What is a high maintenance woman?
Q. What really describes a high maintenance woman? I have heard this a lot lately and was wondering, is it just about spending money? ...
A. 8 April 2008: A woman that is hard/difficult to please.... (read in full...)
Can you help with my personal sex problems please?
Q. I am 14. I'm straight, and i am a virgin. I like a 15 year old who is not a virgin. I like him a lot, but we haven't met in person yet. Well we have but a year ago. Now we just talk on the phone. I don't have any boobs, and i don't know if he will ...
A. 7 April 2008: Why do you worry about these types of things at your age?... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he jokes about my weight. What can I do about it?
Q. Hi I have a problem, I've been with my boyfriend for about two months and because of my weight I was too shy to take it to the next level. But we had sex the other day he is very slim and he commented on my weight and hurt my feelings. We were havi...
A. 7 April 2008: For starters you can stop letting jerks use you, and then you can go get some self-esteem. He doesn't care about you. He's using you for sex and for stuff. ... (read in full...)
I bought a house, he's moving in but wont marry me!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a 1.5 yrs and we have both told each other we will be with each other for the rest of our lives but he wont marry me! He thinks i'm taking the mick and as i've been married before, he calls me a serial bride! ...
A. 7 April 2008: Sounds like a bum to me, but then again he's not my man, so it's your call. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a bad pot head, am I stupid to stick it out?
Q. My boyfriend is a bad pot head and sometimes he is the sweetest ever and other times he flips out on me for no reason. I have told him its over a few times but he always ends up coming round my house. Often in tears. So I feel bad and give him a ...
A. 7 April 2008: Stop taking him back. ... (read in full...)
Is it fair I give up ballroom dancing because my boyfriend doesn't want me dancing with other guys?
Q. My boyfriend has a problem with me dancing with another man. Do you think it's fair? Background info: I used to take ballroom dancing with my gay friend. After I dated my boyfriend, I have stopped. He doesn't like me dancing with another men beca...
A. 28 March 2008: My grandma gave up skating for her husband who ended up cheating on her anyways. Don't let him try to control your life. ... (read in full...)
Due to my very troubled past and bad experiences with people close to me I have trouble trusting people. How can I trust my boyfriend?
Q. Wow. Where do I begin? When I was younger I was raped. Then later on in my life I was molested twice. Then at 17 a 38 year old from the church that I used to go to since middle school tried to have sex with me. My mom french kissed me when I was ...
A. 27 March 2008: Every time I try to have therapy it either gets discontinued or I get referred. I am hoping that this place that I am applying for accepts me and lets me get therapy there for at least a year or two. I have added prayer in my life, in that I ... (read in full...)
Are these signs of immaturity that he'll grow out of?
Q. I've been dating a 6 years younger guy. He is 25, a typical American cool guy who's life is about gym and clubbing on the weekends, very social, fun to hang out with but sometimes annoyingly immature! He is a good looking guy with a nice bod...
A. 27 March 2008: I wouldn't wait for him to grow up. I'd leave. People like this who try to get a reaction out of you A LOT annoy me A LOT.
And his "advice" doesn't make sense either. "Eat less and exercise more." Then your body is left with nothing!!! The body... (read in full...)
I've had phone sex with 3 different guys....is that disgusting?
Q. Hi I need some opinions on this . I'm 15 years old and I've had phone sex with 3 different guys in the last two years . ( not at the same time or around the same time....) Two of them it was text sex and the other one ( my boyfriend now)was actually ...
A. 27 March 2008: You're friend just sounds like a prude to me. I think you're fine.
I wouldn't make a habit of it though. It's okay to explore, just don't get obsessed about it. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 7 years did not propose and I just ended the relationship over it. Help me.
Q. Hi there, I have been in a serious relationship for 7 years. It has mostly been wonderful, our friends and families all approve, we deeply love eachother, and we get along great for the most part (silly problems here and there). I have had some ...
A. 26 March 2008: I think that you should've given it another year or two, but you did what you thought was best for you. Suppose you did wait longer and he never married you? Then it would've been harder to break up with him, because you would've known/been with him ... (read in full...)
He says we are not with each other anymore so why does he keep calling me?
Q. he says we are not seeing each other anymore yet he still calls me and asks where i am and what I'm doing. he expects me not to get upset about all these mixed signals he's giving me. what do you think is going on? ...
A. 26 March 2008: He just wants to be your friend. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for sleeping with my boss? My friend is making me feel horrible!
Q. I slept with my boss recently, we are both single (he is a fair bit older than me), it was kind of planned and came after months of incredible sexual tension in the office! No one really knows and apart from a little awkwardness at first, ...
A. 26 March 2008: Oh a MAN can have a fling, but if a woman is comfortable with her sexuality and has a fling, it's WRONG??????? WTF????? You both used each other. I don't think that you are stupid at all. ... (read in full...)
How do I make my best friend back-off from my girlfriend?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 months now, but my best friend seems unusually close to her. I met my girlfriend at the beginning of school, when her, my best friend, and I hung out a lot for about 6 months until her and I ...
A. 26 March 2008: Let me tell you this: I was in the same situation, but I was the woman. His best friend flirted with me, I flirted with his best friend, but it never became anything serious. I just had a crush on his friend.
Well his best friend started lying ab... (read in full...)
When is it time to quit trying and just end a relationship completely?
Q. How do you know when to just quit trying with something that feels like it should work, but doesn't? I dated a guy for three years, and he was, without question, the love of my life. In all my life, I would never get bored of him, and we had ...
A. 26 March 2008: This is going to be very hard for you, but I think that you need to rid yourself of him. You deserve better, and if she wasn't that important, why would he still be dating her? Unless maybe he is using her for sex? But I don't think that you'd want ... (read in full...)
Am I a loser?
Q. i feel like such a loser. i had an amazing party for my 18th and invited lots of my friends, so afterwards we planned to have an afterparty at a house thats about 5 minutes away my mum was fine with it because it was after the party, but then ...
A. 26 March 2008: Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
Due to my very troubled past and bad experiences with people close to me I have trouble trusting people. How can I trust my boyfriend?
Q. Wow. Where do I begin? When I was younger I was raped. Then later on in my life I was molested twice. Then at 17 a 38 year old from the church that I used to go to since middle school tried to have sex with me. My mom french kissed me when I was ...
A. 26 March 2008: correction *CPTSD (instead of PTSD.) Anyways thanks for all your help peoples!... (read in full...)
Do I have a drink problem?
Q. ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...
A. 25 March 2008: You start drinking more, or using it to cope with other problems as well besides your shyness.... (read in full...)
I met him online and then he "disappears" so is there still hope?
Q. i met this guy on a lame site. well he messaged me saying he is also new in the city and that he didnt have friends, and i am in the same situation. so we talked. i learned that he is looking for a long term relationship, which he mentioned on his ...
A. 25 March 2008: Stay his friend for a few years.... (read in full...)
I've been dating a guy that calls me "a friend" & doesn't answer his phone! What is his deal?
Q. i have been going out with this guy for 4 months now, and things were going on well with us, we do everything lovers do, but yet he calls me his best friend and says am just a friend, that kinda pisses me off though, but i still keep up. weeks later ...
A. 25 March 2008: Ever heard of that song by Chris Rock "No Sex in the Champagne Room?" There's a lyric or stanza where he says, "If you've been going out with a guy and you have not met his real friends/family, I repeat you are NOT his gf. I repeat you are NOT his ... (read in full...)
I helped him learn about the internet but now he has no time for me!
Q. hi i have a bit of a problem. i started teaching my boyfriend of one year computers 4 weeks ago. he started going on the net and ever since he has changed. i know that he is looking up sexy videos and it is really meaking me paranoid. he has...
A. 23 March 2008: If he doesn't know that much about computers, put a filter on his computer. It won't be a permanent solution, but it might help things some. I'm sure you can find plenty of free ones online, but read up about them first so that you don't accidently ... (read in full...)
My past has affected my trust in men, I'm afraid this will reflect in my current relation!
Q. Hi i am 23 and new to this, i need some advice. i started going out with my current boyfriend 4 months ago, we work together and everything has been going great. apart from me and my jealousy, in previous relationships i have been cheated on and ...
A. 23 March 2008: You know, I could see why you would be jealous even if you had never been cheated on before, because you said all those girls are "really pretty" etc. But I look at it the way some other guy looked at it once. If most of his ex's seem to be really ... (read in full...)
What should I wear for our first meeting?
Q. I'm meeting my boyfriend for the first time .What should I wear ? I have no idea ! I need some help. IF you have any suggestions please let me know thanks ...
A. 23 March 2008: Something casual and comfortable. After all, you don't want to be grimacing in pain from something that is uncomfortable while you are trying to talk to him! lol..... Anyways, have fun!... (read in full...)
My husband rarely wants to talk or have sex! Am I overreacting?
Q. Hello, I have been with my husband for over 18 years, our eldest child is nearly 17. In all that time he has never made me feel special. I have always worked and tried hard to be accomodating to him. (I admit that sometimes I have gone 'off t...
A. 23 March 2008: Please leave. Your child is practically grown! (Or if he means that much to you, maybe try some counseling.) You have my condolences. ... (read in full...)
Do I have a drink problem?
Q. ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...
A. 23 March 2008: Idk if you have a drinking problem or not, but if you do some day you're going to have to get help, whether it be now, or whether it be in the future. I'd look for certain signs to see if it is getting worse. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my alcoholic boyfriend or leave?
Q. i have got a alcholic boyfreind i have been with for 3 years had a kid with him with is 18 months old what shall i do should i stay with him or shall i leave him cause he is drinking more than what he did when i first got with him ...
A. 21 March 2008: Does his drinking cause him to get violent or do stupid things when he drinks?
Does he let it affect his work, or his time that he spends with you and the baby?... (read in full...)
Do I have a drink problem?
Q. ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot! Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, ...
A. 21 March 2008: Have you looked up Alcoholics Anonymous to see if there is one located near you? ... (read in full...)
How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV...??
Q. How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV... Is it dangerous to have oral sex with women for aids ?...
A. 20 March 2008: Yes it is. Even if you use a condom it could break or slip.... (read in full...)
He won't marry me or have sex ...I don't know what to do.
Q. I am 29 and been with my boyfriend which is 37 for eight years. He says he wants to get married but he keeps giving me all kinds of excuses. Also we haven't had sexual relationship in four years. He knows it hurts my feelings. He tells me its ...
A. 20 March 2008: Maybe he is scared of commitment, but I think that you deserve better. Choose number two.... (read in full...)
My BF suggests that I get an abortion but I disagree, please advise!
Q. i think i might be pregnant but my boyfriend says i should get an abortion what should i do???i don't want him to leave me alone with the baby but i don't believe in abortion, some out there please help....
A. 20 March 2008: Call a planned pregnancy place and you can talk to a counselor there. I don't believe in abortion either, unless the egg becomes a danger to the mother (such as it becomes implanted in the fallopian tubes.) Don't get an abortion if you don't want ... (read in full...)
I get so angry things just seem so bad. I don't know what to do. How can I de-stress?
Q. Why is it anytime I have a bad day, I suffer some sort of depression? I find that these days, if I have a bad day, it's an awful one. Today, everything seemed to be going okay until it came to something really important (TRYING to record my bands CD...
A. 20 March 2008: Breath. Lie down on the floor of your room and breath and do some stretching. Try to improve on the ways that you talk to yourself.
You have my condolences.... (read in full...)
My husband has cheated on me after 19 years of marriage. Should I give him another chance?
Q. My husband has cheated on me after 19 years of marriage. Should I give him another chance?...
A. 20 March 2008: If this is his first time cheating, then yes. You've invested a lot of time into this relationship to just throw it away. Make sure he won't do it again, and get relationship counseling. ... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 20 March 2008: Someone was right on here. Your mom tried to emotionally blackmail you by saying that if you pressed charges-she would kill herself. She needs to stop being so dependent on him. ... (read in full...)
I masturbate and imagine I'm making out with someone, Help!!
Q. Hey I'm around the age of 12-14. I don't have a computer of my own but I have looked at porn on my gma's computer. I am always scared that she will find out and that other people will find out. Also when I am home alone I masturbate and act like ...
A. 19 March 2008: Install a filter on your grandma's computer so you can't look up sites like that.
Making out with your pillow is normal-you are growing and naturally you are curious about intimacy.
If you want to stop masturbating, join a support group on... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he's not there for me...
Q. I like this boy, his name is Chris and we've been going out a lot of times since we met but we kept on breaking up over and over again. Then on 3/13/08 we start going out and we were having sex and now I'm pregnant and he's not there. What should ...
A. 19 March 2008: See a doctor.
You have my condolences (about him not being there for you.)... (read in full...)
A teenage girl touched me was it molestation?
Q. Okay I'm pretty new to this but something is really bugging me. There's this girl in my class she's a co op student. She looks at this girl in my. I got really moodie one day than I walked out of the class room. I call her by her nickname witch is ...
A. 19 March 2008: YES. It was molestation. Just because you like the way something feels, doesn't mean it's not. That's like saying just cos someone orgasmed during a rape, it wasn't rape. Listen to Oprah-predators know that sexual things feel physically good, and ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for us to give each other a STD while having unprotected sex even though we both have gotten tested and they came back clean??
Q. Me and my girlfriend just got tested for HIV and any STD's and we both came out clean. We got tested because she is very very paranoid about getting a STD. My question is: is it possible for us to give each other a STD while having unprotect...
A. 19 March 2008: YES. The disease could be in the DORMANT stage. Do some research into Biology. You will find many answers there.
... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend going off me? He very rarely kisses or hugs me.
Q. My boyfriend very rarely kisses or hugs me. Well I only get them if I go up to him and give him them. We hardly ever have sex when we first met, we used to have a great sex life now we hardly have any sex. It seems to me that he just isn't botherd ...
A. 19 March 2008: Well, if nothing has happened (you haven't cheated on him, etc.) I wonder if either he is cheating on you or if yall's love life has become boring to him. Talk to him about it.
You have my condolences.... (read in full...)
Miscarried and left alone...
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We had an amazing relationship. I got pregnant and had a miscarriage about 4 weeks ago. My boyfriend has been so busy with work that he has barely noticed. He has stopped calling me as ...
A. 19 March 2008: I don't think you were wrong.
You are going through a lot of pain right now, and to have someone who seems unconcerned only adds to the distress.
You could've been dealing with someone who didn't want to slow down and examine his own pain (le... (read in full...)
How can I get over my worries about blow jobs?
Q. I really kinda need help with this now. When I was kinda young, I had a few problems with a relative, which involved him doing a few.... not so nice things to me at the time. In the start of my teens, I privately went and saw a counsellor, but she ...
A. 19 March 2008: Here are two of your problems:
1) Seeing yourself as a victim.
2) Comparing past sexual abuse to your experiences now.
You've got to talk to yourself in your head. Ask yourself, "Is this something that I really want to do, or am I just doin... (read in full...)
She keeps snapping at me all the time... Help!
Q. Recently got engaged but we argue a lot, she snaps at me. It makes me unhappy and I can't even tell her that I am unhappy. I don't know what to do!...
A. 19 March 2008: Become assertive! Stand up for yourself!
You have my condolences.... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 19 March 2008: I agree with lazyguy. Keep your children away from both your mom and your step dad, and if you have your mom come over around your children, monitor them while she is there. She is mentally off/ill. ... (read in full...)
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