should talk to him about these things. I know that it may/might seem to early in the relationship to talk to him about these things, but you need to address important things first, so that you can both know that neither of you is wasting your ... (read in full...)
Some things happened between us and I called off the engagement. Will he change on his own?
Q. So I am an 18 year old young woman and I am in a very happy go lucky relationship with a man that I plan to marry after I graduate in June. Most of the time I am happy with him and the way things are. He makes me feel so complete. Like the way I am...
A. 17 March 2008: You're feeling this way, because you have a brain!!!
I can't tell you how many people get married too early straight out of high school.
At his age most/some guys are not that mature, and his lying clearly shows that he isn't yet.
I applau... (read in full...)
How do I forget sex and focus on myself?
Q. I'm 17 years old and very sexually active. I have a bf, 1 year and 1/2, we use to have sex almost every single day back 2 months ago, untill school started and we had to put other mind in track and leave our relationship behind us until we have ...
A. 17 March 2008: Make goals. Pray. Try to focus on your school work. You know, sex can become an addiction.... (read in full...)
I really want to put a ring on her finger, so I hope it's not too late....
Q. Hi, Okay, i need some honest advice. My girl and i have been broken up now for about 9 mos. We don't really keep in touch, either via e=mail or phone. we work 2 blocks away from one another. we had been together 5 years...her and I had a very dee...
A. 17 March 2008: Why did you break up to begin with?... (read in full...)
My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep....is it rape or "silent sex"?
Q. my husband had sex with me when I was drunk and asleep - I woke up as he pulled out and was climbing off me, cleaning himself up with tissues, I have confronted him and he says he thought I was awake - there is no way he thought I was awake as we ...
A. 17 March 2008: Hmmmm, so basically Samurai Rick has said "oh if you tire him out (ie if you give him good sex) he wont have to resort to sleeping with you when you are drunk." In other words, he is saying that what happened to you is your own fault, and that this ... (read in full...)
I have some items of his to mail back; should I bother? We've been thru his cheating, my miscarriage, and it's over...
Q. I was with a man for a little over a year. To make a long story short. He cheated on me once, I forgave him the first time. It was unfortunate that I did because I think that it showed him that it was o.k. to keep on doing it. Towards the end of our ...
A. 17 March 2008: Mail them so that he doesn't try to sue you. ... (read in full...)
I was assaulted by the man I was seeing last night, I'm scared to press charges though!
Q. I was assaulted last night by a guy I had been dating for a month or so. I thought I knew him well-ish, he comes into the pub where I work, where I have worked for 8 months. Seems a nice guy, hasd a past with drugs and alcohol abuse, but since ...
A. 17 March 2008: "I should've walked away, but I didn't..."
Please stop blaming yourself.
You have my condolences. ... (read in full...)
I have a secret crush but my parents forbid me to date!
Q. I don't know what to do. I have a crush on a really sweet guy, but I don't know how to tell him. To me it seems like he's perfect. The other thing is that my parents forbid me to date, but I'm beginning not to care. I've had a crush on this guy for ...
A. 17 March 2008: Ask him out. You gotta break the rules once in a while.
It's a part of growing up!!!!
Btw, nobody is perfect. Go on group dates, or become his friend first for a while before you ask him out.
Try to be safe. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out as a friend or on a date??
Q. hey, i need some advice, i like this girl we have been friends since last year, but we have not met up since last year how should i go about asking her out on a date or just as friends??? please help! ...
A. 17 March 2008: Just as friends would be fine, since it's been a while since yall have seen each other. ... (read in full...)
Any tips for my weekend away with my gf and her parents??
Q. Okay, first off, I'm really grateful for all the feedback I received for a previous question I had, So, basically, my question is, I'm seeing this girl and the next time I see her, she wants me to stay the weekend with her. I'm worried on how t...
A. 17 March 2008: Hmmmmmmmm....ask her how school/work is going, how is her life going, etc. etc. etc. Maybe you could bring a few board games along for late at night and those could spark a conversation or two, like Scrabble, Monopoly, etc. ... (read in full...)
Sexual relationship announcing to become serious - but is the age gap an issue?
Q. I've been seeing a guy who is in his early 30's for the past month now. Mainly just been messing around but things are starting to get a bit more heated lately and he's been telling me he's starting to fall for me. I'm about to turn 19 and I was ...
A. 17 March 2008: Who gives a damn about what other people think?... (read in full...)
Has the love gone or am I just tired of trying?
Q. How do I know if he really loves me? Dear Cupid, I am constantly doubting about my relationship with my bf. We have been in a long distance realationship for about 4 years now; but we or I had never felt security in our relationship. 1. he was...
A. 17 March 2008: Leave. Leave leave leave, and for Pete's sake, find someone who lives nearby you!!!!!!!
You have my condolences.... (read in full...)
Is my ex having second thoughts, or is it just wishful thinking?
Q. My ex split up with me in Jan and keeps on texting me. Either to see how i am, ring me up to ask if i'm with anybody else... He recently fell out with two of his best mates because of me. One of them tried to chat me up on a night out when i saw ...
A. 17 March 2008: Wow, you know, the friend situation, the same thing happened with my bf. His best friend was flirting with me and telling me lies about my bf, so he went at him, and his best friend's brother defended him, and he lost two friends.
I say leave wi... (read in full...)
Should I try to make it work or let it go, at least for the next two years??
Q. I was dating my boyfriend for a few months and he had to move 4 hours away. We were too in love to end the relationship. So for the past two years we have carried on a long distance relationship, talking on the phone constantly and him visiting me ...
A. 17 March 2008: Move to a school nearby him. You both love each other, so it will be worth it.... (read in full...)
He created a profile on a dating site, and when I asked him about us he kept shouting he does not love me, why am I still with him??
Q. Hi there, i am 27 my partner 43 and we have been together for last 6 years. I love him dearly even we have a few problems - personal and financial... Last year i caught him up to sending emails to girl in Ukrain and even paying her for translat...
A. 17 March 2008: Leave him. This guy needs professional help.
You have my condolences.... (read in full...)
Can you love someone but be unable to understand WHY??
Q. hiii this is quite a strange question, but is it normal to have NO IDEA why you love someone? the thing is, i've really really liked the same guy for like 2 and a half years. he's in my year at school (year 10) and (luckily haha) no other girl...
A. 17 March 2008: Opposites attract!... (read in full...)
Are these signs a 17 year old guy likes me?
Q. Are these signs that a shy 17 year old guy likes me?????? : ) 1.Ignore you when his friends are around becasue he 's in the popular group and you're not. 2.Sometimes his friends do things like tease him in front of me. Like one I walked ar...
A. 17 March 2008: Stroller's got it to a T.... (read in full...)
I'll see him at school next year, but what if it will be too late for "us"?
Q. Hey, i like this guy, i've known for about 2 years. he's in 9th grade and im in 8th he's my best guy friend. and is amazingly sweet. i talk to him every day, for about an hour or more. all my friends say he likes me, and we would be so cut...
A. 17 March 2008: Ask him out. ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned my about my boyfriend being a "cross-dresser"?
Q. My boyfriend told me before we got together that he was a cross dresser, it didn't concern me at the time, but after a year he's still not introduced me to his other personality and i'm scared that he's doing something behind my back. He's mentioned ...
A. 17 March 2008: Yes you are right to be concerned. Talk to him about it. ... (read in full...)
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